DrownedBoy

Question - does PNP have to work both ways? I had an....unpleasant encounter with an escort who (without telling me ahead of time) took two doses of G (the second dose came after he got me off). He then tried to force himself on me (I don't do anal with providers and had made that extremely clear to him). He wanted to party; I didn't but he still managed to get his tip into me before I kicked him away.

God, the BART diet is bad enough to live on when you're waiting for a colonoscopy. I nearly had to live on BART during an intense vacation with a horny ex.

I agree with the above - I've had escorts who have had bad experiences on this site, and had to defend at least 2 regulars here. The best advice I could give an escort is to: 1. Read to see what the providers are saying to increase chances of hires 2. Making a single introduction and taking PMs. At least twice I've seen providers try to defend themselves, including one who walked out early on me. Per the thread on that guy, enough people spoke about his cheating (EDIT and were encouraged to report him to RM) that his ad was removed by RentMen. At the very least, this forum should demonstrate that clients aren't all scared closet cases who are afraid to speak up when they're cheated or treated badly. A useful lesson for providers to learn.

I'm getting requests for face time, etc., from providers. You can be sure if they want a WhatsApp or SnapChat talk, they're not serious. I continue to turn down any photo/facetime requests. Some younger providers turn the rest of the hiring process into a joke if you turn down the photos, so I have to cut them down to size and block them. Entitled little brats - if you only want to spend time with attractive people you're in the wrong business.

Ace ghosted me after my initial contact. No idea why, but I don't beg for attention.

Personally, this is why I distrust sites without powerful feedback loops. You may have hired well off Grindr before, but it is risky. You can't even trust Grindr hookups (one said he'd kiss if a sucked him off; he decided not to uphold his side of the bargain afterwards; I should have slapped him). Some scammers specialize in these ridiculous and absurd tactics to get out of doing things. The last time someone on RentMen tried that on me, his ad was down within two weeks. Grindr is unaccountability incarnate.

I tried hiring him once. I scheduled a day ahead of time and suddenly he ghosted me when I texted him, as he had requested, to confirm. A couple hours later, he claimed something came up, apparently so quickly he couldn't even text me. I informed him I had already hired a replacement. Unprofessional in the highest - that landed him on my block list.

It's essential to me too (although I like getting my throat f&$&ed with his tongue more than making out). ALWAYS ask ahead of time, even if they list kissing, and confirm they do DTK. if they don't, I offer them a fee to leave. If they refuse, I tell my Alexa to call 911 ( to report someone refusing to leave my home). As of yet nobody's stayed long enough for me to report them.

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Nice story. I once dated a masseur, but I was never really a "customer." Unless you count the fact that I had to pay for massages with my ass. EDIT And he could be so aggressively horny that sometimes I wished I could have paid cash for a massage.

This year I've been hiring almost exclusively non-English speaking Latinos, and I insist they speak only Spanish and correct mine. It's a great addition to Rosetta Stone, real (but very simple and basic) conversation. And I file the Zelle payments as "Spanish instruction". They seemed more flattered to end up as a language tutor than finding it weird. And glad this hobby can lead to personal improvement.

We usually make out in the shower, and often I give them head. I only had one boyfriend who insisted on using yellow as well as clear shower water (it did nothing for me, good or bad, so I just followed instructions). Still, though, it's hilarious that even when we're doing that, there's still those constant shift so we can get hit by the hot water. A hot tub is a much better choice, but I'm so small the heat gets to me quickly.

That was a euphemism we used when young when I showered with boyfriends. "Water conservation."

Yup. The "influencer" provider I had a bad session with needed more money and contacted me a year later to make "amends." After he walked out halfway through the session, where he spent the first half on Instagram and calling friends. As much as I wanted to say "Like hell," I politely pretended I was someone else.

Lucky again. I texted him (EDIT awhile ago), and he specifically said he "didn't kiss," so a session was politely avoided.

You should ask yourself - are there physical reasons he'd want to meet me for free? If there's a twenty year age gap I'd be very wary.

It's always twinkish guys dressed as Spider-Man. One of the few super heroes that fit that body type.

I'll have to try that. Most guys seem to like the "pleading puppy dog eyes" when I suck. Since I was a kid I've known guys who wear a baseball cap everywhere they went and whatever they did. I recall a gay friend like that during my 20s, and everyone considered him the masculine, bro type by far.

I have a line item for 1500 a month, which translates into three 2-hour sessions within my pool of regulars. I work in tech, make six figures, have no debt whatsoever (even mortgage paid off), and live simply. The largest cash flow I pay into is savings and retirement. Either I settle down into a marriage with a well funded retirement, or I hire a live in personal trainer when I'm older. You always have to plan for the worst case scenario.

I think the same things about some good providers. However, I view the 24/7 availability as a possible houseboy arrangement, not a relationship with emotional investment.

The most common scam on Grindr is to act like you like the guy, text awhile, then ask for twenty via PayPal for gas to drive to you. This is as ubiquitous as normal guys begging on streets claiming to be homeless. And it turns chatting into an evaluation if the guy is worth talking to. I usually insist on meeting in person for conversation, even if in a public location. 90% of the guys ghost or chicken out at the last minute. Long past the days when I found a decent boyfriend on there.

The most well written and thoughtful Answers on RentMen I ever read were written by a homophobic meth addict who ripped me (and a bunch of other gay men) off.

I rarely share more than part of my real name and phone, although I allow regulars to my place for outcalls. I had a talkative regular who did engage in conversations on life, but he later tried to weaponize it against me. The negs he threw were returned x10 and his income flow from me obviously dropped to x0. Typically, for those who know English, providers do most of the talking in my experience. If they don't talk about themselves, it's easy enough to prompt them. A disturbingly large number (like the aforementioned talkative one) will talk about themselves and their uniqueness without prompting or even questions. However, lately I find non English speaking providers more relaxing, provided they understand and use translation apps, do as asked, and don't play the "no comprende'" game. That's enough conversation for me.

I hired a nearby straight guy on RentMen who seemed on the level. He claimed he'd kiss, but changed his mind after the first kiss, then used a text as a pretext to leave and grab the money. Turned out to be a homophobic meth addict who bragged on social media about ripping "f@gs" off. Let the heteroes go to hell; I'll stay with my tribe.

Just a remark in response to an above post - if a South American escort doesn't speak English (EDIT and lives in the States full time), he's most likely here illegally (or at least precariously) and comes from a lower-class, uneducated background. English is the mark of a middle-class or higher education in Venezuela and similar countries. And when such escorts are constantly texting "friends" to get in out of their apartment, it means they're all crammed together. I have found such Latino guys much more nice, obedient, grateful, and cheaper than their counterparts. As long as they listen to my Google Translate.