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Absolutely. In fact I have a brother who is straight yet effeminate to the point where people often assume he is gay. He was an art student in college and certainly knew plenty of gays but said quite confidently that there was nothing remotely appealing about it to him. I have no reason to not believe him.

My wife is a best friend from college. So she was along for the ride through much of my experimenting ...she's a trooper...and a very open minded bisexual herself. The kids are still kids ...so there is no reason to know everything about their parents sex life. They are aware that people pair off in various ways according to emotional attractions and not necessarily boy with girl every time. We teach them to focus on fidelity and empathy in all relationships.

Everyone knows what "straight acting" means. I am one of those guys who is completely turned off by effeminate/obviously homosexual men. So this definitely spoke to me and how my brain works in terms of sexual attraction.

Fuck like a bunny.

I must say I did always like the Italian boys.

I feel like I'm the only person left who hasn't bottomed for Austin Wolf. 😆

Michael Balter for Science Magazine: "Twin studies of sexual orientation have suggested varying degrees of genetic and environmental influences. But they have suffered from the limitations typical of all twin studies. These include small sample sizes and assumptions that identical and fraternal twins both have the same family environments; if identical twins are treated more similarly by their parents than fraternal twins, for example, this could be mistaken for a genetic influence. "SAME FAMILY ENVIRONMENT" is postnatal, not prenatal.

Similar for me. In high school, I was a wrestler and the guys on the team were incredibly muscular (esp.considering our young age of 16). I found the sculpting of their musculature irresistible, although I did need to resist because I thought masculine boys weren't supposed to get it on with other masculine boys. ( damn.. was I wrong ! ). My earliest memory however was my first day of Kindergarten. My mother picked me up from school and asked me how I liked school. I told her the teacher was nice, they gave us cookies and milk, and that I met a cute girl and a cute boy. She stopped me right there and sat me down and had a talk with me that sticks in my brain to this day. You can think the GIRLS are "cute", but how the boys look doesn't matter to another boy. You just like them as friends. You DON'T like them in that way. A person has very few memories from 5 years old...but that event lives in my brain to this day.

Oh..I understand completely. YOU are choosing to understand it in ONE of the meanings to make your point heard. The Prenatal environment is ONE component of the referenced "environment", not the ONLY component.

From the SAME Wikipedia page that you CHOSE TO IGNORE (I will assume - to further your point...not because you forgot to include it.) "Scientists do not know the exact cause of sexual orientation, but they theorize that it is caused by a complex interplay of genetic, hormonal and environmental influences.;

Again...thank you for trying to promote your ( out of date ) opinion. By the way...the world is round and the earth revolves around the sun, not the other way around.

Thank you for sharing @Charlie . I love hearing stories of people's journey to love.

The researcher uses 99% instead of 100% because he believes there is no absolute in human sexuality. Using the example of very heterosexual oriented men adapting to environmental issues like jail time.

Where you fall on the scale is determined by biology. Research shows that the majority of humans fall somewhere floating in the middle. This allows for the existence of a few 99% gay and 99% straight and most everyone else can be had after three strong cocktails. 😉🍸

Again. You've made your opinion heard. Unfortunately the professional psychological community doesn't appear to agree with your opinion.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with cooking wine. The only reason to use drinking wine is that it's been sitting around for a while (that won't happen in MY house) 😉or as stated above some clueless friend gifts you a bottle of swill. I keep cooking wine in stock in my pantry at all times . White, Red, Marsala and Sherry. Certain vegetable dishes are better with a splash of vermouth instead of white wine. If you don't drink then definitely buy cooking wine. It wont turn to vinegar sitting around for months.

Great looking man Why focus on exact size of a penis ? You're not at the butcher shop buying by the pound. What you see is what you get .

I believe what Brad Bowens is postulating in his article is that his observations are that humans ( amongst many other mammals ) are innately sexually fluid and that there is a genetic predisposition toward a degree of homosexuality that environmental stimuli can trigger. So yes....some people are high on the scale and given an environment where they can act upon their homosexual tendencies they choose a homosexual lifestyle. This also goes for a-sexual people who ultimately choose a non sexual lifestyle, when they are low on the scale of both homosexual or heterosexual interest. The scale is NOT as rigid as the "born this way" theory purports. But that we start out on a scale toward one end or the other, and events can affect where we end up on that scale. The likelihood of going from one end of the scale to the other is the most uncommon...but moving along the middle of the scale most common. No one is assigned a sexuality that can't be affected unless they find themselves born at the far ends of that spectrum.

Modern Psychology defines sexual orientation as fluid and environmental, not merely biological - Adolescent boys in same-sex boarding schools partake in more homoerotic relationships than those in mixed-sex schools, but do not demonstrate higher rates of homoerotic behavior as adults (Bell et al., 1981; Money, 1988). The same phenomenon at all-female colleges is common being known as “lesbian until graduation” (Diamond, 2006). In prisons women have been found to bond sexually based on the need for friendship and a relationship that is supportive and not hostile (Maeve, 1999). In settings other than forced ones such as prisons, this occurrence might partly be explained by selection (homosexual individuals might unconsciously or consciously seek such settings). However, “selection” cannot account for the observed shift to more heteroerotic behavior in other-sex settings (Bell et al., 1981; Diamond, 2006; Maeve, 1999; Money, 1988). A viable alternative explanation is that the same-sex setting activates the homoerotic dimension resulting in its expression, at least when there is significant level of motivation on that dimension. As pertains to the heteroerotic dimension, triggers such as a reproductive opportunity or alliance formation can activate this dimension. The notion that sexual orientation dimensions can be activated or deactivated aligns with research indicating that homoerotic behavior can be elicited by circumstances (Easpaig et al., 2014; Iasenza, 2010; Kennedy, 2010; McKenzie, 2010; Pedersen & Kristiansen, 2008).

Seems like a tautology I don't understand why this is complicated. I asked who on the site has made a choice. Some of the gentlemen answered that for them, there was no choice. That is a valid answer. Others told their story of it being a journey. That journey is what I'd like to hear about, and it's also interesting to understand the proportion of men here who do feel there was never a choice. I find the subject interesting, as society is shifting once again to make room for people who have evolving viewpoints on self identification. The narrative of "Born this way" is outdated psychology so it's rather shocking to me how many gays cling to that like a life raft on the Titanic. It's just not that concrete for everyone with homosexual tendencies. From The American Journal of Psychotherapy Brad Bowins, M.D., F.R.C.P.(C) Published Online:30 Apr 2018https://doi.org/10.1176/appi.psychotherapy.2016.70.3.251 While it appears that sexual orientation is dimensional, the question arises as to how many dimensions apply? Although appealing for its simplicity, a single dimension ranging from homosexual to heterosexual, as for example used by Kinsey (1948, 1953), presents some major conceptual and practical problems (Muscarella, 1999; Shively & DeCecco, 1977; Storms, 1980). To start, homosexual and heterosexual motivation must represent a tradeoff, with more of one meaning less of the other. Consequently, a bisexual individual is less hetero than a strictly heterosexual orientation, and less homo than a fully homosexual orientation. Clearly this is not the case, as many bisexuals report urges for both sexes of comparable or greater strength than strict heterosexuals and homosexuals (Shively & DeCecco, 1977; Storms, 1980). It also implies that strict homosexuals and heterosexuals must have powerful urges towards their respective sex of attraction, not accounting for a range of sexual motivation in both groups.

Yes. You've made your point previously. You view sexual orientation as biological and lifestyle as a choice. But others disagree. "Sexual Orientation" has dimensions of reality beyond biology: The dimensions consist of sexual attraction, sexual behavior, sexual fantasies, emotional preference, social preference, lifestyle preference, and self-identification,

Actually I did not. I said he was making a VALID POINT. That doesn't mean I agreed with it. Simply that he shared a perspective that is common to the way SOME people view sexual orientation, so I clarified my use of the term in context to my conversation.

Thank you for sharing your life experience. Yes, tragedy and emotional trauma can also affect a person's sexual choices. It's not just biology.

I don't come up with anything when I do a Google Image search.

I appreciate when these guys are honest about offering a handy-j So annoying when you hire someone advertises therapeutic sessions availability only to discover they have ZERO training and very limited massage skills.