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https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/sensuous-vs-erotic-massage.159134/ Up your Odds of having the Erotic Massage move further toward BFE Escort service: A: Be better-looking, hotter, younger, and more hung than the masseur.and show proof when booking. B: Pick the right man at the perfect moment. Be lucky. C: When contacting, booking, negotiating, confirming, preparing, and meeting don’t do ANYTHING that’s remotely dickish or stupid: follow directions in profile, be generous, warm, flexible, truthful, considerate, hygienic, a terrific Host or Considerate guest, and then be prepared to pay his Upgrade if the erotic massage he’s providing if is insufficiently erotic. (You might be surprised at how far his erotic massage actually goes beyond a Rub’n’tug!) Now, if you don’t think Upgrade is the right move in the moment be honest, polite, expressively grateful (tipping) and remember this is your first encounter, kind of like a mutual audition, and if the erotic connection seems real, you can book his Escort session later. You will have gotten 1st time over and now you know his skill level, and he will have high regard for your behavior as an excellent client. Worst case is that you got a good-to-great massage and some nice access to his assets, and your climax was way above average. D: See A

Recommended (7/30/20) for South Florida: GET OUT. I feel for you, a flukey time to be stuck indoors avoiding storm in a COVID hotbed! It’s likely too late to leave...Please be careful, do not get stuck in a place forcing you to hunker down with strangers...or worse yet, family.

Some escorts have been offering great service for a few years, from which they have a great rep among a stable of devoted regular clients along with their personal referrals - that can make advertising and reviews non-essential to fulfill the income level they want. Sometimes this explains a 3-yr lag in reviews, along with non-responses. Ads are only discreet reminders to regulars, not for building business. Who wouldn’t like to be able to be a preferred regular client?? $$$ (This is how certain celebrities avoid leaks... lawyers and lovers, keep one of each on retainer.)

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In the broadest of terms, the ‘sensual’ is with client undraped, consists of mostly body-work, on table or mat, with your release, and may or may not include nudity and/or mutual touching of the provider. ‘Erotic’ can be simply an enhanced version of their ‘Sensual’ with less body-work, but more contact with provider, who would more likely also be nude for all or part of service. Or it can include oral stimulation, reciprocal or not, full body contact, digital or penile penetration, or might even move to bed and basically be a full BFE. In short, the difference is whatever the provider says it is... I sometimes really want the bodywork, and other times I want more full contact and access to the masseur’s body. I think it’s best to speak via phone, say “I’m looking for something like a legit spa massage but with release” or “I’d be interested in your most interactive service - can you tell me what might look like?” The nuance in his answers may be more telling if it’s not all via text. YMMV and as 45 often says, EMJOY!!!

All in for being honest. I’m a client and I always disclose. I rarely ask if not evident in the profile. But I’m caucasian, and therefore have not been subjected to rejections and conflict based on race which is 180 degrees from the experience known by too many people of color, here and all over the place, in uncountable ways, every damn day, for centuries. The System is finally under needed scrutiny, making us all hypersensitive about how we reconcile it in ourselves in this time, and how we can act in positive ways. Professional, financial, judicial, educational, and other means of discrimination by race, have to be course-corrected immediately, with the law (remember the law?) behind the implementation of restructuring. At the same time, I believe that when seeking a personal or sexual relationship of any sort, that societal factors that MUST create change should not carry the same mandate into interpersonal arrangements, whether dinner date, spouse, partner, FB, Sugar Daddy, BoyToy, or a just nice back rub- we should all be honest with ourselves and with each other, and be allowed, without answering to outsiders, as to who and what we find attractive and suited to achieving a consensual personal relationship goal. I for one don’t find any race or ethnicity to be an exclusionary factor for any personal or sexual relationship. I think the appeal of race and ethnicity, relative to one’s self, is just one of all the parts that make up one’s “type” and can change over time. Age, height, build, coloring, voice, body hair, personality, sexual versatility, body mods, musical tastes, dick size. We ALL sort by importance of these traits and more, depending on what we’re looking for, and the exclusionary factors will shift, with additional permanence and commitment we may want - ambition, intelligence, values, culture, ethnicity and race all factors to be weighed for personal and sexual relationships. Personal sexual relationships are... personal. Obviously the bulk of personal “relationship goals” we talk about here can be met in the course of a couple hours time and a mutually agreed quid pro quo. For some, the success will absolutely depend on ticking off a few boxes chosen from a very limited menu. For clients, some will not hire unless they are assured a sizable pounding from a verbal top. For providers, some won’t be comfortable maneuvering a client who over a certain age or weight, and others will never (or always) guarantee their own climax. But as personal as the interaction feels in the moment, we need to understand that it is business as well, and it wouldn’t hurt to incorporate some better, more inclusive business practices. Perhaps we can all reflect on our standard sorting methods, and strive consciously to move ethnicity and race lower in the order of priority of exclusion when it comes to arranging the potential relationships we refer to here. Providers and clients can all honor the agreement once made: be clear about limits and expectations, payment, confirm an hour ahead, show up, on time and as represented, don’t renegotiate half way through, and all try to be as generous as possible with our respective quids and quo’s. We can be more respectful of boundaries, less dismissive of what we haven’t experienced for ourselves, be more open to new ideas and people, and we can all be kinder in the way we approach, set up and resolve our transactions, and save the filthy behavior for the bedroom, (or kitchen counter... or dungeon...or choir loft...) where it belongs.

I was there at the time, and indeed they were, (but that’s also before every man in sight had a nine inch dick..)

If you find that a sneeze guard above the cruise ship buffet makes you feel safe, wear the shield.

Finish that sentence for us. For me it’s making a perfect hard-boiled egg, and cleaning the remote.

Gee willakers, kids! My first exposure to gay porn was in a theatre in SFO in the late 70’s. The acting was non-existent, the lighting and photography (16mm) pretty poor, and the men were every kind- twink to jock to daddy. The action ranged from boring meh to crazy hot, and featured a lot of outdoor action shot on Fire Island. It was the sex education film I needed to come out. I converted a rented VHS copy of it years later into digital and still have it... Its real appeal is from the associated memory of the rush of it being my first time with all of it, and the cruisy setting of where I saw it. The stuff from that time and early 80’s was all grittier, and it became more scripted, staged and polished as videotape provided more detail, better color and lengthier format. The men became smoother, prettier, but often less engaged in the scene, with wider use of stunt dicks for closeups, as this was all pre- Viagra. Gay-for-Pay is, I think, the worst thing about porn from the 90’s on. I still watch some old-school (70-80’s) scenes that make me explode like I was young again. That said, these days I love seeing 1080p capturing talent like Nate Grimes and Sherman Maus...

It’s a question of trade-offs. I don’t hire on a regular basis. I allow myself the treat if I’ve been eating at home, avoiding online “boredom shopping”, etc. I have worked for non-profits my entire career. I’m better situated than coming generations who do the same work will be at my age. I was able to buy some rental prop in a good market, and income from that and the 401k is it. And right now, I only wear my summer diamonds. Some’re diamonds and some aren’t...

Seems so. But like they say, ‘if you push long enough and hard enough on a door that says “pull” you’ll eventually get in...’ ?

He offers massage, period, per those who’ve booked him and gotten a good massage. He offers massage, period, per those who asked what session includes, and got a disappointing reply. I’m guessing that he offers massage. Period. He probably could work at a high-end spa, but would give up control of schedule and fee-setting. Lots more providers out there, Jazboy

I used to bring my own bags, which is not permitted right now without having to step outside to bag your order. I don’t mind bagging - I always help with bagging (did help, anyway...) but the table for doing so outside the store is in full sun. I have been experiencing more pkg crushing, tearing and damaged produce and eggs since allowing store workers to do it all. Ah well. Grateful for ability to cook well, and for easy access to ingredients - right now too many in our world have neither.

I wouldn’t be surprised if it’s a legit AMW (Actor, Model, Whatever...) career that he’s after...offering legit massage and taking off clothes on basic cable does not mean anything about his sexuality, nor damage his career... which is on hold like everything else right now. Gorgeous indeed.

MikeBiDude and RodHagen understand the OP. Everyone else seems to think the OP was in a quandary about how to raise the children that will result from a single encounter...

Please don’t let us bond over common hates and dislikes... not right now...?

Please don’t let us bond over common hates and dislikes... not right now...?

Happened upon a podcast clip of two African American guys talking sex and a caller asked about this - one of the hosts said that he was uncut, and used a cotton pad or two with hydrogen peroxide swabbed all over the head and foreskin if anything seemed funky. I tried it and there’s no stinging or anything, so after a good wash if there’s an aroma give that a go

Happened upon a podcast clip of two African American guys talking sex and a caller asked about this - one of the hosts said that he was uncut, and used a cotton pad or two with hydrogen peroxide swabbed all over the head and foreskin if anything seemed funky. I tried it and there’s no stinging or anything, so after a good wash if there’s an aroma give that a go

I speak only for myself, but I consider even lame compliments part of the transaction. If the attributes being fictionalized in the moment were all true, I wouldn’t be paying to get laid, now would I? ?

You’re correct about the marketing! But most medical interpretations around prolapse are the result of accidental trauma - the notion here, of gradual and deliberate measures taken toward the control of the prolapse, is not factored in. When internal forcesapply pressure (google weightlifter + prolapse) the rectum pushes suddenly through the anus a lot of damage is done. ( Hark! Listen to your body!)

Chicago Symphony playing Mahler 2nd.

It’s a niche thing. Even guys who are real experienced with bottoming still would have to put more time and effort into isolation and control of the muscles involved, along with sheer will in the moment. It’s not “caused” by anything, it’s the result of physical effort and fun play with a partner who like seeing it. Don’t forget - the factory setting of the aperture is ‘closed’. A perma-gape would require regular extreme dilation (say, daily routine of sitting on a big cone- shaped toy and letting your weight help you down slowly and holding that stretch for a while. Thrusting action not a real factor - but slow and girthy toy play will allow both sphincter groups to be relaxed enough. Then when you “bear down” with lower abs, usually right after withdrawal of toy or hand, a small portion of the rectum will be visible, getting larger and as it passes through the anus, and will retreat once you relax. If you are not already into extreme penetration as a top, it won’t appeal. I have gotten mine to just peak out for a moment, and I haven’t been with a top who is a good coach for it- but some guys who worship hole are way into it, and know how to use play to make it more likely. Aging universally reveals new limits to your body’s elasticity, so using Kegels can help retain the factory setting of closed...

Personally I do not look for a mirrored experience, time-warped or not. When I was first out, my doppelgänger worked in a retail store I shopped. I would also see him out dancing, and my clubbing friends thought we should go out- or hook up. We never did, and I don’t regret it. My taste for older, ethnic and hairy men was there at that age, tempered by the youthful freshly-out need to say yes to everything once - or twice. If he’s decent looking, uses his writing skill well in his profile, I’ll investigate further. If he can make me laugh, he can make me come.