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Let us know who you end up going with! I visit Paris regularly and I'd love to hear about any other guys.

https://rent.men/Giovane_Angel I had a great experience with him. He started with a massage and it was REALLY good. He's a little shy but very sweet. I asked him to be naked when he started the massage and he happily obliged. He doesn't have a table but he has had some training (I've been going to professional masseurs for 20+ years and I've learned to tell when a guy knows some techniques). For me his massage was very good and very relaxing and VERY sexy. His English is a little limited but if you speak French, Spanish or Portuguese it'll help. (Or even Italian!)

That's interesting. I never filter on safer sex so I wasn't aware (until now) that escorts could opt to not fill out the field. Yeah, I sometimes forget that safer sex means different things to different people. I always assume it means fucking with a condom.

I wasn't able to find a Mexican restaurant but I did find a diner that was still open! So I had fries as a midnight snack (they were quite good, too) but now my tummy is upset.

PreP is relatively easily available in Western-Europe thanks to the healthcare here. But I've not noticed the same amount of openness to barebacking as in the USA (just based off of the info in escort profiles, not personal experience). Basically 99% of the profiles state "safe only". If I filter on "ask me" or "anything goes" the hits are few and far between in Europe. Yeah, my experience has been the same. I didn't hire for more than two years and only recently started again and there seems to be a definite shift to being more open about barebacking. I outright say during pre-meetup communication that I fuck with a condom (if the ad says "ask me") if the ad states "safe only" I don't, since I presume we'll be using condoms. Although one guy, who had "safe only" and told me he didn't bareback before the meeting, asked me during the meeting if I preferred it without a condom. But I don't think he was checking if I wanted to bareback but making sure that if I DID prefer barebacking I'd still put on a condom with him. If you have a direct link to his ad you can check what it says about "safer sex", although apparently guys on rentmen can hide it from their profile.

Now I need a midnight snack...

Thank you!!! That's really what I feel like... Since my we seperated three years ago (actual legal divorce was finalized last year) I just have no clue who I am... And it feels like I'm constantly discovering new things about myself. On one hand that's great but it does give a sense of instability sometimes. I hear you about social media. I limit it very strictly. I only follow people on Instagram I personally know in real-life and even then I don't follow all of them. Facebook I use purely for promoting my theater performances. And it's helped a great deal in how I feel. I've recently started reading the "Jeeves" series of books by P.G. Wodehouse and I literally laugh out loud with those.

So it had been almost two years since I barebacked. It was with my boyfriend at the time. Since then I've always used condoms and over time I totally forgot what barebacking felt like. I even thought that the difference in sensation was purely mental. Well, was I wrong. Last weekend I had three mind blowing sessions with an escort. When we fucked the first time he took out the condom himself. On Planetromeo and Rentmen his ad says about safer sex "ask me" and "needs discussion". So during our second session I started teasing his hole with my dick and some spit for lube. He relaxed so much I could slide right in... And I did. And the pleasure nearly shut down my brain. But I did grab a condom to continue the session. (Our last session was also with a condom so basically I only entered him a couple of times without a condom). I talked to him afterward and he said he's on PreP and had got tested two weeks before and everything was negative. Still I went to the sti clinic to talk about PeP (I don't take PreP as I hadn't been sexually active in the past six months, like, at all, I've just recently started having sex again). The doctor said she would prescribe PeP if it would ease my anxiety but she thought there was basically zero risk. So I decided to not start a treatment. But it did make more me aware that even though barebacking felt mindboggingly great (and the sensation just completely shuts down my rational brain) I still prefer a condom (because of other sti's and also I can last much, much longer). Fast forward to tonight. I see an escort I haven't seen in years. We had amazing sessions before (always with condoms) and I'm teasing his hole with spit and he relaxes and... I realize I want to put on a condom. So I grab a condom from his nightstand. He sees me do that and he says: "Oh, you like it with a condom." I nod and we continue. Here's the thing, I don't enjoy ejaculating. Almost never is it pleasurable. So when I pulled out he asked if I wanted to cum on his chest but I said I didn't need to cum. But I like seeing a guy cum so I ask if I can make him cum and it's clear to me that he thinks it's superhot if he can make me cum. So I agree to cum with him. As I'm on the edge he sits on top of me and puts my dick in his ass just as I'm cumming. (This all happened in a split second, I thought he was just teasing but slipped it in). I shoot half my load in him and try to pull out but this guy is twice my size and weighs like 200 pounds. So I'm unable to pull out entirely. Afterward I ask him if he's on PreP. He says yes but... I feel a little... Sad? Uneasy? Obviously the pleasure from barebacking does get to me and it must have shown in my face... But still, I would've preferred not to cum in his ass. I was also really surprised because this guy years ago only did safe so that's why I wasn't expecting this. I checked his ad after our session but he's unchecked the safer sex option so it doesn't even show in his ad (didn't know this was even possible) because I had thought it said "safe only". Well, I'm going to see a doctor about starting PeP now and have made an appointment for a PreP consultation. Because I seem to have some trouble communicating boundaries and control my impulses. Of course, PreP will not help with other sti's so I still want to use a condom even if I were to start using PreP. But at least it'll be an extra layer of protection for when I find myself in a similar situation and my brain decides to take a holiday. I'm seriously considering stopping with sex for a while. Until I can get a better handle on my brain and self-control. I can go without sex as I've been without any sexual contact for six months so that doesn't bother me (by choice, I hasten to add, hahaha). It seems to be better to just avoid even the possibility of finding myself in such a scenario than taking the risk for now.

Hey guys, here's an update. After having consultations with three professionals (one doctor and two mental health care therapists) the diagnosis is in: it's not bipolar, borderline or even major depressive disorder. It's undealt with childhood/youth trauma (abusive alcoholic dad and neglectful and emotionally distant mother). I was referred to a therapist specialized in trauma and the first session was beyond amazing. I have my next session lined up for next week and I'm actually looking forward to it! She's already taught me some techniques to deal with overwhelm and also learning to allow myself to FEEL whatever I'm feeling instead of clamping down/shutting down and numbing myself. I'm actually looking forward to healing myself! And to be a calm, whole person that can interact with people without constantly feeling like I'm dying on the inside.

I know, right?? Hahaha. Thanks for all the answers! I was really wondering about the table. How viable it is as a masseur to travel without one (if it's a dealbreaker for clients or not and so on). Because I've been pondering if I'd like to become a travelling masseur myself. I'm used to giving massages on a bed so that would not be a problem. I've worked with a portable table before but those things are still superheavy and so clunky. The masseurs I've had sessions with did it on the bed.

I wondered how travelling masseurs do their massages. Do they travel with a table everywhere? Or do it on the bed? Do masseurs do outcalls? If so, do they bring a table? I had a travelling masseur once and he made a makeshift... thingie on the ground out of pillows and a comforter. He said that a hard surface was better than doing it on the bed. While massaging me he got horny and begged me to fuck him. Which I did. On the bed. This was in Europe, so no license was in danger, right? :eek: (By which I mean I think I can say we had sex.)

Great, thanks! I've just booked my second stay now. I'm going back mid-november. I texted Raphael to check if he'd be in Barcelona, but he's hasn't responded. Have you had any luck contacting him? Maybe I'm just planning too far out for him... Still would be nice to get a reply. We had such great moments in the sauna. Yeah... I'm hooked. I booked the TWO hotel this time. There's some guys (including Raphael) I'd love to get some private playtime with. @tassojunior thanks so much for all the info and recommendations. It made my first experience at Sauna Thermas just amazing.

Did you end up finding someone? I'm interested 'cause I like visiting Paris also.

I think I've got a bit of crush on Raphael now, hahaha. He's not been responsive via text, though. Sent him a couple but leaves them unanswered. I'd love to get him to my room next time. How did you plan the hotel room visits? Did you talk to him about it when you saw him in the sauna and he then left the sauna for your room... or did you do it over text and he came to your room before he went to the sauna?

I think I've got a bit of crush on Raphael now, hahaha. He's not been responsive via text, though. Sent him a couple but leaves them unanswered. I'd love to get him to my room next time. How did you plan the hotel room visits? Did you talk to him about it when you saw him in the sauna and he then left the sauna for your room... or did you do it over text and he came to your room before he went to the sauna?

https://rent.men/Giovane_Angel I had a great experience with him. He started with a massage and it was REALLY good. He's a little shy but very sweet. I asked him to be naked when he started the massage and he happily obliged. He doesn't have a table but he has had some training (I've been going to professional masseurs for 20+ years and I've learned to tell when a guy knows some techniques). For me his massage was very good and very relaxing and VERY sexy. His English is a little limited but if you speak French, Spanish or Portuguese it'll help.

https://rent.men/Giovane_Angel I had a great experience with him. He started with a massage and it was REALLY good. He's a little shy but very sweet. I asked him to be naked when he started the massage and he happily obliged. He doesn't have a table but he has had some training (I've been going to professional masseurs for 20+ years and I've learned to tell when a guy knows some techniques). For me his massage was very good and very relaxing and VERY sexy. His English is a little limited but if you speak French, Spanish or Portuguese it'll help.

I've been seeing more and more escorts saying they are 8 inch (or even more). Of all the escorts I've been with only one was truly nearly 8 inches (my two hands stacked on top of each other and part of his dick stuck out). The others all claimed to be 8 inches too but they were more between 6-7 inches. Having said that, all their dicks were nice! Gays on hookup apps seem disproportianally obssesed with dick size, it's like they only want to have sex with 8 inches and nothing less. So I get why guys lie, because there seems to be an unrealistic expectation of what average dick size actually is. Now 7 inches seems to be treated as a minimum instead of being big. And also, "average" does not seem to exist in the gay vernacular when it comes to describing dick size. You're either big or small. If you're average, you're deemed small. (Well, that's been my experience anyway). At some point it did come across like some guys wanted to have sex with a huge dick, no matter which guy it was attached to. Makes me wonder why they don't just go and sit on a traffic cone.

This is his rentmen: https://rent.men/raphaelaraujo

Yes! It IS him!! He is SO handsome and the only guy there that was taller I am (I love how tall he is). Very sweet and kind guy.

Is it possible that Gabriel uses the name Raphael at the sauna and online? Because I saw a guy who looked EXACTLY like the picture you posted and I asked if he was Gabriel but he said that his name was Raphael. I had two wonderful sessions with him but now I'm looking at the picture again, it IS him I'm sure. Or he has a double there...

Hmm, I just confirmed a session with him tomorrow before I saw this thread. Now I'm wondering if I should cancel. He seemed personable enough during communications and his rentmen reviews are all five stars, but one (three stars, but still recomends hiring him). The thing that gives me pause is that his Planetromeo profile is over a year old yet he hasn't got a single review on there. Knowing that escorts can just hide any review they want on their profile, this makes me wonder. Hasn't he gotten a single review on there for a whole year? Or not a single positive one? Not sure what to do at the moment.

Awesome, thanks! I arrived this afternoon.

What I find interesting is that the same escort will say "bi" on his rentmen ad, but "gay" on his planetromeo. I've seen this happen about two times now and it gives me pause. I don't contact guys that label "straight" or "ask me". I actually like it when an escort may have a bit of flamboyancy about him, 'cause that puts me at ease. But that's never happened. The guys I've met were sort of inbetween on the feminine-masculine spectrum with most of them having a bit of a shy streak about them. (Sub)consciously I will look for guys that identify as gay, because that helps my fantasy of them actually wanting to spend time with me for more than just the money. Or them actually enjoying themselves. But yeah, bi pops up enough for me too to have noticed it.

Do you know if Gabriel has an ad up on Planetromeo or Rentmen? Tried searching but couldn't seem to find him. I can't host (so can't get him from the sauna to my place) so was wondering if I could do an incall at his place (besides the sauna, I'm trying it all, hahaha).