nycman

Kristen Bjorn's 1989 "Carnaval in Rio". Nothing else has ever come even close!

I always get a good laugh whenever I have a disastrous meeting with an escort....and they send a cheery follow up text "I had a great time and can't wait to see you again!" I desperately want to text back..."Seriously?...are you sure you don't have me confused with some other client?...I had a horrible time." Of course, I spare them the anguish....and simply ignore them....but damn the temptation to be snarky is strong!

The young men are too busy using their “assets”to get ahead in this world. They don’t want to stop the “abuse”....it’s a damn good gig for some. Or as my buddies and I used to say when we were young, cute and poor.... “Use what ya got...to get whatever ya don’t got”.......it worked for us! I’m sorry, but I never found it that hard to politely remove someone’s hand, say no thank you, walk away,and move on if I wasn’t interested. Or to keep going for that matter....if I was. Did I lose, or miss out, on some opportunities whenever I said “No, thank you”?...sure I did. Welcome to the real world!

Wow.....Aleksandra Dionisyevna Danilova contradicted you in public....and then apologized? Who knew Russian prima ballerinas were so thoughtful? Grin

Well, she always was way ahead of her time!

Have friends who live in PR. Normally I go there 2-3 times a year. It’s an easy and warm escape from winter in NYC. Last week they told me it’s horrible there and to stay away for the foreseeable future.

or he "touched" someone big.....

“Finish yourself off”.....lol What EXACTLY do you think you’re being paid $180/hour for....?

Nice guy Handsome Excellent physic .....not much else.

So....you ran away from Wisconsin.....to Arkansas? Isn't that like committing suicide twice? Seriously baby....come to NYC....we have WAY cooler cemeteries!

I understand that it's a gimmicky phrase that's being used to convince people that they have nothing to fear about unprotected sex with people who are HIV+. I'm just shining a light into the corner and helping people understand that reductive reasoning to the point of "U=U" is simplistic, unreliable, and I believe dangerous. First and foremost....you are relying on your partner to be honest about their viral load..... hell, many men aren't even honest about being HIV+....are you really willing to trust them with your health and trust that they're being honest about their viral load and their compliance with their HIV meds? Seriously? These are MEN....who want to get LAID! Most of the "U=U" dogma is based on the PARTNER study that was published in 2016. Let me give you a direct quote from the article"....these results cannot directly provide an answer to the question of whether it is safe for serodifferent couples to practice condomless sex...." Also the study was underpowered to give definitive answers about homosexual sex....hence the PARTNER2 study that is trying to enroll more gay men that is now underway. "....additional follow-up in MSM is therefore needed through the second phase of the PARTNER study (PARTNER 2) to provide more precise estimates for transmission risk in MSM in the context of ART." Don't get me wrong. The PARTNER study was damn impressive. Nonetheless, there were 11 HIV seroconversions in the study and 10 of them were gay men. They just weren't tied genetically to the "undetectable" partner. Also, many couples were lost to follow up and the average follow up was only 1.3 years. That's not a very long time. Also, 55 couples were removed from the study because the "undetectable" partner...became "detectable". And of course this have nothing to do with the myriad of other sexually transmitted infections out there. In fact, in the condomless PARTNER study......"HIV-negative MSM were also relatively commonly diagnosed with an STI." This study was done in partners, many of whom had been together for years. This study wasn't designed to answer questions about one night stands....to quote "the risk of HIV transmission in very new partnerships could not be determined." Know what they call that trick you picked up off Grindr last night?.....a "very new partnership". This study says NOTHING about that risk. Look, this is great news....but I personally don't think it translates into..."that guy who fucked me raw at the bath house last night told me he was undetectable so there's no risk of me contracting HIV". And that's the implied "U=U" myth that I'm trying to bust.

I've said this before...but the elephant in the room is the term "undetectable".....many....let me repeat that word....MANY.....HIV+ individuals cannot (for whatever reason) reach that level of viral suppression. And someone who was "undetectable" last week....may....for any number of reasons....become "detectable" today....and thus more infectious. Yes, it's incredible that some people are able to reach a level of being undetectable. And even people who are detectable but on HAART are less infectious than the "old days". Add PreP into the mix and things are starting to look up. No doubt, these are all great and incredible things that are helping to contain the spread of HIV. Nonetheless, I feel the trumpeting of "U=U" is simplistic and irresponsible....and some, perhaps many, people will pay with their lives. Again, to bluntly speak to the elephant in the room....none of this justifies abandoning condom use.

LMAO....when someone tells me they're a "Couture Designer"...all I hear is...."no one buys the crappy clothes I make". While indeed there are very successful designers who have Couture lines....no one successful does only Couture. It's just a fact.

He's talented and beautiful not doubt. I don't really like the way his videos are edited however. In an attempt to make the movements more crisp and on point, they get altered to the point of looking unreal and artificial. Much like a Upper Eastside Socialite who's had too much work done. Sometimes less, is more.

Holy crap...I missed that the first 5 times I watched this. Then again, I'd rather sleep with Pink than Channing.....he does nothing for me.

If I’m being honest, I use escorts to avoid having to date. While I love the initial rush of a new love....it wears off fast and I quickly feel stuck in a rut with someone I used to love. I’m not sure my strategy is the best for the long run but so far it’s served me well for over 15 years. On the one occasion I slipped and fell in love....I was honest about hiring escorts from the 2nd or 3rd date. One thing I refuse to do is to be in a relationship that isn’t based on honesty from the start. Nonetheless, while he pretended to be ok with it.... I don’t think he ever truly was. I’m extremely good at emotionally separating sex from love, but in retrospect, it’s not fair to expect someone to compete with a revolving door of new studs every month. Even if I knew the difference in my heart....that’s hard to explain. My personal opinion is that most men and potential dates are jealous of men who hire escorts, but they cloak it in a veneer of judgmental disgust.

I do now!

Hey!....”ya don’t ask...ya don’t get!” And...”pot...kettle....black”.

I would suggest starting with your natural talents and interests and go from there. e.g. if your a lawyer....look for an LGBT group that offers fee legal aid to the community. Otherwise, just jump into whatever strikes your fancy. You can’t really go wrong. I’ve worked with the AIDS Rides in the past and it’s been tremendously rewarding. It’s nice because it a compact limited commitment. I’m not great at things like working in the soup kitchen every Wednesday at 2pm....for 10 years.

Suddenly your nom de plume has more meaning..... And.....when do we get to see the speedo pics?

Except for that “1/2 brother” you never new existed from Dad’s time in Korea.....! Those thing tend not to show up in routine ancestry sleuthing....grin Also, the scary part about the police using the information is that, from the best I can determine, they didn’t look for “information on X suspect”. They asked them to scan their entire database and turn over anyone with a close match to anonymous DNA they had collected. Using that methodology...a specificity of 99.9%....basically sucks.

I don’t think that’s always the case. I’m pretty sure if you have tickets you want to sell you can go through StubHub to sell them. Hence the wide range of options and ticket prices listed.

I agree and I’ve used StubHub many times to get great seats.... I’m just curious how they keep people from offering counterfeit tickets? I mean..ok...I get my money back...but you still seriously screwed up my night. Again, I’ve used them tons and never had a problem... but I still hold my breath every time they scan my StubHub tickets at the door.

Not a bad start...for a preppy "straight" dork. Just kidding. I'm proud of you for taking the first baby steps. Remember, none of us were born into "gay" culture. We've all had to stumble in the dark and find our way. Some of us did it at 18 and some of us are just crossing the threshold for the first time at 80. There is no "right" way. Give it time. Be open to meeting new people. Learn to embrace all the colors of the rainbow. Relax. Have Fun. Say "yes". How do you solve the “top/bottom” mismatch? Plain and simple in your opening line... “Hi my name is XXXX...I’m a bottom” The bottoms will drop you like a hot potato..... and the tops will buy you a drink...or three.

As I said before....it’s rude. Nonetheless, I’ve surreptitiously rearranged dinner place settings, divided meals, and quietly sent out FHB (family hold back) instructions to my closest friends when uninvited guests have shown up unexpectedly. It’s not the end of the world. The most egregious was someone who was applying for a high level job with my company. She brought her gay brother unannounced to a small dinner at my home, because she wanted him to meet “normal” gay people. Needless to say she was stunned the next day when her amazing job offer .....was rescinded.