Rod Hagen

As I told a friend, The Brutalist could have used a 3 hour and 45 minute intermission.

Thank you for trying to get me in trouble.

This is Fun. Person: I wouldn't change my looks, my Dad is a good looking guy, and I'm enjoying growing into that man. Where: Working as an escort, throughout the '90s, in the Village while getting a science degree at NYU. Always disappointed in myself for getting a BA in the arts before my Biology and Engineering studies. New York was great in the early '90s because Wealth was up, there were still scraps of bohemia (Alphabet City and the East Village...sorta) and Giuliani and Sarah Jessica Parker and Bloomberg hadn't yet conspired to corrupt it. I don't think being a traveling escort was as easy before the internet, nevertheless in my imagination I'm doing my homework on international flights b/w clients and returning to my perfect walk-up just off Bleeker. Who: So whom am I fucking? Whoever calls! The only thing missing is sports, specifically my sports. In Minnesota, where I spent those years, NOT escorting, I had easy access to (bad) snowboarding, lots of Climbing, (bad) mountain biking and White Water Kayaking. You can leave NY to snowboard and climb, but it is a hard hard city to daytrip out of (on an early Saturday morning waiting in line at a Manhattan Hertz SUCKS!), but a fantastic place to come back to.

This was nice: How My Dad Reconciled His God and His Gay Son https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2025/02/05/opinion/coming-out-evangelical-pastor.html And if the fucking photo of the man with his son comes up, I did my fucking best to link the article without the photo so just fucking delete the thread without dinging my fucking account fucking again. Thank you.

Another thing people, particularly therapists, say that discourages people from even trying the medications. They become convinced they have to "solve" some psychological component first. Fuck that. The very knowledge that you can get an erection is in itself an arousal. In other words, if boners aren't popping up as often anymore, and Viagra etc. can help you with that, chemically, can compensate to a helpful degree for both physiological and psychological impediments, then the knowledge itself that you have taken said boner medication is in itself arousing. And so, step one is done.

Yes, since my first days working in 1999, and lunch, and hang time, and I'm still friends with them. Hypocritically, as that youth I too bristled in this forum at the suggestion that my time with clients would ever be anything other than On The Clock, while simultaneously becoming friends with clients, OFF the Clock/Cock.

Every porn over the last 20 years isn't driven by pills, but by Trimix and Bimix. It has nothing to do with them being young, well not nothing, but it has MUCH more to do with bimix and Trimix, and if you don't want to believe that or don't know how to work google, watch the young dicks in a 70s or 80s movie (before Viagra, Cialis, etc.), largely flaccid (except Jack Wrangler of course), then watch Rafael Alencar's beautiful dick in early 2000s movies (during the heights of Viagra and Cialis), hard when needed , now watch Rafael Alencar's Dick in today's movies (he's a spokesmen for Rev Trimix and Bimix), hard as steel before during and after. What changed over the decades? Chemistry. Enjoy it, and also indulge in it. And most importantly, understand that when you ask men in a forum about it, they don't know and instead attribute the raging constant hardons to "youth" alone, and understand that the Escorts, the Men using BiMix and TriMix will nearly always be cagey about it, so the person to ask is not the Forum, not the Escort, but a Doctor, Urologist or not, who specializes in sexual dysfunction. It's not a dysfunction, but that's where you should look anyway. Just ask ChatGPT about finding one in your area, or Google for that matter, or just go see a male Urologist. Non-medical people like B will say stupid discouraging things to you like, "I'd never put that in my..." They don't know what they're talking about. It's almost always painless, a nothing. Just because they are weak-willled, doesn't mean you have to bel.

I too am sorry this happened to you. Great news from this elder, 99.999% of clients will only fuck you in the GOOD way. :-) Chin up.

Bought the audiobook intending to listen on the drive to and from Mammoth's storms last week, but....Podcasts.

The only actor I know in this season is Parker Posey, so I hope the story gets legs.

"Who's Dead Now Ford?" Excellent.

I'm gonna call bullshit on this one. I know it's popular in the other Forum for frequent flyer SexTourists to pile shame/shit on Americans "overly" generous in the Brazilian saunas. Thought experiment time! Let's say a Sauna worker, Bruno, sees a mix of 10 total local and foreign clients in a week. As a quick, helpful, aside, I worked as a well-reviewed escort, granted it was in the states, for decades and would have remaining digits counting the number of men who overpaid. Most men, most people, don't overpay for goods or services. But, just for funsies, let's pretend 1 of 10 per week "overpay" Bruno because from the Uber Black between GIG and the Hotel Fasano the Client/Tourist noticed a favela and felt sad. Even a simpleton would not, could not, hold out in his transactions for something near the amount that the generous ONE paid. If he tried, he wouldn't last long. He can try, he will see an American and ask for more, and maybe refuse you if you won't give it. But he won't, he can't, be doing that for long, because the reality nobody can deny is that most men, most escort-clients, and certainly most sex tourists, are not "overly" generous. After all, that's why they are in Brazil, cheap rates for hot guys. And the locals simply won't pay that high amount, so the delusional worker can ask for whatever he likes, he won't get it from them either. And when you push back like this, the cheapies on the MER, or whatever that forum is called these days clutch their pearls and say, "you don't know. you don't go to Brazil/Thailand (whichever low-earning country they frequent) as often as I do, I know these boys..." blah blah. I don't need to. The advantage of models and simulations is that you don't have to get your hands dirty. So, yep, bullshit. Good on you ThroatCummer! You are one in a million. Or, one in 10, hypothetically :-)

It is not Hichcockian. If Hitch saw it he'd throw up (and then quickly make reservations at Chasen's)

Loved The Line of Beauty, especially The Swimming Pool Library. Oddly, I have the Folding Star and have not read it. I skipped a couple other books too. Unsure why. The Swimming Pool Library is excellent.

Is it like this? (And I bet nobody here knows what set this is from without googling it) "And it creates this Bangkok whorehouse scenario in your brain. You feel a little tuggle in your sweatpants. And you’re like,” what if they were behind glass in Phuket?” Which one would I select for my evening’s entertainment from the Cambodian guy that runs the place, And he’s got an eye patch. And I go, “ching dai bo dah!” And he pulls the guy out. Number 28. I haven’t even seen all the guys, And I impulse-buy on 28."

Still don't understand why Japan never comes up. It's a beautiful country with extraordinary rural and Urban life. While not "The Cheapest" these are good rates for guys with great reviews: TOKYO SHOP -English- / ENTRANCE PAGE LANG.DGDGDG.COM ENTRANCE | DANSHI GAKUEN Other times I've mentioned Japan in this context, other members have responded that Japanese men are racist against American Men, which is ridiculous.

Thank you for asking, it was a bit too cute of me to say I have playlists, and then say nothing more. My crowning achievement (obviously I have a low bar for that expression) is a Snowboard Playlist, which I've built and curated since the late 90s when .mp3 first became a thing. I also use it for swimming and mountain biking (but not climbing, the rhythm is wrong for methodical, non-propulsive, sports). I have a sleep playlist which I play in the rare instance I wake up and can't fall back to sleep easily or I suspect falling asleep may be a problem (due to intrusive thoughts). I have a playlist that is nothing but my favorite Godspeed you Black Emperor, Sigur Ros, and Explosions in the Sky songs. It's something I Shuffle when I'm feeling profound. It's also something I often feel compelled to absorb while on international flights, I'm not sure why. As I mentioned above, there is a sex playlist. I can count on one hand the number of times I've played the play list during sex, my taste doesn't match up well with the musical tastes of other men who enjoy gay sex. But it's nice to play alone before the act, to amplify my mood. In the '70s, '80s, and the '90s, my musical tastes aligned well with fellow Gays. That hasn't been the case since about 2000. Naturally, a Classical music playlist which is largely Mozart, but also Bach and Rachmaninov and others. Lastly, 7 years ago I assembled a Dennis Cooper playlist. I deeply respect his film and music and literature tastes, and I know music is something he takes seriously. So, I took a deep dive into his blog and found 96 songs he loves. I love them too! There's a small bit of duplication, it's strange that a song can be good for Mountain Biking, yet good for sex too. Overall, there is very little overlap between my playlists. In multiple threads I have posted youtube links to many of the songs from several of these lists; they are my babies.

Music during nearly everything, but only my painstakingly curated playlists. The only thing I feel more strongly about than the music I love, is the music I hate.

Many times I've written here on the joys of overnights. All I'll say this time is, Coffee. Wether you're the escort or you're the client (or for that matter you're partnered), bringing the other coffee in bed, or being the man receiving the coffee in bed first thing, is exceedingly romantic. Sipping the coffee while getting morning head is especially hot. Bringing a man a cup of coffee before he even rises to pee is an easy way to say: I care for you, enjoy this.

The longGone MuscleService Website had some very good definitions, and while I'm usually good at getting defunct forums to work on the InternetArchive, I haven't cracked that one. SORRY.

I am glad that works for you. That is not an option in my situation. :-(

With a property that size and with that capacity, what would you consider for Liability Insurance? $3M, $5M?

And??? :-)

If that works on people with Borderline Personality Disorder, my Zillenial Neighbor could really use a double dosage, particularly the last few days. WOW.

And, what did you think?