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I experienced a lot of attitude from him even for the most common questions we ask when hiring an escort. I passed.

I’m making provisions to stay in my own home when the time comes, no matter what.  I’d rather have a shorter life than the quality of life in assisted-living, even in a very good facility.  The most important thing is to have a home where aging in place considerations/modifications are ready before needed.
fyi - the business model for any sort of assisted-living care is built upon an average stay of between 18-24 months and almost always less than 36 months.  In other words, you will die there quick. 

One of the problems we have is we try to keep people alive way too long when the quality of life isn’t good & it just looks like prolonged suffering in a slow & inevitable decline.  
 Death isn’t something to fight or be afraid of. It’s the natural progression & ideally in old age, the end of a life well-lived.  
 

My brother died a slow brutal death over 2 years with cancer.  His wife and her young sons cared for him in their home,I supported them financially.  He was able to pass at home with family.
I’m on good terms with my nephews, they are kind honest people.
I’m fortunate.

funny, i get anxiety when the check is coming. 

Apparently, he's 24 years old. That's a very rough looking 24 year old (to me). I don't find him attractive at all. 

OK, I'll ask the obvious question. Who?
There's no point in reporting a fire if you don't give the address.

100% . When i was a 20something gay man, i remember wanting to be only with guys around my age. Older men were invisible to me. Now the tables have turned. But judging from own attitude back then I expect to be invisible to the younger gay men.
Str8/bi guys do make for a better company and i feel less judged by them. 
The 1998 film Gods and Monsters based on James Whale's life portrayed the bond between an older gay man and his str8 muse quite well.

Your post made my eyes tear up.
I am probably 15-20 yrs away from this (most likely much less than that) and my situation is different. I have never been able to find a spouse, let alone a bf. I have an older brother, but i can not count on him or my niece or nephew in my old and frail days. I had a couple of gay best friends and my hope was they would be around to at least keep an eye on me even if I could not expect them to take care of me. But they too drifted apart during Covid stresses.
My only hope is with my retirement savings i will be able to afford some elder care or a nursing home. I am also researching into options to make it financially attractive to a younger gay man to keep me alive and well. Life insurance alone would make a caretaker want me to pass away sooner than later.
In my 50s itself i am feeling discarded enough to dread what life would be like when i am frail. I am also actively looking in to options to end my life on a high note before i reach a point where i am unable to physically take care of myself.
Meanwhile my gay 'community' at work is fighting with the corporate IT to allow the company chat system to display a person's preferred pronouns.

He also advertised on RM. I was planning on hiring him.as he was very responsive. But my gut feeling told me to not go ahead. It was right! Whew!

I wouldn't want to live in SF now, under current conditions.  but, I have many fond memories from living there years ago.
historically SF has extreme boom & bust cycles - this is just another one with a different twist.  It always comes back.
It's still the most beautiful American city in a region rich with natural abundance & the best universities in the world.  
I think it's very strange time in the US when many Americans are wishing for the big cities to fail.  As cities are the economic drivers for the nation - be very careful what you wish for. As is typical, people don't understand the consequences.  Kind of like Brexit - all sounded great as a taking point until the reality hit them in the face.  
 

Hasn't this always been the case?
Those who can, do.

Grindr is for the young and handsome/pretty.  It seems to work much better if you're in a big city.  Having said that, it's mostly a waste a time for me.  I am honest in showing my actual body and age and, as others have mentioned, I let other's reach out to me if they are interested.  It very rarely leads to a connection.
I am SO HAPPY, I grew up in an era when there were no smartphones.  The hook-up spots were campus bathrooms, adult bookstores, and backrooms in some of the bars.  No bots in the equation at all.  You saw exactly what you were going to get and they were there for the same reason as you were.   Not nearly the number of games that go on today with the hook-up aps.   Much simpler and more honest IMO.

100% . I saw, not too long ago, how relations abandoned seeing my parents as they aged. This happens even more,, when friends are all you have, which is common in the gay world.
 

Nobody loves you when you're old.
You could just say that. Of course “nobody” is hyperbolic, but the point is there. People value youth and vitality. Even loved ones will forget you when you no longer serve the same relational benefits as you once did. Put someone in a nursing home, and it gets even worse. Nursing homes are simply geriatric prisons.

When you hit 30 as a gay man, no one gives a crap about you anymore.

I would do anything for Ryan Phillipe. What a hottie he was (still is).

Call us paranoid if you like, but I'm not sure that not wanting to send selfies of oneself is really paranoia. What if I'm a closeted doctor fearful of being outed, what if I'm locally known, what if there's a high chance of being recognized and my private life exposed that I'm trying to keep secret? I don't think it's paranoia to not want my picture 'out there'. Many people don't want their pics even up on social media. If someone is out already or just doesn't mind anyone finding out about their sessions, all power to them. It doesn't mean that those not like that are paranoid. 
I realize as @SouthOfTheBorder said, that I could be secretly being recorded. That's not in my control. The risk that is in my hands is all that I can control and nothing else. There's a gamble being taken by both the provider and the client, and both acknowledge that. Trying to think of ways to protect everyone is a smart idea, but I don't think requiring a photo does much to really provide security. If it's to identify who's at the door, then asking for a description is as secure as asking for a photo. Again, at the end of the day, both sides are accepting a certain level of risk.

You guys are paranoid. Maybe the provider just wants to know who he is inviting into his home.

I have had this request only a couple of times but for me is a red flag and a deal breaker. I just said: I guess we are not a good match, thank you for your time and have a great day.

Generally, my response is "no, thank you."  And it's a deal breaker for me if it's a requirement. 

I saw an interview about this on CNN this morning.  I don't have the words to adequately express the totality of my disinterest.

That’s why they invented Ativan. Lasts about 4 hours which is plenty to get you through O’Hare.

I relied heavily on the mentorship of older gay men when I started experimenting with homosexuality in college. I knew nothing about how to meet people, the social norms, that not all gays were effeminate and that gay men had long term relationships. I am now in my 50s and they are still my friends.
Young people today, think they know everything and that old people are stupid. So they wouldn't accept mentorship.

This is older gay men's perpetual fantasy. Today's younger generation is very practical and money-minded. They smartly figured being attracted to a silver daddy may mean living in a beach house in their 20s or 30s.

Thank you.  "Private" and "estate planning" and "attorney" all sound like only people who earn more money than I do cann use them.  I don't feel  hopeful that I can afford things like this.