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Not at all: it’s just not what I seek. I prefer a handsome young man with an athletic physique and a “preppy” appearance. My comment is based on knowing the guy and feeling that he is in prime physical condition now.

Certainly he looks very attractive to me. If I was hiring, as @Johnny_85 is considering, I'd pick up the phone and talk to him.

He's Polish-American. His face is handsome but soft-featured. His body is nicely built and athletic. Its just my feeling that as he ages, bulks up and loses the softness, he will seem very rugged

If we had a good talk and then a fun time at home, I'd offer to take the guy out for lunch/dinner. And I'd set up a second date. I agree 100%. I always met in public first (to check the man matched his photos). And with some guys, you get an instinct that not everything is as it should be...and so I did not disclose my precise address until after the first date had gone well.

I would send an initial text, stating (using myself as an example) that I like to meet guys like him, handsome with a muscled body, and I value full service but I'm only a top - are we compatible? If we are, is there a time I can call you briefly to finalise arrangements? If I didn't get a positive response, I'd move on. If the man responded well, I'd call and say that prior to fixing the date, I just need to know that he's happy with what I like to do - deep kissing with tongue, me getting sucked without condom, me topping him with condom and me unloading in his mouth. I emphasise that it's a menu, not a check-list. Most times, guys said they appreciated me being clear and direct. I can recall only 2guys who would not discuss and I'd add that my concern was about compatibility - if they would still not discuss, I'd move on.

Just saw this and I realised I know him. He’s young and very good looking with a masculine appearance now, but it’s easy to see that he won’t age well.

All very good advice @firefly16. I’d assumethat the man you choose will be physically attractive, but remember he is not telepathic nor is he a mind-reader. Please state directly what you are looking to enjoy in your time together. And if a specific activity (eg deep kissing with tongue, being sucked to completion without a condom, or kissing and cuddling afterwards) is really important to you, mention it to him and ensure that he is ready and willing to perform according to your wishes. There is no point in being shy. I don’t want you to end up being disappointed and paying for a bad time.

I agree strongly with the advice posted by @MikeBiDude. I adopted a similar strategy - coffee or meeting over a drink/no obligation, no payment - when I used the site. It’s intriguing how within 10-15 minutes of conversation you can tell who is a nice guy and establish whether there is chemistry or not. I was pretty direct in stating in advance that we would talk first and, if we both wanted to, then see whether we were physically compatible. Over time, I found that the only objectors to this meeting were guys who seemed problematic or difficult. Like him, I had a high success rate in meeting attractive young men and enjoying some very successful dates.

Beautifully put [uSER=12309]@TheOtherGuy[/uSER] : I suspect that each of us has in our past a very attractive young man who met all our needs until he didn’t.

I feel Seeking is Capitalism in the raw, rather than Socialism ;-)

There’s no specific requirement, @Reisr30, as @Unicorn states above. But I disagree with his views. I think the purpose of the website is clear: it enables younger and older men to meet. If you are an older man seeking a younger companion, you better have plenty of disposable income (and/or a high net worth) if you are going to take numerous candidates on dinner-dates etc and pay for all the related expenses. Of course, it will boost your attractiveness to younger men if, as @Unicorn suggests, you dress well and are in good physical shape as well as being intelligent and entertaining. Similarly a younger man seeking to be looked after by an older man had better be handsome and have an athletic or defined body. In addition, he should be charming and agreeable as well as interesting if he expects a date to develop into a relationship where he is cared for over the long-term.

Is Amir still based/working in Orange County?

An interesting and thoughtful response @LivingnLA (tho I'm no fan of therapy)

He's so pretty. He deserves to be flat on his back.

I agree that book showed John Barrowman in a very bad light. I wonder if JB inadvertently revealed his true character: JB mentioned the gifts (and free vacation) Valentino gave him, yet he whined about not getting a modelling contract after he became irritated at Valentino touching his hair. I don't recall @Unicorn if you mentioned what country your boyfriend is from. Is he Brazilian?

Great photo of the 2 guys in matching red speedos protecting their modesty. I like how the pic catches one clutching his chest while the other cradles his cock.

That boy was so cute and seductive in his early 20s.

In my mind’s eye, I see him being stripped, horizontal and a splendid bottom.

I’m sure @tassojunior will be along to respond, but from his earlier postings I believe that is the reason for their visit to and lengthy stay in the US

@jock I wonder if autocorrect denied us the pleasure of learning how many men Jose satisfied and in what way... ;-)

I haven’t found a setting but I just open those in the usual way and I see the ‘sensitive’ material. It may be that I have vanilla tastes but I haven’t been affected by this change. Of course, I have seen some shocking and kinky stuff such as the Ukrainian male model Igor Kolomiyets not displaying his erect cock (as on Sean Cody) and even wearing underwear.

Other members of the gym, muscled friends of escorts, personal trainers who didn’t escort but needed some cash, and horny guys on the apps.

I don’t mean to patronise you @LookingAround but I have some thoughts based on my experience with this. It seems to me it would be better for you to ask an escort you know well to help you. My view is that you don’t need an escort to be an administrative assistant, rather you need an escort who knows you well and understands your taste in men and what activities you enjoy. I wonder if you plan on hosting this group in your home or an hotel suite. Or do you want the escort to be able to have the group at his place and co-host with you? Also, are you planning to invite other working guys to this group or will it be only willing amateurs? FWIW in the past I organised several group-dates of 4-6 men (in total) and they were always fun. I hosted them in my house but had one larger gathering in a 2 bedroom hotel suite. Typically I invited a 50:50 mix of working and amateur guys. My preference was to invite only handsome, muscled young men (21-35) who sexually defined as versatile or bottom. It was always a considerable effort to organise the guys and ensure the group started on time. I asked in advance about what beverages, snacks etc might be wanted; I agreed fees and payment on leaving the party; and I spelt out in advance what activities were anticipated, whether 1-on-1 or as a group. I arranged to have plenty of bottled water, condoms, lube and towels (as well as poppers for the bottoms) available. I emphasised that recreational drugs could not be brought into my house. I outlined the expected finishing time. On the first group-date, I provided wine but no liquor and as I introduced the men to each other, I had them be bare-chested ‘to break the ice’. Having described what I knew each guy liked to do/have done to him, I seized the initiative and started making out with the guy I found hottest. That got things going. Amazingly, 1 of the 5 guys invited arrived 1.5 hours late, so he was promptly spit-roasted by the rest of us as ‘punishment’. My surprise on that first occasion was how long some guys took to clean up and dress after play had finished; I recall 2 guys still being present 1.5 hours after the others had left. On later dates, I learned to spell out that on arrival guys were to strip down to their briefs/jockstraps before I introduced them to each other. I also emphasised that guys had to arrive within 15 minutes of the start-time or they would not be admitted (or paid if a working guy). I also learned to state that I preferred to play with each of the new guys 1-on-1 before we had some group action.

+1 On a dinner-date with Ricardo in SF, I gently touched his nipples through his shirt. Once back in my hotel-room, I repeated this as we began kissing. It sent him into overdrive and he kissed me voraciously as he undressed me. And, as the book says, he went on to do a great deal more...

My physician once commented that it’s rather difficult to get warts from skin/skin contact. He pointed out that he’d touched and examined lots in his working life but never had one himself.