CuddleBuddy

Perhaps consider how the review site will differenciate between a “massage” and “escort” experience.  I think it is fair to say more than a few of us would appreciate that distinction.

Perfect!

I have a couple of recommendations but also a few general notes from a lifelong bottom. 
Older guys (35 and up) tend to be more experienced and more patient If you don't have toys, get them and start playing. Start small and use all the lube.  Bottoms always need more lube than most tops think we do, and creamier lube, whether silicone or water-based, will feel better With an escort, it's your time. Be very open about your experience and what you want, and do your best to relax.  If you're going to douche, finish that up at least 2 hours before you plan to play. If I do it closer than that, I find that I'm more sensitive.  Okay, here are my guys: 
Jonah Wheeler - He's more average-sized in the dick department but is amazing in bed. He's vers, so I think he appreciates what bottoming is like. He's also a fun, sensual, and all-around great lay. 
Nick Halden - He does a massage, fucking combo that is really sensual, relaxing and very pleasurable. Also, more of an average penis size and also vers. 
NYWolfman - He's a bit older and has a big thick dick. But he is there to please the bottom. I suspect he's similar to Mike Austin in that way. He knows what he's doing, and your pleasure is his priority. 
Happy bottoming! 

I like lpsg.com as well.  As with here, I enjoy reading people's candid thoughts and experiences about sex and desire. 

No politics for this thread. Sexual behavior and sexual attraction are not the same. A man engaging  in sex with another man is partaking in a homosexual act.  Whether that man goes home to jerk off to busty Brazilian babes or hunks of Rio De Janeiro is another thing  The ones going home to lust after Brazilian babes are straight in my book no matter what they do when earning money. Lets try not to split hairs much further than this. When someone says xyz is not straight it should be because they believe that provider is not going home to jerk to Brazilian busty babes. Arguing over definitions isn't getting us anywhere and just gonna get the thread shut down.
 
Maybe if ppl wanna hash it out open a spinoff thread discussing sexuality on another subforum .

You are not a loser; you’re being honest. That’s brave in my book.  For what’s it worth, I’m not At attention until I get some direct attention during a massage  
 I’d scroll through this site for some nYC recommendations of people offering massages in private settings where you’re more likely to get more than a therapeutic massage.  Also you should DM the person who posts in order to get a more detailed account of what can happen w a particular person. Takes some research but that’s part of the fun!  
 
Couple of guys with excellent reputations to get you started:
https://rentmasseur.com/Blessings
https://rentmasseur.com/Eliron
 

GREAT thread! As I’ve posted previously, James holds a special spot in my soul. He was the very first masseur I ever went to. That was in Fort Green, Brooklyn, pre-9/11, closeted and nervous. And he so quickly melted all of my negative self-conscious feelings about my physical and mental being. 

This is the best thread ever -- thanks so much to "mecloud" for getting it started and to all the others who have replied.  I'm in the same place but I've given up the self-consciousness -- I'm the paying client and a genuinely good practitioner totally gets that and wants to be a good person.  Recommendations for Alex ("Blessings") are totally accurate, he is exceptional.  I've wanted to try "SS" but haven't -- will do so now that i see yet another citing of him.  But here's what I do -- which some guys won't like, saying they're "too busy" or whatever, but the good ones understand it:   Text and ask if you can give them a call to talk first about what you're looking for.  The good ones will be fine with that.  Don't take much of their time, of course, but be honest and clear -- the good ones will appreciate it, and it will separate them from others right away. 
Try James in TriBeca area too -- sorry I don't have his link but he's on MF.  Mature guy, so not the 25 year old muscle dude, but really good, and honest and open and caring. 
Thanks so much for this topic.    

Everyone is different. I saw 2 clients recently on same day. First one wanted a more robust experience; firm massage, liked being smacked on his ass, balls slapped, rough throat fuck, virtually my whole fist up his hole, second guy wanted it sensual, soft massage, kissing, cuddling, toe sucking etc. 
The interesting thing was neither of them explicitly asked for this beforehand. After years of doing it you get to work out who likes what, plus you try a few things and see what reaction you get and build from there. BF experience is similar, people are reluctant to explicitly ask for what they want, so you just need a few clues and then the rest you can improvise and work it out. People like an element of surprise….but not too much surprise. 

Hot erotic story and well written.  I'd sign up for a massage from him NOW!

How awful. I wasn't aware they were together until after his death. Poor guy.  People should definitely get him back on track and put some money in the guy's pocket. Terrible thing to live through.  😥

Challenge accepted

Didn’t know the names of the venues but had a mental picture in my earlier post. 
Here are some random references from a quick internet search.
1. Wall Street Sauna
https://gaycitynews.com/wall-street-sauna-shuttered/
2. Mount Morris Baths (Harlem)
https://www.nytimes.com/2003/01/19/nyregion/mount-morris-journal-a-gay-bathhouse-in-harlem-hey-it-s-no-secret.html
3. Northern Men’s Sauna (Flushing)
https://spartacus.gayguide.travel/saunas/northamerica/usa/newyork/nyc/12493_Northern Men's Sauna
4. El Mirage on East Houston
https://www.villagevoice.com/2005/11/29/ny-mirror-456/

Roosevelt Ave and Times Sq will need more research … a friend I asked about them after I was drawing a blank said the TSQ location was actually closer to Herald Square / west 30s. And the one I called Roosevelt Ave was actually on one of the large cross streets.

I agree. My best experiences have been with legit massage therapists that did not advertise or discuss anything beyond purely therapeutic work that simply escalated and the masseur took control. Sometimes they ask if they can, but the ones that just go for it on a whim are usually the best experiences. 

Well said! A proper massage is important and needs to be done by someone who recognises that massage is an art. It’s not just rubbing your baby oiled hand up and down his back to kill time while you check your phone for insta  likes and the mirror for your abs.
A masseur knows that sensual massage is a seduction, to be savoured by his client. He knows it’s to  enable him to learn about his client’s body and what turns him on so that when the time comes for his client’s climax he can press all the right buttons to get the desired response. 
Hire a masseur, because the journey is at least as important as the destination. 

 

I prefer to have a massage on a table.  For me, MT or and HE are both secondary to a good massage.  my experience  has been when Masseur does not have a table or  the massage tools, etc it's going to be an over price rub down.     I hire escorts when I want to play on the bed.

I prefer to have a massage on a table.  For me, MT or and HE are both secondary to a good massage.  my experience  has been when Masseur does not have a table or  the massage tools, etc it's going to be an over price rub down.     I hire escorts when I want to play on the bed.

I prefer to have a massage on a table.  For me, MT or and HE are both secondary to a good massage.  my experience  has been when Masseur does not have a table or  the massage tools, etc it's going to be an over price rub down.     I hire escorts when I want to play on the bed.

I prefer to have a massage on a table.  For me, MT or and HE are both secondary to a good massage.  my experience  has been when Masseur does not have a table or  the massage tools, etc it's going to be an over price rub down.     I hire escorts when I want to play on the bed.

I prefer to have a massage on a table.  For me, MT or and HE are both secondary to a good massage.  my experience  has been when Masseur does not have a table or  the massage tools, etc it's going to be an over price rub down.     I hire escorts when I want to play on the bed.

Saved me the trouble. Thank you!

Your friend is wise.  I totally agree.  The gay for pay types exploit us and may even be homophobic.  You've got to engage with a man who really enjoys pleasuring another man to reach a nice exciting climax. 😉

The person offering the service defines the term. You will never be the first client to ask for clarification. 

Often, a masseur may have an escort ad on another site - that reduces overall confusion and it’s easy to ask for a combo of massage and some play. 
When I hire a massage, I look for training and yrs of experience, because that makes a difference for me, as well as having a legit table. If you want more than a manual HE massage, prepare to pay escort rate. “If you want to offer an upgrade of service once we’ve begun, I come prepared for that, if you have additional time available” It gives him an out if he’s not as into your type. 
Don’t be nervous. The combo, if done right, is better than just sex. 😘

Clearly you don’t or you would’ve known from the first session that he wouldn’t be too interactive with YOU.
 
You can’t say your goal isn’t sex or a happy ending but then come on here to complain about his lack of interaction. If the eroticism wasn’t your goal, his lack of interaction wouldn’t even matter.
Make it make sense.