nycman

I would suggest starting with your natural talents and interests and go from there. e.g. if your a lawyer....look for an LGBT group that offers fee legal aid to the community. Otherwise, just jump into whatever strikes your fancy. You can’t really go wrong. I’ve worked with the AIDS Rides in the past and it’s been tremendously rewarding. It’s nice because it a compact limited commitment. I’m not great at things like working in the soup kitchen every Wednesday at 2pm....for 10 years.

Suddenly your nom de plume has more meaning..... And.....when do we get to see the speedo pics?

Except for that “1/2 brother” you never new existed from Dad’s time in Korea.....! Those thing tend not to show up in routine ancestry sleuthing....grin Also, the scary part about the police using the information is that, from the best I can determine, they didn’t look for “information on X suspect”. They asked them to scan their entire database and turn over anyone with a close match to anonymous DNA they had collected. Using that methodology...a specificity of 99.9%....basically sucks.

I don’t think that’s always the case. I’m pretty sure if you have tickets you want to sell you can go through StubHub to sell them. Hence the wide range of options and ticket prices listed.

I agree and I’ve used StubHub many times to get great seats.... I’m just curious how they keep people from offering counterfeit tickets? I mean..ok...I get my money back...but you still seriously screwed up my night. Again, I’ve used them tons and never had a problem... but I still hold my breath every time they scan my StubHub tickets at the door.

Not a bad start...for a preppy "straight" dork. Just kidding. I'm proud of you for taking the first baby steps. Remember, none of us were born into "gay" culture. We've all had to stumble in the dark and find our way. Some of us did it at 18 and some of us are just crossing the threshold for the first time at 80. There is no "right" way. Give it time. Be open to meeting new people. Learn to embrace all the colors of the rainbow. Relax. Have Fun. Say "yes". How do you solve the “top/bottom” mismatch? Plain and simple in your opening line... “Hi my name is XXXX...I’m a bottom” The bottoms will drop you like a hot potato..... and the tops will buy you a drink...or three.

As I said before....it’s rude. Nonetheless, I’ve surreptitiously rearranged dinner place settings, divided meals, and quietly sent out FHB (family hold back) instructions to my closest friends when uninvited guests have shown up unexpectedly. It’s not the end of the world. The most egregious was someone who was applying for a high level job with my company. She brought her gay brother unannounced to a small dinner at my home, because she wanted him to meet “normal” gay people. Needless to say she was stunned the next day when her amazing job offer .....was rescinded.

Looks like his torso is his best asset. It’s impressive....but I need to see more.

Rude.

We need to meet....... Grin

I think calling him a "tour guide" is a bit of stretch. You're signing up for a tour...with the assurance that at least one good looking man will be in attendance.

Pot Kettle Black

Oh..there’s a cat-and-mouse going on...... It’s just in your scenario...... the mouse gets bored with not being chased.... and then goes and rapes the cat. Grin

I am 32 flavors...and then some!

I agree. Italians think they're amazing. I think they're dry and tasteless. I've always hated cannoli's as well. But, when you love Italian American Men as much as I do....you learn to fake it!

I had to get rid of my favorite massage therapist....because he wouldn't shut up. He was a bad conspiracy theorist....and LOVED to talk about it. Once I caught myself trying to use his inane and incessant babbling about UFO's, JFK, the Pope etc. as white noise to help me zone out, which is of course insane. For our next massage I made it clear that it bothered me and that I prefered silence......60 minutes into our next massage you could tell his head was about to EXPLODE from NOT being able to talk about conspiracies. It was causing him so much discomfort that I just gave in and let him talk. He blabbered on for the final 30 minutes....and I never saw him again. Unfortunate, because he is talented.

Who the hell are you kidding? Your plan involves a basted turkey and fine Italian pastries?....sounds kinky as fuck to me!

It’s fun watching people respond to Mocha’s “ignored” / hidden posts. It used to tell me there was an ignored post and I could click it to reveal the post if I wanted. That’s seems to have changed and now unless someone else references it....it’s like it never happened. I prefer the newer way.

They are both a stretch geographicallly from your current itinerary. I personally would avoid Barcelona until the Catalan rebellion quiets down. Unfortunately, I don’t think that’s going to happen anytime soon. Prague is beautiful. Not as active in the escort department as I expected. Personally, if geography isn’t an issue.....I would head to Berlin.

I still think it’s nothing more than a modern pyramid scheme....but have fun.

I like tight jeans.... But when they begin to look like “tights”....I didn’t like them at all. There’s a fine line....which Europeans seem especially fond of crossing. Big meaty thighs in tight jeans = love Skinny toothpicks that look like they’ve been shrink wrapped in denim?...not so much.

A lot would depend on how much time the client is trying to schedule, how far in advance were the cancellations, was there a “good”reason, did the client seem apologetic? Overnights cancelled last minute without a reason or apology?....bye bye. One hour, days in advance, “good” reason, and a sincere apology....I might take a chance....maybe.

The kid let JT ejaculate on his jeans and he walked out with $2,000,,,,, after he repeatedly begged JT to stop? Oh please. When will this insanity end? JT plays with his cock during a massage. You ask him to stop. He keeps going? You stop the massage and leave the room. Period. Otherwise, you’re complicit in the deal in my book. You took $2K for what sounds like a bad 10 minute “rug and tug”. You were complicit in the deal and JT was the victim here. Sounds like he tried to blackmail JT with his “evidence”....and the statue of limitations ran out? Either your lawyer is an idiot and you should sue HIM, or...more likely....you never had a case in the first place and JT’s army of lawyers called your bluff. Don’t get me wrong. I think JT is creepy and I believe something happened, but (A) I don’t care and (B) I think the kid is as guilty as JT is in this case.

But it almost always is just plain old alcohol. People always think they were drugged....and they were...with alcohol. I’m not saying it never happens. There’s a reason I only drink beers in long neck bottles at gay clubs. It’s easy to keep my thumb firmly covering the entire opening between sips.

It’s the oldest date rape drug in the book....it’s called....A-L-C-O-H-O-L Seriously....the guy is trying to imply that he was drugged and molested by Takei...... Fucking decades later?.....please Mary. You got drunk with a horney older gay man at his house. You’re lucky you didn’t wake up chained to the radiator with your ass bleeding. Personally, I’ve always thought Takei was creepy, but this is just sensationalist crap. I wouldn’t have been impressed or cared if the “victim” had told me the story the next morning over brunch. Decades later.....you expect me to care?.....really?.....why?