Wolfer

I've been seeing more and more escorts saying they are 8 inch (or even more). Of all the escorts I've been with only one was truly nearly 8 inches (my two hands stacked on top of each other and part of his dick stuck out). The others all claimed to be 8 inches too but they were more between 6-7 inches. Having said that, all their dicks were nice! Gays on hookup apps seem disproportianally obssesed with dick size, it's like they only want to have sex with 8 inches and nothing less. So I get why guys lie, because there seems to be an unrealistic expectation of what average dick size actually is. Now 7 inches seems to be treated as a minimum instead of being big. And also, "average" does not seem to exist in the gay vernacular when it comes to describing dick size. You're either big or small. If you're average, you're deemed small. (Well, that's been my experience anyway). At some point it did come across like some guys wanted to have sex with a huge dick, no matter which guy it was attached to. Makes me wonder why they don't just go and sit on a traffic cone.

This is his rentmen: https://rent.men/raphaelaraujo

Yes! It IS him!! He is SO handsome and the only guy there that was taller I am (I love how tall he is). Very sweet and kind guy.

Is it possible that Gabriel uses the name Raphael at the sauna and online? Because I saw a guy who looked EXACTLY like the picture you posted and I asked if he was Gabriel but he said that his name was Raphael. I had two wonderful sessions with him but now I'm looking at the picture again, it IS him I'm sure. Or he has a double there...

Hmm, I just confirmed a session with him tomorrow before I saw this thread. Now I'm wondering if I should cancel. He seemed personable enough during communications and his rentmen reviews are all five stars, but one (three stars, but still recomends hiring him). The thing that gives me pause is that his Planetromeo profile is over a year old yet he hasn't got a single review on there. Knowing that escorts can just hide any review they want on their profile, this makes me wonder. Hasn't he gotten a single review on there for a whole year? Or not a single positive one? Not sure what to do at the moment.

Awesome, thanks! I arrived this afternoon.

What I find interesting is that the same escort will say "bi" on his rentmen ad, but "gay" on his planetromeo. I've seen this happen about two times now and it gives me pause. I don't contact guys that label "straight" or "ask me". I actually like it when an escort may have a bit of flamboyancy about him, 'cause that puts me at ease. But that's never happened. The guys I've met were sort of inbetween on the feminine-masculine spectrum with most of them having a bit of a shy streak about them. (Sub)consciously I will look for guys that identify as gay, because that helps my fantasy of them actually wanting to spend time with me for more than just the money. Or them actually enjoying themselves. But yeah, bi pops up enough for me too to have noticed it.

Do you know if Gabriel has an ad up on Planetromeo or Rentmen? Tried searching but couldn't seem to find him. I can't host (so can't get him from the sauna to my place) so was wondering if I could do an incall at his place (besides the sauna, I'm trying it all, hahaha).

Oh, thanks! Well, I've never been to a sauna before so thanks for letting me know.

One more question (thanks for being so helpful!). Do I book that room when I enter the sauna, or when I've found a guy to take to it? And I'll let you know if I see Lucas.

Awesome, thanks so much! Gabriel looks super hot. I'll be there from tomorrow till Sunday.

I'm loving all the contributions, by the way! Very helpful, thanks!!

You mean it's expected they stay exclusive to you or expected they are allowed other sexual partners unless exclusivity is specifically requested by the client? How much solo time do you get, on average? I would think it odd if I hired a guy for a weekend but half the time he'd be gallavanting off on his own. I've had non-escorts do that to me, and I don't enjoy it. Hahahaha. How'd he manage that? An hour or so seems what I would have in mind if I'd hire for an extended period. True, my first overnight was with a guy whom I'd previously had an afternoon session with (about 5 hours). We clicked so well that we were both very enthusiastic to do an overnight. So much so he cut his fee in half (without any prompting on my part. Well, he gave me 24 hours on 12 hours of pay). It ended up being an absolute disaster. There were other factors involved of course (he was having family issues and actually should have cancelled our overnight), but still, being with someone in a small concentrated amount of time can be very different than a longer period where your different rythms and habits come out. Thanks for sharing, this is very helpful! Do you want to be glued to a guy when you hire (either short or extended?) or am I reading a suggestion as not to expect that? But yeah, basically the seething, angry and dissapointed part is what I'm a little apprehensive about. I was doing an overnight which I had paid with some of my limited savings only to have the escort be on the phone for an hour (during our session) setting up a weeklong vacation with a super rich client and seeing the escort positively glowing about this, being completely confronted with the fact that that wasn't a possibility for me. Didn't make me feel so special. Maybe I'm better off doing shorter hires. I can get quite insatiable sexually and affectionwise in certain situations (like holidaying in a nice city and hotel) where I just wanna cuddlefuck the guy's brains out. The exception maybe would be visiting Brazil, I'd love to take an escort there who knows the language and the lay-out. I'd just be worried he'd be distracted by all the hot sexy men and forget about me, hahaha. (Well, we could solve that with threesomes. ) I've been in situations like my described fantasy with non-escorts and these were magical. Just hours and hours of cuddling, tantilizingly slow foreplay that didn't escalate. Then dinner and straight back to the bedroom for more cuddling and sexual fun.

Awesome, thanks for the info! How did you go about talking about the fee? How did you ask?

We started with a massage. :cool:

A-MAY-ZING. Cute as a button, sweet as sugar, hot as a stove and ACTUALLY A TRAINED MASSEUR. Oh, yeah, the regional differences in Dutch are so big. I still like the language, though, but English is more peotic foe me.

Precisely the answer I was anticipating. And also the reason I feel that the actual details of my mental health and diagnosis are best left to the professionals who actually see me in real life and have a full overview of my detailed medical history. I appreciate the visual pun, though, and thanks for calling me out.

I searched the forums first, so forgive me if this has been discussed before. But I couldn't directly find recent conversations (or find the ones I remember from years ago). How have your experiences been in hiring escorts for longer periods like a weekend or even for, let's say, five days of holidaying? I'm interested to hear: on longer hires (especially more than a couple of days) do you ask for exclusivity? (Like, the escort sees no other clients or doesn't pursue casual sex.) Do you give each other time-off? If so, how is that decided? How do you negotiate price? What do you get up to in a weekend? (I have a fantasy of just sleeping in, having slow, long sex. You kow the type that waxes and wanes in intensity and goes on forever. Then go out for dinner and a movie and fondle each other in the theater, hahaha.) Any other stuff you'd like to share? That said, even overnights are out of my budget right now and the only two overnights I've ever done were not good experiences. So it's more out of curiosity that I ask. I'm curious 'cause affectionwise I'm a cross between a labrador and a barnacle. I'm glued to the guy I hire so I think if I were ever to hire a guy to be a travel companion or for a weekend he'd have to almost be addicted to physical affection and cuddling to be a good match for me, I reckon.

Going off of Elizabeth Gilbert's account in her memoir, Eat, Pray, Love, before 9/11, apparently it wasn't much trouble to get a green card through marriage, even if you were undocumented at the time of. But the marriage did have to be real. This all changed after 9/11 when new laws were passed. And with the current administration all bets could be off.

Can I assume that all the guys fuck with condoms? I don't bareback so wanted to check if it's something I need to explicitely say.

To be honest, the more this certain diagnosis is mentioned of me in this thread and then the reasons why, I'm getting more and more sure I'm not bipolar. But discussing the details of how and why I think are beyond the scope of a forum discussion. I will consider what has been said and take it from there. Again thanks for the kind words and suggestions. They have really helped me. Big Belgian hug, you guys!

Depending on what part you're visiting (it's quite a big region) about a good 2-3 hour drive.

That's an interesting perspective I ahdn't thought of. And it makes sense. The literal translation of "Krankenschwester" is "sickness sister". The sister part I think may even date back to when nuns (often called sisters) were the caretakers of the ill and infirm of society. But that's just a guess on my part. ANYWAY, you guys, thanks for being interested on how my date went with the Brazilian guy in Paris (the original topic of this thread ).

As a native Dutch speaker my experience is the opposite. I've always found German words to be amusingly longwinded. Like nurse is "Krankenschwester". Saying it is a mouthful and writing is such a jumble of consonants. Don't get me wrong, I love it, but to me it feels like a very embellished language. I can't imagine Dutch being easy to learn. We have a lot of grammatical exceptions and oddities. Even I have to look up if pancake is "pannekoek" or "panneNkoek". And not to speak of the vast, VAST regional differences in usage. If I drive two hours west I can hardly understand what people are saying yet they are still, technically, speaking Dutch. German, though, really stumped with its grammar. I will concede that compared to German our grammar is a lot more simpler, it's just that we also have a lot of verbs that have special conjugations in the past tense instead of following the standard conjugation rules. So those you just have to learn by heart, can't rely on grammar rules.

Hahaha, that's what amused ME when I was in the US, but the other way around. How casual US people are about distances there. My friend would be like: "Hey, wanna have a quick visit to this hot spring spa today?" And it would be a four hour drive and he wouldn't even blink. I was like "Whaaaaaat???". If I drive four hours I'm all the way in Paris! Hahaha. Check! Have a job like that, since July. Low-stress, nice colleagues, good boss. My life is very routinized at the moment. I understand where this comes from, but I was basically born doing jazz-hands. I was in the closet for maybe about two seconds in my whole life. So nothing repressed here. But it is true what you say, when we are desperately grabbing at things it's often because we're missing something that has nothing to do with the things we're grabbing at. Thank you for these words. It does sound challenging. I guess I've gone through a similar transition (though the details are completely different): when I was married I always knew exactly who I was and since I've been single it's like all bets are off... Things I thought I knew to be certainties about me and my personality have been completely undone (and most of them for the better, I've grown as a person because of this and broadened my horizons and raised my awareness). But that doesn't take away that I feel like the ground I'm standing on is constantly shifting. This is interesting. I actually do write and perform comedy theater. Not stand-up per se, more like a type of cabaret (but it's very, very close to stand-up). It's a hobby, though, at the moment.