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In that case I just drop the kid label and call them as they are.

"Hi, saw you ad and interested in meeting. I am into mutual oral and mutual completion. If you think we could be a good match together let me know what your availability is and what your rate would be for an hour of your time." Put the ball in his court about lead time by asking his availability. He might say now, later tonight, or tomorrow. Be prepared for this and hopefully you have the luxury to be flexible with your schedule as well. Ultimately it comes down to integrity and ability from the escort to be honest about when they can deliver.

I agree that boys can fall under a creepy stereotype with all the context involved. However, we did have rentboy as a a main platform before it got shut down. I sometimes use the term kid to refer to anyone under 30 who is acting immature or stupid.

I feel the same sentiments after hiring and escorting. its reinforced my desire to only be in a polyamorous or open relationship in the future. Essentially, with someone who has a similarly altered view of normal like me. My small advice would be to consider a relationship with someone whose normal is somewhat like yours.

Nowadays there is just way too much overprotection about what kids learn and how fast they grow up. If they are old enough to understand, then they should know about things. And most of the time kids are able to understand a lot.

I don't mind pianos at restaurants. I won't actively be in a mood to seek them out either. Ideally it's where you only notice it sometimes through the meal. Overly loud and the wrong types of tunes can kill the meal.

Raindrops on roses made me laugh, dialing for dollars went over my head.

If I got hit with "doubt it" I would reply back with let me prove it to you then?

Being the worker in this type of situation in the past, a nice flirty exchange can make work feel amazing!!!!

So even more confusing...I just played with the location features. It's not obvious how to separate home vs gps without enabling active gps. You have to NOT hit save once you move your location pin manually. Then when you click the ad it still only shows the home location over the picture even when currently somewhere else, so it makes you question which is more accurate. ( I am currently in Portland, separated my home/GPS location. Went to search for my profile by searching in Portland. Found my profile in Portland. But when I clicked on it the first indication of location is still Las Vegas)

Everything you mentioned is more or less correct regarding travel locations and such. More reason why location info on RM can be confusing especially when enabling gps in effect creates an entirely different experience regarding location.

We also have absolutely no control over it. None. Intuitively, if I change my location, it should just be that, changing where I am currently located at while still being able to indicate a separate location that I call home. But the RM UI links your home location with your current location and does not separate them. There is no way to set your home location different then your current location other than enabling gps. Which can be confusing and have its own problems if currently at an outcall location.

I often get asked "what are you into". For me this question is awkward to answer, because I am literally into almost everything. I find most that ask this question are into/looking for relatively vanilla things (kissing, sucking rimming mutual touch). I find it interesting that people who contact me, whether clients or regular hookup opportunities, very rarely describe what they like first. Is there a reason to this? How many here describe what they like first or find themselves asking the other first? What answers are you expecting in return?

#findom Doesn't even have to be muscle worship. Dom/sub relationship is what it boils down to.

Actually, nipple play is covered by inference in 1b and 2b Of what @not2rowdy posted.

In the past with new inquires, this has been exactly experience with "sir" greetings probably 90 percent of the time. Hard to say for sure because j recently deleted a bunch of BS messages in the summer. When I search sir on my phone now, it's mostly witty banter from regulars.

Could also be to maintain his current diet and eating habits and not get derailed by eating out.

When you are on your way to a hot 3some, and the rideshare driver is playing Christian pop rock?‍♂️?‍♂️

I started on Craigslist, so I am sympathetic to amateur like platforms. However, those platforms will attract low quality "escorts". That statement is not a broad assumption of the quality of advertisers on the site still. It is just speaking on possibilities. More over, the definition of quality can vary from person to person. Maybe it is knowing how to ease a tight bottom to take a big dick. Maybe it's being able to take one. Maybe it's sexual stamina. Maybe it's kissing. Maybe it's massage skill. Maybe it's conversation. Maybe it's time management. The very fact that platforms like mintboys or Craigslist and Backpage in the past attract amateur providers correlates to potentially low quality providers. Because it will be less likely they will be able to deliver on all fronts related to quality as defined by those that will hire them.

There is a difference between acting on interests blindly and describing them. For example, " you available sir? Tight hole here waiting to feel that Mandingo black cock gape my hole." Versus, " saw you ad, are you available? Verbal sub here into dominate black men and like to emphasis roles with language like Mandingo, bbc, and the like. If this could be you let me know." Yes this is a service industry. Yes, if you can't stand the fire, get out of the kitchen. But hearing things phrased like the first example just rubs you the wrong way when you hear it enough, and when more times than not those inquires turn out to be fantasy texters or cheap, and than go on to demean you afterwards. I'm Hispanic, but I have experienced language like my first example with regards to kinks and bdsm often. When someone approaches me like the second example, it makes me horny. The first example makes me want a glass of wine, sit them down, and have a long talk with them about how to approach and talk to people.

To me Sir is like using Ma'am to address a woman. Sometimes it is appropriate, other times it is not and inspires a hint of contempt in who you are addressing.

Slight question for those that get right to it. I always feel worried that clients would feel slighted if the hot action leads to the big finish before the hour comes up. Not in a rush out the door way, but a so damn hot to last way for both parties. Maybe still spend the remaining time cuddling and talking. I always feel pressure to make the hour last as long as possible before finishing, but by the stories here maybe I should step on the gas a bit more at the beginning. Hmm...

I agree with the dated picture look. They don't need to be professional, but definitely better quality. I suck at taking pictures of myself too, but I can tell you lighting, angles, and background are everything. Considering PV is a tourist town it would be wise to use a more English speaking/USA know site like rentmen as well. If you wait for escorting to be profitable it will never be. It takes time, learning what works and establishing regulars. Don't throw in the towel too early by not commiting and delaying new pictures, but don't use escorting as your only income either till you establish yourself. Also, with the bachelor party that seems that it would have been a great opportunity if it was legit. Don't restrict yourself to much just because you dont like it, unless it would put you in a a bad situation, like for example with excessive drugs or alcohol. If it was going to be multiple hours, multiple people for a 1 hour fee, by all means say No. But if it was a reasonable amount and a safe atmosphere, what do you have to lose?

Start out by describing yourself in you initial message like you did in the OP " Hi there, saw your ad. I am a tall mid-30's overweight black man interested in seeing you soon. Would you be available (insert when you are looking to meet)." The ones that would have a problem would simply probably not respond. As general advice I tell people to be weary of those who can't discuss logistics in an intelligent manner. For example, if you ask if they are available today, a "yes, I will be available after 5pm" is way better than a simple "yes". For your concerns specifically you want to try and avoid those who will say yes to score the money, bit then show different colors once in person. You never know until you try so dont be afraid to reach out to those that you are really interested in. Your weight does not define you. It's only a small piece of a description, similar to your given name. If you are healthy and happy with who you are, go out and get laid! Just more of you to love!

"Yet when these men were forced to choose between straight, bisexual or gay, about three-quarters marked straight because for them bisexual, even if it is understood as “bisexual-leaning straight,” is too gay to accurately describe their identity." In my experience there have been those outside the hiring World who have taken bisexual to equal gay. Then some in the hiring world who view an escort as labeling themselves as bisexual to speak to a number of sexuality advertising strategies. I do believe bisexual has lost its meaning of a broad generally accepted meaning of being actually attracted to both sexes. I identify as pansexual, and when I first discovered that term it was like discovering fire for me for the first time lol. Just simply being attracted to both sexes (bisexuality) is not a.simple description of me. I value duality, and persons who exhibit both masculine (male) and feminine (female) characteristics. With the prefix pan meaning "all", it's a better description of me then saying I am attracted to men and women. Like the article elludes to, mostly straight is a better term to describe those who would not consider themselves as strictly straight, but wouldn't consider themselves as attracted to men on the same plain as women either. Personally I have heard more people use hetero-flexible than mostly straight. Overall, I don't think this identification is due to Millennials being more open in terms of more open to different sexual experiences, as being more honest and accurate in a world that is more accepting than yesterday. But still needing to find a identity separate from bisexual because of the close mindedness and stigma that still goes with that term.