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I remember us kids playing in the street in the summer. It was the 60's, and not many had AC. Our ball often went onto the neighbor's lawn. He and his wife used to sit on the porch every evening. One evening, Mr. got out of the chair, and came down and scooped up the ball. We didn't know what to do (back then, elders were respected). Since I lived directly across the street, I went up towards his porch and asked if we could have the ball back. Although he and his wife were not all that involved with the kids in the neighborhood, I was surprised how kind he was to toss it back to me.
 
And, to answer your question: How old do you want to live to be?
 
Till the money runs out.

I’ll do what I can to fill this information void; I’ve spent A LOT of time with Travis over the years. Hands down one of the most interesting and genuine guys you’ll ever meet. Indeed, it’s a known fact that MGM Studios once joined with HRC to forbid Travis from calling himself a “friend of Dorothy” because he has such an abundance of heart, brains, and courage that the euphemism simply didn’t fit. (Also they couldn’t picture Dorothy befriending a hooker in the woods singing “If I only had more money.”) In case you haven’t noticed my user name I’ll admit that I’m exquisitely biased; however, I’m very self aware and honest, so feel free to ask me anything. Alternatively, I can double the time for the first two gentleman who mention this forum when they book time with me and agree to post an honest review here, whether positive or negative, to help advise others. (My only stipulation is you have to have been a somewhat active member of the forum since before this topic was started, so everyone knows it’s a reliable review.) Cheers!

Me too.  Too bad i had to upgrade the phone when the second one died, and the current one now is to new to get the 3x min, text, data  that Tracfone used to give when purchasing the 1 year card.   Luckily, I would buy the 1 year card some times twice a year and the amounts would accumulate, and roll over.  I should check my balances. Haven’t done for some time.

It worked out very well! we had a great evening together and I penetrated him orally and anally. I came multiple times. 
 

I'm talking to you...

I only pay escorts to talk about things like NY vs Chicago pizza, conspiracy theories and geology. They insist on having sex with me afterwards for free. Who am I to turn them down? 🤷‍♂️

Yes I pay Gay escort for sex! Its not an issue for me! I have spent enough spoiled time in seedy gay bars! That's enough! I choose a guy! we agree on the price! and then Everyone is happy! Some people might find it pathetic! I do not think so! I am 56 now still in good shape but let's face the truth: I am not the guy I used to be and so are my ex-boyfriends! Its always to see them back ageing badly! They probably think the same about me! Lol! That's life! Life is a slayer! Never mind! I like my boys! I have the impression to be reborn when I see them so young so fresh! Yes I like GAY ESCORTS!

Personally, I think you’re going about this line of work for the wrong reasons.
Monetizing your sex life, for one. This phrase neatly summarizes the sentiment discussed in so many other threads on these forums. It just doesn’t work. A much larger number of men would do it if that’s all it took.
For another, your primary interest is in the income, not meeting needs you personally are well suited to fulfill. Nothing wrong taking a fair income for delivering high value services to a willing clientele; however, it takes a lot to provide m4m services effectively and be successful. More than looks, and certainly you need experience and talent either on the massage table, in the bedroom, or both. Plus marketing and business savvy, patience, emotional maturity, boundaries, people skills, and many other soft skills.
You’re going about it quite casually. This is serious work. To do it well IMHO, you need to do it for the right reasons (beyond a quick buck). This is about meeting very real human needs, not Grindr with the slight caveat of money changing hands. It takes empathy, compassion, and a selfless, service oriented mindset to do a good job. Missing these big picture items, you will likely burn out, and not succeed. Then you’re just another mediocre provider of many, the likes of which the men here pick apart mercilessly and publicly for both shallow and legitimate reasons. Then you inevitably fade into the background and quit 6-24 months after starting. Don’t be that guy.
To succeed and sustain, you need to keep on your best game and continue to grow and get better. A short sighted, half ass effort in this biz is immediately apparent to everyone, from the ads you post to the first impression you impart to every new client in person.
Lastly, I personally feel you are already in a much too vulnerable position being in the US on any visa, student or otherwise. It’s one thing being a US citizen and kicked out of your apartment lease because your landlord knows or suspects you are a masseur or sex worker. That sucks, but it’s quite another scale of consequence to be kicked out of the country for the same. I wouldn’t jeopardize your life. I need to refrain from saying anything further to expand this point, because it wouldn’t conform to the forum guidelines.
Be careful, is all. You already have an excellent opportunity studying here doing something you presumably have a long term goal to fulfill. I would hate to see something bad happen to you or to miss out on your dreams over a quick buck side hustle your heart was never truly into in the first place.
Just my take. Do what you will. If you want to do it anyway, some of the others here have already made some good points about not showing your face, not using your real name, taking steps for plausible deniability, shifting some risk onto others by tagging along on 4-hand gigs, etc.
There’s more to it than all that, for instance how to properly declare your income and pay taxes, and how to set up a business entity to do so legally. In the end, it’s not always about what you are actually doing, but what Uncle Sam discovers about his missing slice of your pie that catches up to you and ruins you, but that’s a whole other subject. My advice is don’t go there. Be safe. Enjoy the incredible opportunities you already have. I too was a dirt poor college student many moons ago. I was disciplined. I budgeted. I made it work. Money won’t always be so tight.

I purchased a burner phone years ago and add minutes/data as needed. All paid for with cash. I no longer carry the burner phone when traveling across the border since the US Customs and Border Protection (CBP) has the authority to search electronic devices, including cell phones, at the border without a warrant.

This level of paranoia is where I am. Like to the point I’m not planning on leaving the country any time soon. 😬

1. Convenience- hiring allows me to select a guy who can host in a convenient location at a convenient time.  No endless back and forth or messaging dozens of guys with no responses.
2. Safety- a guy with reviews on here and RM is more vetted than a stranger on an app.
3. Sexual health- providers are more likely to get tested often (and be on prep etc) as their careers depend on it.  I also have less apprehension requiring condoms since I’m the one paying and thus calling the shots.
4. Activities- I can engage in whatever (consensual) activities I like without fear of judgement or worrying about pleasing my partner (though of course I still want him to have a good time).  And their sexual prowess and experience allows them to better work with my relative inexperience.
5. Attractiveness- I can select a guy with any “look” I’m in the mood for and who would not be likely to give me time of day on an app.

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Hey guys!
Met this hottie during his visit to my city yesterday. I rarely hire these days since I travel often and can usually connect with hot guys through Grindr. I started chatting with Adam on Grindr, and after exchanging some pics, he let me know he was an escort and that he couldn’t commit to a time if a client booked—very transparent, which I appreciated.
I asked if he was on RM because his Grindr pics didn’t make it obvious. His profile there had just two pics that weren’t very impressive and only six reviews. Still, I decided to look him up here and found several glowing reviews from established members. After seeing more of his pics on Grindr, I decided to go ahead and meet him as a client.
He was exceptional with communication—very chatty, flirty, and detailed. We met pretty late, around 1–1:30 a.m. for a 1.5-hour session. And I agree with others: his RM photos don’t do him justice. In person, he’s tall, fit, and has a sexy face. And as for the voice you guys mentioned… my heart started racing the moment I heard it—deep, masculine, and incredibly hot.
Despite how late it was and how tired we both were, he was full of energy and made sure the session didn’t feel rushed. He even followed up afterwards to thank me, and texted me again tonight to say he made it home and how much enjoyed our time together which I appreciated.
In short: great escort, highly professional, and genuinely nice. He makes his clients feel special—and that’s on top of being absolutely stunning.

I understand things can happen at the last minute, but I get a little leery when I have an appointment scheduled with a provider for a time, and get a text (usually about 45 minutes or so before the time), asking can we change it to xxx time, usually 30-60 minutes later. 
I immediately get the sense he's trying to squeeze in another appointment, which irritates me. Its especially annoying when I am already on the way to the meeting.
Most recently, I've simply declined the change only to find, all of a sudden, the original time is fine. 
Thoughts? 

When I hired, I always kept in mind CAVEAT EMPTOR.
 
So, as @Epigonos and @glutes suggested, I always checked every detail ahead of a possible date.
 
I also insisted on checking the two of us were compatible by saying how limited my skills in bed were (“I’m only a top, and I’m selfish and lazy”) and saying precisely what I enjoy (“I need you to suck me off to completion”). 
As a result, some hirings never resulted in a date. But overall, my success rate was high. Over the years, I only had dates with 2 scammers who obviously just wanted to get paid the maximum for doing the minimum. 

I'm a talker by nature, so this would be a complete non-starter for me.  On the other hand, years ago I saw a provider I really liked who couldn't manage even the most basic conversation.  (It wasn't a language thing.  English was his only language.)  I found his attempts at conversation pathetic and annoying, but he was beautiful and the sex was amazing, so I learned not to talk at all.  The unexpected upside was that the sex went longer - thinking about (not talking was like thinking about baseball scores in terms of delaying orgasm.  Why I didn't adopt that as standard practice, I don't know.  At my current age, I need good conversation to fill out the hour.  

My friend used to call these guys 'dead tunas'.  He would hire a hot guy, and the experience would go just as you described. He would say, 'It was like having a dead tuna in my bed.' 
I've had a number of incredibly hot escorts like this, and honestly, I don't mind it (usually they identify as straight or 'no speak English'). They are in it for the physical aspect, not the emotional / oral communication between two people - fine with me.
If they just want to lie back and let me pleasure them and enjoy them, I find it erotic in its own way. They're all mine for an hour and I can explore every inch of their body as I please. Verbal communication is brief, but their physical communication is sexy - seeing them lie ther with their head on the pillow and their eyes are closed, but their smile and 'moans and groans' really say so much. Then they will take my head in their hands and 'guide my head' where they want me to 'work on them' (their pecks, their nipples, their dick and balls). At that point, I like to reach up and feel their muscled arms while they're holding my head. That's communication to me. As we're finishing, I guide those hands to my dick to let them know I'm ready - and watching those muscled arms jerking me off sends me over the top.

I've read discussions on similar sites to this that cater to men who see female providers where they use an acronym for Illusion-of-Passion (IOP) and write reviews with a one-to-ten score for a provider.  These overly-passive providers would get a super-low IOP score.  It seems like a useful scoring method.
They also use a taking-care-of-business (TOB) score for just how easy it is to book, get to, meet, pay, and move on from a provider.  That also seems useful.

I dont think this phenomenon is reserved to escorts. I've actually run across this with hook ups. Dudes that just lay there while you fuck 'em. One was a Calvin Klein model who I always remember as the hottest guy I ever slept with and also simultaneously, the worst hookup I've ever had.
I always refer to these as a "dead lay".

I had reached out to reviewers on RM on a provider I was interested in, and their feedback about him (enthusiasm/personality) is what convinced me to book, so I hope I was on the right track with finding a good provider. The date is upcoming but I'm really hopeful things go well.