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I've had similar experiences with a few providers over the years, young men needing, for a season of their lives, support from a select few clients. I enjoyed their company and attentions, knowing they would one day move on to go about the rest of their lives, wherever that took them. Sadly, only one has kept in touch, and only on an occasional basis. But I knew what I was getting into in each case, so there were never any strings attached. I've compared it to having a pet, then mourning its loss, which was always known to be inevitable. And as with a cherished pet, you're grateful for having known them and still feel a piece of you left with them. Bittersweet, like tears and chocolate. But wouldn't have missed it for the world.

One of the most brilliant and insightful posts that Bozo has seen here in a long, long, time.
Sadly, it won't sink in for the person for whom it was intended. But not for a lack of effort on your part.
Thanks for your words of wisdom.
BTC
🤡

It wasn't until recently that I woke up to this realization -- I hope it's not too late.  It's tough to change the world; it's tough to change the systems of the world; it's tough to change people around you; it's tough to change the people around you who manipulate the systems of the world to solely benefit themselves (possibly at your expenses).  The easiest thing to change in this world: MYSELF.  Therefore, I change myself.

I won’t do deposits. Never have. But, on a few occasions I have “loaned” relatively small amounts to providers that I’ve already seen before who have had the sort of life crises described above. Before I do, I always ask myself how I’ll feel if I never see it again. So far, no one has made an attempt to repay but I have subsequently been the beneficiary of more time, special treatment, access at unusual times and other perks that leave me feeling that it was worthwhile. I try to look at the big picture and there are many ways to build a relationship. Deposits, for me curtail that opportunity. 

Hi JB_Studio38/ Mocha/Jarrod_uncut (and all the other names you have had on this platform in the past- there have been many)
No. I, and my fellow client colleagues,  are not willing to be "on call" with money for you when escorting is not working out financially for you. Although I do NOT wish you or any other escort financial harm, we are not responsible for your solvency.  But to you and all escorts in the world: I'm hopeful you prosper.  You provide a wonderful service to the community.  
 
Ah, you are not satisfied with my advice? Allow me to elaborate.  You and I are both business men. Similar fields, albeit with a few differences. I'm a physician.  You are an escort.   We are both seek to ...heal our clients (or patients). As a physician I have high overhead costs in maintaining my office: support staff salaries, my office rent, my exorbitant malpractice premiums, to name a few, costs which rise yearly which is alarming & frustrating.  And just like you, before I take home one dollar, ALL my overhead MUST be paid first. Heck, I was hundreds of thousands of dollars in medical school debt before I even got paid to see my first patient! Yes, I genuinely understand your predicament.  I live it daily.  But when a business informs the client this is my fee, BUT then says, "oh, I also need a deposit", um, yah, no. Or the escort says, "Oh, I need you to pay my Uber". Also a big Nope. See, all of my overhead AND my own salary AND (this is the critical point I fear you dont understand) the cost of the lost revenue is wrapped up in the fee I charge for that office visit.  You think patients call, make an appointment to see me and don't show up? It happens DAILY. Every physician has no-shows. You think patients get a bill (after I provide them medical services) from me and always send a payment? Nope. I get patients who stiff me ALL.THE.TIME.  But that loss is factored IN to my fees.  That's Business.  I don't charge multiple fees.   I have protocols that attempt to minimize loss. For example:  two no-shows and my staff informs the patient they are discharged from the practice.  You think you are the only businessman who takes risks and experiences financial loss?  Think again.   I don't come to this platform and bitch & whine & come across as a lunatic because my patients stiff me.    Rather, I focus on my wonderful patients who stay, pay, and make it all worth while.
To all escorts: keep providing your excellent services. Stay professional.  Continue to hone your craft. Keep detailed reports of what's not working. For what's not working focus on strategies to minimize loss and maximize profit. You are an escort to make MONEY - there is nothing wrong with that! So am I.  But demanding fees (deposits or Ubers) will ultimately turn away good clients & make you seem unprofessional.   Good clients (like me) stay away from escorts like that. Including staying away from JB_Studio38/ Mocha/Jarrod_uncut. Asking for a fee makes you look sketchy.  Its a bad look. 
Love to all,
Josh
 
 

I have met him more than once. He is a really great guy, looks exactly like his photos. I think his age, though not important to me, is what he says is is. He is a lot of fun and I would recommend him to anyone. 

I have been doing escort since January. And I don’t do this full time. I still learning a few things.

But on #31 doesn’t quite represent wisdom according to dental associations.

An escorts job is to make YOU cum.
Period.
If you enjoy seeing your partner ejaculate, then I suggest you discuss that with him prior to the session's play time.

Whenever I see a new client for the first time, I always share that I am open to however he would like to spend our time together, and that I respect both his limits and desires.    I ask him to be sure to speak up and let me know if I am moving in a direction that he does not want.   I then also share that I am open to pretty much however he would like to touch and connect with me in return.   
If I have a client who is a little timid and starting to slightly touch my leg or get near my cock but not sure if he should or not, I gently embrace his hand connecting it to my body and/or my cock to let him know it is more than fine and welcome.  
I love the exchange of energy and sexuality that mutual touch creates.   It enhances my connection with a client far more that a uni-directional massage from me to him.  

I always prep and pre-lube for each client....just in case....then when he feels my pre-lubed hole, he knows I am ready for him if that is what he would like

The first time I hired a masseur for a sensual massage I didn’t know the rules and let my hands explore whatever parts of his body were in reach.  I apologized later on for being grabby and he said he would be insulted if clients *didn’t* fondle him.  I didn’t take it as license to grope anyone else but it certainly put me at ease with that particular masseur.

This is the answer 😍

Over many years, I've developed a sensitivity to allowing mutual touch to be, well, mutual. In other words, I try not to get grabby right off the bat, and allow myself to relax and let the masseur do what it is he does well. If I've chosen someone who has a good reputation and I like the way he describes his massage and I like his reviews and any communication with him, I'm intrigued to experience what HE does. I always try to choose someone who can combine therapeutic techniques with sensual and erotic touch. I try not to choose someone who is therapeutic only--OR someone who has no therapeutic skills at all and is using the massage as a means of finding escort clients. No offense to escorts--some of my best friends are or have been escorts. But I'm looking for guys who have developed their individual ways of combining massage with sensuality and eroticism.
So here's what I do--and what I DON'T do: I generally try NOT to grab and pull or interfere with his rhythm and technique. As he massages my back, I let my arms hang down the sides of the table, but I hold off touching his leg until he's done serious back and shoulder work. I just breathe into his touch. That creates a physical connection between us that is entirely in his control. It establishes that I respect him as a practitioner. And he of course can begin to "read" my body without his touch being overtly sexually charged. Once that mutual trust and respect has been established and he can see that he's got me moaning and groaning a little bit, I let my hand touch his leg. I might give it a little squeeze, but I definitely do NOT grab it--I still want HIM to be in control of where on my body he's touching me and how the massage progresses from therapeutic to to sensual. Relinquishing that kind of control is part of why I'm there. I try not to break the spell he is casting over me. I also try not touch his dick until he moves it near my hand. But once he does, I touch it and maybe hold it--but again, it's touching WITHOUT grabbing or breaking the mood. At this point he's probably massaging the inside of my thigh, maybe between my cheeks, maybe sliding his hand beneath my hips, maybe touching my balls and cock. If at that point he presses his crotch near my head, I might break the spell a little, raise my head and suck him--but just for a bit, again being careful NOT to signal that you want the massage to be over and all you want to do is cum and leave. Remember--he's not a trick and he's not just an escort--he's an erotic masseur. He's also a human being with a lot of joys and sorrows. And he's had experiences you can't even imagine. It's like a dance--but you have to let him lead. He can probably teach you a helluva lot about connecting physically, sensually, and erotically with another man. Whether it progresses further is up to the two of you. As they like to say on this board, your mileage may vary.  But if you travel far...tip accordingly.
All that to say that my advice is: Don't try to control it. Choose well. And allow yourself to let it happen. 
 

If mutual touch has not been explicit in arranging the massage I ask before touching them.  I've never had anyone say no.  I like start by lightly stroking their legs when they are within reach and go from there.  It also helps me to finish if I can fondle cock during a happy ending.  
Some providers, even though they advertise mutual touch, always seem to be positioned in a way that you'd need Orangutan arms to actually touch the fun bits. 
On the other hand, early on in my hiring history, I hired someone who thought I wasn't touching enough and he picked up my hand and placed it on his leg; later in the massage he moved his cock into my hand. 

Bisexual men understand this dance. I was always taught to be a gentlemen with the ladies and never push myself on them. Same goes for erotic massage. Make your desire known but allow your provider to make the moves.

If you go too far he will signal that to you, perhaps by moving your hand or by moving himself away from your hands. When I give massages I welcome clients touching me back, it’s great feedback. But sometimes they go too far too fast. If he’s touching me too much I might move towards his feet or out of reach so that I can slow things down a little. Touch as much as you like but be prepared for him to take charge on how much of it you can do. 

Don’t DM on instagram. Especially don’t mention paid meetings or anything similar on there. Instagram will ban suspend or ban the model’s account if they discuss such a thing on there. You’d need to move the discussion off instagram if you wanted to discuss hiring him. Similarly on Onlyfans: they will ban or suspend any creator discussing meets. 
I get guys messaging me on both my IG and OF about meeting and it’s difficult to respond to them directly. Best to contact guys for meets via their X / Twitter (they don’t care!) or via his contact number which you’ll find with a bit of simple research if he’s open for business. 

Back in the 80's when I was staying with my father in Rochester, I went to Toronto often to get a big city feel without going to New York.  The AIDS epidemic was raging here in the US, so bars and bathhouses were pretty quiet.  However, just across Lake Ontario, in Toronto, Canadians were still partying down as if it was the 70s.  It was just great to drive for two hours and be in Toronto where the bars and baths were jumping as though nobody had heard of HIV.  One time, on Boxing Day, I drove to Toronto to go to the baths.  Silly me, I didn't know that the entire country shut down and pulled in the welcome mat on Boxing Day. So, even the baths were closed. I didn't see any alternative but to turn around and drive home.  Coming back into the US, the Border Patrol guys were extremely suspicious that somebody would travel to Canada on Boxing day and even more suspicious that I would be coming from Canada on Boxing day. They searched the car, had me come into the office to answer questions.  I finally just told them I wanted to visit the gay bathhouse in Toronto, found it closed and turned and came back to the US because there wasn't a thing to do in Toronto. 

I met Shawn Brooks 2 times . First time was so intense I didn't get to enjoy it fully because I was too excited.
He takes care of his body, and the view of him from behind is priceless.
I asked for boyfriend experience and I got the crush experience: I felt like I was starting to appeal to him.
I called him back the next day but he was busy, then again the day after that because I wanted to have sex with him again.
Second night was my night : we ditched condoms this time (on my request). The lovemaking was passionate; I tried my best to satisfy him, but I was too excited and came quickly. We started again right after, but it was the same story. I hope he'll still be available next time I come.

The real story in this thread is that MCR was called out on what appears to be his repeated bullshit and then ghosted the board after another escort (Angus Steven) came out with a correlating story to Matty's.
Always two sides to a story kids.  Never take an anonymous troll at his word.
As for Matty, this guy looks like fun to me.
 
 

welcome to the forum.....that was my first worry, too, way back......visions of the local PD busting down the door......stick with people vetted here in the forum and you'll be fine......anybody with a longstanding good rep and all that......since you say you're new to this little hobby:
  https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/142802-etiquette-for-initial-communication/
https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/130365-caveats-in-hiring-please-contribute/
https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/83821-advice-for-a-newbie-please/
https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/103088-newbie-question/
https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/13389-recommendations-for-newbie/
 

Hey, thanks for bringing this up! I've only blocked 1 client after meeting so I'm assuming that's you... and the reason being you threatened to harm yourself if I didn't come over FOR FREE because you didn't currently have the funds. I responded that this kind of behavior wouldn't be tolerated and proceeded to block you. Hope that clears up any confusion!
 
Also, I'm 37yo for those asking, and I've never been concerned about hiding my age. I continue to take care good care of myself and am proud of the life experience I have thus far!
 
I wish you well.

Oh jeez.  THIS question.  🙄
I didn’t card him.  But I can say he looks exactly like his photos and is stunning in person and looks believably like the age he’s stating. 
Fit men in their 30’s and 40’s it can be impossible to discern.  But he’s definitely man not twink. 

I know him in the real world, and he 100% looks like his photos.  The physique is flawless.