Ichabod

i don't know about the race element but i can say when it comes to porn stars that i follow (mostly tops) when i see them do a bottom video it does make me not like them as much.  With the bottoms that i follow when i see them top it doesn't give me the ick in the same way.  
probably internal misogyny going on there. 

Two thoughts:
First, this guy seems very unlikely to give you an experience you'll be happy with.
And second, this sounds like A LOT of pre-meeting communication. If I were this provider, I would be wondering whether you were every going to get down to business and schedule a meeting. Could that be a factor in your most recent (unsatisfying) exchange with him?

20% retention rate isn’t bad. You’ve only been going a year, needs longer. It takes ages to build a regular client base.
You say you use a script post session. I wouldn’t do that. A script feels like a hard sell. Have a few messages you’d like to get over but do it in a personal way that is tuned towards the client. You need to get to know them at a more personal level. My guess is they feel ‘sold to’ and massage (whatever the style) is a very personal one to one service. Make it so they feel you see them as a whole person not another client. Contact them after the session to see how the session improved their pain (tell them you’ll do a follow up call in a week or so and are they ok with that?). You’ll get re bookings on those calls (but don’t force it). 
Also I think offering a one hour session is a good idea. People want to try you out before committing to a longer session. You could do the 1 hour and then offer the next 90m at a reduced rate. That reduces the barrier of the unknown for them and gives them the full experience at a reduced cost. Once you build in them the habit of coming back they’ll come back more. 
Business courses aren’t the place to learn this stuff. Learn it by doing. Ask the 20% of customers who do come back why they do so. Ask all your customers how they found you and what made them book. Listen to your customers. The answers are there , not in a business course. That would be a waste of money and time. 
Basically the number one rule is know who your customer is, understand what they want, and give it to them in a way that is satisfying but leaves space for more. In everything think of your customer first. You don’t go wrong if you think about who they are and what they want. Oh and whilst you’ll get great advice on business on here from successful providers (☺️) your client base is unlikely to be on here….
 
 

I haven't watched the fun part yet but the first minute is hilarious. Posing for the camera, fine, but wearing the cap onto the table, yeah we all do that, and I always am caught wearing the same underwear as my masseurs.

Bumping, original question. Thanks!

Because I have time today, The red flags listed: 
- I'm new.  (for reasons mentioned above) 
- creating a new profile to reach out. (this is often done by spam bots who create new accounts daily, or seasoned tire kickers who know if we see how old/visit the profile they have had means they wouldn't be messaging this way if they were genuine.)
-Not answering the very simple yet important question, which had to be asked THREE TIMES - what do you want to do? What do you get into? What do you like to do when it comes to gay sex? (could be answered in a non-explicit way, although to be fair I despise when people answer with 'i'm looking to have fun' because what the hell does that mean) For me this was the biggest red flag. 
- asking questions that are already answered on his profile no1 - (do you do bb)  listed on our profiles as safe only/ask me/anything goes. Maybe this provider had 'ask me' as his answer but the following two points would suggest that is not the case. 
- asking questions that are already answered on his profile no2 - (are you neg) If he has taken the time to set up a new profile to reach out, why wouldn't he have read the providers stats?  He was elongating the conversation for interaction. 
- asking questions that are already answered on his profile no3  - asking the provider what THEY are into (this a common theme for the tire kickers trying to elicit free conversation of sexual nature. You tell us what YOU like, what we 'like' other than getting paid is irrelevant and the truthful answer is probably not fucking you)  
- asking sexual questions with obvious answers  - do you like to breed. (find me one top who would say 'no i hate it')
- He asked about traveling and hosting, despite later saying he only wanted to travel.  Why would he ask about both if he only wanted one. If he wanted the provider to host he would have said "i am looking for someone to host, where are you located?'  (example of elongating conversation instead of making a booking) 
- "and other services?" This is a classic way to get conversation instead of booking. Real client would say 'i saw you list available for videos, can i ask what you allow?" or " i would be really interested in filming some of our encounter, is that included in a session?" these questions would provide an answer, but that is not what he wanted - he wanted to explore conversations ABOUT making videos, rather than meeting and actually doing it. 
I hope this illustrates more about how the language of his texts were trying to get a conversation rather than firm down a booking. Does only one of these things mean automatic red flag block and ignore? Of course not. But the sum is greater than the parts, and after a while you start to be able to spot them easier.
 

Yes, that balance is critical. I provide limited initial information (lest I inadvertently text to a Sunday school teacher or an idle ICE agent) and once I confirm their identity, I’m a little more forthcoming. I make my choices based on what they reveal in their ad and don’t feel the need for a detailed pre-event questionnaire. If I’m pleased with the encounter, I’m likely to return, if not, I chalk it up to experience and move on. Many providers are inundated with client queries and have little patience for ongoing dialogs. So far, this approach has worked well for me. 

I can say that this has never happened to me. It would 100% shock me if someone pulled their teeth out before sucking me off. 
However, if they advised me of it beforehand, I would have no problem with it at all. 
Like always - speak with your provider beforehand. We just want to know so that instead of being worried you have been offended by us being shocked 😯, we can just focus completely on your pleasure. Help us make it a seamless and pleasurable time for you. 
I had a guy take down his pants and reveal he had a fake leg and was amputated above the knee. No issue about that - but warning would be nice! 

A very typical time wasting client. You had to ask him THREE times what he wanted to do, which is a BIG RED FLAG. 
All of his questions could very easily been put in one message - but he wanted to drag things out. He wanted an interaction, not to make a booking.
You want to be able to give first-time hires the benefit of the doubt and some grace, but also I have lost count of the amount of times I have received a text saying "i am new, this is the first time I have reached out to anyone...", only to see they have had a RM profile for 5 years with thousands of views and or many Mr Number reviews. For some reason many clients think they will get more grace/attention/away with more if they say they are new - or it is a kind of fetish. 
In any case, this client knew what he was doing. 

My guess is he found a cheaper or more ideal hire.  The client, to me, was asking a lot of questions at once and the provider was just trying to answer them all.  

Over the past year, I’ve noticed a significant increase in last-minute postponements and cancellations from escorts  - (and I am guessing that providers might report the same thing about some clients as well). It has become especially frustrating when I’ve already invested time and money into the arrangement: booking hotels, traveling to another city, and mentally gearing up for what was supposed to be an enjoyable experience.
What disappoints me most is not only the inconvenience, but also the financial cost and repeated sense of letdown. More troubling is that this pattern is now occurring even with some of my semi-regular hires, whom I previously considered dependable.
At this point, I’m conflicted. Part of me feels that continued unreliability should simply be a dealbreaker -  after all, most people would stop seeing a doctor who was repeatedly unavailable with little notice. On the other hand, I wonder whether this is simply part of the business and something I should accept with patience.
It’s difficult to decide where to draw the line, particularly when the chemistry and attraction are otherwise excellent. But reliability and respect for someone’s time do matter, and repeated cancellations inevitably erode my interest in this already expensive "hobby." 

I saw a guys profile the other day and he gave advice as to how to reach out and I thought it was fantastic - Short, simple, polite, and serious!
Hello, my name is (Desired name) 
I’m in (Desired City) and i would like to get together with you (Desired date and time) 
I’m interested in ( Desired information)
I can almost guarantee that you will get a good reply if you use this template with a solid provider. I think a good general rule is = you get the same energy back you put into the message.

Work time is extremely random because you never know when you’ll get clients and they tend to book with short notice (a few days in advance at most, often on the day). So you end up having wide working time availability to maximise bookings. That still leaves you kicking your heels sometimes so you have lots of ‘plan B’ activities ready in case no one books. It does mean lots of juggling and last minute changes of plan. 
I’m mainly available 10am to 10pm weekdays (that’s the window not the shift!!!) and weekends it’s daytime. The pattern I see is that most guys want to schedule within those broad times and Saturday or Sunday evening is quite unusual. I try to keep those times clear to do other pre planned things. That’s probably why you find guys more flaky those times. He probably was doing something else and took your booking in the expectation/hope he’d be free but it didn’t work out. He probably shouldn’t have taken it or he should have warmed you he might have to postpone when you booked. I decline the booking if there’s a good chance I’ll be delayed because it’s just too stressful trying to make the time and then giving a good service. 

If you were not planning on leaving a review before he asked for one, and you can't honestly give him a good review, and you are not planning on seeing him again, I think you should find a way to get comfortable with ignoring his request. There really is no upside (for either of you) to continuing the conversation.

If you were not planning on leaving a review before he asked for one, and you can't honestly give him a good review, and you are not planning on seeing him again, I think you should find a way to get comfortable with ignoring his request. There really is no upside (for either of you) to continuing the conversation.

If you were not planning on leaving a review before he asked for one, and you can't honestly give him a good review, and you are not planning on seeing him again, I think you should find a way to get comfortable with ignoring his request. There really is no upside (for either of you) to continuing the conversation.

If you were not planning on leaving a review before he asked for one, and you can't honestly give him a good review, and you are not planning on seeing him again, I think you should find a way to get comfortable with ignoring his request. There really is no upside (for either of you) to continuing the conversation.

If you were not planning on leaving a review before he asked for one, and you can't honestly give him a good review, and you are not planning on seeing him again, I think you should find a way to get comfortable with ignoring his request. There really is no upside (for either of you) to continuing the conversation.

If you were not planning on leaving a review before he asked for one, and you can't honestly give him a good review, and you are not planning on seeing him again, I think you should find a way to get comfortable with ignoring his request. There really is no upside (for either of you) to continuing the conversation.

I’ve never asked a provider to change their appearance but I have asked for clarification on how they currently look. Some profiles include a mix of photos showing different styles, like shaved and unshaved body or facial hair, etc.

I think I have asked about a provider's current look when they have photos with some discrepancies that are easily changed (short hair versus long, beard versus clean shaven), but I would not out of the blue ask someone to change his looks since it seems like it would be akin to saying, "You'd be hot were it not for your mustache; will you shave it for me?"  That seems pretty rude to me unless you have reason to believe that sometimes the provider is clean shaven and sometimes he isn't.

It is noble to want to empower the authorities.  
However I feel there's a different possible viewpoint on giving border officers broad discretion .  
Giving the government 'broad discretion' is like giving every cop a Skeleton Key to your front door. They say it’s so they can 'check if the stove is on' or 'make sure you're safe,' but at the end of the day, it’s still your door. I don't care how 'nice' the cop is; I don’t want a stranger walking through my living room whenever he has a 'hunch.'
I’m not trying to put the cops in a "straitjacket." If they see smoke coming out of the window, they should absolutely kick the door down. That’s Evidence. But they shouldn't be allowed to use that Skeleton Key just because I seem like the type of person prone to house fires.
And here's the thing: Having a lock on the door doesn't stop the cop from being a "good guy." If he comes in because the house is on fire and sees an expired tag on your car, he can still choose to ignore it. Restraining his power to enter doesn't take away his power to be merciful.
An alternative to broad discretion does not have to be rigid application, it can be restrained discretion according to precise laws not vague hunches.  
 
Ironically in a Canadian Prescreen area travellers like Milo are protected by Canadian Charter Rights against unreasonable search and R v Canfield, whereas these protections don't exist to prevent similar phone searches in the USA. 
 
 

Been a long time since there’s been a new Trance Japanese Spa vid released, so for old time sake reposting a fav…
https://www.boy18tube.com/video/2301201/massage-2.php
 

Interestingly, I also reached out to him when @jusmeinbr expressed his suspicions.   I was inclined to think he was legit except that his rates were too low...and I told him that.    Everything was fine until he asked for the deposit.   I said no.   He made excuses.   Since he'd already told me the name of his hotel near the Superdome, I asked him to send me a picture of his view.   He said I'm outside and sent me a picture of the front of the hotel from the sidewalk.   I sent him back a picture from the same vantage point that I got from apple maps and noted the IRONY that the SAME WHITE STATION WAGON was reflecting in the glass in my version.   Oddly enough, our correspondence ended there.
Definite case of "Deposit Fraud" and @jusmeinbr's instinct was SPOT ON!

Greetings all. Thank you for discussing me. To answer your questions and comments. I do quite well because their aren't a lot of Daddy Bear escorts out there, and a lot of guys are into it. If I am not to your tastes, that is fine. I long ago gave up needing to be liked by everyone, but also, ask yourself why you feel the need to put someone down to make yourself feel better? Maybe work on your self esteem rather that insult someone because of a size or age difference. 
So Marylander1940 and all those questioning the situation, I suggest you check things out for yourself. And to all of you, come and see me when you are in the Bay Area. I am a great guy.
Much love!