Ichabod

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Stopped by on a random Tuesday for their towel  night.  Not a bad crowd for a Tuesday.  Something for everyone. Bartenders good eye candy as well.  All goes in cycles.  Hoping the dancer lineup for the weekend is a bit more polished and less trade.  However like I said, something for everyone.  

Welcome to our forum, @Vincenzo @mgtj74 @KurtinMaryland

Who else is curious as to why there's a mobile popcorn machine in that massage studio?  I mean I like popcorn but...

There has been some useful and thoughtful commentary in this thread, but as others have alluded to, not all of it is encouraging. People will always see a variety of things in what's presented when asked about an uncomfortable experience. Almost everyone here has been there, reflected on what went well and what did not, and drawn conclusions of their own and the other party's actions. Some of those conclusions can be uncomfortable or even challenging.
When anyone poses the question here, not everyone will see it the same way, but when someone offers a raw or pained description of how they felt I think we owe them understanding and a serious explanation of how that experience could be seen, maybe differently than they did, for better or worse, not simply an endorsement of  the questioner's opinions about it. We certainly don't need to denigrate anyone's opinion of how their session went down, even if we see it in ways they might not agree with. And definitely not to offer them a gratuitous character assessment over what they asked.

I’m really sorry you had such a difficult experience. No one should walk away from an encounter feeling unsafe or unsettled.
At the same time, threads like this often reveal that both sides made decisions under stress or uncertainty. That doesn’t minimize what happened to you — it just means that now, with some space and hindsight, you can take steps that give you more control and peace of mind going forward.
Here are a few thoughts that might help next time:
- Since anxiety is part of this for you, you may want to choose the location — whether it’s your home or a hotel where you feel comfortable and there aren’t distractions.
- You’re buying time, not a guaranteed emotional outcome. When nerves kick in, sticking to what was agreed upon can help keep everything grounded.
- For the next few encounters, consider seeing only well-reviewed, established providers until you feel steadier. It can make a huge difference in easing the anxiety you described.
What happened to you clearly shook you. I hope your next experiences are much smoother and actually enjoyable — they absolutely can be with the right structure around them.

No I don’t agree. Some guys are really anxious to go to a bath house (sauna) alone. They want someone to go with who will show them how to behave there and who they can walk around with to get comfortable.
If you’re exploring your sexuality or if you’re not conventionally good looking (or you think you aren’t attractive) then bath houses can be intimidating. It’s therefore helpful to have someone who will accompany you and spend time with you there to build your confidence. I’ve arranged quite a lot of sessions at bath houses with my clients. It’s sometimes to take someone who’s never been, sometimes it’s to help guys who want to have sex in public but who want to do it with someone they are attracted to, sometimes it’s to pretend I’m their boyfriend. 
I think in @ThrowawayAccount’s situation he didn’t get a very empathetic provider. He was clearly too anxious and it seems like there wasn’t much communication between the two of them about expectations. Someone with more patience and understanding would probably have behaved differently to him. It’s a lesson for guys hiring: choose carefully. I’ve had a few clients who seem to be far too anxious to relax despite me trying to help. I think some of these guys are still trying to work out things and they have misguided ideas about sex. They don’t need an encounter with a sex worker at that point, they need a counsellor or someone to help them get over the issues they have about their sexuality. 

maybe give some context other than just saying "beware"?

Wanted to provide an update as I just had a session with Finn.  Would tend to agree with @newatthis comment, but I guess YMMV.  We had messaged back and forth on expectations, but unfortunately he did not deliver.  He was great in communication and scheduling, but I showed up on time, and we had a late start and early ending.  Really nice guy, and was very connected with the session, but for the price based on what he offers, I would probably recommend going to someone else.  Again, YMMV, and he was a great guy, just not really the massage session I was expecting.

Another member asked me for more information about Bogota by private message, but here's my reply in case anyone else is interested...
 
 

I saw "Soloflex" and "Scott" and had all sorts of flashbacks.

Billy Sive...
Anyone...?
 

That tattoo looks like it was written by someone who just discovered cursive. The phrase is supposed to sound deep, but the font makes it look like a drunk pirate’s signature. It reads less like “Only God Can Judge” and more like “My Cat Can Juggle.”

I think reaching out is 100% fine. As others have noted, if he's not interested, he probably just won't reply, and you're fine. I would not ask for current photos, though. What if he sends them, and you are no longer interested? I would feel awkward about hitting up someone who (as far as you know) is no longer active in the business, and then rejecting him when he sends pics. Would you ghost him and not reply? Reply and tell him thanks but no thanks? Maybe I am too sensitive, but that sounds messy.
 
 

I think reaching out is 100% fine. As others have noted, if he's not interested, he probably just won't reply, and you're fine. I would not ask for current photos, though. What if he sends them, and you are no longer interested? I would feel awkward about hitting up someone who (as far as you know) is no longer active in the business, and then rejecting him when he sends pics. Would you ghost him and not reply? Reply and tell him thanks but no thanks? Maybe I am too sensitive, but that sounds messy.
 
 

Boi. 
 

Boi. 
 

Boi. 
 

Boi. 
 

Boi. 
 

I have no illusions about a young, handsome, muscular man wanting to be with me, so long as he's "willing for the shilling." We both know why the other is there.

Words like destroy or pound.  If the ad reads: “I will destroy your hole and pound you into submission” I doubt that I’ll have a good time.

Assuming you're in the US, protect yourself using all legal means (wink, wink).  

If he were any more youngish he'd be baitish.

CL and Backpage were fabulous back in the day. Some of the hottest providers ever!