Question regarding communication with a new provider

[steve10025]

I have been texting with a new provider on mintboys. I'd post the link but it's not up at the moment. He's a young masculine twink, new to town, and we went back and forth for a few weeks. Yesterday we did a lot more texting - he seemed amenable to what I like to do at a decent rate. I was about to set up a date with him when I mentioned that I like to bottom for a while - meaning I'm not into a quickie. He replied, I can't stay too long, or the rate goes up. I asked, how much time will you stay for the fee you quoted? He replied, You'll find out Ttyl. I replied, that's not a good answer. He said, gotta go, text me monday. His reply is a total turnoff for me. Question - do I just not respond if he gets in touch again, or do I say something like, your last reply didn't work for me. When I hire someone, I think we should both know what we're offering so we can relax and have a good time. Curious what you guys think.

[+ PhileasFogg]

Mint boys are low rent low expectation.

I’d encourage to to seize the upper hand in the dynamic and wait for him to follow up.  If he’s still interested, it’s time to push him to clarify the expectations with more precise definition.  You are turned off, you should expend no additional effort or reach out until he’s established equilibrium for you. 

[+ Kman]

Oh boy…I’d move on.  It seems like he’d leave as fast as he can no matter what.  The fact he is not being clear on the initial chat screams trouble. 

[ThrowawayAccount]

I wouldn't even bother. He's not interested in satisfying the client. 

[dairyman]

I have been drooling over a mintboy as well.  The communication has been regular but never really complete.   Hope springs eternal.

[+ PhileasFogg]

7 hours ago, dairyman said:

I have been drooling over a mintboy as well.  The communication has been regular but never really complete.   Hope springs eternal.

Have you had a good experience with anyone you’ve had on MB?  If so, you’re one of the few 

[steve10025]

I have found a - very - occasional treat on mintboys. But it's very rare.

[Wings246]

On 5/21/2026 at 6:11 PM, steve10025 said:

He replied, I can't stay too long, or the rate goes up.

 

On 5/21/2026 at 6:11 PM, steve10025 said:

He replied, You'll find out Ttyl.

One of these 2 replies alone will immediately & completely shut me down.  It's screaming: "I'll hijack the situation and blackmail you at the moment" when you are least likely to say no.  Run -- don't walk -- away please.

[Ichabod]

Two thoughts:

First, this guy seems very unlikely to give you an experience you'll be happy with.

And second, this sounds like A LOT of pre-meeting communication. If I were this provider, I would be wondering whether you were every going to get down to business and schedule a meeting. Could that be a factor in your most recent (unsatisfying) exchange with him?

[LookingAround]

1 hour ago, Ichabod said:

Two thoughts:

First, this guy seems very unlikely to give you an experience you'll be happy with.

And second, this sounds like A LOT of pre-meeting communication. If I were this provider, I would be wondering whether you were every going to get down to business and schedule a meeting. Could that be a factor in your most recent (unsatisfying) exchange with him?

This. How much talking are you going to do anyway before you pull the trigger? I think you're coming across as a time waster. 

[SecretProvider]

when clients say they want to be fucked for a loooong time, it generally is code for 'i want to PNP and take cock for hours', which is a bit of a red flag, or it means they are starting to engage is sexting. 

Going into this much detail for a booking that far in advance - also a bit of a red flag.  (common tactic for guys wanting to text and never book - say its in a few weeks time so you have a bigger window to engage) 

But other commenters have also pointed out - mint boys does attract providers on the lower end of scale. 

A thing to learn from both sides here. 

 

[steve10025]

6 hours ago, SecretProvider said:

when clients say they want to be fucked for a loooong time, it generally is code for 'i want to PNP and take cock for hours', which is a bit of a red flag, or it means they are starting to engage is sexting. 

Going into this much detail for a booking that far in advance - also a bit of a red flag.  (common tactic for guys wanting to text and never book - say its in a few weeks time so you have a bigger window to engage) 

But other commenters have also pointed out - mint boys does attract providers on the lower end of scale. 

A thing to learn from both sides here. 

 

9 hours ago, Ichabod said:

Two thoughts:

First, this guy seems very unlikely to give you an experience you'll be happy with.

And second, this sounds like A LOT of pre-meeting communication. If I were this provider, I would be wondering whether you were every going to get down to business and schedule a meeting. Could that be a factor in your most recent (unsatisfying) exchange with him?

I understand what you are both saying, and it's a valid point. However, all he had to say was "the fee is for one hour". So I'm inclined to just drop him.

[soloyo215]

On 5/21/2026 at 9:11 PM, steve10025 said:

I have been texting with a new provider on mintboys. I'd post the link but it's not up at the moment. He's a young masculine twink, new to town, and we went back and forth for a few weeks. Yesterday we did a lot more texting - he seemed amenable to what I like to do at a decent rate. I was about to set up a date with him when I mentioned that I like to bottom for a while - meaning I'm not into a quickie. He replied, I can't stay too long, or the rate goes up. I asked, how much time will you stay for the fee you quoted? He replied, You'll find out Ttyl. I replied, that's not a good answer. He said, gotta go, text me monday. His reply is a total turnoff for me. Question - do I just not respond if he gets in touch again, or do I say something like, your last reply didn't work for me. When I hire someone, I think we should both know what we're offering so we can relax and have a good time. Curious what you guys think.

My two cents: It seems like you didn't give him an exact time either. This seems more like an imagined amount of time that doesn't seem to match without actual details. You are not being specific yourself.

"You'll find out Ttyl" sounds like a reply I'd give when I was in my 20s. I gave that kind of responses out of lack of communication skills and discomfort with asking for details myself.

If he's interested in your business, he'll reach out. If he does, I'd suggest to rather than asking again like that, communicate your number of how long will you actually expect him to last. If he cannot or will not deliver, or if it cannot be negotiated, then it was not meant to be.