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Personally I dont have a problem with being late by 45 minutes. But ..I work in a business where I subcontract a LOT of different people and I live in NYC. So the idea of always being on time isn't realistic for a variety of reasons. If I was such a prick to people about being a little late, I wouldn't have anyone left who liked working with me.

I wasn't telling you to take HIM to dinner. I was sharing that when MY regulars are going through a rough patch, I take care of them. Same way I would any other friend. I am merely pointing out that providers are people and people have problems. Clearly this guy may be struggling to balance work with personal struggles...or maybe be dipping into the chems for comfort. In YOUR case, you are claiming he "stood you up", when in-fact he was merely asking to push back the schedule. So its not like he didnt show up at all. He explained his situation and was asking for a change of 45 minutes to the schedule. Hardly the most awful thing that's happened to your day. I would have cut the guy some slack, agreed to the later time and taken it from there. Shit happens and we all need to adjust a bit to make schedules work. If I got pissed every time a subcontractor's schedule didn't work out in MY business, I'd be locked up in an asylum by now for raging anger issues.

From the profile, it appears that the service is still an erotic massage. His "interests" include NO sexual terms (oral, anal, etc). Some providers have no problem with a happy ending but draw the line at full-on sex for sale. I can think of a few people who provide extremely erotic sessions, yet have always made it clear that oral and anal sex are not options in their repertoire.

Agreed. I feel bad for these women. Sex and the City television show was mostly a fun view and I enjoyed the show throughout most of its seasons. The "Just Like That" films are just dreadful. SJP and her husband are neighbors of mine. I would occasionally bump into Matthew while we were both walking our dogs. He's quite "normal" and friendly when you treat him as "just a neighbor". I can confirm he isn't a fan of the films himself. Says they should have left the series in memory alone.

I've met more than a few masseurs over the years who had some objections to full escorting, even though they provided erotic massage sessions. Eventually the number of regular clients asking for more is a temptation that gets them past their moral objection to the business of pounding for pay.

Delicious. Get me a spoon....I want to eat him up.

🤔 Was he supposed to get over his personal problems faster so you could get off at your scheduled time ? 🤔🤔🤔 Sometimes certain people forget that escorting is a very personal and emotional business. A little sympathy and understanding for providers when they've hit a rough patch in life would be expected. Personally, if a regular provider told me he'd been going through some bad times, I would have offered to take him to dinner, let him vent and paid him for his time without expecting "service" in return.

Exactly. Mine is low. So I dont discuss paying for sex with someone I haven't yet fucked. MY usual repertoire is to hire for "erotic massage". Explain what "interests" we have in common and let them do their thing. If I feel there's a nice vibe and the guy has some skill...THEN I ask about S*E*X for hire. At that point if you're sitting there with a cop who just jerked you off and licked your ass..hes got some serious 'splainin to do back at the precinct.

My advice (like a broken record). NEVER discuss sex for money. Tell them you are interested in their profile. Tell them you thought they were attractive. Tell them you have several "interests" in common. (If they list sexual interests) ..and tell them you would love to meet. Its NOT illegal to pay people for their company. It IS illegal to pay them to suck your dick or fuck you up the ass. So as long as you don't ask for that business arrangement directly, you cant be arrested. (And even if you are for some bizarre reason... they dont have a valid case. )

🤔 Why ? I wouldn't pay this guy to mow my lawn, let alone, suck my 'd'

I have visited all the mansions. My personal favorite was "The Elms". The Breakers is incredible...but also so over the top its obnoxious. The Elms is a more elegant (but also impressive) mansion from the period. You can buy a day pass from the historical society that lets you visit several of the mansions. Many include guided tours and some allow you to wander around and see the spaces at your own pace. The oldest synagogue in the country is in Newport. There are several museums of art, and numerous historic landmarks. The port area is full of great seafood restaurants, live music venues and shops (and good icecream).

If you enjoy history, then you will love Newport. SO many interesting sites to visit.

We go every year. I dont share this opinion with @Charlie As far as it being a place to hook up with hot gays. I can't say that I would recommend. Ive checked my Grindr (mostly out of curiosity) and the selection is weak) The nearby gay-romp village of Provincetown probably draws off all the local talent. Nevertheless, Im not there to hook up, but to relax and enjoy the beauty of this little sea side town. "The Cliffside Inn" is a fantastic five star Bed & Breakfast in a quiet residential part of town. Walking distance from the hustle and bustle of the Port's nighttime entertainment. The cliff walk is a beautiful way to see the many turn of the century mansions from the outside or you can tour any of the nine properties run by the Preservation Society. All of this is accessible by foot (recommnded) as you stroll through some of the most beautiful neighborhoods of private mansions, or take the free shuttle bus. Loads of museums great restaurants, live music, pubs and shops surround the old port. We love it there. Have visited many times.

Cute guy. Nice smile. Body seems to have a fluctuation from fit to a bit more fatty. So...yet another profile with photos from a range of time periods. (Look how hot... I USED TO BE).

Its always amusing when people compare their hometown rent to those of NYC. "I only pay $2K"...ok...but you live in BALTIMORE. Location*Location*Location

I get $5700/mo. for my one bedroom/one bath walk ups. So I am gonna assume this 2br/2bath with a washer dryer for only $7k is in an outer borough section of NYC.

Site says he joined in Nov.'24 and hasn't logged in since February'25

What I am saying, is that for some (large) percentage of gay men, they dont consider "cuddling" or ANY interaction outside of the sex-act itself to be even remotely desirable. So when people talk about the aloofness of providers after sex, it occurs to me that many of these guys arent even aware that friendly conversation after sex is even a thing.

My children have all been raised to prioritize trust, caring, and honesty in all relationships. Who they date, is not my business. HOW and WHY they date, definitely is.

In my experience with all my gay friends over the years....the establishment of a RELATIONSHIP tempers the fears of a LOT of parents about the homosexual lifestyle. Lots of mainstream people with little personal experience with gay men (and women) have many fears about the risks of stepping outside the lines of convention. The demonstration of a loving, caring relationship often clears the room of the kind of bias that mainstream people have about the risky, sexually charged life of many gay men. I wouldn't be quick to assume they say anything behind your back. Just accept the acceptance they have for the fact that this man makes you happy. Thats what MOST parents care about most.

You wouldn't know until you meet them. There's definitley a difference between the way most bisexual men approach their sex life than that of men who are long-term active members of the gay community. Just look at Grindr. Nobody even bothers to share a name, know anything about you or ever see you again after you share a load of semen inside each other. I am not saying there's anything wrong with this kind of behavior ..I've certainly indulged in it myself...but..I DO notice that many gay men have ZERO interest in socializing within their ring of sexual conquests. While anyone whos truly bisexual, knows that this kind of quick-hook-up is virtually unobtainable with women, (outside the world of escorts). So we (in MY opinion) tend to normalize socializing and sex as going hand-in-hand, while many gay men normalize ANONYMOUS sex as the gold standard.

Although $500 may be put of YOUR budget for frequent visits...that seems pretty reasonable for a "spectacular" passionate pounding by an exceptionally good looking provider. All my recent adventures with handsome providers were $400 and I can't say any of them were particularly memorable. Maybe for your birthday 🎂 this year, your friends can put together a trust fund to supplement the needs of your thirsty hole. So you can continue to afford such high quality service.