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Over the years, I’ve dated maybe a dozen young fit Brazilians. They all seemed to me to be hardworking and eager to improve their situation in life. None of them were keen on labels (bi/str8/gay) for their sexuality and all were uninhibited in bed. BUT without exception, they did NOT want their friends and family back in Brazil to know how they made a living.

@hypothetically I simply wanted to avoid having a bad date or disappointing session. If a provider was unsure about whether to meet me, an older man, I was happy to provide a photo. I appreciate that other clients might not do so - that’s up to them, and how they make arrangements. For me, sending a pic was no big deal.

I disagree profoundly @myophile. You’re ignoring what’s important (to me, at least): sexual energy and erotic passion. As a top only, I could in strict theory pump any guy but I prefer to have a handsome fit-bodied guy on the end of my cock. I want him to be fully engaged; I never wanted to hire a robot.

And when the muscled hunk is bound and at your mercy @m_writer just what would you do to him? Would you worship his physique? Lick his body all over? Force your cock into his more or less willing holes? Enquiring and lascivious minds want to know!

I always offered to send a pic of me when I hired. IIRC only 3 guys ever wanted to see my photo beforehand, and the dates went ahead as planned. My offer was based on self-interest. We’d discussed time/place and what I enjoyed doing so that I knew we were compatible. My pic was to prevent any surprise on meeting. If he didn’t want a date with an older or a middle-aged man, I’d move on.

I think that’s an excellent way of finding out who’s interested in you as a person, rather than interested in your money.

It’s OK [uSER=19303]@europeanman[/uSER]; I figured someone might say that. For me, the answer is more nuanced. I’ve always been open-hearted and I’ve often been told I’m very generous. When I invite people to restaurants, I want them to have an enjoyable time and to choose what they prefer. The behaviour of the regular provider began to grate over time: at one dinner, he ordered caviar and champagne as his first course and I made no comment...not even when he left most of it, saying he had decided he didn’t like caviar. The €34 cup of tea stays in my memory as we’d stopped for an espresso; he watched the flowers unfold in the hot water, smelled them and drank perhaps half the cup. I think it’s because I find the emphasis on having the most expensive item to be essentially vulgar. As for the “young hottie”, he arrived one evening, announced he’d argued with his room-mate, had nowhere to go, so he wanted to stay for a while - turned out to be 8 weeks. He wasn’t my boyfriend, and he had full-time paid employment. I never asked him to pay rent, but he never contributed a thing - never bought a bunch of flowers or paid for a coffee - but each evening he’d ask What are we doing tonight? So I’d pay for theatre, concerts etc and for dinner afterwards. He relentlessly saved his money and I found his sense of entitlement graceless.

I guess @LaffingBear that you know the feeling of irritation is irrational in the larger scheme of things...yet I share that feeling. I had a young friend staying with me (his idea, not mine) for some weeks. When we shopped for dinner, he would add items for his own consumption at a later date but never offered to pay for them. I commented on this once and his retort was forthright: Why should I pay? You’re rich! I also had a regular provider who became a friend. He invariably chose the most expensive items on the menu when we had dinner together. I still recall us stopping in Paris for coffee one day, and he chose white jasmine flower tea; it was 10 years ago and his tea cost €34. I felt that his approach - ‘I must have it as it’s the most expensive‘ - was that of a hustler. And I noted that despite him being very attractive physically, he never had friends for long; he’d tell me about how he’d fallen out with each friend in turn.

The obituary in the Financial Times (London) today quoted a local source that Gao was uncomplaining by nature but he had worked for 17 hours straight on several days.

Interesting thread, especially the replies from clients. Some years back, I discussed this topic with a provider with whom I’d become friends. He was mid-20s, handsome face with a great physique, and I can vouch for his versatility and uninhibited skill in bed. He was also a nice guy who had been well educated and could converse on a range of topics. He’d become an escort on retiring from being a ballet dancer as he needed to supplement his income. Despite all the advantages he possessed, he lamented to me how many men dated him once but did not repeat. He felt that clients just preferred novelty, to date a new face/new body every time. He expressed his surprise as on entering the business, he’d felt that he could be a high-end provider able to service well a few regular clients.

I don’t mean to argue with @rickx but I feel strongly that you should always have with you the condoms that fit you best and your preferred lube. Why delegate to others the provision of what keeps you safe and healthy?

I enjoyed it immensely.

I agree with the OP. The comments in this thread make Gwyneth Paltrow seem intellectual.

+1

That’s not an unfair comment. I have always maintained that SA is for fit, handsome young men who want to discover more of the world with a nice older man. It’s certainly not a quick fix for a dating problem, tho it can prove very satisfying.

What advice specifically @travelmuscle ? Have you read the existing thread in The Deli on Cape Town? https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/anyone-on-south-africa.95134/#post-1826456

He sure was a beautiful looking boy then (2017)...now newly married, to a woman...and he is not ageing well

Welcome to the forum @Diego95 I hope you will enjoy participating here.

I’m glad you had a good time @Intosmoothmuscles and that the Manager was exceptionally helpful. As I understand from what you report, Danilo had to take Viagra to service you and you were not able to wait. But I really don’t understand why you would tell Danilo about this forum (or ”blog” as you put it). What purpose does it serve?

I’m glad you had a good time @Intosmoothmuscles and that the Manager was exceptionally helpful. As I understand from what you report, Danilo had to take Viagra to service you and you were not able to wait. But I really don’t understand why you would tell Danilo about this forum (or ”blog” as you put it). What purpose does it serve?

I agree. I feel it’s best to be bland, eg “I like to look after my guy” or “I’m open to any type of arrangement” or “I enjoy dating a handsome guy”. IME younger men are quite happy to say what they want in the initial messages. Even if they are unrealistic, you can be candid once you switch to private messages.

That usually indicates that he’s inactive. Possibly because he’s away for a period or he hasn’t renewed his subscription

I very much agree with @nycman but then the same sentiments can be expressed about visiting Latin America. I’ve met rich Brazilians on vacation in Cape Town who told me how relaxing they found it. BTW I sent you a DM @nycman

i think that’s true. There are very slim pickings nowadays. You’d have to use the usual apps to meet guys and some will be happy to find a generous man. As @Joeysf said, the gay scene is small now, where as 10-20 years ago there were many options (escorts advertising, male brothels in the CBD, sauna with sex, nude beaches with cruising). Of the public sex venues, only The Hothouse remains. Crime is a problem but there is also robust policing in the city centre and city beach areas. Sandy Bay was mentioned earlier but it is an isolated area and there have been robberies there recently; its not advisable to go there alone.

I can see merit in the approach of both @liubit and @Pensant. IME in the past, regulars were great...but over time, many move on: some men relocated, a couple of men changed career and some retired from the business. So an influx of new guys is important.