MrMattBig

Let's get to September at least! I swear summer is under attack. When I was in K-12 school started the Tuesday after labor day. Here in Vegas school started 2 weeks ago!

Sadly, no one reads ads anymore. Sigh. I have my rate in my ad headline. It is 9am, and I am 3-for-3 of people asking what my rate is. Mini rant over.

Using "like" in this way is referred to as valley girl talk sometimes as it is predominantly a southern California thing. Not necessarily a Millennial thing, but I can see many regardless of geographical position talking this way because of cultural appropriation. After all, who wouldn't want the perfect weather of sunny Southern California??

I usually shoot on myself and pray I don't hit my eyes sometime lol ? then either hope in the shower or use a warm washcloth. I can't even keep paper towels out on the kitchen counter, my cats think the roll is the best toy ever.

Inspired by another thread and I have always been curious to how others feel. Do you consider 420 pnp? I rarely partake anyway, but I don't. To me pnp is all the harder drugs (ghb, extasy, Molly, coke, meth, heroine, etc)

He's most likely been scammed or shorted before. But it still seems like he was very mechanical, and was booking clients too close/double booking. Advise: splitting the payment from an escorts view is just as bad as short changing/skipping payment. I have had situations where someone offered to pay half in the beginning and the rest at the end, then said the first half was all they had...times where deception occured and they ended being a fast finisher and then only wanted to pay half after inquiring and wanting an hour. I like to read signs from people. If he said he would be right down, to me that means he should be putting on shoes grabbing the room key and out to the elevator. With a slow elevator that should be 5 minutes max. If he is running behind, he should say an estimate of how long...""sorry running behind should be down in 10 minutes". The fact that he took another 15 minutes, after saying he would be right down, and after he said let him know when you were 10 minutes away, shows me that it is mechanical for him and does not value and consider you the clients time at all. I would have called him 5 minutes after he said coming down...and if he wasn't in the elevator or saying exactly how much longer and give an explanation I would have left.

Was the hindsight to move on because the moment was spoiled by the back and forth with the payment or because it was bad service/experience?

I watch the show Criminal Minds all the time,even just for background noise or to fall asleep. While dark at times and not for everyone, it's an insightful way to understand what makes people tick and snap. It's tv, but the shows directors, writers, and actors have interviewed real FBI Behavioral Analysis Unit agents, so it's fairly realistic. I even think there might have been an episode based off this case if I remember correctly.

Overly harsh solution. In The bus depot in El Monte, California they have a set of 2 portapotties that just open the door after 10 minutes as far as I remember. And there is several count down warnings, the door doesn't open with the toilet as the first view, and you can just hit the button to close it again for another 10 minutes.

Tad bit harsh. All complaints are are problems without a path to a solution. Provide a path to solution, and a complaint becomes a obstacle in the rear view mirror. If you are a masseur, it might be best to stick to that, unless you have the patience and thick skin to navigate the escort world. In all sex work, some are better suited for whatever the know and do best. Whether it be massage, dancing/stripping, webcamming, or escorting. One of the reasons I don't dance or webcam, I get timid and self conscience with large groups watching me. I acknowledge what I am best at. Now if you want to escort, indentifying red flags is important. From what you have stated, constant communication after the appointment was set was the red flag. If it's a week out, there should only be a short back and forth about 2 days out, and then the day of when it should be the period of getting ready and travel time. Example of more red flags: I am traveling to Boston September 14th for one day. I had some contact today inquiring for that day. Semi-redflag #1: WhatsApp contact instead of sms text. He is from the US and using a US number, and I have had experiences before where others have switched from sms to Whatsapp just to know if I have read their messages. (And it turns out he went out of his way to turn his read receipts off) Semi-redflag #2: Actively asking if I am in Boston currently. My location is marked as in Las Vegas and my travel locations are clearly layed out and labeled, which means he didn't take any time to read anything about my ad. Semi-redflag #3: Says he wants to "meet me so badly". Yet does not take anytime to read anything about my ad and proceeds to ask me questions that are answered in my ad copy (top or bottom)(contradicts wanting to meet someone but no desire to learn anything about them) in addition to when I am available. Semi-redflag #4 : When he asked what time works for me, this was after I had asked him first if he has any idea what his availability would look like on that day. If he doesn't know yet he could have said so, but to counter a question with a question asking them same thing is never a good sign. Semi-redflag #5: Asking to share more pics, when I have pics on my ad. If he is concerned with them being real, he could say so, but to ask for more without voicing that concern is never a good sign. Semi-redflag #6: Again asks questions that can be answered from my ad, and further from the website that I put in my headline. He then says to say it doesn't say anything about a certain question (safe/bb), to which I reply it is in the rentmen provided description, as well as the answers to his questions are in my ad, as well as my website that is in the headline. He responded with a thumbs up. During this back and forth we set a date and time. But I am 20% confident he will come through. I am still going to keep that time open for him. I usually keep at least 2 hours between the end of one appointment and the start of the next, so because of my lack of assurance he will come through, I would probably shorten that window for other appointments if need be. And if he doesn't show like I expect, it's something I am mentally prepared for.

Exactly my thoughts! The "I don't pay for sex" comments didn't come until well into the conversation. While not familiar with cerebral palsy, the overall signs pointed to delusion and psychosis more than anything.

Pretty much exactly what I did. I made a few points and suggestions, listened and empathized with some of what he said, then eventually said I have a few other texts to attend to and quietly walked away from the conversation.

I was contacted by someone via text today who confessed that it would be doubtful that our paths would cross to meet, but still wanted to talk on the phone. I politely explained that I don't really field calls if someone is not going to make an effort to meet, and that I am not doing any Skype/Phone services till after the new year. They then proceeded to explain that they have cerebral palsy and don't pay for escorts and don't understand why anyone would. We then go back and forth with an intellectual but very disjointed back and forth "argument" on what his intentions and expectations were when he contacted me. On one hand I want to feel compassion and understanding of his displayed cognitive short comings related to the cerebral palsy. On the other hand I am screaming in my head with my sarcastic Scorpio opinion of why the f*ck would someone be on RM, search in a different city than where they are located to begin with, and then go out of their way to contact an escort with no intention of meeting, and a clear disdain or nonacceptance of those who charge or hire?? To tie it back in, as escorts our number is out there for ANYONE and EVERYONE to contact us. So when some of us vent or complain about time wasters and others who contact us, just try and remember and imagine situations like the one above and others more extreme, and imagine this was an occurrence that could happen day in and day out at all hours. How would you handle it? Some do so well ( I am currently pivoting and reading up on cerebral palsy as I type this) and with others it can build situation after situation until it becomes a "had it up to here" feeling.

Using Priceline.com is my preferred method. Some of the deals and prices are account specific and different from one person to the next. Their express deals pick the hotel for you based off the area and star rating you select. I just looked at my profile and there is a 4 star deal available in Times Square area for 102/night and a 4 star in Midtown for 116/night.

It is...but pivoting from an assumed viewpoint that pros on a4a are primarily or overwhelmingly available for massages only. And from experience those viewpoints are typically not willing to pay escort rates or compromise on an adjusted time for the amount they would pay.

Then I get sentimental too. When I first created my ad on a4a, I reconnected rather by chance and accident with someone who had hired me and my late gf together as a couple years back. When I met him recently, he had just gone through a loss too and other struggles, and the time we spent together talking and playing become very therapeutic and healing for both of us. So I am feeling less and less that a4a is a viable platform for me, but it's hard to let go after giving someone such a memorable uplifting experience.

"Wow you are totally HOT - do you ever safely top Dads or just massages" "Hi. Looking for mutual nude and mutual touch massage w release. Love to have my ass fingered during release. Love to kiss and suck if you’re up for it. If this is cool, do you host? Rate? Any other pix?" These are two examples of responses I have gotten on a4a. Clearly expecting/wanting massage+extras rather than escorting with a massage experience. @rogerG I can manage through the discomfort of a longer massage, but it can become distracting and may limit how much of a massage I can give to the next client. And I don't mind accommodating limited incomes, as long as it's reasonable and the client is ok with a possible shorter session in which everything wanted still occurs. It's $30 for a pro ad on a4a, it's not breaking the bank but it could go to jock2go or platinum boosts on Rentmen instead.

Yup, never pay until in the presence of the escort and where the action will happen. Unless the escort as a reputable reputation and that image is important to them and it's a deposit for a longer appointment. Kissing before anything starts does not, at all, ensure anyone is not law enforcement. Additionally, in your description of what you were looking for you didn't mention kissing, so honestly if the escort went out of the way to kiss you it would be careless and inconsiderate on their end. Part of an escorts job should be to feel out what the client is comfortable with too, because sometimes they might have a difficult time explaining. I have had clients who had avoided kissing on the lips because they have significant others and that's where they draw the line of how intimate they want to be with an escort, I have had BDSM clients whose limits were get penetrated with toys but not my actual cock and no oral because of agreements with significant others as well. I love kissing, but everyone should consider it's not a catch all to ensure someone is into you, it's not wanted all the time even though all parties love kissing, it won't prove its not law enforcement, and could potentially ruin the moment.

There are loonies out there for sure who I am convinced find and create scenarios just to belittle escorts or make us doubt ourselves and abilities as escorts. Shake it off. What I would have done is offered to meet for drinks or something so he could get a sense from your personality of how the session would go. Even that would be a stretch though.

Total. Classic. Scamming. Technique

No shame, different strokes and all that. Just with having broken every finger at least once and spraining both wrists in the past, any longer than a 20 or so minute massage and everything is on fire! (I do have excellent touch during those 20 minutes though!) Which is one of the reasons why I don't advertise on massage sites. So if a4a is mostly massage based clientele, I may have to abandon that platform.

Realized I wasn't completely clear as I was semi-venting. Lol. I advertise on Rentmen primarily, and have a "pro" ad on a4a. I'm not looking for massage appointments, but to use a4a as a secondary platform to advertise escort services.

I currently advertise on a4a with a "pro" ad but considering pulling it. So many clients on there are either expecting or looking for massages with extras and expecting to pay those rates. I labeled myself as a "freelancer" and not "masseur" like most other pros do on there, but still 90% of inquires are looking for massages. Question to both clients and other escorts: What types of connections do you look for and get from a4a, particularly when using or contacting a "pro" ad?

Just to through out there too that some want to only see older white clients because they ignorantly think that's the secret to making money.

Outside the price point and where responsibility of transportation lies, asking a client to provide a Lyft/Uber is a tactic used by some escorts to ensure a client is real and won't flake or ghost them once they arrive to the address. Its like a deposit, but a safer version from a client perspective because its not going into the escorts pocket and you know they are coming.