MrMattBig

In the past female sex workers had a valid but still mis-informed worry of black clients being pimps or robbing them. Today this is probably less of a worry as society progresses forward, more black men become affluent and enter into the hiring world. Now the cross over to male escorts. Most humans in general can not or will not identify reasons as to why something is. So male escorts, learning from female escorts, picked up this practice of not accepting black clients, even though the reason why didn't fully apply to them. Now fast forward to our current political and societal landscape, where race is at the forefront, and that has brought forward people's prejudices, which is only reinforced by practices that have already been in place regarding race of clients. All of it sucks, and ultimately skin color should not be an issue in escorts accepting clients. Even when accounting for the authenticity of attraction and preferences, I pretty much echo @quoththeraven with her sentiments

How many clients request or prefer to pay electronically? How many have been first time clients? Have you had any problems accepting app payments?

Curious as to what shapes other's definitions of this term. Of course I could look up and know the parameters from the internet and other sources regarding categorization of generations. I am more interested in an in your own words description. I see members refer to millennials on here periodically, so what does the term mean to each of you?

If it's in the escorts home base, it may be easier for them to be flexible depending on their personal life. So if you suddenly find yourself with some free time on short notice it would be easier for them to accommodate you that if they are traveling. If you are trying to pin something down in advance outside of 48 hours, try and provide as much details as possible, such as a day or days of the week that might work, or time of day like morning or evening. If they are nice and professional, they will do what they can to leave a window open for you two to meet.

Potential clients reply this way more and more too. By time I get somewhere I may already be booked or not available when that person wants to meet!

Shouldn't be a worry. Adequate lube and easing into activities helps, as well as overall dietary health such as hydration and fiber. If there was possible damage that healed, consider Preparation H or getting checked for hemorrhoids. I have found myself to get hemorrhoids in the past from someone being to rough with me. That could be the case as well, but with your description, even if it is it would be a minor case.

Message via a4a in Portland "If you are wanting some selfish sex time ...,not with a client.... strong possibility" And right after I had finished a hot flip session(my favorite) with a regular I haven't seen in a while. Some people really seem to think escorts don't enjoy the time we spend with clients *sigh

Like a lot of things VoiP numbers can be viewed with positives and negatives from both sides. Also both sides have tendencies to jump to conclusions and misinterpret facts relating to VoiP numbers and privacy in general. Like the provider mentioned in the OP jumping to conclusions about the OP being a flake or cop, and the way some here felt I was invading their privacy when one of the text fields on a website form asked for their name. Even though I never have asked for anyone's real name ever, just something to call another so it's not awkward.

If you did all this and he still responded the way you quoted, it seems like he is ignorant and immature more than anything. Also, as tip, if it seems like the conversation has stalled, go ahead and take the initiative to try and finalize and confirm an appointment. A lot of people on both sides nowadays either don't know how to take initiative, or are reluctant to make a commitment. Saying something like "I am able to meet today, if you are available let me know" is better than "are you still interested" or "I guess you are not interested".

From an escort point of view, I don't want an inquiring client to make judgement about how masc/fem or dominate or any other variety of things when my voice is altered from my throat being swollen from deep throating cock all day. Also, at least for me, I slur words sometimes when I am dry of mouth. Also with the abundance of robo calls, it gets really annoying answering the phone. And most clients take a providers avoidance of explicit questions or answers for legal reasons more harshly and negativity over a voice call versus text. Also, maybe a provider is somewhere where they can't take calls pertaining to the subject matter like the store or the bank, or with family.

The OP article is from a different market "Australian-headquarterd shop with an office in the UK". So for most of us here that are USA based, the article may be out of touch with our current influencer enviroment. Also, most get paid/free product for incorporating product into their lifestyle brand. For example, a makeup artist doing tutorials on YouTube, or a healthy lifestyle blogger using certain food products. It's not as in your face as "here buy this you will love it" Although some influencers are. And because of comments via social media, if you are found out or suspected of being fake with your endorsements, it could damage your career. So their is insentive to be honest. The landscape is just like escorting really. Lots try their hand at it, most fumble their way through, and some excel at it.

Very very very few(very few) potential clients take the time to read the ad copy. I snuck my rate along with my website into the headline of my ad copy, and I still get questions about my rate everyday. And every time you change the ad copy, at least on rentmen, it's subject to approval which could take several hours and possible censoring. Besides all of this, even if travel locations are in the ad copy, the profile won't show up in whichever city unless it is listed in the 6 possible travel locations.

To add to what @Shawn Monroe mentioned Rentmen only allows for up to 6 cities at a time. So if someone is planning several cities back to back, they will have less time to post up the tail end of their trip. For example I am planning 11 cities from tomorrow through September 11th. In my case some cities get a month exposure, while the back end might only get 1 week exposure. It used to be even worse when they only allowed 3 cities. If you have particular escorts on your to-do list, reach out to them if they have any plans to visit your home city or where you are traveling to if you sent your travels in advance. It could convince them to make plans once they see eager interest.

Pack mentality is everywhere, not just here, and only a relatively small amount of individuals have the mentality to do their best to avoid it. Yes, race can be a factor in our business. I had one inquiry from a Caucasian male who got upset because I don't speak Spanish and fit into his stereotype of a Hispanic provider. However, you continually ignore and dismiss the fact that the tone that you present yourself with is the reason why some "crap" on your threads. " It doesn’t matter if the message is delivered with a bow and ribbon or wrapped in foil. It’s the same message." It might be the same message, but the primary point of any message is to reach its target and be interpreted as intended, so the delivery does matter. Interpretation of the receiver ends up being the reality, regardless of how the sender views the message. I even look back at that same 411 thread about me, and realize if I had had the mind to frame my responses better, but I was still holding on to a regular world overnight job with great benefits, and probably was a bit fatigued and distracted when responding. What I was trying to communicate is that there are some actions and traits within escorts that may be circumstantial and should not be final grounds to judge the merit of an escort. And then there are some that should be. And clients and humans everywhere should be a little more open minded and inquisitive to find the difference. But if you keep lacking humility and an open mind yourself to the reality you have a hand in creating as well, you are most likely going to keep being met with the same attitude.

If I may slightly play devil's advocate. Some negativity and toxicity may come about because others don't know how to deal with the negativity that may be thrown their way first. For example, I am still a bit salty on the tone a 411 thread on me went in the past. I got torn to bits over things that got misinterpreted, things that were party due to the hosting service I was using for my website, and inexperience. But when it came to help or suggestions, it was lacking and almost all criticism without constructiveness. Some posters on that thread have since apologized personally, and I have moved on and was never really looking to defend myself to the point of becoming negative, but only explain certain circumstances. I have always been a problem solver, so when negativity is thrown my way, instead of fighting back with negativity, I figure out how to stop it in the first place. Others may do the opposite. And still others are set in their ways because of how they have been conditioned to meet negativity with negativity over the course of this cycle. To be clear I am not making excuse for anyone, because part of this job is having the ability to deal with all the negatives. But, if we were all a bit more helpful and not as quick to point blame or jump to conclusions, there would be a lot less negativity here.

Absolutely his MO. Sorry that happened to you.

I have had a few who didn't want to bear the awkwardness of waiting outside the door or in a lobby. Understandable. That though then becomes the responsibility of the client to communicate that concern and then the escort reassuring that they will accommodate their concerns.

Some use the term "flake" with reckless abandon who, seem to have a "different" view of the world. I have been called a flake after I wouldn't pull my dick out in front of the guys house, in the middle of a residential neighborhood, with people out walking their dogs. Shake it off and keep doing amazing work. As a tip, when I have a scheduled client who asks for the apt/room number in advance, I always accept its a 50/50. Those who do so often end up going MIA, play games, or cancel.

A think the unspoken sincerity behind some of the criticism here is that any new client could read what's posted here online and change their decision from a yes to a no. While not part of an ad, what is written here is still part of your brand image. And what's on the internet lives forever.

Don't say weird things like "Oh wow, you poor guy. Thank you for the reply you’re working to hard!" when a provider is not necessarily available when you want them to be.

I use Mr. Number to try and screen for any comments/warnings about new inquiries. Also, in my experience, over engagement, such as suggesting hotels, is a yellow flag at least.

I agree. Certain messages get responses certain ones don't. Certain appointments can be counted on, others book with low expectations on it actually occurring. Pivoting and being extremely flexible is also key. Recognizing when expectations should be low based off conversation, and how to mange those expectations will help with the sanity part.

Most half hour (and/or cheaper rate) inquires that I receive try to make the case that they are interested in everything but anal and are pleasuring me. But how am I supposed to cram that hot of a time into 30 minutes and leave the client satisfied?? I cant usually cum in 30 mintues or less....

The In-n-Out nostalgia....I grew up across the street from the second ever store. Surprisingly I haven't had a double double w/cheese in over a year...now I'm hungry lol ?

From the teen/punk/pop/rock days of a millennial Paramore