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There are tropical penguins! Maybe not PV-far north, but there are indeed tropical penguins. And I’m betting they poo – tropical poo too! 😂

November may be a better time. I’m not super excited about hot places! 🥵

As best I can. My Schwarzwalder cuckoo clock loses time throughout the day, and I need to set it when I recalibrate the weights every morning. The eight-day clock can be slightly off if I don’t wind it exactly the right time every eight days. But on the hole, I run a pretty tight ship with my clock wall! The eight-day clock is very finicky about whether or not it’s perfectly level. That affects whether it gains or loses time as well.

@HoseMaster

It can be hard to know if a guy is an asshole before you meet if it’s escorting. Unless of course he’s a bottom! 😂 I’ve found some guys extremely attractive until I get to know them. Then they become ugly to me. If they’re jerks. But a homelier guy can become more attractive if he has a good personality. That said, if I don’t know anything about personality, I can still be attracted to a guy. On a related but different note, I think there’s also a difference between recognizing someone is good looking, attractive, hot, etc. and being turned on by them. I can appreciate and identify a good looking woman; she still doesn’t turn me on. I don’t think society taught my body to not have a physiological response to seeing a good looking woman, even if I “know” she’s attractive.

Assuming they charge $300/hr, five days a week, four weeks a month, that comes to $6000/month. If it’s only one client a day. It’s $7200/month if they see clients only one day of Saturday or Sunday. At $300/hr, fives a week, that comes to $78k per year. At $300/hr, six days a week, that comes to $93.6k per year. In NYC that may be tight, but in other places it should be more than enough for a comfortable life. To a degree, it’s about management. Assuming it takes 90 minutes before and after a client to prepare and clean up, $78k per year for working 4 hours a day, five days a week, is pretty damn good. Same for $93.6k for six days a week, four hours a day.

❗️‼️❗️‼️❗️‼️❗️ I almost always have a watch on. And I have a whole wall in my living room decorated with different clocks. I love clocks.

Professionally, I follow this axiom: “Early is on time. On time is late. And late, don’t even bother.” More casually, depending on who and what, I’ll either arrive a minute or two early, or “fashionably late,” which means like 30 minutes after I’m told whatever it is “starts.” If I’m going to a cookout or something similar that’s running at a friend’s house all afternoon into the evening, I don’t show up at 2pm, especially if they say “around 2pm.” I’ll probably come between 3-4:00 but stay a few hours. On the other hand, if they say they want to get started around 2pm but need everyone gone by 6:00 for some reason or another, then that affects when I’ll show up. It’s situational, but the more I think about it, the more I realize I have this way if approaching it that’s clearly systematic, but something that I “just do.” @Jamie21– Do you take the same approach to time with clients? Or do you see those “work-related” times as something more binding? I can imagine sometimes an appointment is flexible, but others, time is of the essence…

Like a Rorschach test, of sorts. Too much thought renders a useless result. Oh, come on! Who doesn’t think Larry David is a living Adonis?! 🤣

On the whole, I have a very structured schedule. But days off, I try to be a bit more…freer with my time. But I do like to “schedule“ things because otherwise I find that I fritter the whole day away, and that would make me feel like I wasted it. Even though it’s my day off, if I don’t do anything “productive,“ I’m going to end up feeling kind of guilty for it. Sometimes when I have a day off I end up sleeping a lot because of how crazy my work schedule is when I do work. And I need to catch up on actual sleep, not just resting and relaxing. But then I end up feeling like I have nothing to show for the day because I woke up late and took a long nap in the afternoon. But in all actuality that was exactly what I needed to do on that day.

I like pictures that look thoughtful, and actually capture a guy‘s personality or at least what he’s selling. Nice pictures go a long way. Headless torsos and dick pics don’t really do it for me…in fact, that may disinclined me de even look beyond his pictures at what he’s written in his profile, if anything at all. I have mixed feelings about pictures from exotic locations. On one hand of course it can send a message that he has an appreciation for the same things I do. I love to travel, as well. But at the same time if I see pictures from, say, Europe, the Caribbean, the Rockies, and Africa all in the same ad, it makes me think to myself, “This guy isn’t going to enjoy spending any time with me” because I don’t be that kind of glamorous life. It makes me feel like it’s not even worth my while approaching him because I’m not the caliber client he is looking for. I can only afford one vacation like that per year, at best. Which, very well, could be in fact what he is attempting to do by posting pictures of himself in an array of exotic vacation locations – Preemptively weed out potential clients like myself.

Being gay. Having sex with men who also identify as gay. Potentially living with such a man. I didn’t realize this was that complicated. Straight people don’t define their “lifestyle” as such – unless they have hangups about sexuality in general. What is the “straight lifestyle?” People’s lives are so different. And people of particular lifestyle types are very different. I don’t understand why the “gay lifestyle” is one inherently of substances, sex, and partying…I mean, by that token anyone who does those things would have to be gay. It seems to keep it simple the gay lifestyle is really just finding satisfaction in a sexuality that is exclusively lived out with other men. Maybe my feeble brain just can’t get the concept though. I don’t comprehend it and have cognitive issues.

Can’t honestly say I ever thought about it til this moment…I guess that means it hasn’t bothered me. What does bother me are the extremes: pictures that are clearly such poor quality I want to ask, “Why’d you bother?” and pictures that are so professional or photoshopped that when you meet in person it’s a disappointment.

@DanteV– Many people could give you a very specific number of hours that they work each week, even down to the quarter hour. It’s not unreasonable to think some people would know…I was wondering what a typical number of hours might be that an escort invests in work. Some escorts here only escort as their work. Others do it as a side gig. That alone would be a differentiating factor between the amount of time that somebody dedicate each day or week or months to the work of escorting. In my spare time, I spend a lot of time playing Cities Skylines in Civ V. I compose music, and arrange choral pieces. I like to cook, and I enjoy drinking different kinds of scotch with a good friend of mine almost every night. I wouldn’t consider this forum one of my primary “spare time” activities. And for the record, my questions weren’t rhetorical.

You make it sound like gay people don’t like being gay…”afraid to take ownership”…as if we don’t like being gay. I have no problem accepting a) that I’m gay and b) that I’ve made choices consistent with that. No fear in owning any of that… You seem to make a lot of presumptions and assumptions about gay folks and then work from that place to say we (gay folks) have some sort of internalized, reifying shame about out sexuality and the choices made around it. Let me categorically, unequivocally say: We don’t.

To think that biology doesn’t affect our behavior in all elements of existence is just ludicrous to me. We are biological beings, after all. Chemicals firing around inside us making us do all sorts of things. That doesn’t mean environment doesn’t also play a part. It would be just as ludicrous to say that it doesn’t. But just like everything in our complex existence as human beings, our sexuality has to be both biology and environment. Anyone who insists it’s all one or the other is deluding themselves – be they a layman or an expert in their field.

I have perfectly fine reading comprehension, thank you… 🙄 Your remarks, along those from @pubic_assistance, just show you don’t like what I said. That much is abundantly clear with the preponderance of interactions you two have with me in the forum over all. So you stoop to ad hominem attacks…

1000000% this. I am hesitant to hire a guy who has a robust online presence. Not only is his time “valuable,” but his whole air about him changes. I’m not hiring him to make him happy but the other way around. There once was a day when service providers saw providing a service as something honorable because they SERVED people with their work (service). It seems a lot of these providers who have online outlets don’t see it that way. They’re doing us a favor by coming down among us hoi-poi. There once was a day when the working mentality of service providers was “the customer is always right.” In escorting, it seems the escort sets the terms of satisfaction, and if you don’t like it, move on. There’s also no recourse for refund if you’re unsatisfied. Imagine refunding a client…Escorts want a deposit. What do I get if he didn’t live up to his ad? I get to leave a bad review on RM that’ll get taken down if he appeals. Ohhhhhh. Scary. He still has my money. And I still had a shit experience. And he still wasted my time and money, which I could’ve potentially used on a more fitting escort.

Or both nature and nurture. It’s silly to think it’s all nurture.

Perhaps a reformulation? “What factors contribute to a person’s understanding of their sexuality?”

Baking and cooking? Any good beef rubs?* Like true roasts, not braising… *I mean that culinarily, not sexually 😂

Falling asleep during M4M Economics 101…

What do escorts do with their spare time? Time that’s not a) setting up appointments or b) with clients? How many hours a day do escorts spend on escorting between a) setting up appointments or b) with clients?

Just like the predicted $5+ per gallon of gas in the US based off the Ukraine crisis. It’s an excuse to drive up prices. The market isn’t completely “free” with groups like OPEC, although they want us to believe things are out of their “hands” when situations arise.

I won’t even respond beyond that. I kowtow before your unassailable expertise.