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@haring222 have you considered a weekend in San Diego/La Jolla or Fort Lauderdale ?

If it’s an afternoon or evening appointment, I’d text about 10am saying ‘I’m confirming as asked and looking forward to meeting as arranged at (time and place)’.

He’s a male model, named Dusty Lachowicz. And not just a pretty face.

Yes @Trebor he is a beauty. Nice guy too...and he’s as big as he looks to be.

I was just trying to make a small observation on how far this thread had travelled from the OP’s original question. There’s no need for you to be nasty @jjkrkwood As it happens, I received a very nice and informative PM from @Smurof

Now there are 4 pages of responses to @Smurof and his despair at never getting a reply, does this thread have a purpose? ;-)

Get used to very late nights @KevinChgo In Chueca (the gay zone). Dinner at midnight is not regarded as unusual. AFAIK there’s only one sauna (Adan) with working guys. But lots of guys advertise in the usual places (PlanetRomeo.com and Telechapero.com)

I wonder if guys remember Jonathan Agassi, an Israeli gay male porn performer and escort, who started work in the first decade of this millennium. His story is pretty usual for a porn performer - drugs, depression and easy money - but he survived and is a Tel Aviv supermarket worker now. His life is described in this article https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-8029821/Former-gay-porn-star-claims-father-tried-adult-girlfriend-sex-12.html And there’s a documentary about him on BBC. “Storyville: The Rise and Fall of a Pornstar“ will air on BBC Four on Monday at 10pm In the UK

I agree with you @Coolwave35. If it were me, I’d say “there’s no obligation to have sex,, unless you want to” and I’d add “there’s a strict NO photos policy to ensure privacy UNLESS everyone involved in sex in a couple, trio or group AGREES to photos being taken” That was very much my experience @Coolwave35 when I organised sex parties with a group of hot guys. It does take a lot of planning and discussion.

I think you’ve gotten some good advice here @lonely_john. If your name here reflects your current feelings, I’d add that you should aim to NOT get too excited on first meeting a man. By staying calm in the first five minutes, you’ll be able to assess his physical and mental states. Does he look like his pics? Does he seem unfocused? Are his pupils dilated? Are there unexplained actions by him? Is he hyper? And learn to trust your instincts/initial reactions. If you sense danger, give him $20/$40 and get out fast.

You write well @former lurker. I like your observation that suggests being “modern” implies both “diminished attention spans and...thirst” ;-)

That’s wonderful to hear @FilmGeek. FWIW your good experiences match my own. May I ask where you’re based? To answer your original question, I don’t think escorts set their rates with regard to what’s available on Seeking. They operate in a very different market. I so agree @Keith30309. Too many people equate price with quality. And there are many hot, enthusiastic amateurs.

Why not here @Coolwave35 ? This thread is about “seeking” and you seem to have had success. I’d be glad to read about all the ‘antics’, either here or in a PM to me ;-)

Yes @ericwinters. See my first reply above ;-)

You may get two different answers @CuriousByNature but for me, I rate highly the emphasis on missionary work, help to the poor and needy, personal piety and music.

Me too

Very interesting link @Antonio1981. Thank you.

There’s an interesting article in the local newspaper today on ‘Sugar Daddies’ and ‘Sugar Babies’, describing it as “camouflaged prostitution“ For those that read Spanish, here’s the link https://www.diariodemallorca.es/mallorca/2020/02/23/sugardating-prostitucion-camuflada/1488659.html For those who don’t read Spanish, in summary a group formed to study prostitution in the Balearic Islands found that 1. some 100,000 adult men in Spain overall had registered online as Sugar Daddies while 2. almost 400,000 young women in Spain were seeking to be Sugar Babies 3. between 200 and 300 underage girls and boys were thought to be involved in the Balearic Islands 4. there was no estimate of the number of young adult men in Spain wanting to be Sugar Babies, though they had found there were numerous male university students in Ibiza (still living at home with their parents) seeking Sugar Daddies

it certainly was in the late 1970s/1980s. A Marine Corps base with a gay bar just outside its gates, a large number of transient visitors and many handsome young beach-goers and surfers meant there was an ever-changing population of hot and horny young men. I had many dates and never met a working guy. Of course, it helped that I was fit, young and goodlooking then. Times have changed...

Start by joining PlanetRomeo where several of these guys have profiles, and contact those who interest you. The same goes for Instagram where many BelAmi guys maintain profiles (but ensure you message them privately).

I’m certain that is absolutely correct @keroscenefire That is very nice indeed of you. I hope the guys you date appreciate you.

Maybe I missed some detail but the photo caption talked of the Taliban bombing his family. Perhaps the injuries were acquired then. Certainly I’ve been in the Summer in Berlin and the Tiergarten but seen nothing of this. Berliners are quite pragmatic, and I had been warned by some Germans of foreign men having sex in public parks at night.

That’s a good rule @lonely_john. When I hired, I sent a polite email with all my info to enquire about availability. With the 2nd email, I checked that we were compatible (if it had not been clear in his first reply) and booked....and I always asked how and when he wanted me to confirm as I usually booked in advance. Being prolix or sending several vague messages makes it seem as if you are not serious about meeting. That said, I hired a lovely guy in LA who asked me to phone him from Europe just so we could “get to know each other“. I did so and called him 2x more in the 3 weeks before I visited LA. The date went very well indeed.

I wish you good luck @bdmarkny. Hot young guys may be fewer than you expect. I was there on vacation a couple of years ago, and the only hot muscleboys I met were visiting Aussie male models. There is however some eye-candy at Blacks Beach; I met a very fit guy there who, tho str8, was extremely gay-friendly.

When dating men, my rule-of-thumb for working and non-working guys has always been that if, after a date, they ASK for “something extra”, I smile and say No. When I’ve had a great date after dinner with a man and I want to see him again, I take him out for breakfast. If he insists on paying for breakfast, I OFFER to do “something extra” for him when we next spend time together.