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It was meaningful in its day, but now it seems trite and campy.

It is fine. My mother and I had a difficult relationship, we loved each other. I do appreciate your words, though. Thank you. It wasn’t always the healthiest relationship with her, but I feel her absence… Anyhow, we don’t have to dwell on that.

I like the ones with the male symbol, ♂ Not excited about the rainbow anywhere.

More like golden sprinkler…

This has made me squeamish.

Yes. People already suggested I was wrong in thinking that some guys would consider his lack of abs chubby and it was in fact his bulge. I suppose that’s valid, but I also believe it’s just as valid to maintain that many guys would find his physique chubby. We don’t have to agree.

At the risk of going off topic, I am a lexophile. I love words. They have personalities…each of them. There’s always a good word for every situation…You just have to know it – or create it. Language is a living thing and neologisms are the mutations of its DNA.

Los Angeles, California

Reasonable…if I didn’t have my RM settings such that I’m not visible when I visit a profile. Also – I had never seen the guy’s profile before he messaged me. Look – I was polite. The problem isn’t this guy; the problem is the incessant talk here that such a message from clients is inappropriate but when a provider does it, we have folks who will find a host of explanations for why it’s acceptable. Both providers and clients will engage in apologetics about it. It seems to me, if you’re soliciting someone for sex, you’re a client. The one who makes the first move in the transaction is the client. If a guy who’s normally a provider approaches someone for sex, in a transactional sense, he’s a client. If a guy wants to come up to me and ask me to fuck him, I’m likely to say no. If he offers to pay me, I may reconsider. The lines of what makes a client and a provider aren’t nearly as defined as some might like. If you’re horny, bored, and hit someone up for sex with an expectation that it’s transactional, why would I pay you to satisfy your boredom and libido? It seems to me that’s the very definition of being a client…approaching a potential guy for transactional sex. I’m not paying a provider to satisfy his needs; I’m paying him to satisfy mine.

I didn’t say they are. But communication can be frustrating with folks under 30…That goes for anyone under 30, not just escorts.

Wow. There really is everything imaginable out there… Not my cup of tea.

Fair enough. I hadn’t thought of it from that perspective. That said, if he’s bored and wants to sext or to fuck, he can comp me my time.

But seriously… My father is still living, and was the oldest of my two parents. He was 30 when I was born and my mother 21. She died just this past November from COVID, so that clock has stopped. My grandma is who was my “real” mom though. She raised me from the time I was 11. I always figured I’d have to say goodbye to her before my actual mother, but fate had a different idea. Grandma is still going at 90…I still call her daily, although she’s not the woman she once was. Dementia is a fucking bitch. And she has CLL, which causes issues. If her husband were still alive, my grandfather, he’d be 114. I have stepparents too. Stepfather is 18 years older than me and my stepmother is 29 years older than me. All over the board in other words.

Jesus. Some of you are dinosaurs!

@StLouisOct– unlikely that it would’ve “gone” anywhere, as I said, with him in LA and me in Boston.

That wouldn’t be objectionable! This guy was from LA…I’m outside of Boston. That would a pricey Uber!

So everyone but me is in agreement then that an escort approaching a potential client with “Hey 👋🏻“ as an opener is a-okay, but a client doing the same to a potential provider is an indicator of a waste of time? Just so I have the facts straight…

Why would you expect an answer to a rhetorical question? I’m quite happy. I disagree with people here and they interpret that as complaining. I do see a lot of hypocrisy here as well, and I point it out. That’s not complaining. It’s just telling the truth. I just had breakfast with a friend who told me I am one of the happiest people they know and I make them want to be a better person. So anyone’s impression of me as miserable is off target. Apparently I’m a joy to be around in person. Is it possible, rhetorically speaking, that because I have the temerity to point out how some people are wearing no clothes that it’s easier to write me off as miserable to save face? 🤔

So you decided to ignore that when calling me sanctimonious?

@latbear4blk– Would you have me not say my pieces?

On further reflection…That’s just a jerk thing to say. And you probably disagree. But your disagreement doesn’t change my mind. It’s still a jerk thing to say. But I wanted to say my piece. If you can’t put together what I’m saying here, that’s not my fault. The point is obvious. I don’t understand the apologetics for all manner of bad behavior for escorts that is rampant on this forum, especially among clients. Most escorts aren’t asswipes and most clients don’t waste time. Maybe we ought to all stop assuming the worst and act like fucking adults who could have a drink together in person… So whatever.

What? Wow…Maybe escorts should remember that clients….are still humans? The grace we afford an escort for doing what is bitched about as far as clients? The irony is rich… I was decent, too. The point I’m making is that for all the righteous posturing about proper etiquette on approaching the holy of holies here, the rules of engagement don’t apply the other way. The guy is fine as far as I’m concerned. The point is that escorts will say that such a message from a potential client (“Hey 👋🏻“) wastes their time. It doesn’t take more than 3 seconds to fire off a response… I’m still looking for the Miss Manners etiquette book that provides the exact verbiage required to contact an escort.

It’s not. My preference are set that way. I had never seen the guy til I looked at the ad. I replied because unlike some folks, I find it impolite to just ignore other people. I’m not a jerk.