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Take a deep breath - it will get better.

It’s a question of % vaxxed within the provider’s community, for me. I always travel to them, and can search whatever data is available for their zip. I’m vaxxed even boosted now, but I have a close friend w/cancer treatment and I must refrain from all extended intimate proximity for Covid, cold, flu, all of it, as long as her white count is perilously low. December I’m hoping.

Please do not change the topic I am loving it B E Y O N D

Pillars = Part One. I love getting into Follett’s prose They’re all amazing! (and films will never live up to his skill of telling what’s there, and letting you imagine what’s not)

In LA

Thx @BnaC your clarification is a good one. The truth is that this entire issue does not personally impact more than a minuscule sliver of of a slice of the population. Courteous behavior in such spaces is what we all value most. All the imagined “threats”stem from cis straight men needing a culture battle to campaign on…

@nycmanI am with you. A high-pressure, language-challenging expensive dinner date for the first meeting? I am not a judgmental person. But that is some freaky-ass shit. 😂

Seems like this as a policy discussion is beyond full of gray areas and projections. The given, as I understand, is that there is meant to be a “safe” space for removal of one’s clothing, showering, use of sauna/steam, and adding different clothing. In a public men’s bath or changing room for example, policy should restrict entry based on “something”. But exactly what? Whose presence would pose the largest perceived “threat level” to a nude straight cis man? A straight cis woman who’s into straight cis men? Another straight cis man? A trans woman (only into cis men) who has only done top surgery? A pre-op trans woman who is pan sexual? Or is perhaps only into trans men and cis women? A trans man with completed surgeries who is into both men and women? A homosexual or bisexual cis man who is blind? Cis straight men assume that the mere sight of their nudity is enough to enflame uncontrollable passion and/or aggression in all of the above. ***So many threats to the world’s largest majority… something MUST be done to spare them damage to their virtue. *** How much necessary division is “parts possessed” and how much is “presumed desire”? Based on all of human history, cis women have the most reasonable concerns about their vulnerability with straight (or bi) cis men invading their dressing space. All the rest of the possible combos of room label, cis/trans, gender identity and sexual attraction would require closing the health club gift shop and juice bar(at least) to make enough changing/showering rooms for everyone to feel safe. Americans are so fucking weird about nudity.

Work-arounds for sex have been around forever. My fave: https://youtu.be/j8ZF_R_j0OY

At least I don’t have to worry about running into them at any of the posh estate garden parties I have been declining. As impossibility wealthy people go, H&M have done less damage to others and the world than many in their bracket. Oprah herself has wreaked more havoc, by making too many people believe they can have it all. 🤭

A debate about beach property in FL will almost always be won by principles of community regard, fair restitution, and public safety maximizations… The construction permits will nevertheless be granted them who won the bidding war to develop the lot for the highest profit. (SoCA coast has same issues… Has there been more um… digging… into the recent construction immediately to the south of the fallen structure, and whether that may have accidentally contributed to the bottom-up failure? Would that investigation introduce limitations on use? I hope survivors will get everything they demand, first. Will be interesting to watch. Online. (Never going to FL aside from a couple inevitable funerals…)

A friend about age 45, incredibly fit and handsome (a working pro dancer) said some friends took him to one and he felt like he might as well have been using a walker and flip phone.

Sorry that you got hosed in learning this lesson, @HoseMaster Hearing about this is a good reminder to us clients, that dating is a reciprocal arrangement, and hiring is not. Spending time with vs spending money on. Understandably it’s easy to let the nice feelings muck up one’s spidey senses about the business part. He admitted that he has a boyfriend, so he was clear that you were definitely not that. He’s charged you that amount …to watch …Netflix? The relation you have (had) to him is your custom, and he was never interested in keeping even that. That he began with the “last minute flat tire” speaks to his premeditation in taking advantage. Members have correctly pointed out that in LA we have many other options available. Take that to heart. Delete and block his number, and don’t retell this event to any provider you spend time with/money on. Dating is time with, hiring is money on. You’ll be fine going forward.

I have. It’s almost like a trusted doctor or dentist that retires, leaving you feeling vulnerable because of the personal nature of your sessions. The business he runs cannot post a “closed” sign on a door, so all the clients who approach him will likely be be told individually, making the news seem more personal than he intended. There’s a dozen different reasons he may be turning even long-time clients away. A good find for massage is rare, so your frustration is just. Try a local spa if needing immediate bodywork, and keep your eye on new ads that might catch your eye…

@Jarrod_Uncut did describe the man as a “good client/friend”. If that’s a sincere description, then he certainly knows that this client friend tends to lose control when substances are involved, and yet his main concern in the narrative is his own professional/ personal embarrassment of the behavior, and liability if this guy has an accident, rather than any genuine concern for the safety of his friend and others. Every adult out socializing, who may accept any offers of alcohol or drugs, is responsible for their own behavior, and should not burden unwilling “provider/friends” with being their caretaker. If a client has money to hire, he has money to get himself home. It’s not that hard. Especially that late when… It’s Not That Hard. I bet most experienced providers have a plan that factors in such variables, and can resourcefully balance their own safety with that of their companions. It does make for good drama, though.

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I once gave an epic blowjob to a guy I was sooooo into, when he was on the (landline) phone with his friend. His penis was perfect for sucking, but… he kept up high engagement with the phone. Whatever you think might happen as a guy has his brain turnt elsewhere while you service him, neither of you is likely to have as good a time. Tease him. Strip for him. Touch him. Quietly jerk him (and yourself?) until his hormonal urges tell him the distraction is over. Then shove your face all the way down, rewarding him for acknowledging you over the fucking game.

I hated communal nudity at school for showering in jr high and high school. But, I figured out NOT showering was a larger problem for me than trying to hide myself, so I did adjust, got myself clean, and haven’t had a problem since. There’s always better bodies on display, but there’s always worse too. I do remember that there were a couple of guys who had repeated a grade or two, pushing evidence of puberty ahead of the rest of us. In addition to acne and muscles, one had a pendulum, and the other a beautiful hairy chest and ass… Nudity in the US has, over time, been forced into a singular association with improper sex, creating a phobia about our own bodies when we’re young - the “right to have privacy” for simply being nude has distorted further our prudery to where all nudity equals sex, so now, that casualness described in earlier posts (no one cares) when everyone is nude, no longer serves as a key to understanding that nudity is not weird and scary if you practice the golden rule: stare not, lest ye be stared at. We’re all born naked, everything after that is drag. The whole “zero tolerance” mentality of parents has done no good for kids, especially regarding nudity. I had taken my mom to see an opera and there turned out to be both male and female full Monty. It took a lot of discussion after to get her to understand that in this story it was not “disrobing for sex”, it was to illustrate extreme (emotional) vulnerability of the character in the situation. When at a gym or spa or any public changing area now, I am never a show off, nor a creepy ogler. It doesn’t mean I emerge without some memories… And tbh I would prefer to swim only in the buff. It just feels better.

The success in the landing of a really dark joke is a common understanding of what’s right and wrong.

Look at my dogs. Each also has a distinctive mark. Unforgeable. 😜

Surprising for me, on both (historic) occasions was my own voracious display, like I’d been without for years. sensing only with my mouth that there was a mutual synced urgency in the anonymity of it. Swallowed it all both times. One or more watchers each time, also new for me. Now? Nope. Too many other STI’s still out there for anon.

Post …wait, what?? I still want a session with him and may take the plunge.

A great way to practice techniques is to sneak up behind a seated coworker and just start rubbing the neck and shoulders, talking about how tight they feel, and offering to sit under their work surface and rub their bare feet. Then, at your next job… 🥴

I used to believe that longevity was achieved by only through the deepest understanding of your spouse. The pandemic helped me to see that “please” and “thank you” need to be there every day, along with laughing together at least 3 times a day. Deep understanding of one another’s struggles fears and joys is part of it, but without courtesy and fun being consciously kept alive in the house, the weight of the world right now can crush the happiness into a paste of “why bother?”

I wish mine were hard-wired. Decent bluetooth count? They’re larger than average, but not the sort of sensitive to make me hard instantly or drive me over the brink of climax.