Monarchy79

Simple Issue/Simple Solution.
If an escort asks for a picture and you don’t want to send one, don’t send one. 
 
Move on. 
 
 

You do not need to stay away. You need to be smart and act carefully, just like in all other platforms and "real" places. The world is full of scammers.

For many men, cars are a status symbol and reflect their personalities. 
 
no different than how women see purses as status symbols. 
 

For many men, cars are a status symbol and reflect their personalities. 
 
no different than how women see purses as status symbols. 
 

Grindr in itself is plagued with danger, even with regular hookups, so any other paid service from there would seem sketchy to me. 
 
Stay away from hiring from Grindr.
 

For many men, cars are a status symbol and reflect their personalities. 
 
no different than how women see purses as status symbols. 
 

Grindr in itself is plagued with danger, even with regular hookups, so any other paid service from there would seem sketchy to me. 
 
Stay away from hiring from Grindr.
 

“Side” can be much more than just oral. It really just defines as “non penetrative” sex. I for one love frottage, and consider it “side” play.
https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Side

That's great! I never knew I had a name before. I feel so welcomed 😌!

I’ve had quite a few experiences like this myself, I’ve been hiring for too long. In some cases, they stop putting in the effort to retain clients and settle into doing the bare minimum while still getting paid. In others, it seems more like burnout than anything else.
From what I’ve seen, once things reach that point, they rarely turn around. It’s usually better to move on and find someone who’s more engaged and consistent.

I’ve seen him before. He has no massage skills. 

Spot on!!! In addition to rearranging themselves in the sauna or steam room, some do what I call the “Sharon Stone -Basic Instinct” move where they open their legs, showing you ALL the goods under the towel. 
 

Spot on!!! In addition to rearranging themselves in the sauna or steam room, some do what I call the “Sharon Stone -Basic Instinct” move where they open their legs, showing you ALL the goods under the towel. 
 

Trust me, I’m not…. lol….
To be fair, these things don’t happen to me frequently. I just may have lucked up with some guy having that post-workout hormone boost…. 
 
 

This is a very tricky matter as some “signals” can be misinterpreted. 
I’ve had some bold things happen to me in the locker room,  and some subtle things…. 
There was the time a dude was playing under his towel, staring at me in the steam room. I gave him a nod and a smile to acknowledge his flirting. The “bold” part was when I went to take a shower. That guy quickly hopped in my shower stall and started jacking off. He scared the crap out of me. 
Another bold moment was when I was changing my clothes at my locker. This guy comes up to locker next to mine to take off his workout clothes As I’m sitting down to put on and tie my shoes, he removes his briefs first, then takes forever to remove his socks and shirt. As his dick is swinging closely to my face, it’s growing and getting hard. He’s so close, I can smell his “pheromones”. He then stares at me then walks off to the shower, and takes his dirty clothes with him. His locker was never beside mine. Apparently, he wanted to flash me. 
 
Another instance was not in the locker room, but the actual weight room. 
This dude is benching, with shorts on with NO underwear. As I’m doing cable work not too far from him, I see his balls. I think nothing of it and move on to the next machine. This guy then positions himself to the machine right in front of me. When he sees other people, he closes his legs. When the area is empty, he opens them, and his balls and the head of his penis are out. 
I finally gave him eye contact, and when I did, his dick jumped and got more erect. 
 
I was usually caught off-guard, as I’m definitely not a guy that anyone would (or should) even look twice at in a gym… 
 
 

Most guys are ageist, until they get old. lol.
once they are on the receiving end of ageism, they are suddenly insulted and appalled. 😂

One important point to note. If you decide to hire a professional for the first time, do your research and find someone who works well with first timers. Please use this site to do as much vetting as possible. 
Having a terrible experience with a scammer, junkie, robber, abuser or many of the archetypes that have been discussed in these forums could be extremely traumatizing for someone’s first time. 

Simple Issue/Simple Solution.
If an escort asks for a picture and you don’t want to send one, don’t send one. 
 
Move on. 
 
 

I am basically a side myself. What I truly enjoy sexually is kissing forever, licking absolutely everywhere -particularly armpits and feet-, mutual cock sucking, and long wet rimming -whether reciprocated or not-. That is what I look forward to when hiring or hooking up for free. 
However, once in a blue moon (or more frequently if I am in a slutty mood 😈), I do engage in anal sex. There, I am totally versatile: I equally enjoy both topping and bottoming. No preference.  
I love sex. 

Simple Issue/Simple Solution.
If an escort asks for a picture and you don’t want to send one, don’t send one. 
 
Move on. 
 
 

Most guys are ageist, until they get old. lol.
once they are on the receiving end of ageism, they are suddenly insulted and appalled. 😂

Life (regardless of sexual orientation) happens in phases. 
 
The key to succeeding in each phase is to prepare, and adjust expectations.
Youth is temporary and is a fleeting phase that has many forks in the road to choose from. 
For any man or woman to expect to be lusted after and “paid attention to”  over the age of 40, in the same way that they were at 20, is delusional and unrealistic. 
I’m 46 and could care less about attracting younger men, or being a sex symbol. I took care of all of that during the time I was supposed to. 
In the cases where people do flirt with me, and show me attraction, I’m pleasantly flattered, take it as that, and move on. 
 
People need to grow up. 
 

 
 

Life (regardless of sexual orientation) happens in phases. 
 
The key to succeeding in each phase is to prepare, and adjust expectations.
Youth is temporary and is a fleeting phase that has many forks in the road to choose from. 
For any man or woman to expect to be lusted after and “paid attention to”  over the age of 40, in the same way that they were at 20, is delusional and unrealistic. 
I’m 46 and could care less about attracting younger men, or being a sex symbol. I took care of all of that during the time I was supposed to. 
In the cases where people do flirt with me, and show me attraction, I’m pleasantly flattered, take it as that, and move on. 
 
People need to grow up. 
 

 
 

Spare us the poetic shades of grey. This isn’t nuance, it’s nonsense. Imagination has nothing to do with it—accountability does. A top knows when he’s not wearing a condom. Full stop. Acting like it’s some surprise twist is laughable. You didn’t trip and fall into him. You made a choice—own it.