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Yes, it means 'separate and distinct'. So queer places are discrete almost by definition. Whether they are discreet is a separate question.

"According to the 33-page complaint, the couple met in 2016 on the website SeekingArrangements.com, “where men like Geffen shop for the vulnerable.”
Their relationship was initially transactional as Geffen paid Michaels $10,000 for sex on their first night together, per the lawsuit. The arrangement led to Michaels becoming Geffen’s trophy boy, “a private sexual object and a public prop – a symbol of Geffen’s self-proclaimed altruism to impress his powerful network"
That poor innocent boy.  Fell in love with an older creep not even realizing it was through a hooker site. No doubt someone sex trafficked him or something.  

Pure comedy.
 

I used to work at Calvin Klein. There were gorgeous models running around all the time. i wasnt a gorgeous model myself...but that didnt stop me from chatting them up..and it also didnt stop some of them from sleeping with me. Everyone assumes that gorgeous people ONLY sleep with other gorgeous people..Never hurts to try. The worst thing to happen? = They say "no". 

Definitely ask!  I had a guy who had “ask me” listed as his position quote me an exorbitant extra charge for providing oral… I declined.  Prior to that, I had assumed that it was a given that anyone providing escort services to men would give oral unless explicitly stated otherwise.

Very good list of warning signs, in my opinion.
Simple: I don’t want people doing drugs or getting high on a date with me.

The only time I’ve ever been threatened was when a guy after a good dinner (on our 4th date, and at his request our 1st overnight) took some substance in the bathroom and then in bed started to complain that ‘the rich always get what they want’. I threw him out.

Very good list of warning signs, in my opinion.
Simple: I don’t want people doing drugs or getting high on a date with me.

The only time I’ve ever been threatened was when a guy after a good dinner (on our 4th date, and at his request our 1st overnight) took some substance in the bathroom and then in bed started to complain that ‘the rich always get what they want’. I threw him out.

As a 74 year-old widower, currently dating a 34 year-old, I find this thread to be interesting, with some comments amusing, and some cruelly judgemental ... like this one. Not sure why you view Geffen's decision as "stupid and mentally fucked up." Specifically, I most definitely wonder why you wonder why an 80-year-old would want or need the close emotional/personal connection of marriage. I had been very active on this forum, and in this hobby, in the years since my husband of 30+ years died ... and now cruise the site out of interest and, perhaps, nostalgia, because I haven't hired since I entered this new relationship. I am the kind of person who deeply and fundamentally enjoys close emotional connection (as well as satisfying sex). After becoming overly (and damned foolishly) entangled with a handsome, hot, charming provider, and then extricating myself from that connection, I doubted I would ever find the kind of connection I wanted.  And then -- precisely because I had stopped actively "looking" -- it happened. We met in a professional setting, and have been dating since. I am deeply in love. He says the same and, unless he is worthy of every stage/screen acting award on the planet, is genuinely in love with me.
While I make no judgements (AT ALL) about someone who would get emotionally (and legally) involved with someone described as a "porn star and go-go-boy" the age difference in and of itself shouldn't be an issue ... assuming that both participants are both honest and enter into the relationship with their eyes open. Is my admittedly admirable financial situation (though not even remotely close to billionaire status!!!) a mutually-acknowledged part of the equation? Of course!! I would be foolish indeed (even blind, perhaps) if I did not acknowledge that and take it into consideration. Such things are always part of any relationship -- gay, straight, same-age or May-November -- to a greater or lesser degree. I always earned substantially more than my husband, and I therefore paid for many things we enjoyed together, from real-estate to dining out and global travel.  If the extraordinarily intelligent and hard-working (and, yes, very handsome and sweet, and sexy) young professional I am involved with is willing to share a number of his prime years of life with me, I am more than willing to reciprocate with reasonable intellectual, emotional, and financial support ... including post-mortem asset-sharing, (with an appropriate pre-nup.) This isn't just a sexual fling, although the sex is wonderful.  (I prefer to refer to it as "making love" rather than just hot sex ... although it is hot, on both physical and emotional levels.) Having met in a professional setting, we soon discovered that we have similar interests in international culture, travel, food, and a wide range of intellectual pursuits.
Do I enjoy close and rewarding emotional connections with a reasonable number of friends and family member? Thankfully, yes. Do I have enough self-esteem to be self-sufficient emotionally if I choose to be? Also, thankfully, yes. Do I have some nagging doubts about the $$ issue? Of course I do! I don't consider myself to be blind, naïve, or foolish.  Did I have various doubts about my marriage that lasted for more than three decades until death parted us? You bet! And I've learned that one can either hold out for perfection (whatever that might be) or one can barricade oneself by rejecting every potential relationship with any inequities, or one can, with due diligence and careful thought, allow oneself to enjoy the delights of romantic and physical love -- rather than allowing something like age-difference and society's reaction to that get in the way. With full acknowledgement of the risk it entails, I have chosen the latter. Time will tell whether the decision to engage in this way will play out the way I hope it will.
In the meantime, I am thrilled for the chance to enjoy the delights of love again ... while making absolutely NO judgments whatsoever about people who prefer a series of blazingly hot sexual trysts, whether those involve financial transactions or not. Been there too, and enjoyed it immensely!

Constant profile name changes.
Overly polished, edited or professional photos. Pic that by their quality or other clues are obviously old. Check for inconsistencies, like photos that don’t match the description like age, body type or seem overly generic.
Vague or Incomplete Information. The use of words like VIP, Model, Exclusive, High class, etc. 
Asking for deposits or full payment in advance.
Unrealistic rates compared to the local market or promises of unlimited services.
Lack of online presence. Reputable escorts often have some online footprint or a verified social media presence with consistent activity.
Profiles with only glowing, overly similar reviews containing words like Amaizing, the best in my life, etc. Very short reviews. Reviews made by recently created accounts or accounts that only have that one review. Several reviews within a very short time. 
Providers that take a long time to answer messages, respond vaguely, avoid answering all questions. Use of VoIP numbers.
If something feels off, trust your instincts. Legitimate providers prioritize mutual respect and clear communication.

Am I the only one who just thinks that much of Andrew Christian underwear is just tacky as hell? 😂
(No offense to those forum members who indulge in the brand…..)
 

Work on (1) attracting men with your photographs, and (2) having a great personality that makes men want to hire you again.
 If you're having trouble doing this in your personal life at nearly age 50, then it's going to be that much more effort to train yourself to do it professionally: 
 

Thankfully, I have a severe dislike of Wagyu steak. 
I love steaks, but Wagyu is just mealy and weird to me. 

Thank you for over-sharing @Nakedinpa Where is the emoji for Too Much Information?

Whenever I get requests like this, I always chalk it up as an immediate loss.
If I give the money, I’ll never get the services promised and I’ll never get the money back.
If I say no, the relationship is done. 
True whether it’s escorts, business associates, friends, or family.
Having said that, sometimes I say yes, and sometimes I say no. 

First, welcome.
Second, it sounds as if you’re newly ‘out’. I don’t know where you’re based (Seattle?) but I feel you should join a social group or join in an activity that appeals so that you mix with other gay men and make friends.
Last, gratuitous advice I know, but I don’t know your occupation or profession. You want to bear in mind that online photos can always be discovered. So if you post your pics online or send them to other men, you may want to obscure/pixilate your face first.

First, welcome.
Second, it sounds as if you’re newly ‘out’. I don’t know where you’re based (Seattle?) but I feel you should join a social group or join in an activity that appeals so that you mix with other gay men and make friends.
Last, gratuitous advice I know, but I don’t know your occupation or profession. You want to bear in mind that online photos can always be discovered. So if you post your pics online or send them to other men, you may want to obscure/pixilate your face first.

I was glad to see him go.  He and I Iocked horns constantly - it seemed like he always looking for a fight, although I was never one to say no when he picked a fight.

It's a gangster and thuggish thing among younger folks... it's certainly dying out now that's no longer original... Let's move on.

The proof would be in their Grindr profile. If they are charging old-daddy-bears for sex...are they giving it away in their free time, or are they instead, hooking up with hot guys when they're off fhe clock ? A good escort makes you feel like you're totally their type, even when that's not true. So beware of believing the hype.

For one I didn’t appreciate his advice 18 years ago and had I followed it I would be dead now.  Enuff said. 

I wish you well @baseball6 I think that many of us here have had similar feelings and relations develop with working guys at some time.
As I read your first post, I thought to myself you already know the answer. You’ve been given excellent advice by others. Please take it.
Should you still harbour thoughts of love and affection for this much younger man, follow the well-intended advice of @maninsoma and invite the young man out BUT specify it’s unpaid or “off the clock”. If he does have genuine feelings for you, he will want to see you. 
My only advice here is practical. To get over this young man, hire another handsome young guy and “get back in the saddle” quickly - it will help you move on.

In 2012 he reached out to me on Adam4Adam and asked to meet me at a local gay bar.  We met at the bar, chatted, then went home to watch a movie and spend the night.  If was fun, but not long term material. 
In 2015, I was looking for a new waxing service as my current location was going out of business.  I came across his ad for waxing services, and I've been seeing him for waxing and a massage regularly ever since.  On our 2nd paid encounter, I mentioned that I think we had a date 3 years earlier and he said he remembered also but didn't want to bring it up unless I did first.  Since then, we've become friends and have traveled occasionally together and have seen plays together and celebrated birthdays together.  But our relationship most closely resembles that of barber/groomer/masseur/escort and client.

My latest experience was great. He is now 32 and has added a lot of muscle. Amusing side note: He was complaining about how the twenty-something gay guys consider him “old” now that he’s in his thirties. Sadly, I hurt both of my eyes from rolling them so hard 

Zero chance from me, but I’m willing to bet there’s a market out there for it.

Did you not like the answers provided 6 months ago?