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Thanks, that's great to hear! I always contact through WhatsApp or text whenever possible so they get my number from the first contact. I have no problem sharing my stats, but I don't include them in my initial message because I've only had one escort ask me for them.

I prefer hiring masseurs who always give it their best, regardless if I'm a repeat client or not. I visited Utopia last month and Simon there was amazing. Massage was really nice and the table shower was great. I really like the table shower, didn't mind the plastic at all.

Ugh, my dream guy! Add in kindness and considerateness and I am a puddle on the floor. I sometimes have a strong longing to be super hot, because I think it'd make my life more fun or something. Or I'd be more accepted. But then a couple of years ago I worked really hard and finally (after years of wanting it) I got a six-pack and the lean built that goes with it. I remember looking in the mirror and just being super disappointed because I had the six-pack but inside I hadn't changed at all. The six pack didn't make me happy... And you know what attracts people? Being happy. Radiating warmth and joy and charisma. Sure, a hot ass and a big dick attract people also, but they'll have other things in mind. Which is also fine, of course, if it's the right time. But when you radiate joy people will also be looking for more than a fleeting connection, which is also nice.

Well, seems like I've stumbled in a thread of grumpy (old?) men. (I am teasing, just teasing!) I'm sure a couple of generations from now some young kids will be giving blank stares when Lady Gaga or Beyoncé get mentioned. I don't see the need to get personally offended by that. Everyone has their own interests and will like what they like. It's not an affront to society or you or the person if some random kid doesn't know one particular part of history.

I'll take all of them, including the trainer.

The television show "30 Rock" once did a whole episode about this phenomenon called the "bubble" where incredibly looking people are cut more slack and are treated nicer generally. The humor in the episode (and the reason it's called a bubble) is that the good looking guy isn't aware he's being treated differently because of his looks. He just thinks the world is super friendly in general. It's a funny episode and since being introduced to the concept I've met one or two guys who live in a bubble like that. One guy in particular was super flaky and he would always end up hurting people. But he'd always get out of trouble by looking like a sad puppy. He was totally confused when he tried that with me and it didn't work. The downside of being superhot and the advent of social media is that some people treat you like public property and make unsollicited proposals of various kinds. Is what I've seen anyway. I'm not hot enough to get that kind of attention but a friend of mine is and he has to deal with some serious personal boundary breaking a lot of the times we go out. I've stopped being his wingman because it seems I'm almost invisible when I'm out with him. It's weird to me how much value we place on just looks. Seeing comments like "You're amazing, I wanna be your friend!" on a hot guy's instagram has made me pause. Because the only thing that that wanna-be friend knew about the hot guy is... That he was hot. And I can also imagine that guy's personal message inbox blows up which can be annoying. Then I had an aquiantance who was one of the biggest asshole I'd ever met and very attractive. Two of my friends I told them that he was an asshole (and what he had done) and both friends literally said: "Yeah, but he's so hot. How can you stay mad at that face?" I very well can, thank you. Of course, if a hot guy walks by I'm one of the first to perk up and enjoy the view. Why not? But at the same time I remember that these guys are fully fledged human beings too and deserve respect and not invade their personal space uninvited just because our blood drained from our brains to our dick. Unless they wiggle their eyebrows and unzip their pants.

Actually douching is almost entirely unnecessary and could potentially not be good for your body if done frequently over a long period of time. The only part you really need to flush is the rectum, which you can do by just using an ear syringe. Do that two, three times and you'll be squeaky clean. This is because our body doesn't actually store fecal matter in the rectum, it only enters it when we're about to go number two. I used to hate and despise douching because the nozzle was too big, I'd squirt air up there and stuff... But these anal douches have too much water and too much pressure so the water flushes into your colon, washing away bacteria and not fully digested food. That's why it can sometimes take so long for the water to become clear when douching in that way because you're basically cleaning out a large part of your intestinal trac, which isn't neccessary. Unless you're gonna get fucked by a guy who's 10 inches, I guess... :rolleyes: I've used the syringe method a couple of times and it's an absolute delight. The tip goes in almost unnoticed and it's such a small amount of water it doesn't irritate at all.

I understand that, yeah. I've come across guys where I hire who actually have a set "menu" of sorts. Where the price would vary depending on what you wanted to do. But I'd rather pay a flat rate because I don't know what I'm going to be in the mood for. Unless I'd only want to cuddle. But then I might end up super horny anyway if it's nude cuddling... :cool:

I've given this some thought and have talked to bottoms about this... How can you know for yourself what you are? I did this to get more clarity about myself (I had a while where I was trying to become vers, documented on these forums by the way, hahaha). What I noticed is that bottoms told me they get completely sexually satisfied and fulfilled when bottoming and when topping it gives them almost no pleasure at all. Their first thought when they are turned on is "fuck me". When a bottom told me that I realized I really am a top: because I have all the same feelings, just in reverse. Topping a guy is so completely wholly satisfying to me while the times I've bottomed it was never as pleasurable and certainly not satisfying. When I get turned on my first thought is "I wanna fuck him". (Well, "I wanna wreck that ass," to be more precise. And also "I wanna throw him against the wall, rough him up a little". ) To me that's how you define a "true" one way or the other: what gives you utter complete sexual satisfaction and your kneejerk thoughts when you see a guy. I feel like true vers guys get to have their cake and eat it too. Another thing that's been said to me when I say I don't enjoy bottoming is that I should train more. Believe me, I did, until I started talking to bottoms who said they didn't enjoy topping. I then realized that, yes, it could be that I just don't have the wiring in my brain to enjoy bottoming and that's okay.

Aaah, gotcha! Thanks for the clarification!

That's awesome, thanks for that suggestion! I'll be keeping that in mind when I go back to the US! I would never ask that... Because that would imply (to me anyway) they'd only bottom because of the money and not any pleasure they'd get from it, which is a turn-off for me. The question "Do you bottom?" I only put in when the guy advertises as vers/top, to get an idea of how open they are to bottoming. When he advertises as vers I just state I'm a top and when he advertises as a bottom... Well, never found one till now.

I apologize if that's what you got from that, see the bolded statement from my previous post below... To me there's no difference between a truly vers guy or a true bottom because they'll have the same type of genuine gushing pleasure when getting fucked.

I ask this because I do most of my hiring in Belgium, where it is legal, so my pre-hiring chats are very straightforward, along the lines of: "Hey! I saw your profile on Rentmen. I may be interested in a date. Do you kiss with tongue? (This is very important for me). Do you bottom? (I'm a top) Can you host? What's the price? I am available this afternoon or tomorrow evening after 8pm. Thanks!" From what I can surmise from the forums is that this type of straightforward questioning in the US might be a problem? So any tips on how I can best approach this? I ask because in the past I've had some dissapointing experiences because I didn't communicate clearly enough beforehand.

Yup, I'm in the same boat. I don't like the idea of an escort that is a top in his personal life to bottom for me because, having had a boyfriend who was a real total bottom, I can see and feel the difference. Bottoms (or true vers guys) just have that particular switch in their brain that just... I can't describe it but I've begun to call it "bottom energy", because I've noticed it with all the true bottoms I've been with. It's very noticeable, it's like they get flooded with pleasure when they're getting fucked. This also drives me wild, seeing a guy lose it like that. The escorts I initially hired (and this was before I had any experience with real bottoms) were tops in their personal lifes but advertised as vers. But this is actually a turn-off for me as I get pleasure from giving pleasure. The thought of someone "grinning and bearing" it... Nope. I actually also know a guy who advertises as a vers/top but is a bottom most of the time in his personal life. Seems that advertising as a top just brings in more bussines.

How 's the selection of (muscular) latino bottoms there? From reading on the forums I get the impression it's harder to find guys that bottom? How do you check by the way, do you just ask? I'm thinking of going to Barcelona and have Thermas Sauna be on my bucket list. I've never been to a sauna before, so any advice would be nice, thanks!

Do it! Seriously, make that flaxseed lube. It is perfectly fine to use with condoms and it also contains some nutrients (or minerals or whatever they're called) that actually hydrate and heal mucuos membranes (which your anus is). Many commercial lubes have irritating agents (mostly the preservatives) that will irritate your butthole. You can store the flaxseed lube for up to a week (is what I've read) in the fridge. I would always have a slight burning feeling for days after using regular lube and using flaxseed lube I don't have it at all. Coconut oil is also a GREAT lube but you can't use it with a condom as it will deteriorate the condom's material and make it likely to rip. But if you're in a position to use it, it's amaaaaaazing as a lube.

I recently heard that Barcelona was amazing. Great beaches, hot guys all around. Has been recommended by a couple of friends vacation wise. Sexy time I have no input. HAVE FUUUUN!!

I even found a video saying how to make it: I use a lot more flax seeds. The last batch I made wasn't thick enough. I prefer it to really get thick as it slides a lot better.

Any thoughts or tips about this or how I can prevent/handle this? I do know I've been a little constipated lately and so there was a lot "backed up" so to speak... I'm taking magnesium now, which is helping a lot.

Sure! It's super easy, only there's a bit of clean-up and you have to use it the same day or the day after at the latest since it has no preservatives. You put white flaxseed into a pot, cover the whole base with a layer of flaxseed. Then add water till all the flaxseed is just floating above the base and then put it on a medium heat. Let the water lightly boil for a short while (it gets sticky really quick) until the water thickens, then take the pot off the heat. Now you scoop out any foam that's formed with a spoon and next you seperate the flaxsees from the liquid. The liquid is what's gonna be used as the lube. You put the flaxseed on a cheesecloth (or even better: a butter muslin). And then squeeze the liquid from the seeds (careful the seeds will be hot!) into a container and tadaa, you've got completely natural, super hydrating and healing lube (it has omega 6 fatty acids in it that particularly bond well with mucous membrames of our bodies!). You'll need to experiment somewhat with the heat, amount of water and how much flaxseed you use. My experience is that it gets too thick very quickly, it's best to keep it a bit more on the liquid side 'cause if it's too thick it'll be hard to seperate the liquid from the seeds. It does have a particular smell, but not a bad one. It smells like homemade cooking.

Long overdue update! SO! My ass is in pristine condition, I have gotten the all get-go from the proctologist. The only thing of note is that my sphincter muscle of my anus is apparently stronger than average. Which I don't think tops will mind too much! I do need to consciously train relaxation of my pelvic floor and anus muscles. Which a very lovely physical therapist actually taught me how to do in the hospital. All good things! And I also met a bottom guy who makes his own lube (cause he has sensitive skin like I have) and I've been making my own lube and sticking things up there and the lube is like heaven! It's silky smooth and actually hydrates your tissues (you can even use it on your face! ) There's one thing that bothered me: I douched completely before personal play-time. The water came out crystal clear. But right after play-time was done I had to go and do quite a big number two almost right after... There was only about an hour or two between the douching and the toilet break. I was a bit surprised 'cause I'd read that you can stay clean for at least a while if you douche, but maybe not if there's a new "shipment" just ready to go right before you douche? Thoughts on this?

Okay guys, so tomorrow I finally have my appointment at the hospital to get my anus thoroughly checked. Because even five weeks later, it's still burning, sore and painful. I have been having a lot of gut problems and pain these past few weeks and my doctor thinks the burning might be coming from my intestinal problems and not from a local problem. I'll know more tomorrow! I've started a very clean, high fibre diet to help my gut. Oh I do hope to be healed up soon... Last Saturday I was making out with a hot Portugese guy on the couch and I sat on his lap, straddling his legs with mine and internally I was yearning to ride his dick so hard.

I actually considered this when I was still in a relationship... But since I've been single I've come to the conclusion I want sexy time too I don't hire erotic masseurs for the same reason, when I get frisky, I want full-on sex, not just a handjob.

I'm less tall than you are (just over 6') and I've noticed that all escorts I've hired have always been shorter than me, sometimes by quite a bit. I always forget that I'm a bit taller than the average person in Belgium. It's almost become a desire to find a guy as tall or taller than me

And what if the client doesn't have a lot of self-confidence? Mind, I take extra care to never be self-deprecating and I accept (never refuse) every compliment without ever fishing for one. That doesn't take away, though, that I have almost zero sexual self-confidence and I subconsciously act like that, too. I don't carry myself very sexily nor take charge or know what to do.