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Funnily enough, @dlee02 I saw a pic of him (when younger) in the last couple of days in another of the picture-threads here. He’s very attractive and one of our tribe too!

I haven’t looked at Hunqz in a long while but IIRC you have to set your own location/hometown to the place that you wish to browse. Having set your location accordingly, a list should appear.

Did he give you your usual fee? ;-)

I don’t know @Quincy7 but I guess a discreet, private message on social media would work. If it helps, when I wrote I mentioned where/when I was planning to go. I said it would be an all-expenses-paid vacation for him as I wanted an attractive companion, but wondered what cash he might require. As I recall, I only once got a “No interest”. The other guys started up conversations which, nowadays, I’d suggest you quickly take to WhatsApp

@tassojunior is quite correct. I did this several years ago when I was ‘between boyfriends’. I politely contacted some BA guys who had online ads on GayRomeo (now named PlanetRomeo and Hunq). One BA guy was interesting for what he told me. He had already travelled with several different clients. Tho str8 (as he defined himself), he much preferred older men as he said they were “less demanding physically”. He cheerfully informed me how much he got paid and how little he did in return. Travel with clients earned him far more money than filming ever did. Another BA guy was new to the idea of travelling with a client. We exchanged a few emails then phone calls*, and he and I made arrangements - we had a really good time on vacation. *(Just to confirm: I was very explicit in advance about how I expected us to spend the days and nights, and also about what would please me; he was equally direct about what he needed as a paid companion).

I don’t consider this thread to constitute ‘drama’. I find the observations and comments highly interesting. Thanks for replying at length @Coolwave35 Your additional posts helped me better understand the difficulty about which you posted originally.

I saw Kit Harrington in the flesh in London last year. He’s not tall but he has a good physique. If I was single and he was available, I’d top him.

@Coolwave35 (the OP) said “ Recently I've been hitting it off...flying repeat hires out”. Let me explain: it’s natural to form bonds when the companionship is pleasurable; repetition reinforces those bonds; and ‘small talk’ at the beginning and end of an encounter is both civilized and fine. But you are the client: it’s up to you to initiate action and to terminate the date. As with any date that goes on too long, just smile and say “I have some other plans this evening so we must finish, but I’m going to look forward to seeing you again”. Just keep it professional; when the allotted time is up, just smile and hand over an envelope with the cash.

As a very frequent visitor to the US over many years, I’ve never had a problem with the Border Control/Immigration Authorities. I used to have a visa but it was automatically cancelled once the ESTA was introduced. I have asked the Officers a couple of times in recent years about the number of visits. Each time the response has been that It’s not a problem. Just keep the stay to 89 days - one Officer pointed out that if there was a problem with my return flight/aircraft and it was postponed for 24 hours, that way I’d still comply with the 90 day rule. The only problem I can foresee with frequent visits/long stays is that the IRS will become interested. (A few years back, I was involved with a handsome young actor. For over a year, I commuted monthly to LA and stayed with him for 2 weeks each time at his place in Century City. I came onto the IRS’s radar and had to answer several questions about where I paid my income taxes (Spain). But having answered satisfactorily, there were no problems on further visits).

Did you see the interesting exchange between Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez and the Gilead CEO on why the drug costs $1780 in the US but only $8 in Australia?

It takes a big investment of effort over a long time to gain a gymnast body. And a “very talented bottom” is always a great find. I’ve not met this particular guy, but I’ve fond memories of playing with a similarly built young man who had been on the US gymnastics team. So I don’t think that asking 300 is too much. If you’re interested @Jostar why not take him for a test-drive?

I think you touch on an important point here. As adults, we can control our thoughts and our emotions and thus our behaviour. But we cannot control the inner workings of our brain and body. You mention dopamine but I feel that oxytocin plays a bigger role. Just as a stressful situation can trigger a cascade of stress hormones, so a pleasurable situation and orgasm can trigger the release of oxytocin. Produced in the hypothalamus and released during sex, this neurotransmitter and hormone plays an important role in establishing trust, empathy and social bonding. Put simply, you may know that you’re having sex with an escort and you know that his primary motivation is money. Your brain and body, however, produce a chemical response as if you’re with a much-desired lover.

You’ve really lived life to the full @Ajac ;-)

I see you’re a newbie @Jake1980 but it helps people to help you if you post a link to his advert or profile.

For me, the “awkward moment” occurred when I was getting a massage in Cape Town some years ago. It was the first time I’d visited this particular masseur (an American expat in South Africa) and it was at his home. I had booked and expected a therapeutic massage. I was facedown on the table. I’d told him I like quite strong pressure and the massage was pretty good...when he began to rim me. I raised my butt and he became more enthusiastic: he was very good with his tongue; I began to moan with pleasure; he stopped and asked me to keep quiet as he didn’t want his (unseen by me) partner to hear me; I complied and he resumed rimming me. When I turned onto my back, he sucked me off.

I know you asked this of escorts @ChicagoGuy but here’s my view on how you avoid wasting time and energy in seeking a date. I used to send a first (polite and short) text/email with my stats, and setting out my interests (eg deep kissing, BFE, I’m top only) and suggested date/time. I simply ask if we are compatible. If I had a response of No or No interest, I moved on. I never cared why we were not compatible. I focused on having a great date and avoiding a bad one.

I’m glad you are so environmentally aware @JEC that you and the young man were so sparing in your use of water

It does happen and it happened to me. In my case, the escort made all the running: first called me ”boyfriend”, bought me gifts then said “I love you”. We had 3 great years together before I discovered he liked to cheat (he had anonymous sex with strangers). The break-up took 12 months; it was messy while I tried to make it work. It took me 3 years to get him out of my system.

I beg to differ. My last 3 steady boyfriends smoke. I explained to each that I dislike the smell/taste of tobacco, and they were scrupulous about keeping their clothes and their person fresh and clean-smelling.

Instantly off the top of my head I can think of 3 straight men I’ve dated. One became a fuckbuddy for a few years: at first reluctant to kiss but enjoyed bottoming, later on he insisted I finish by unloading in his mouth as he liked the taste of my cum. The guy had a girlfriend then and he later married her. Another guy, a rugged man’s man, was always gay-friendly but I played with him after he’d been married for a year; he was a good kisser and just enjoyed having a cock in his ass. The third guy, a lovely muscleboy, has a submissive streak, kisses well and is an excellent cocksucker to completion; he’s single and always dates pretty women...but he always sported a hard-on while bottoming for me. Labels can be very misleading.

+1 @liubit and LOL. I played with Tim once. It was a couple of years after he’d been filmed in his prime as a long-haired blond muscleboy-bottom. It was like making love to a statue. As I wasn’t going to repeat, I threatened to kick him out of bed unpaid unless he was more enthusiastic. The threat energized him; I topped him for a while, then he sucked me off and swallowed my load. Despite relating my experience of him as a very disappointing date, a friend of mine hired him 3 years later. Tim’s blond hair was thinning rapidly and his abs had disappeared under quite a belly. Naturally none of this was evident in the photos Tim then used in his advert.

What does it matter if a guy smokes...as long as you can’t smell it or taste it when you kiss deeply?

Is it possible for you to get a hotel room in Brooklyn and drive out to Brookhaven? That way, as @quaero suggests, you will access a much greater pool of talent.

I never worry about the labels people use or how they define themselves. Surely all that matters is whether he is compatible and happy to meet all your needs?

Thanks @fedssocr1 I’ll have to watch this. Wonder if the reality of their lives, struggling to pay their bills etc, will be shown? Or how they have to be flexible about making ends meet? ;-)