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I get off on guys sexually enjoying themselves.
 
I get off on me getting off.
 
I like being naked.
 
 
WHAT ARE, THE TRAITS YOU NEED TO BE A SUCCESSFUL MALE ESCORT, ALEX.

Misspelling in the text ad makes me think it's fake.

Context is everything. I also don't like being called "She" or "Her" in public, in front of friends, or other people.
However, I find it really hot in the context of a sexual encounter where my top wants to call me or my h*le with specific names.
I have a high level of self-esteem and that's precisely why I don't mind such interaction with dominant tops who love roleplay during sex.
But once sex is over, we can return to our natural state of equal human beings who deserve being treated with decency.
If he wants to use namecalling as a standard to manage his relationship with me, that man will start losing my respect.

Really, really stupid.
 
Like... Really.
 
A quick, private message to the guy might help him understand how young and foolish he's being.

Not sure if there's any direct correlation, but the few times escorts asked to see my picture beforehand and I sent it, the date with them was bad.

Sometimes escorts are enjoying it and sometimes escorts are not enjoying it, but if you get a really great escort, you’ll never know the difference.

Agree with both xyz48B and StLouisOct above. There are few things that kill my boner faster than the realization that the guy I am with is genuinely not enjoying himself (over the years, I've sent a few 'scorts packing when it was clear that they didn't want to be there). Although some providers find it annoying, I am definitely one for up-front transparency: "this is who I am (age, weight, height, looks) and this is what I like to do. Is that something you can get into?"

When I’m communicating with a prospective provider, I lay out what I’m looking for and then I ask him if it’s something he thinks he can genuinely enjoy. If I get the sense that he isn’t going to genuinely enjoy it, I let him know. Because it just bleeds into the rest of the experience, and feels inauthentic. It’s better if I can tell he’s enjoying it so that I can enjoy it. He can get paid and still objectively enjoy what we’re doing. I enjoy my job, and I still get paid for it. But there are definitely some providers who I can tell don’t relish the idea of getting together after I’ve explained what I’m looking for. I’ve had providers also clearly not enjoy it while we’re together even though they told me they were going to beforehand. There’s just something about it that you can tell.

It's actually very easy.
 
1) Set up a fake, anonymous e-mail address.
2) Buy a Visa gift-card for whatever amount you need it for
3) Use the Visa gift-card to make the porn purchase.

Never paid up front.
 
Never will.
 
Only pisses off the scammers, not the professionals.

Interesting way to open talks. My approach was to make some complimentary remarks to the guy and then ask if he provided services 1-on-1 at home. I normally added “I’m happy to meet your needs and be very discreet if that’s what you require”.
 
IME these guys have all been approached before by men and women. They understand what’s being asked and they appreciate a discreet and polite* enquiry. I’ve been turned down politely in the past, but I’ve never had a hostile reply, and I’ve had some surprising acceptances.
 
*Some guys I’ve dated have told me about queries they’ve had (and in 2 cases, shown me the messages they get). Some people are astoundingly crass and rude, writing messages such as How much to fuck you? Or $$$ to blow me?

Short answer: it varies...and it varied a lot.
 
Long answer: it’s a long game, more of a courtship in some ways, and typically you’ll exchange lots of messages and phone calls before you meet.
If the model replied (ie was interested enough), I’d suggest drinks and dinner wherever they wanted. Models always know where they want to go and eat, and be seen or perhaps not be seen.
If that first date was great, I’d invite them home for breakfast. Some needed a couple of dates before they came home with me. Some proved uninteresting.
No matter how the first date went, I always offered some compensation for their time. It demonstrated that I was serious and generous. No-one ever refused. If the first date was a disaster, I offered cab fare home (ie $40-50). If the guy was very keen but had other plans that night, I’d schedule a second date and discreetly give him $100 ”for being such good company” - I was never stood up on a second date.
Once the model and I had proved compatible in bed, I’d simply ask what continuing support they needed. The requests by models were over a wide range: a new iPhone, help with their monthly rent, paying a specific bill, spending money etc.
 
Overall, I’ve had great experiences. And just as with working guys, ’price’ had little relation to quality and satisfaction. I’d go so far as to say that those delivering the most in (and out of) bed often asked for comparatively little.

Instagram “models” and “fitness professionals” are going to be more inclined to get you to subscribe to their OnlyFans or have you fork up cash for “customized content” rather than meet you for a session. Instagram really isn’t the platform for that, nor is it welcomed, usually. These influencers with huge followings rack up a cute coin doing the bare minimum, alone, at home. One can’t be bothered with a one-on-one unless they really need it.

That’s a hazard of this so-called hobby. It’s happened to me 3 times. First one was a masseur. in my naive way, I was sure it was two-sided, but eventually when I pushed for more, the let-down was crushing. The next one was an escort. Movie star quality - Mr. Perfect. And he picked up on the vibes and took me on a long, fantasy ride for over a year. And like the first one, he had met “someone” new and it was over. Yeah, after I’d taken him to Hawaii for a week, and spent gawd-knows how much $$$ on his wardrobe, sports tickets and food. Number three was even more painful. Again, Mr. Adonis was nearly perfect and we went so far as to move in together. My job changed and he had some family obligations that mysteriously appeared at the same time. So I was headed to a new city, and he was going back “home” - it was a tough breakup; but then through the wonders of social media I discovered that he found another dude within days. Moral of these stories? Escorts and masseurs are entrepreneurs- and they for the most part are wonderful people. But they are almost always not seeking a love interest in their client base.

When I went to Vegas last time I hired a guy that said he wouldn't kiss, despite the ad saying otherwise. We hit it off, and turned out to be a really nice guy. At the end he did kiss me on the lips but he he gave that famous line I hear so often.[MEDIA=pinterest]471189179734991232[/MEDIA]

Just met him pics are recent and definitely him
He’s a pro bodybuilder from the east coast living in Vegas now , his as is huge and round it’s amazing
He’s hung too and loved flexing and showing off

I generally would do as asked, some providers ask for it upfront, in my experience those are the ones that rarely get a call back, the guys I tip usually ask for it at the end or don't ask at all (I usually either put it on top of a drawer during in-calls or just give it to them) maybe guys who don't ask upfront are a little more confident on the fact that maybe you'll want stay longer for seconds or tip?
 
Maybe I'm just an easy client because I treat it as if it were any other hookup, am always well groomed, I try to be flirty and charming and I'm a bit on the younger side of clients, but I think only once have I felt not entirely secure with the transaction/feared that a provider could get physical and only once did I really feel like I had wasted perfectly good money.
 

 
I personally think the bruise would have been a pleasant surprise as a client, but I get how some might be less than charmed by it. But this is the main reason why I try to be polite and nice, I think any encounter is gonna be much easier if the other party is calm and feels safe and secure at the end of the day you're both taking a risk by meeting (specifically if its for the first time)

Conversely, he could've half f*cked you because you paid upfront. Where's his incentive to give you 100% if he already got his 100%. You can argue that it's insulting to the provider to think that, but it's equally insulting to the client to think you're not going to pay. There are risks for both parties, but I have never nor will I ever pay upfront.
 
I've only had one provider in whom I showed interest require payment upfront. The only reason the subject was even broached was because he informed me he accepted electronic payments. I wanted to be sure he wasn't expecting an electronic deposit, so I told him I pay all cash at the end of the session. He asked how I could expect a provider to wait until the end and the donation was always paid upon arrival. I thanked him for his time and told him to take care. End of story. Even if he relented there would still be some unease because of that exchange.

Wow.... Are you high Clairee?
 
I find the 'skill level' in tops varies WILDLY. Some can't find the hole, some don't know how to treat a hole, some don't know how to pound, some don't know what to do with their hands, some don't know how to get the bottom in the best position so they both experience pleasure..... I mean I could go on for hours..... Bottoms can just 'lay there'....grunt, groan, and moan....and easier for a bottom to fake an orgasm. And why can't a bottom provider be texting his next client..... face down, ass up, head under a pillow.... he could be texting his next pounding!
 
My personal preference is to be total bottom and I like finding people who can be 'total tops' with skills to match. The sexual chemistry can be out of this world if you both know what you are doing.

Not to toot my own horn, but I'm very good at hand to hand fighting. Something I refined in the Army, still, the specific encounter I'm recounting, the dude was able to elbow me in the eye and it left a noticeable bruise that I had to explain over and over. If he'd had a weapon of any kind, I could've gotten seriously hurt. Definitely not worth $50, $100, or even the whole amount. Better just to walk away. There'll always be another client eventually.
 
Generally speaking, any quirk of providing that I have (bringing my own lube, not counting the money, accepting payment after the fact, etc.), it's almost always strictly because I've had one super-bad experience that burned me enough that I make it my priority to never make that particular mistake again. Which is not to say that I've been hounded by consistently bad clients, quite the opposite. Probably 99% of the people I've seen have been amicable, even when we don't end up meeting for whatever reason.
 
It really just take one particularly bad experience to change your perspective on things.

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I had an escort physically count each dollar that I gave him before the session that I left on his dresser when I walked in. It was a stack of 10’s and 20’s held together with a binder clip. I thought it was really tacky on his part, especially since I had trusted him enough to leave the money before service.
 
Needless to say I did not have a rematch with him nor did I leave any kind of review. If I have nothing nice to say then I just don’t bother

I think seeing guys on cruising apps is just another way for them to do business. I have never really seen a drop dead gorgeous man look for sex on an app because they couldn’t get it face to face. When you can pull men and women at your leisure for fun the thrill is the actual chase. Hiring someone that rejects me when I ask them in app...my ego is too big to allow it. If they aren’t interested at all when I attempt to talk to them then they have already ruined the fantasy element of hiring. It’s a blunt truth that they wouldn’t even give me the time of day unless I flash cash, that kind of rejection ruins the fantasy.

It depends on their attitude and how they turned me down. Many encounters I’ve had from Scruff or Grindr have been less than ideal ending with a lecture which I find is being shamed. “If you see me out in public you don’t know me, we have never met and don’t acknowledge me”. If I get a sense of that same attitude from a person I will not hire them.
 
That being said they have a sex drive too and a type and I don’t fault them for looking.
 
In the end i would likely I would be more generous to a nice guy i met on an app and was sincere than a guy just looking to make a few bucks off me