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Okay, so an update. We texted back and forth a little (he's very sparse in his replies): he does bottom, gives oral but only with a condom and doesn't kiss. No kissing is a dealbreaker so I declined to book but I thanked him for getting back to me and communicating openly.

https://www.planetromeo.com/#/hunq/DIMITRI-FIT

Awesome, thanks for the advice. Sending him a reply now.

OMG I got a response from Dimitri!!!! AND I DON'T KNOW WHAT IT MEANS!! So! Sunday evening I sent him a text asking if he bottoms, French kisses and does mutual oral. Then I said if the answer to all these is yes, I'd be interested in a date. Then nothing happened (as detailed in the posts above). But today, as a response, he sent me a picture. Just ONE picture with no text... And the picture is one of him posing with his ass out and bedroom eyes that just scream "come hither" (it's a new picture even, not one that's on his ads). Soooo... What does it all mean? Why's he showing off his ass to me? I'm so turned on and confused now!!! Hahaha. How should I respond? Please, help me.

I used to call my husband "little whorefucker" endearingly. But he didn't like it. We're divorced now. Joking aside (although I did call my ex-husband that on occasion as a joke), I really don't like nicknames for my partners and don't like it when they have one for me. I always call them by their name. I acknowledge this is somewhat different than the norm. Except "babe", I like that one, IF used sparingly.

Yeah, that's been my experience too. I feel like it's become really common. Well, common knowledge at least. Don't know about the actual usage. Although when I was at a gay party when I was younger there were some friends passing around a popper in the middle of the dance floor.

I know, right?? I had been eyeing his Rentmen ad for a while, but Amsterdam is quite far for me to travel. Also, I hadn't found his PlanetRomeo ad yet so all I knew was that he was Vers/top. And then yesterday evening I saw him pop up on the Antwerp Rentmen grid I got all giddy with excitement. Until I found his Planetromeo ad. I've seen a number of guys clarify it somewhat in their ads here. They say that they're versatile but just more of a top. That's interesting, I've never heard that there are many interpretations. I've only ever seen it being interpreted as a vers guy that gravitates towards topping. Affection and oral I've always seen seperately defined (in escorts ads). That escort from the '90s makes me think about people that don't eat meat but still chicken and fish and still call themselves vegetarian. It's like: you're not a vegetarian if you're still eating fish or chicken! That just adds to the confusion! It's thanks to people like them I get offered fish or chicken at gatherings when I let people know I'm a vegetarian. (Well, I've since gone vegan so people just back away in fear now.) If you're a vers top you should take it up the butt! Up the butt! Up. The. Butt. (Disclaimer: everyone has the right to define their own sexual preferences and the way they communicate these. I'm just lightly joking here.) Sorry, I'm still in mourning that I didn't get to rail Dimitri. :D I saw that Kurtis Wolfe changed his ad from top only to Vers/top, maybe I should ask him? And then Rafael Lords (this made me sad) has switched to TOP ONLY in his ad. :(:( Although in his ad text he says to go ahead and ask about what you like to do because he "is very versatile". I'm CONFUSED. I just want to put things (i.e. my dick) up a hot guy's butt. (Oh and this last paragraph is just me being silly. Although I was confused by Rafael Lord's ad.)

https://rentmen.eu/DimitriFitXL He fucks like a king! I love the brazen boldness of it. For some reason it's endearing to me. On his PlanetRomeo profile he has this: "ORDER ME NOW THE BEST SEX EVER IN YOUR LIFE STOP LOOKING FOR OTHER ESCORTS CALL ME" I just love that it's all in caps. He was in Antwerp last night and he lists on his Rentmen that he's "Vers/top" so I texted him, asking him if he would bottom, but I never got a response. Then today I see that on his Planetromeo that he lists himself as "Top only". So I guess that's why he didn't get back to me about me asking if he'd bottom. A bit odd though that he advertises his bubble butt in his profile when he doesn't bottom. (Like in he says he has the best bubble butt in the world). But I see a lot of inconsistensies like that in ads, to be honest. Like listing as a top but then saying in the ad text that they're very versatile...

That's awesome that you schedule a phone call. I've never dared to ask for fear of coming across as a time waster. There's been more and more escort profiles where I live that in very clear terms say to not waste their time (like endless chats) or they will just block you or stop responding. I was recently talking to an escort about this and he confirmed that a LOT of his chats go nowhere and some people just seem to keep on asking questions without actually wanting to hire. So that sorta makes me wanna be as sparse in my communication as possible but then that may lead to me not communicating enough perhaps about what I expect. I'm still figuring out how much to communicate and in what way.

I absolutely love kissing a man with a beard. I love the scruff of the hairs against my lips and I also just enjoy rubbing my cheek (my face cheek ) against a guy's scruff. But I've not met a lot of guys who are up for that last one.

In a recent interview I read with him he said he worked as a stripper and didn't really enjoy it. Because he said that he was expected to go to the private room with clients and do things that (in his words) "bordered on prostitution". That's why he switched to Go-Go dancing as it wasn't expected of him to do that there.

I hope never! I've ALWAYS been a sucker for the five o'clock shadow and I applaud the trend that facial hair has become mainstream instead of being associated with looking unkempt. I've always had this preference, loooooooong before this whole beard trend became a thing. Although I prefer (longish) scruff instead of full-on beards.

Wow, that's great advice, thanks so much! What would count as red flags for you?

Hey, I was wondering, apart from asking for recommendations and reviews on here, how you guys do your due diligence when considering hiring someone. I ask because where I hire (Belgium) almost all are travelling escorts and the roster is constantly moving and changing. Which is nice, but also makes it (near) impossible to find recommendations or reviews, apart from the ones that may be posted on the escort's ad itself.

I remember him being on my bucket list in 2015 and was recently actually thinking about him.

Did you ever get a response from him? I'm interested in him as well.

Some of them make me think of the puppets in the old Thunderbirds series. I also think they require a lot of care, upkeep a'd maintenance because of the material the "skin" is made of.

Thanks, that's great to hear! I always contact through WhatsApp or text whenever possible so they get my number from the first contact. I have no problem sharing my stats, but I don't include them in my initial message because I've only had one escort ask me for them.

I prefer hiring masseurs who always give it their best, regardless if I'm a repeat client or not. I visited Utopia last month and Simon there was amazing. Massage was really nice and the table shower was great. I really like the table shower, didn't mind the plastic at all.

Ugh, my dream guy! Add in kindness and considerateness and I am a puddle on the floor. I sometimes have a strong longing to be super hot, because I think it'd make my life more fun or something. Or I'd be more accepted. But then a couple of years ago I worked really hard and finally (after years of wanting it) I got a six-pack and the lean built that goes with it. I remember looking in the mirror and just being super disappointed because I had the six-pack but inside I hadn't changed at all. The six pack didn't make me happy... And you know what attracts people? Being happy. Radiating warmth and joy and charisma. Sure, a hot ass and a big dick attract people also, but they'll have other things in mind. Which is also fine, of course, if it's the right time. But when you radiate joy people will also be looking for more than a fleeting connection, which is also nice.

Well, seems like I've stumbled in a thread of grumpy (old?) men. (I am teasing, just teasing!) I'm sure a couple of generations from now some young kids will be giving blank stares when Lady Gaga or Beyoncé get mentioned. I don't see the need to get personally offended by that. Everyone has their own interests and will like what they like. It's not an affront to society or you or the person if some random kid doesn't know one particular part of history.

I'll take all of them, including the trainer.

The television show "30 Rock" once did a whole episode about this phenomenon called the "bubble" where incredibly looking people are cut more slack and are treated nicer generally. The humor in the episode (and the reason it's called a bubble) is that the good looking guy isn't aware he's being treated differently because of his looks. He just thinks the world is super friendly in general. It's a funny episode and since being introduced to the concept I've met one or two guys who live in a bubble like that. One guy in particular was super flaky and he would always end up hurting people. But he'd always get out of trouble by looking like a sad puppy. He was totally confused when he tried that with me and it didn't work. The downside of being superhot and the advent of social media is that some people treat you like public property and make unsollicited proposals of various kinds. Is what I've seen anyway. I'm not hot enough to get that kind of attention but a friend of mine is and he has to deal with some serious personal boundary breaking a lot of the times we go out. I've stopped being his wingman because it seems I'm almost invisible when I'm out with him. It's weird to me how much value we place on just looks. Seeing comments like "You're amazing, I wanna be your friend!" on a hot guy's instagram has made me pause. Because the only thing that that wanna-be friend knew about the hot guy is... That he was hot. And I can also imagine that guy's personal message inbox blows up which can be annoying. Then I had an aquiantance who was one of the biggest asshole I'd ever met and very attractive. Two of my friends I told them that he was an asshole (and what he had done) and both friends literally said: "Yeah, but he's so hot. How can you stay mad at that face?" I very well can, thank you. Of course, if a hot guy walks by I'm one of the first to perk up and enjoy the view. Why not? But at the same time I remember that these guys are fully fledged human beings too and deserve respect and not invade their personal space uninvited just because our blood drained from our brains to our dick. Unless they wiggle their eyebrows and unzip their pants.

Actually douching is almost entirely unnecessary and could potentially not be good for your body if done frequently over a long period of time. The only part you really need to flush is the rectum, which you can do by just using an ear syringe. Do that two, three times and you'll be squeaky clean. This is because our body doesn't actually store fecal matter in the rectum, it only enters it when we're about to go number two. I used to hate and despise douching because the nozzle was too big, I'd squirt air up there and stuff... But these anal douches have too much water and too much pressure so the water flushes into your colon, washing away bacteria and not fully digested food. That's why it can sometimes take so long for the water to become clear when douching in that way because you're basically cleaning out a large part of your intestinal trac, which isn't neccessary. Unless you're gonna get fucked by a guy who's 10 inches, I guess... :rolleyes: I've used the syringe method a couple of times and it's an absolute delight. The tip goes in almost unnoticed and it's such a small amount of water it doesn't irritate at all.

I understand that, yeah. I've come across guys where I hire who actually have a set "menu" of sorts. Where the price would vary depending on what you wanted to do. But I'd rather pay a flat rate because I don't know what I'm going to be in the mood for. Unless I'd only want to cuddle. But then I might end up super horny anyway if it's nude cuddling... :cool: