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I have the same opinion. Nice fellow. nice looking . .but the experience was not worth repeating.

Everyone I know who's young and single and gay living in NYC says dating is near impossible here. Most blame it on the hook-up culture, which has grown exponentially with the ease of meeting from apps. "Anonymity" is now a desirable feature of online hook ups that wraps the whole experience into an immediate environment of emotional emptiness. Share two photos / meet / fuck / leave. Most guys don't even share their name anymore, let alone open up their souls to a vulnerability that begs to see if their partner is nurturing enough to hang on to... None of these young guys ever wants someone to see who they really are. It disrupts the glamor of their Instagram feed.

Same. Tried many people who claim to provide edging, yet haven't met anyone who's actually good for many YEARS.

His interests include Bondage, fisting and piss play....the photos are of a young man who's beyond handsome. The TGTBT vibe is heavy here.

One of the most recommended providers on this site. Definitely a gem, but hardly "hidden".

If youre in a high risk group, you should not skip the Covid shot. Although it doesn't prevent you from catching Covid, it does accelerate the body's natural immune response. They have yet to find a human who doesn't make an immune response to Covid. Just that many people made the response too slowly and the virus replicated too quickly.

Its called dark humor. Some people don't have enough joy in their life to laugh at the absurdity of the world and others do.

Todd is straight?? 🤔

Might I inquire....what is in this "mix" ? ..and ...what is your cultural background as opposed to ethnic background ?

Sometimes what we seek in a relationship are too specific and too multifaceted.

You may be surprised to discover how shallow many gay male relationships really are in NYC. Many of the young guys who I know are constantly in rent-not-buy mode. Always one foot out the door and emotionally detachable in case of emergency. Gay marriage is now as common as gay divorce. Boredom is an emotion that young gay men struggle with, and have little patience for. (Yes, I am generalizing)..but the generalization is not uncommon.

Seems to be making the rounds for rich gay men with a fetish for the Kardashians.

I'm gonna tackle this question after also reading all the other commentary that's been shared. I will precede my "analysis" with an explanation. Although shared before on C.o.M., you may not know where I am coming from. When I was in my early 30's, I identified as a gay man. I started dating men after many years of exclusively dating women.(Although sexually active with both). I am sharing this information, to say that I also found dating gay men to be difficult. Although the initial connections felt "right", every situation felt transactional in the sense that I was somehow there to entertain my partner and once I no longer brought fresh excitement to the meet ups, the interest waned. I also noticed that gay men rarely have the ability to give up their hook up lifestyle even for a few months while they focus on a relationship. (I dont believe in long-term sexual monogamy, but I do feel its important as a method of imprinting during a period of focused dating with one partner). My opinion over all, is that dating gay men in NYC is problematic because there are SO many emotional distractions. Loads of parties, venues, and available dick that makes these guys dopamine-junkies. This may likely be why so many end up meth addicted, when they run out of external stimuli to keep the brain-chemical party going. The overall unpleasant result of trying to date a dopamine junkie, is ABANDONMENT. Your feelings of being "seen" by your provider were an unexpected reward in an environment where the power-of-the-purse had you in control of the moment. The comment: "why do you need to pay" was an ego burst of "you are special" commentary that your mom might have given you at five years old. So familiar patterns of feeling cherished, understood and satisfied ensued. Overall, you've managed to pick well, and have scored a true professional escort. Because these are all the feelings that a lonely person, who is frequently feeling abandoned would seek. He sounds like a keeper. When you date, you are both going to be looking for the OTHER person, to be making the effort to provide a lot of familar sensory experiences. When either of you gets lazy, (or exhausted), the magic is gone. When you HIRE an experienced professional, you are guaranteed a magic show without needing to pull a rabbit put of the hat yourself, just pull out your wallet to say thanks for a wonderful time. To be clear...ALL relationships are difficult. I ended up marrying one of my college friends (female). I never did meet a guy who I felt wouldn't ultimately abandon me when he got bored. The trick is to find someone who doesn't mind being bored with you.

Time for a new therapist.

The problem here is that this is a shifting reality. Every few years you get someone running for local office who "wants to clean up" their district. Prostitution is always a favorite target because it will fly with people from either side of the aisle,(for the most part.)

Well...I get laid plenty without hiring. So..there's THAT. As far as the frankness of my opinions being "gross"..I am aware that some may find it as such. You are free to join in that opinion. I am not everyone's cup of tea..and I dont try to be. But when I DO have a personal relationship with someone ..you will find I am actually far more kind than you may think.

I dont know about the "steroids" but totally agree this is very much typical millennial behavior. Thing is...hes over 30 ..so should be more understanding of the concept of being on time. Im guessing its more of a brain-cloud from being depressed and/or substance abuse to self medicate. Either way, my opinion stands...a little empathy required when dealing with people. Maybe 45 minutes exceeds some limits. Thats fine we all have tolerance levels. But I find the whole attitude of coming here to bash the fellow's business etiquette, while KNOWING hes going though a rough patch to be more than a little selfish and frankly gross. As @BaronArtz said. It speaks as to why some people NEED to hire to get laid.

Personally I dont have a problem with being late by 45 minutes. But ..I work in a business where I subcontract a LOT of different people and I live in NYC. So the idea of always being on time isn't realistic for a variety of reasons. If I was such a prick to people about being a little late, I wouldn't have anyone left who liked working with me.

I wasn't telling you to take HIM to dinner. I was sharing that when MY regulars are going through a rough patch, I take care of them. Same way I would any other friend. I am merely pointing out that providers are people and people have problems. Clearly this guy may be struggling to balance work with personal struggles...or maybe be dipping into the chems for comfort. In YOUR case, you are claiming he "stood you up", when in-fact he was merely asking to push back the schedule. So its not like he didnt show up at all. He explained his situation and was asking for a change of 45 minutes to the schedule. Hardly the most awful thing that's happened to your day. I would have cut the guy some slack, agreed to the later time and taken it from there. Shit happens and we all need to adjust a bit to make schedules work. If I got pissed every time a subcontractor's schedule didn't work out in MY business, I'd be locked up in an asylum by now for raging anger issues.

From the profile, it appears that the service is still an erotic massage. His "interests" include NO sexual terms (oral, anal, etc). Some providers have no problem with a happy ending but draw the line at full-on sex for sale. I can think of a few people who provide extremely erotic sessions, yet have always made it clear that oral and anal sex are not options in their repertoire.

Agreed. I feel bad for these women. Sex and the City television show was mostly a fun view and I enjoyed the show throughout most of its seasons. The "Just Like That" films are just dreadful. SJP and her husband are neighbors of mine. I would occasionally bump into Matthew while we were both walking our dogs. He's quite "normal" and friendly when you treat him as "just a neighbor". I can confirm he isn't a fan of the films himself. Says they should have left the series in memory alone.

I've met more than a few masseurs over the years who had some objections to full escorting, even though they provided erotic massage sessions. Eventually the number of regular clients asking for more is a temptation that gets them past their moral objection to the business of pounding for pay.