Rod Hagen

My dad and his wife love Aleve (naproxen sodium.). I've never tried it, but this is good news. Combo drugs are great, nothing kills a headache like Extra strength Excedrin, which is brilliantly Tylenol, Aspirin and Caffeine combined in one gel (if you get generic) pill. So absolutely stupid they banned Vioxx all those years ago. Best NSAID, pain medication, ever for injury. Two painful lessons: always disclose and never overcorrect. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC1779871/

It is good work. I hope most are enjoying it like I did, and if they aren't, or not as much, and they are good performers, then good for them, good for everyone. :-)

Honestly, no I don't know who she is either. Sorry.

I tend to avoid things like Glee and Wicked and Abbot Elementary. All that positivity. No, I have not seen Baby Reindeer. I remember it being mentioned here and there. I read the description online, it sounds like trauma-porn, like that book I stopped reading 15 years ago, A Little Life, or I Shall Destroy You. Richard Gadd certainly is sexy. Oh, yes I know Hannah Waddingham , I liked her as a guest. She's super sexy too. She's great. Also: Oh, yes, now I recognize Ana Gasteyer. I admired her on SNL. Thank you.

Yes. That description is also stupid.

That's why I put a smiley face on it.

Saying something does not make it true. It's how you feel likely because you can't imagine being turned on by an average or god forbid below average client. That makes sense. Standard tastes are standard because they are held by the majority and most gay men only want hot and skilled guys, so anything else is at best settling, at worse a chore, at the very worst unmanageable. Since you live in your own head, like we all do, it's probably hard for you to comprehend that throughout time lots and lots of prostitutes don't feel that way about appearance or sexual proficiency, which is why we stick with it. There are lots of Rod Hagens and Benjamin Nichols and Mike Gaites and Calvin Culvers and Dane Scots who do this for years, decades, with a smile. Do you imagine that we are gluttons for punishment? Sure on any particular day it may feel like a chore because the escort has other things he's thinking of, life, or maybe he came accidentally earlier in the day and is now trying to muddle through. Muddling through occasionally is true of any job, even the ones we love. But if you love your job, that's only occasionally. Many guys love escorting and enjoy their varied clients. But I'm the one who brought up longterm escorts which kinda derailed this conversation a bit I suppose. I only did that because I always want to encourage people to either hire the escorts who are established, or if that's not possible to select the ones with the most reviews (use a proxy server) on Rent men from reviewers that seem to write "real" reviews. But it that's not possible, then yes of course a lot of those unestablished guys may very well be grinning and bearing it just to get by for a bit to get over a $ slump. I hope they make you believe it. But there are lots of guys in the major cities available to you who are not faking.

It's whom :-). But also, fucking strangers 5 minutes after meeting them is NOTHING like other customer service jobs and you know that.

For fuck's sake, stop calling it an illusion where established escorts are concerned. My Journal confirms that while escorting in my 20s and 30s and 40s I was turned on by every type of man out there and I'm not the only escort who felt/feels that way.

This calling masseurs masseuses stopped being cute some time ago. Google is your friend (said the guy who in another thread earlier this morning couldn't come up with Jean Smart's name). That said I'd much prefer those occasional fuckups to using the ridiculous term "massage therapist" or the one that makes me puke that everyone started using without my permission, "provider". You're fine, don't worry about it. Nothing bad's going to happen. The only VERY RARE setups were in Vegas, and a couple in Texas long ago. You are in Chicago, you're fine. What was your "bad experience"? __________ And for others who read this thread later: It's not hard. Rentmen has reviews. You can use a proxiserver to read them. You can select escorts who have multiple reviews from clients who have reviewed multiple escorts informatively. If you're still unsure after using that logical tactic, hiring well reviewed escorts/masseurs from consistently informative clients, you're medically paranoid and you'll never be comfortable hiring, so give up. Thinking is important. Overthinking doesn't do shit. Now go have sex :-)

Jean Smart is extraordinary, I just have a hard time remembering her name. Apologies, Rosie's guest was not Josh Gadd, it was someone else with a similar name whom she admired and I was unfamiliar.

Reading it and loving it. He and his dad have such honest interactions. He's kind of a brat, understandably: I thought I grew up in an isolated community (800 people, nearest movie theater 45 miles away) but he lives in an equally small town, or smaller, but at the end of the world. I'm not quite buying how he talks to his grandma. Can't imagine anyone being that crass with their own grandparents. Great book so far. I think he just had to get the sadness out of him, his funny drunk now dead Mom out of him, with the first two books, and now we'll see a less morose Douglas Stuart.

Oh, that's another thing. I felt so old watching her week. Had no idea who any of the guests were except for the woman from Hacks. Josh Gadd? No idea. Nick Oferman? No idea. The guy she was drooling over, no idea. The women guests? Not a clue.

I like telling that story. It's one of the two big questions clients ask escorts about themselves. But I always wished it was more exciting than just an intellectual curiosity, like I was in Paris and I ran out of money and an older man at the cafe saw I was reading The Sheltering Sky and so he asked me...you know that kind of story. Oh well. The book was helpful as an eyeopener, the more interesting books on prostitution are memoirs and essays and there are many threads on this site about them. I'm grateful he published Hustlers Pornstars and Escorts, changed my life forever.

I'm shit with money, so can't help you there. Dude, you're depressed and anxious, understandably. Get on both Wellbutrin and Lexapro now. Then You should find as inexpensive as possible individual therapy. You'll be better equipped to approach your problems while reducing your suffering. Get on the Rx drugs, now.

I'm not especially her fan, and she did a great job this week. She was a good choice. Lucky her, having Irish Grandparents and being able to live in Ireland. I have a friend who moved there as well.

Sounds like a go with the flow kind of guy. Wouldn't have worked for me, I'm a thinker and a planner.

Thank you very much for all that. I'm very grateful. We'll be flying home out of Shanghai, so that's not possible, but we will be visiting Yangshuo, above I wrote Yangzhou by mistake, so we will see some of that amazing landscape you're talking about. A friend of mine who worked and traveled around China for 10 years also mentioned how beautiful Hangzhou is at night. We are going to be changing hotels so often on this trip, maybe there are trains back to Shanghai at night so I still get to see Hangzhou at night. Or maybe I'll just stay there overnight. I wanted to eliminate our two nights in Hangzhou so I could put one extra one in Hong Kong, which I'm expecting to absolutely love, and one more night in Shanghai.

Was planning on spending two nights in Hangzhou, but I hate changing hotels, what's lost by just seeing Hangzhou as a day trip from Shanghai?

Being anywhere near poppers gives me an intense daylong headache that scoffs at Excedrin. When men would use poppers I'd usually exit then return after the bottle's resealed. Always felt bad about leaving in that intimate moment, but I had no choice.

My Origin Story again, briefly: I honestly did not know escorting was an option until on a flight b/w LA and NYC I read "Hustlers, Pornstars, and Escorts", where the author put it in very simple language making me think, "Holy shit, this is an option I'd never considered, and it sounds fun!" I didn't grab the book from the WeHo bookstore A Different Light because I was curious about escorting (or porn), it was one of many I grabbed for the trip, along with a couple Edmund Whites, it just happened to have an enticing cover. It lead to 20+ years of escorting. I suspect most men don't think of it. Before reading that book, I had absolutely no idea escorting was an option. When friends and I chuckled at the ads in the back of Frontiers and Unzipped, it seemed entirely too risky and scary to even think about. Come to think about it, without the ads in the back of magazines, which don't exist, how would you even know about the world if you weren't looking for it? Crazy, I never thought of that till now, the loss of the magazines and the scary/sexy ads in the back and what that means.

Still haven't seen that one. Need to.

New Yorker's TV Critic didn't like it. https://www.newyorker.com/culture/on-television/ryan-murphys-sanded-down-version-of-the-shards I read that Ryan wants 3 seasons. Second season is not confirmed yet, last I looked/googled.

"Creepy" is not an attack. Judgements are not objectively bad things. Get thicker skin. As to the original poster. Yes, when starting escorting two somewhat contradictory things happen, you open yourself to a lot and also you make rules for yourself so you don't feel like all the other hustlers out there, which for many of us feels important in the beginning, the differentiation. As time goes by, if you stick with it, your rules change. So, will that "young man" continue to be so limited? Maybe, but not for long or he will stay a low-earner. More likely he will quit or expand his parameters.

One of my very few unhappy experiences escorting was with someone rich, good looking, and young. It was the "and young" that got under my skin. When you're young and an older rich guy hires you, it's easy to imagine (delude) yourself becoming rich someday, if that's what you want, because you're young and there's time. If the client is older and rich and good looking, it makes you look forward to also being rich and older and good looking. But one night at the Hotel Bel AIre in the late '90s I had my first beautiful, rich, and young client. I was emotional (resentful) for days because I could never be those three things. Prick. (just checked my journal: he was a very nice guy. Prick.)