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Yes and no. You never know when the winds may change on the subject of escorting. There has definitley been a movement to define all sex work as "human trafficking"..so I disagree with your confidence of your safety. It's easy enough to be discreet in documented communications by talking around things in a manner that leave a degree of denialbility. "How much does it cost to fuck you up the ass and cum in your mouth?" leaves no room for doubt in a potential prosecution.

WhatsApp isn't even remotely secure. Plus the app, once downloaded accesses ALL your data on your device and makes it ready for distribution. The app is owned by Meta (Zuckerberg) who's been making his money by working with the Government to provide Metadata spying on the general population.

Because the US spies on everyone and everything. If you believe you can use an app to avoid scrutiny you're grossly mistaken.

Thanks. That's what I thought you meant. I'm sure Lisbon is busy too...but I would assume the escort business for Brazlians would focus more on the beach ⛱️ tourism.

Interesting. I don't think I've ever noticed that profile before. Curious to hear what you find out about him.

I second the opinion of @BenjaminNicholas

Just Lisbon ? Not the Algarve ?

Does your dick feel bigger now ? 🙄

I used to go to a lot of invitation-only sex parties in NYC in the late 90s.. I remember one in particular with around fifty to sixty attendees who were all beautifully fit and good looking. Wasnt a single person in the room who wasn't incredibly desirable. I spent hours there making the rounds and had some form of sexual connection with almost every person by the end of the night. At one point I was fucking this beautiful guy on one of the beds while a dozen or so of the guys watched and jerked off. I remember the bottom guy was absolutely COVERED in cum, as everyone shot their load on him while I was cumming inside his ass. THAT was an incredible moment that was just like being in a porn movie. Very memorable sexual experience. I can leave the planet happy now. 😊

100% NEVER never discuss paying for a sex act. You say I would like to meet / pay you for your TIME. You can discuss your sexusal INTERESTS and see if they share your sexual INTERESTS. But don't make it clear that it's money for sex.

The "dangers of Rio" argument has too many threads already. No one ever agrees with the pro-Rio faction. So let's not go there. It's been discussed to death. I agree with @Quincy_7. London has a great variety of handsome providers, including some of the most handsome Brazilians.

I think this attitude feels pretty entitled to me. So perhaps a little self-refection is in order. "NOW" may mean right-now on Grindr...but when you're scheduling a professional of any sort...They will want to have an hour or two to prepare for your enjoyment.

There are more than a few guys on Rentmasseur who aren't trained and not even intuitive enough to be skilled. BUT..that said...many of those guys will not check "therapeutic" as an offering. So you shouldn't be expecting a real massage, because they are essentially admitting they aren't trained, by not offering therapy. As far as massage providers on Rent.men....its the reverse. If they don't offer "erotic massage"..then they have already announced that your expectations should be somewhere in the therapeutic to relaxing range. I've met more than one who ONLY did massage but understood the sexual desire component and told me they don't mind if I jerk off while they flex their muscles (no thanks). Over all I would say pay close attention to the offerings THERAPEUTIC & EROTIC and understand the range of services.

Well....lots of guys make it well into their 50s, still being fit. Just saying when someone hires him, they ain't getting a 30-something walking in the door.

I wonder what happened. 🤔 Back in the early 2010s there were several fit college students from Thailand in NYC who did a great massage and were very generous with the extras. I hardly see ANY listings for Thai massage anymore...(with or without the extras) and the few listings I do see are people adding "Thai" in their modalities, but with little to NO actual skill with Thai massage.

Gay Couple adopted two boys, raped them and shared paedo vids. This headline is up there with people like Jeffrey Dahmer. People that are so sick, they defy the imagination. This seems particularly disturbing for the gay community, when this sort of thing is exactly the accusation they hear when looking to adopt. I don't understand the 100 years sentence. These two men are so deeply disturbed that they can never be allowed to re-enter society. The death penalty seems completely appropriate here.

I agree. Shangri-la was the only m4m spa in NYC that actually felt clean and well run. The problem was (I haven't been for a few years) was that the guys seem to be in and out of there with a lot of turn over. The limited comments here often give me the same impression. So, without knowing a provider to book...its difficult to find a reason to return.

He's been 32 since before the pandemic.

For psychotherapy to work you need to take the therapist OUT of your "privacy" concerns. You would get nowhere without 100% honest exposure. A professional therapist doesn't judge. I've worked with a therapist for a few years who's heterosexual yet extremely understanding, professional and even "kind" and amusingly curious about the ins and outs of my very wild and sometimes over the top sexual histories. It's very comforting to work with someone you trust 100% to be understanding and supportive of every quirk. It's not a priest. They don't judge you.

I'm sure that experience has marked your sexual life in significant ways. Have you navigated that alone of reached out for professional guidance ? I was never molested as a child but have lived a fairly unconventional life, was raped twice as an adult and maintained a very unconventional sex life for decades. I never thought much about any if it, and just kept moving forward in life. I suppose my successes in other areas provided enough positive comfort that I could always table any lingering baggage. By 40 I decided I needed to sort out some of the emotional remnants of never having dealt with confused feelings and hired a psychotherapist to help navigate various conflicts and unreasonable impulses that I felt might now be disruptive to my (at that time, recent) marriage.

An escort typically charges a relatively high fee already for an hour of his time...so I don't feel obligated to tip unless he went above and beyond in his efforts. Then it's 20% to 25% . A masseur is charging less and sometimes adds more intimate services that aren't included in his fee...so definitely owed a tip...sometimes even a significant amount if the session goes from massage to full escort. In that case minimum $100 additional.

Very sorry to hear that. How old were you ?

My doctor told me to never brush my teeth before oral sex. You increase the chance of infection significantly if you've opened up a bleeding gum tissue with a vigorous brushing. Use mouthwash BEFORE your hook up in lieu of brushing.

Never wish away a good experience. Think of it this way. Life is like a good book. We turn the pages, enjoy their content and put the book on a shelf. Sometimes we read the book again and sometimes we don't. But we always remember reading it.

I don't know if I'd want to EAT him as much as I'd like to just suck the cream filling .😋