CarolinaRen

It's okay to feel the way you feel, but it's not your call to make.  This was a family issue.  This is their grieving process.
The reality of it is that he's dead, so it's a moot point.  Obits and memorials are for the living.  If you want to honor him, you could host your own and invite people you both knew.  It would be your judgement call whether you wanted to include his children.  I would, just to cover your bases.
I'd agree that you're projecting your issues with your own eventual death on this particular situation.  Even more reason to suggest you plan EXACTLY what you want to happen, on paper or document, when you kick the bucket.  Write your own obit.  Pick the music.  Choose what lube you'll offer in the departing gift bag.  The whole enchilada.
I'm sorry your friend died.  I hope you can find some closure.

Death is funny and people grieve differently. Maybe it was his wish that his death not be the defining moment of his life and just the last thing he did on Earth? 
 
I say obituarize him here if you want people to know about the life he lived. When my grandma died I begged to write the obituary and then paid to have it placed in every newspaper in our county because it was important to me that as many people as possible knew of her. I forgot to mention my sister in law though and she’s still hurt by it years later. 

My advice is to not dwell on this.  You have no idea why his adult children wrote the brief obituary and it isn't really anyone else's business.
Can you just give him the tribute you think he deserves?  I think if his children don't mind that you submit an obituary to a newspaper where he lived, you can write and have published what you want.  Or just write your tribute on social media.  Have your own memorial for him, inviting those people you know who were close to him.  There are many ways you can honor his legacy without having to bring into question how his children responded publicly to his death.
Just to share my experience of attending my father's memorial:  Neither my brother nor I got up to speak because, frankly, neither of us would have had much positive to say about him.  My sister didn't attend but had an aunt of ours read something she wrote; it was a very odd "tribute" that basically reminisced about the vacations we took when we were kids.  I'm sure that many people who just got to know my dad as adults thought he was a fun person, but I'd argue that those who really knew him knew he was either unwilling or unable to connect emotionally, and those of us who were raised by him knew him as a sometimes violent person who was, for the most part, not interested in his kids' well being apart from providing food and shelter.  I hope no one judged my brother or me for not speaking; we both thought it was better to not speak ill of the dead and neither one of us was willing to get up in front of a group of people and lie about our experience with our father.
 

Thanks for each of your replies. I appreciate them all. The funeral home had a page for tributes, so I did indeed write a tribute myself a few days back. 
Thanks again.

Two weeks ago, a close friend of over 30 years passed away. His children provided a two-sentence "obituary" at the funeral home web site stating his name, date of birth and death, and place of birth. Nothing more.
There is no service planned, and this is not abnormal, I know and understand. But to provide no more of an obituary than two sentences has really rubbed me the wrong way.
My friend's adult children, both in their thirties, have known he was gay for years and accepted it with no shade whatsoever.  They've been a part of his life, visiting him every year from the time they were little to the present with their own kids, happily. He had two late husbands he survived, both of which had quite large funerals that his son and daughter both attended. 
As I approach my 60s, perhaps I'm just more attuned to what is getting closer for myself, but honestly I think I would have had the same reaction at age 30: you don't have enough respect for your parent to write a decent tribute that honors his life accomplishments in a couple of paragraphs that might take you 20 minutes to compose? My friend was no wallflower. He was fun loving, kind, helpful, funny,  accomplished, and was beloved by many. Doesn't any decent person deserve more than two sentences for an obituary?
 
 

This is really shitty in my opinion. Nobody should be fired from a job because of perfectly legal activities they are doing outside of the job. 
That said, this is why since I work in education, I'm a pretty big NO for any videos/photos of anything I do privately. 

would love to be there just to watch a jarhead and a soldier go at it in the back

Yep, that's it, and literally in the middle of nowhere, but all it takes is just the right wayward traveler off I95 to make it a memorable event. 🙂

always the geography nerd, I had to look this up.....must be Fantasy Video And Novelties at 3105 US Hwy 301 in Hamer, SC.....
 

 
 

Last summer Andrew Holleran published a novel — The Kingdom of Sand — set in small-town Florida. A spot such as CarolinaRen described upthread features prominently, although I don't think there were any military bases around to juice up the action.
 

I'm late to this party, but I could write quite a lot about this topic. I don't live in a large city, so thankfully we have one store that has booths, four of which have a gh. There used to be three stores, but the county closed two of them. The one that remains is in a small incorporated township that  the county allows to do its own thing. We pay a flat fee to get in, and no one on staff comes back to bother you about feeding bills into the videos.
As was noted upthread, typically one sees a guy come in and follows him into an adjoining booth. Speaking personally, I have got to see the guy. If he's not attractive to me, it's a no. Most guys coming in for head are bi and married and simply don't get oral from their wives or girlfriends. They greatly appreciate good head from another willing male.
Also stated upthread, someone switching from mouth to ass is extremely uncool. Yep, it's happened to me, and I left.
I will say, too, that ours attracts every kind of guy you can imagine including some so up in years that they can barely walk. Attractive younger men and tourists come in routinely. It's a crap shoot. You never know if a trip there will be a boom or a bust, and tbh that is a part of the appeal.
I will also add, since some of you may travel I-95 by car, that there is a bookstore just over the NC-SC line about one mile south of the atrocity known as South of the Border. This place is unassuming and in the middle of nowhere. It's an older place and looks like something out of the 80s inside with booths in the back arcade. It's hit-or-miss, too, but here is why I *always* stop there if I'm in the area: military going to and from Ft Bragg (army) and Camp Lejeune ( marines) are well aware of it and often veer off the interstate for a quick blow. When I've gotten lucky there, it's been very, very good.
Didn't mean to write a book!

Yet another reason not to visit Florida or Texas.  The list keeps growing!

But when you're driving and the sun hits the clouds in a certain way , sometimes a rainbow appears.  Doesn't that count?

I totally agree with this mindset: 
 

I learned years ago to replace the phrase "I cannot afford" with "That's not my priority".
I travel business class, because that is a priority to me.  But I drive a 14 year old automobile  and stay in the cheapest rooms in hotels and cruise ships.   A new automobile is not a priority to me.  A balcony or window on a cruise cabin is not a priority to me.  But the extra seat width and legroom and service on a flight is a priority to me, and I can't have that unless I give up something else that is less of a priority to me.  Hiring a goodlooking man for massage or escort is a also priority for me.

I think, as is often the case, it is “Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak and to remove all doubt.”
A lot of guys on Rentmen try to sound a smidge smarter than they are, or distinguished, and it doesn’t always land correctly. 

I'm late to this party, but I could write quite a lot about this topic. I don't live in a large city, so thankfully we have one store that has booths, four of which have a gh. There used to be three stores, but the county closed two of them. The one that remains is in a small incorporated township that  the county allows to do its own thing. We pay a flat fee to get in, and no one on staff comes back to bother you about feeding bills into the videos.
As was noted upthread, typically one sees a guy come in and follows him into an adjoining booth. Speaking personally, I have got to see the guy. If he's not attractive to me, it's a no. Most guys coming in for head are bi and married and simply don't get oral from their wives or girlfriends. They greatly appreciate good head from another willing male.
Also stated upthread, someone switching from mouth to ass is extremely uncool. Yep, it's happened to me, and I left.
I will say, too, that ours attracts every kind of guy you can imagine including some so up in years that they can barely walk. Attractive younger men and tourists come in routinely. It's a crap shoot. You never know if a trip there will be a boom or a bust, and tbh that is a part of the appeal.
I will also add, since some of you may travel I-95 by car, that there is a bookstore just over the NC-SC line about one mile south of the atrocity known as South of the Border. This place is unassuming and in the middle of nowhere. It's an older place and looks like something out of the 80s inside with booths in the back arcade. It's hit-or-miss, too, but here is why I *always* stop there if I'm in the area: military going to and from Ft Bragg (army) and Camp Lejeune ( marines) are well aware of it and often veer off the interstate for a quick blow. When I've gotten lucky there, it's been very, very good.
Didn't mean to write a book!

I'm late to this party, but I could write quite a lot about this topic. I don't live in a large city, so thankfully we have one store that has booths, four of which have a gh. There used to be three stores, but the county closed two of them. The one that remains is in a small incorporated township that  the county allows to do its own thing. We pay a flat fee to get in, and no one on staff comes back to bother you about feeding bills into the videos.
As was noted upthread, typically one sees a guy come in and follows him into an adjoining booth. Speaking personally, I have got to see the guy. If he's not attractive to me, it's a no. Most guys coming in for head are bi and married and simply don't get oral from their wives or girlfriends. They greatly appreciate good head from another willing male.
Also stated upthread, someone switching from mouth to ass is extremely uncool. Yep, it's happened to me, and I left.
I will say, too, that ours attracts every kind of guy you can imagine including some so up in years that they can barely walk. Attractive younger men and tourists come in routinely. It's a crap shoot. You never know if a trip there will be a boom or a bust, and tbh that is a part of the appeal.
I will also add, since some of you may travel I-95 by car, that there is a bookstore just over the NC-SC line about one mile south of the atrocity known as South of the Border. This place is unassuming and in the middle of nowhere. It's an older place and looks like something out of the 80s inside with booths in the back arcade. It's hit-or-miss, too, but here is why I *always* stop there if I'm in the area: military going to and from Ft Bragg (army) and Camp Lejeune ( marines) are well aware of it and often veer off the interstate for a quick blow. When I've gotten lucky there, it's been very, very good.
Didn't mean to write a book!

I'm late to this party, but I could write quite a lot about this topic. I don't live in a large city, so thankfully we have one store that has booths, four of which have a gh. There used to be three stores, but the county closed two of them. The one that remains is in a small incorporated township that  the county allows to do its own thing. We pay a flat fee to get in, and no one on staff comes back to bother you about feeding bills into the videos.
As was noted upthread, typically one sees a guy come in and follows him into an adjoining booth. Speaking personally, I have got to see the guy. If he's not attractive to me, it's a no. Most guys coming in for head are bi and married and simply don't get oral from their wives or girlfriends. They greatly appreciate good head from another willing male.
Also stated upthread, someone switching from mouth to ass is extremely uncool. Yep, it's happened to me, and I left.
I will say, too, that ours attracts every kind of guy you can imagine including some so up in years that they can barely walk. Attractive younger men and tourists come in routinely. It's a crap shoot. You never know if a trip there will be a boom or a bust, and tbh that is a part of the appeal.
I will also add, since some of you may travel I-95 by car, that there is a bookstore just over the NC-SC line about one mile south of the atrocity known as South of the Border. This place is unassuming and in the middle of nowhere. It's an older place and looks like something out of the 80s inside with booths in the back arcade. It's hit-or-miss, too, but here is why I *always* stop there if I'm in the area: military going to and from Ft Bragg (army) and Camp Lejeune ( marines) are well aware of it and often veer off the interstate for a quick blow. When I've gotten lucky there, it's been very, very good.
Didn't mean to write a book!

@TerryAance you’d likely be spending a lot of money for little result. But if you paid a visit to the police station closest to the spa and told them what happened, at a minimum they’d be on notice and perhaps they’ve already been reported. Also put a review on both their Google Biz ad and on Yelp.

Chalk it up to a loss. Doing even Small Claims Court is going to cost you a lot of time and energy.
By letting us know your experience here, Chelsea SPA is going to lose more than  $75 shower and $60 massage sessions.

I used to go to Disneyland once a month.  Throughout the day and the evening, Grindr and Growlr were full of headless profiles of Daddies wanting to get a blowjob while their kids and wife were at the pool or took a nap.  I blew so many Daddies in the stairwell of the Disneyland Grand Californian Hotel.

Thank you @Coolwave35 for relating this.
 
I always enjoy posts that begin with “I took a boy to Mexico…” 😎

I'm late to this party, but I could write quite a lot about this topic. I don't live in a large city, so thankfully we have one store that has booths, four of which have a gh. There used to be three stores, but the county closed two of them. The one that remains is in a small incorporated township that  the county allows to do its own thing. We pay a flat fee to get in, and no one on staff comes back to bother you about feeding bills into the videos.
As was noted upthread, typically one sees a guy come in and follows him into an adjoining booth. Speaking personally, I have got to see the guy. If he's not attractive to me, it's a no. Most guys coming in for head are bi and married and simply don't get oral from their wives or girlfriends. They greatly appreciate good head from another willing male.
Also stated upthread, someone switching from mouth to ass is extremely uncool. Yep, it's happened to me, and I left.
I will say, too, that ours attracts every kind of guy you can imagine including some so up in years that they can barely walk. Attractive younger men and tourists come in routinely. It's a crap shoot. You never know if a trip there will be a boom or a bust, and tbh that is a part of the appeal.
I will also add, since some of you may travel I-95 by car, that there is a bookstore just over the NC-SC line about one mile south of the atrocity known as South of the Border. This place is unassuming and in the middle of nowhere. It's an older place and looks like something out of the 80s inside with booths in the back arcade. It's hit-or-miss, too, but here is why I *always* stop there if I'm in the area: military going to and from Ft Bragg (army) and Camp Lejeune ( marines) are well aware of it and often veer off the interstate for a quick blow. When I've gotten lucky there, it's been very, very good.
Didn't mean to write a book!