DrownedBoy

I am very upfront, and open about the fact that not all escorts have or will do what I'm asking for. I don't force the issue. Even then, I get the occasional brat who calls me weird. Screw them. I like being dominated and humiliated, and if they don't want to kick a guy around a little, they just passed up easy money.

Yup. I finally did this to a regular of mine who tried that. Luckily I have another regular who's extremely punctual, so I was able to replace him with only a 30 minute delay.

I'm afraid this is a relevant question, and one I'd also have to answer before I hired Kyle. There was a provider I tried maybe 6 months into the pandemic. His photos were all pre-pandemic, and showed him with good muscles. When I met him, the muscles were practically gone, and he told me he hadn't gone to the gym (or worked out, apparently) during the pandemic. It takes very little time for gravity and inertia to take their toll.

I'd hire that guy in a heartbeat... ...but if he's from NYC, his rates are probably pretty high.

Yup. No reason to throw good money after bad. If I hire a bad provider, I automatically write it off as a loss and try to minimize the damage (and the time we have to spend together).

Yeah, I should have been. He got into the Uber, the Uber driver asked me him to give my full name (since I paid for it), and he didn't speak or understand enough English to call/text and ask me for my first name. Needless to say, after the following argument with Uber, neither of us ending up meeting.

Not exactly a good deal for 2 hours (at least in Chicago).... Yeah, I remember seeing a handful of ads for men only seeking women on RM. One actually had a rant where he insisted that women do visit there. At the time, I thought that guy protests too much, but maybe he was right.

Yeah, from using Tor, I can see American providers with rates, but those rates are always outdated.

Another ditto. But honestly - is there a provider here who'd give out $10 in change?

Yup. Whenever I get a complaint that "everything costs more," I respond, "I know, but my firm sure isn't giving inflation hikes. In fact they're firing." And I've also learned the hard way that there's no such thing as an indispensable employee. You might have indispensable technical skills, but the layoffs are generally made by HR generalists or non-technical managers who can't tell their a@@es from a hole in the ground. The providers I see on this forum tend to be good independent businessmen. Most providers are anything but.

Ditto. I have a long-term regular who keeps my rates low, where they started, so I make sure he gets a little extra per visit. It's paid off well (he's willing to find other guys to come with him, etc.)

Hey - can I sleep with you tonight? 😁

Well that brings back memories....

A lot of people (not just providers) on apps have thin skins. Don't worry about hurting anyone's feelings. Apps seem to attract more a**holes than nice guys. However, I personally think that escort made a stupid response. When you asked about him being an escort, he should have pointed you to his RM ad and asked you to contact him there if you were interested in him. He could have made some money.

I'm not sure if this is a "fetish," but several sexual activities (including kissing) feel a lot better when the other guy has a long tongue. How strange is it to ask for someone's tongue length? For that matter, what is a good length?

Good rundown. Thanks. One question though. If a European escort figures out you're an American, do they try and raise their rates? Lots of businesspeople do. And I back what John said. I'd be happy with less, but as an American, I have to get good health insurance (and still have my deductible in savings), squirrel away money so I don't retire in poverty, etc. There are no European-style social safety nets in the States, nor is there likely to be for 20 years at least.

Well perhaps the hive mind can tell me if I'm contacting providers correctly. 1. I greet them with their preferred name, tell them where I saw their ad, and ask if they're interested in a session. Sometimes I also mention which Chicago neighborhood I live in, a general idea of what I'm into, or when I'm looking to hire. 2. Usually at this point, good providers ask what I'm into. If not, I tell them and ask if they're interested. I also try to confirm if we're close enough to meet. 3. If they're interested, then I'll go into the details, such as rates, date and time, payment method, etc. Either side can pull out at any time (pun intended). A good exchange ends with a deal and a scheduled session. I'd like to get rates earlier, but I've read in this forum that RM often scope out the competition with rate queries as the first contact. If any providers have suggestions on how to ask earlier, let me know. Of course, even with this method, I still constantly don't receive any response (or I get a response a day later). And if an escort reacts to my initial text with only a "hey," I'm not going to answer them until they answer my initial question.

Your guess is correct. https://earthweb.com/top-onlyfans-earners/

There are prepaid cards you can get anywhere . I find those useful when dealing with (ahem) certain sites.

I've only hired one guy from Friendboy who wasn't also on RentMen. He was a amateur and had (for most people) a forgettable face and body. He was extremely limited in what he'd do. But he was extremely cheap (street rates). He stopped after he saved a bit of money. I've contacted other guys on Friendboy, but either they flaked, never responded, or were rude

I agree, while acknowledging that some "clients" are just after free sexting. After all, anyone who's ever gone on job interviews knows how much time you have to waste...

My opinion is simple. Prices have gone up. Wages haven't. Time for budget trimming.

Didn't this topic come up earlier? I believe several providers mentioned cheap pens to check for counterfeits. However, I agree with clients who say that counting the cash is tacky. Whenever a provider counts money in front of me, it turns out to be a crappy or fake session. And I'm old fashioned enough to be insulted by it.

There hasn't been any change in this trend since RM started requiring membership to leave reviews? I've made a point to only fully trust reviews made after this spring, when the new rules went into effect.

When I see ads with people who claim to have STEM degrees (especially one in ME), I automatically avoid as fake. Among RM I hire, worthless liberal arts degrees seem to be the norm.