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That’s not an unfair comment. I have always maintained that SA is for fit, handsome young men who want to discover more of the world with a nice older man. It’s certainly not a quick fix for a dating problem, tho it can prove very satisfying.

What advice specifically @travelmuscle ? Have you read the existing thread in The Deli on Cape Town? https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/anyone-on-south-africa.95134/#post-1826456

He sure was a beautiful looking boy then (2017)...now newly married, to a woman...and he is not ageing well

Welcome to the forum @Diego95 I hope you will enjoy participating here.

I’m glad you had a good time @Intosmoothmuscles and that the Manager was exceptionally helpful. As I understand from what you report, Danilo had to take Viagra to service you and you were not able to wait. But I really don’t understand why you would tell Danilo about this forum (or ”blog” as you put it). What purpose does it serve?

I’m glad you had a good time @Intosmoothmuscles and that the Manager was exceptionally helpful. As I understand from what you report, Danilo had to take Viagra to service you and you were not able to wait. But I really don’t understand why you would tell Danilo about this forum (or ”blog” as you put it). What purpose does it serve?

I agree. I feel it’s best to be bland, eg “I like to look after my guy” or “I’m open to any type of arrangement” or “I enjoy dating a handsome guy”. IME younger men are quite happy to say what they want in the initial messages. Even if they are unrealistic, you can be candid once you switch to private messages.

That usually indicates that he’s inactive. Possibly because he’s away for a period or he hasn’t renewed his subscription

I very much agree with @nycman but then the same sentiments can be expressed about visiting Latin America. I’ve met rich Brazilians on vacation in Cape Town who told me how relaxing they found it. BTW I sent you a DM @nycman

i think that’s true. There are very slim pickings nowadays. You’d have to use the usual apps to meet guys and some will be happy to find a generous man. As @Joeysf said, the gay scene is small now, where as 10-20 years ago there were many options (escorts advertising, male brothels in the CBD, sauna with sex, nude beaches with cruising). Of the public sex venues, only The Hothouse remains. Crime is a problem but there is also robust policing in the city centre and city beach areas. Sandy Bay was mentioned earlier but it is an isolated area and there have been robberies there recently; its not advisable to go there alone.

I can see merit in the approach of both @liubit and @Pensant. IME in the past, regulars were great...but over time, many move on: some men relocated, a couple of men changed career and some retired from the business. So an influx of new guys is important.

I don’t know him but “your” blond has a distinctive tattoo so you might be able to find him using an image search

Interesting thread. These two comments resonated with me. I have very similar experiences with family members just wanting money (and in one case, trying to cheat me out of some family assets). At present, after a few small bequests, my estate goes to various charities. I guess a lot of us may have few close family members and/or few close friends to include as beneficiaries. I must get around to updating my will, but it’s a difficult decision. I have my boyfriend of 5 years, and 3 close friends whom I see weekly - 1 friend is older than me, but also rich and very frugal in his habits; 1 friend is my age but she too is rich (with an obnoxious/hostile husband); and the 3rd friend is 12 years younger with a good career etc but he’s the most financially reckless person I’ve ever known.

It’s not good to be in wet clothes. For his good health, he must be stripped naked immediately.

IME escorts generally use a “working name” to avoid the attention of the tax authorities as well as avoid complications with clients. As well, of course, for the reasons spelt out by @FTM Zachary Prince and @hypothetically. When I hired, I always used my real name but I left it to the escort to decide whether or when to tell me his. Once trust was established, they usually did. And to answer the rather dismissive post by @Unicorn, Yes. I know of 1 escort who was stalked by an obsessed client and of another escort who had his daytime job threatened by a bitter ex-client. And I know of at least 2 clients who were threatened by a bitter, now retired, escort.

You’re entirely right [uSER=19303]@europeanman[/uSER] The scammer is using the pics of James Yates, a handsome English model I’ve met socially in Europe.

One man with whom I had an arrangement for 3 years - 500+ times Second man with whom I had an arrangement for 4 years - 400+ times Current boyfriend for 5 years so far - 500+ times I value the emotional connection that comes from intimacy and repeated bonding. And I prize loyalty in companions and friends. I’ve noticed that in the first year of a relationship we tend to have sex 4-8x a week, but that tails off to 2-3x a week over time. Age and familiarity, I guess. When I hired regularly in the period 2000-2010: escort #1 - 200+ times; escort #2 - estimate 100 times; escort #3 - estimate 40-50 times; varied men 4-6 times. When I found an escort I liked, we’d have a date first and if that went well, I’d organise an overnight. If the stay overnight was terrific, I’d invite the guy on a weekend trip. And if the weekend went well, I’d invite the guy on a longer vacation.

Good post @adventurous old guy FWIW I feel you have made a wise decision. MP may be great but $500 an hour is a very demanding price. It doesn’t allow for anything less than a superlative session, and we’ve all known guys where the chemistry was missing. As an aside, I was amused by the “$950 for 2” hours. That’s not a discount; it’s a rounding error. Anyone who had a magnificent time for 2 hours is going to add the implied tip of $50.

That’s commendably honest of you @Rudynate

I may be cynical but these guys only “start a great orgy” when the video-cameras are running and you’ve paid their OnlyFans accounts’ fees.

Thanknyou @edjames and @WilliamM for putting the reviews on here. I enjoyed reading them. They made me think about the play again. I still find the play hugely ambitious and by-and-large successful.

I’m open but this approach, however, strikes me as tacky. I’ve no problem giving info where I can be helpful, but I feel it’s best done privately.

So true @Pensant. I understand the idea of tipping a service-provider who earns a lowly wage or an employee who gives exceptional service. What I’ve never understood is why Americans tip an escort; he is an independent businessman, ie the ’business owner’ and sets his own rates at what he thinks the market will bear.

That particular forum @Unicorn mentioned is restricted to members only to prevent people finding it casually and being offended. You can however see the rest of the website, and there are some interesting threads. It’s easy to become a member at no cost.