nycman

That’s not a "rack rate", that’s robbery. grin

I feel the song coming on….

I believe it. I sat next to him in a Michelin three star restaurant in New York once. I’ve never seen a more socially awkward human in my life. He was eating all alone. He barely said anything and never made eye contact with the staff who were trying to be polite and engage him. It wasn’t until Anna Wintour walked over and licked his ass that I was sure it was him.

If someone says they have a "policy" of being paid in advance, I simply respond that that is a dealbreaker for me and ask if that’s a "dealbreaker" for them. If they say "yes", then I thank them for their time and I move on. I’d say about 50% say it’s a dealbreaker for them and about 50% agree to meet without being paid upfront. If they do decide to "break their policy" for me, then I make sure the money is clearly visible when they come into the room. That seems to be enough to set the skeptics at ease. I’ve had some great times with some guys who have broken their policy for me, so I think it’s worth at least asking. I will tell you that refusing to pay an upfront will piss some guys off. I’ve certainly been spoken down to, berated, and even threatened for refusing to pay ahead of time. The funny thing is, the more agitated a guy gets, the more I think he’s a scammer, and the more I think I just dodged a bullet. So it’s a win-win in my book.

That was my first thought as well. If you didn’t ask for your bourbon by name, you got what you deserved. grin I’m a Marker’s Mark fan for most of my mixed bourbon drinks. My absolute favorite whiskey for an old-fashioned is Mitchner’s Sour Mash. It can be a little hard to find, but a good bartender can produce a masterpiece with it. If you happen to see it on the shelf (it will probably be next to the Mitchner‘s bourbon or Mitchner’s rye), give it a try! For sipping bourbon, I try to find more boutique, small batch varieties. The only problem is when you find something you like, you’ll probably never find it again.

Yeah, the appointment was all set up. We seemed like a good match, but then the dreaded "one last thing" text at the time we were supposed to meet.

Requested payment up front, but he was polite about it when I refused. As a result, we never met. Sorry, I don’t have anymore information than that.

Then he might want to think about having an active ad….. (i.e., the link above doesn’t work)

My new favorite epithet…."Birkin Bag Face".

And that’s a bad thing? grin

Thankfully, I have a severe dislike of Wagyu steak. I love steaks, but Wagyu is just mealy and weird to me.

Whenever I get requests like this, I always chalk it up as an immediate loss. If I give the money, I’ll never get the services promised and I’ll never get the money back. If I say no, the relationship is done. True whether it’s escorts, business associates, friends, or family. Having said that, sometimes I say yes, and sometimes I say no.

It’s a minor negative in my book. I think it’s immature and kind of stupid. Two qualities that I don’t look for in someone I’m trying to fuck.

In addition to the other excellent advice in this thread, I find this statement to be incredibly important. I was recently the executor of a Will. Before the person passed, we sat and had a long conversations over several days about their wishes. They died soon thereafter. Those frank discussions and talks made everything so much easier for me. No Will can possibly address every possible scenario. There will be gray areas and judgment calls, no matter how perfectly the Will is written and executed. Those talks allowed me to execute the decedent’s wishes with confidence and inner peace. Personally, I have decided to use professionals. The workload of being an executor is gargantuan. The family and beneficiaries will never value or appreciate the time and effort it takes. For me this is the correct path. YMMV.

I know it’s hard bro, but you did the right thing. It will get easier with time. And when you’re ready, jump back in the saddle. There’s hundreds of the good guys who can’t wait to meet a man like you!