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Hey guys!
Met this hottie during his visit to my city yesterday. I rarely hire these days since I travel often and can usually connect with hot guys through Grindr. I started chatting with Adam on Grindr, and after exchanging some pics, he let me know he was an escort and that he couldn’t commit to a time if a client booked—very transparent, which I appreciated.
I asked if he was on RM because his Grindr pics didn’t make it obvious. His profile there had just two pics that weren’t very impressive and only six reviews. Still, I decided to look him up here and found several glowing reviews from established members. After seeing more of his pics on Grindr, I decided to go ahead and meet him as a client.
He was exceptional with communication—very chatty, flirty, and detailed. We met pretty late, around 1–1:30 a.m. for a 1.5-hour session. And I agree with others: his RM photos don’t do him justice. In person, he’s tall, fit, and has a sexy face. And as for the voice you guys mentioned… my heart started racing the moment I heard it—deep, masculine, and incredibly hot.
Despite how late it was and how tired we both were, he was full of energy and made sure the session didn’t feel rushed. He even followed up afterwards to thank me, and texted me again tonight to say he made it home and how much enjoyed our time together which I appreciated.
In short: great escort, highly professional, and genuinely nice. He makes his clients feel special—and that’s on top of being absolutely stunning.

I understand things can happen at the last minute, but I get a little leery when I have an appointment scheduled with a provider for a time, and get a text (usually about 45 minutes or so before the time), asking can we change it to xxx time, usually 30-60 minutes later. 
I immediately get the sense he's trying to squeeze in another appointment, which irritates me. Its especially annoying when I am already on the way to the meeting.
Most recently, I've simply declined the change only to find, all of a sudden, the original time is fine. 
Thoughts? 

When I hired, I always kept in mind CAVEAT EMPTOR.
 
So, as @Epigonos and @glutes suggested, I always checked every detail ahead of a possible date.
 
I also insisted on checking the two of us were compatible by saying how limited my skills in bed were (“I’m only a top, and I’m selfish and lazy”) and saying precisely what I enjoy (“I need you to suck me off to completion”). 
As a result, some hirings never resulted in a date. But overall, my success rate was high. Over the years, I only had dates with 2 scammers who obviously just wanted to get paid the maximum for doing the minimum. 

I'm a talker by nature, so this would be a complete non-starter for me.  On the other hand, years ago I saw a provider I really liked who couldn't manage even the most basic conversation.  (It wasn't a language thing.  English was his only language.)  I found his attempts at conversation pathetic and annoying, but he was beautiful and the sex was amazing, so I learned not to talk at all.  The unexpected upside was that the sex went longer - thinking about (not talking was like thinking about baseball scores in terms of delaying orgasm.  Why I didn't adopt that as standard practice, I don't know.  At my current age, I need good conversation to fill out the hour.  

My friend used to call these guys 'dead tunas'.  He would hire a hot guy, and the experience would go just as you described. He would say, 'It was like having a dead tuna in my bed.' 
I've had a number of incredibly hot escorts like this, and honestly, I don't mind it (usually they identify as straight or 'no speak English'). They are in it for the physical aspect, not the emotional / oral communication between two people - fine with me.
If they just want to lie back and let me pleasure them and enjoy them, I find it erotic in its own way. They're all mine for an hour and I can explore every inch of their body as I please. Verbal communication is brief, but their physical communication is sexy - seeing them lie ther with their head on the pillow and their eyes are closed, but their smile and 'moans and groans' really say so much. Then they will take my head in their hands and 'guide my head' where they want me to 'work on them' (their pecks, their nipples, their dick and balls). At that point, I like to reach up and feel their muscled arms while they're holding my head. That's communication to me. As we're finishing, I guide those hands to my dick to let them know I'm ready - and watching those muscled arms jerking me off sends me over the top.

I've read discussions on similar sites to this that cater to men who see female providers where they use an acronym for Illusion-of-Passion (IOP) and write reviews with a one-to-ten score for a provider.  These overly-passive providers would get a super-low IOP score.  It seems like a useful scoring method.
They also use a taking-care-of-business (TOB) score for just how easy it is to book, get to, meet, pay, and move on from a provider.  That also seems useful.

I dont think this phenomenon is reserved to escorts. I've actually run across this with hook ups. Dudes that just lay there while you fuck 'em. One was a Calvin Klein model who I always remember as the hottest guy I ever slept with and also simultaneously, the worst hookup I've ever had.
I always refer to these as a "dead lay".

I had reached out to reviewers on RM on a provider I was interested in, and their feedback about him (enthusiasm/personality) is what convinced me to book, so I hope I was on the right track with finding a good provider. The date is upcoming but I'm really hopeful things go well. 

One smart tactic in finding a long term escort who stays excited to see you, pick those who smile and laugh a lot in the first few sessions.  Enthusiasm over sullenness (even a sexy sullenness) will serve you well in the long run.

What I am saying, is that for some (large) percentage of gay men, they dont consider "cuddling" or ANY interaction outside of the sex-act itself to be even remotely desirable.
So when people talk about the aloofness of providers after sex, it occurs to me that many of these guys arent even aware that friendly conversation after sex is even a thing.

Some get "worse", most get "better", others stay the same.  But, our needs change as time rolls on as well. 
In the case of a massuer, I night originally hire a guy who does wonders working out knots in my shoulders.  After months of visits, he has worked out all the knots and therefore the massage no longer feels as amazing as it did the first few times.  That's caused by my perception, not his performance.

The 9-out-of-10 providers who assure you they deliver what you’re looking for as far a BFE but don’t. And coupled with that is the lack of or unwillingness to follow up with questions about BFE expectations. I’ve grown to sense the MO – not easy to describe, but it’s a vibe that sends up at minimum a pink flag.
Also the obsession with wasting time pre-booking. Related to that is the rush to book before establishing compatibility. See above about lack of or unwillingness to follow up about expectations. These often go hand-in-hand.
The notion that an extended time together is somehow not meant to be spent “together” the whole time. That is to say, that for a part of each day the escort would intentionally not be with me while still clocking that as “time.” I’m not talking about physically being with each other every second of three days. I mean escorts who want multiple thousands of dollars for three days but feel they can get 4-6 hours of away time during each of those days.
That’s become less of an issue for me because if communication is poor prior to meeting, I simply won’t meet. It signals incompatibility for me because it’s part of what makes it compatible for me. Even if that sounds circuitous, it works for me! 

I very much prefer to have relaxed, slow-paced, good buddy-type meets...hang out, chat, kick back.....so I really like to know a real first name as part of that (better than saying, "hey, would you like a beer, CutAndHungCock?")......provider meets have ranged from real-name disclosure during pre-meet planning to a first-time provider showing me their health card (real name) when I asked about their bareback history to a polite "no" to my inquiry after a third meet.....

I should have been more prepared with a pseudonym when I started sex work.  But I don’t do well with them!  I always fuck it up and use my real name by accident. 
So Damian it is!

I use my real first name when I contact a provider. 
It just seems human to me. There is an inherent risk, but most providers are decent humans and I generally only contact men who are well reviewed here. Is that a "mistake"? Let’s just say I wouldn’t advise others to follow my lead. Especially, if they have something to loose. Even providers with good reputations here, occasionally turn out to be astoundingly evil and petty beings.
YMMV. 
 

They always tell me their real names for some reason, as I do mine. One even calls me by my childhood nickname, which he likes better than my given name. 

Absolutely . 
I have always asked providers who I have an ongoing professional relationship with, if their name is their given name or a name chosen for business purposes. I am not, however insulted if they choose to continue to keep their real name private.