Wolfer

Yes, I was just reminded how important it is to confirm every single thing you'd like to do with the escort. I recently hired a guy based on excellent reviews, many of which stated that "he treats you like a lover, like a boyfriend". So, instead of my usual question of "cuddling nude after sex" I omitted this since I thought it was a given since so many reviewers were referencing (what seemed to me) a very affectionate type of guy. It was a disaster. He was friendly and smiley but zero affectionate. He didn't touch me till we were on the bed and then proceeded to rush through sex as if it couldn't end fast enough. After he came he wouldn't touch me anymore, threw on his clothes and was on his phone. I asked if we could cuddle after which he lay on the bed with his clothes on. When I asked if we could cuddle naked he said he had volleyball practice (his reason for having his clothes on), when I asked again if we could really not cuddle naked he said: "I don't do romance, only sex. Romance is for the boyfriend." Imagine what you would like a boyfriend to do with you, then make a checklist (but as short and as to the point as possible), send this in your first text to the escort and ask them if all of it is good for them. And also ask them to confirm it is all okay for them. Like Oaktown said, nothing is a given in this hobby. Guys have different rules, limitations, ... Some escorts are really good in writing this in their ad text but I've found those are the exceptions. So, check, check, check. If the guy gets annoyed when you ask him to confirm, move on immediately. I always include the question: "Can we cuddle nude on the bed after sex and talk some?"

Yay!! Hope you're having a great time.

40 dollars for entree of bruschetta, main course pizza Margharita and Tiramisu for dessert. I was flummoxed. This was in Belgium. If you go to a small restaurant in Italy you can have all that for about 20-25 dollars.

You're right, London does have a different price bracket than other places I've hired in Europe. I only hired in London twice and I think I paid 220 pounds for the first hour (it was multi-hour session), which would have been 250 euro. (This was 2015) So about the same. (And also what I meant with not making the distinction is because I don't include London/UK in the broader European market for escort services in my head, apparently. )

My experience has been that you only really get to learn how compatible you are when you're actually living together. I remember when I was in college there were several couples (some older than me at the time) that had been together for years but always living apart. All of them broke up shortly after moving in together. My ex-husband and I moved in together after about two or three months.

True, I didn't make that distinction because when I lived in London the British actually called the mainland Europe, they didn't include the UK in Europe. Which I always found to be highly amusing. I always said to them: "You know you're part of Europe, right?" In France and Belgium 150 is also the most commonly quoted fee.

Since I hire mainly in Europe, my price range is different. Mine is between 100-150 euro (120-180 dollars) for an hour. I don't go over 150 because there is no consistent correlation between a high(er) fee and a higher level of service and 150 is the most common market price here. Under 100 makes me wonder if the guy is just testing the waters, not taking it seriously or something else...

If an escort's stated fee is outside my budget I just thank them, say it's out of my budget and move on. No one has ever come back with a counter offer and I would not accept one even if it was offered. Because I feel the escort's rate is their rate and them lowering it would make me worry if they would also lower the quality of their service accordingly. Or be resentful of me because I'm the client they have to take on 'cause rent is due or any other thing that might make me regret having accepted the counter offer... In all my hires only two times was I offered a discount (both on overnights) and both those experienced turned out not great (one was downright horrible). So that's really made me cautious on negotiating fees. In the sense that I don't negotiate them at all. I just state the amount of time I want to spend and let them state their fee. If it's more than I can budget, I move on. To be honest, if I would have been on the receiving end of that particular conversation, it would have been a red flag if you'd opened up the fee conversation (because of the previous bad experiences) and the half hour offer would honestly have left me with a bad aftertaste. Because to me it would come across like taking on a quicky, like easy cash. That I'd get shoved in between your barber and gym appointments. Come in the door, pump 'n' dump, grab the cash, bye! I would not have accepted the half hour offer either for those reasons, even if it had been in my budget to do so. But then I have self-esteem issues and I blow all my cash on hiring people to make me believe I'm worth loving. (Yes, I'm in therapy for that.) So I might overreact a little. I need a hug now. (Way to make this about you, Wolfer, back on topic now!)

Since the recent Facebook privacy scandal Instagram has changed their API. Coincidentally when this happened I have been unable to get any hits with Google reverse image search. Even when doing a test with my own pictures which I know are online. It seems that Google no longer indexes Instagram pictures (or is unable to).

Wait, Friendboy actually has a toggable tag on the profile for this?? That's... Well. Okay. I mean, sure if a guy just mentions it in his ad. But the platform providing it... Okay, well, know your market, I guess.

Oooh, so excited for you! Have fun! In my experience all the Latin men from South America I had sessions with were all very enthusiastic and passionate kissers wih tongue and very deep. I do think that all the guys, except one who identified as bi, I had a session with were actually gay. Of the three non-Latins I had it was as follows: Romanian: bi, kissed dry, no tongue but did seem to enjoy it. He was actually a really nice guy. Egyptian: kissed with tongue but his style of kissing wasn't compatible with mine Moroccon: gay and nice kisser Ask if they kiss, then ask to show you. Some guys will French kiss you right on the spot. Others will say they only do it in the cabin. If that's the case, and no kissing is a dealbreaker for you, I told a guy before going into the cabin that if he didn't kiss our session would not go through and I would not pay. Seems blunt, but communication is very important. Try to find Raphael. He's a great guy. Great kisser, friendly, sexy and fully vers (he bottomed for me). Pictures of him were posted earlier in this thread. He usually arrives between 4 and 5pm. He was the tallest guy there so he's hard to miss. I had a, what I thought was very cute, moment with one of the guys. We were intensily cuddling and I ask if he's gay. And he slightly surprised said: "Yes, I'm gay. Can't you tell I'm gay? Don't I look gay?" I assured him that, yes, I could he tell was gay. I was so endeared by this 'cause usually guys get offended if they are perceived to be displaying gay characteristics (because it's not considered masculine). I cuddled him even more after that.

What's SA? Do you mean you use these three primarily to find escorts and you end up paying between 150-200? I'm interested on how you approach escorts on Grindr, or do they hit you up?

Rentmasseur is operated by the same company as Rentmen. Since Rentmen doesn't ask for an ID, maybe Rentmasseur doesn't either.

I recently saw an ad on Hunqz with the tagline: "Hot muscular jock for same." I thought "I think he's in the wrong section of the site..."

I prefer upbeat movies. "Love, Simon" just warms my heart. Sure, it may be a bit of fantasy given that almost every single person in that movie (re)acts maturely and emotionally appropriate and supportive. But to me it was a much needed breath of fresh air amongst all the usual drama that is the queer coming of age films. What is really important for me about the movie, though, is that it gives people a template on how you can respond in a situation like that that is supportive and positive. If you like comedies, I highly, HIGHLY recommend "4th Man Out" (available on Netflix). It's about a gay guy coming out to his lifelong best friends. The movie focuses on the friendship and the clumsy fumbling (but funny and endearing) actions his straight friends go through in order to try and be a good friend to the gay guy. "GBF" is nice, but not as memorable for me as "4th Man Out". It lacked strong comedic elements. And these aren't strictly coming-of-age movies but I really like them: "First Period", it's a parody on the '80's teen coming of age movies (think "sixteen candles") and the two leads are men in drag (Lance Bass's hunky boyfriend is also in it). The script is so chock full of jokes you hardly catch them all on the first viewing. "Were the World Mine". A beautiful musical movie about a high school kid that DOESN'T allow himself to be bullied. One who fights back and has a backbone. The songs are ethereal and the story is magical. I've seen it many times. I have to be honest, I hated "Call Me By Your Name". That relationship to me was bordering on emotional abuse (from the older guy to the younger one). And just felt like gay clickbait. I don't even remember seeing any gay sex in there yet we see tits and vagina and straight sex? Not that there has to be gay sex in a movie but it was odd that they didn't show anything gay as explicitly as they did like the straight sex scene in the movie. The older guy to me came across as an absolute asshole and manipulative. Not a single endearing moment in that movie for me.

I really like Durex Real Feeling. They're more expensive and their use-by date is a lot shorter than other condoms but they feel really nice, both for the top and bottom. They feel softer and smoother and seem to have much less friction.

For a while now I've wanted to hire a guy to accompany me to a private sauna. Just the two of us and the hottub, dry sauna, swimming pool... A couple of hours of relaxing and fun for my Birthday.

W Well that shut me up. I assumed that the men participating in the study on the effects of HIV drugs were not going to self-report on cognitive functions. I'm gonna keep quiet now because I don't have enough knowledge on this particular subject to really engage in the discussion.

It's not that barebacking is new, obviously, it's that now that PrEP is an option, more people are open to the idea of barebacking.

I came out as naughty submissive. Which is pretty accurate. I like it if my partner takes the lead but I will not put up with anything that I don't enjoy. By simply tapping them with a finger and going "nu-uh". Or saying "I don't enjoy that". It is pretty accurate for me but only outside of the BDSM scene. I am super vanilla, so most of the questions didn't apply to me. I do identify as a submissive top and like active (but sweet) powerbottoms.

I get that sending dick pics individually might be a waste of time so why not post a couple up on their profile? I understand @thickornotatall 's wish to see the good before hiring. It is part of the service, Big dicks isn't an interest of mine so I don't really care either way, though I do appreciate having some nude pics of the escort, if only to enjoy the nice memories after our date.

I've seen more and more ads popping up lately that have no fully nude or dick pics in their profile and in their ad text it says: "Do not ask for dick/XXX pics, I do not send these". It makes me wonder... These guys realize that their dick and being nude is part of the service, right? Sure, sure, there are no rules and guarantees but... Let's not kid ourselves, a lot of clients are looking to get nude. Personally for me it doesn't matter whether I get to see their dicks in advance since for me the body, face and chemistry is so much more important (and their butt, hahaha). But unwilling to send ANY nudes? Or post them? As an escort? I find it interesting/strange, to say the least.

To me that feels a bit like a contradiction in terms? Healthcare to me means making medical care available to everyone regardless of their income. Which is how it works in Belgium. You pay 9 dollars a month and you are covered for everything that relates to mainstream medicine. For alternative medicine each healthcare company is allowed to come with its own payouts. If you are unable to pay the 9 dollars a month I think our social services pay it for you... But I'm not completely sure about that. There still is a "personal part" in medical costs here in Belgium. For instance, a visit to the GP costs 25 euro, but healthcare pays back 20 euro. The 5 euro is known as the "personal part". For more serious ailments (like cancer, for instance) the personal part is waived and everything is covered completely by healthcare (including consultations, treatments, medications, doctors and even psychotherapy during cancer treatment). (Incidentally a friend of mine had to see a GP in the US when she was travelling there. My eyes bulged when she said she had to pay 200 dollars for the consultation.) If the financing is that bad in the US, to me that's not a good system of healthcare... By the way, I'm not glorifying or flaunting the system in Belgium. I'm genuinely enjoying the discussion and hearing how it is over there and share information.

Wow, seeing you guys talk about healthcare and PrEP makes my eyes cross a little... In Belgium when it's decided that a drug is covered by healthcare it becomes a nationwide standard and all healthcare companies are required by law to provide the exact copay or benefits or whatever the term would be. Getting PrEP in Belgium is making an appointment in one of the specialized STI clinics here and you pay around 15 euro (20 dollars) a month for a bottle. All the testing and consultations are covered by healthcare, as far as I know. Or at least the biggest chunk of it. Thanks for sharing. I've not personally seen such a dramatic shift to barebacking here in Europe, even though PrEP is relatively easy to come by. But since my personal experience is very limited, I can't really make a statement either way. But I have heard stories about Berlin, for instance, where barebacking seems to be on the rise. I know it's easy to say that if you're worried about barebacking, don't do it, but when you're in the heat of the moment and your dick gets engulfed by that utter pleasure (because for instance, the bottom just slides it in without saying or asking)... It's very hard to snap out of it. That's why I've made an appointment to go on PReP. Still wanna use condoms, but I want to have that extra protection for when I find myself in a situation similar to the one described above and in my original post. The specialist I consulted about PrEP and PEP said that in a situation like that it would still be better to be on PrEP, but use it event-driven, meaning only take it when you know you're going to have sex (or there's a chance there will be). And not take it the rest of the time. He said that one PEP treatment equalled ten event-driven uses of PrEP so you'd get more mileage out of your PrEP bottle (I mean have sex more times).

Yup, on a short film I was directing. A scene took place in a barn and while location scouting the farm we were gonna use my friend (who volunteered at the farm) showed me how to milk a cow. Fun aside: we had set everything up to start filming (the actors were gonna milk the cow) when suddenly the cow decides it's time to empty her bladder, all over our cables (luckily no equipment got hit, hahaha).