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I have been burnt with deposit. Badly burnt. I will still do it, but I’m not giving a deposit to continue communication. Part of the point of communication up front is to determine if you want to deposit and lock in or not.

I keep holding out hope on some guys too...It’s hormones ?

Well, for me, that and that he was very unpleasant and difficult to communicate with. He acted like it was beneath him to communicate and if there’s one thing I can’t stand it’s the feeling of being treated unworthy. Who the hell do you think you are?! If you liked him, more power to you. Not many guys here have had an encounter with him, to my knowledge. A few, sure. And as you say, some less-than-fabulous followup with Joe M.

There’ve been red flags since the very beginning. If you ask me, willingness to deal with this guy is evidence that a lot of guys are thinking with the wrong head.

Sounds like his Ivy League education is doing him a lot of good. ? If he wants premium rates for Ivy League education I’d expect him to be able to keep from “accidentally” deleting his account. That’s a state school mistake there!

I always say – “Let’s let people self identify.” @marylander1940 – Get it right. It’s folx.

I’m sure there’s a lot going on here that my woke mind isn’t privy too...

PASS

This man has created a lot of conversation and a good deal of it’s riddled with suspicion. Caveat emptor. Even some of those with experience have misgivings. Is he hot? Yes. Would I like to have someone who looks like him fuck me? Yes. Am I going to go through all this possible headache and angst with him? No.

@former lurker – I’m going to assume I’m one of the “posters involved in this spat” you’re talking about. Let me patently clear: my suspicion isn’t with *escorts* across the board. Most of my interactions have been nothing but positive. But as the saying goes, “One rotten apple spoils the bunch.” As for the other poster “involved in this spat” – I have consistently pointed out his hypocrisy as far as provider expectations vs. client expectations. The whole notion of Jarrod’s comment complaining about my comment, saying I don’t have an “invitation,” while he waxes ad nauseam about his own woe, is the very nature of the hypocrisy I despise.

@alexslaveboy – When I read stuff like that, I’m like – “Why do they even bother?” Tangential questions: 1. What does “open minded” mean when it shows up in an ad? 2. What does “kink friendly” mean when it shows up in an ad? If you’re going to put one or both of those in your ad, you’re going to have to reckon with some odd things coming you’re way. And if you’re not interested, fucking say so.

When my car is paid off, I’ll see my go-to more too! Ugh...

She’s never said that to me, but he has. ?

I suspect someone else took the bait and you were forgotten immediately. *cynical*

Everyone be so goddem worried about their time...

I don’t cold call. I do a call before actually meeting. Hell, a lot of the ads say do NOT call.

All those damn hashtags... ?

I still to have luck contacting guys on IG let alone asking if they’re providers...That is a skill that no one here has adequately laid out for my understanding. Some of you must just be lucky! ?

As I said earlier, it’s something I see in providers under 27 much more than older than that. Youth is only valuable as long as it persists. When it fades, so too the esteem. Oh Dorian Grey!

I’d add rude as well. @orville – Don’t you know the escort is always in the right and we clients ought to feel blessed they take our money? (That’s how some of the clients here seem to think, anyhow.)

How the fuck is that a skill?

@Gymowner – It has a lot to do with what the initial communication is like. If they just drop off in the middle of the conversation, with no explanation, I don’t owe it to them to give them any kind of attention later on. Granted, I started out by talking about being ignored after sharing what I’m looking for. But some guys will continue to engage you after that and in the middle of the conversation just drop off. Only to reappear later, weeks or months, as if you should be honored they’re reaching out.

This isn’t to say that I always respond immediately to something whenever I see it, text, email, message, or otherwise. But I eventually get back. And if I know at the outset that a simple direct answer will satisfy the inquiry or close down the discussion, that’s what I do. A simple acknowledgment of receipt is courtesy. Courtesy is sadly I believe something of a dead social expectation. If I know once I’ve seen something I don’t have time in the moment to respond, but I will later, I am even going to send you a message stating so much. Again, it’s a matter of courtesy.

It’s not rocket science. For all the lambasting about clients who waste escorts’ time, there’s an equal share of providers who can’t be bothered to be respectful.