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My main way of taking care of my skin is sun screen with an SPF factor of 50 throughout the year. Even outside of summer and on cloudy days. It really makes a difference. I use a facial moisturizer from the Lush brand of shops (don't know if they have those in the US) after a shower. Used to use their body butter too but it's soooo expensive and didn't see a difference. My skin is actually much softer if I just thoroughly scrub it once a week with a loofa (spelling?).

Yeah, it is nice. Quite a number of people in my life know that I hire escorts, I'm quite open and casual about it. But that doesn't mean I can really talk to them about my specific experiences. Most just react with fascinated curiosity and then I feel like my experiences are on display for their entertainment instead of sharing, connecting and decompressing. And then there's people who say things like: "Paying for sex is pathetic. How desperate must you be?". Never to my face, mind you, I usually test the waters conversationally about the this topic and then these things will be said. Now, to be honest (and happy about it too) I think I've only ever heard one person say that, actually. The others were just... Surprised and curious.

That's what I used to do, but it doesn't give the same feeling of having decompressed about the experience, really. For me anyway. Yeah, I guess it's the feeling free part and also like... You're connecting on some shared hobby and experience. I'm finding it hard to put into words. It's like trying to nerd out over the newest Marvel movie with someone who isn't interested in that at all. Whereas nerding out with a fellow nerd just is so much more fun and relaxing. If that analogy makes sense...

Like the question says in the thread topic: who do you talk to (if you do) about your hiring experiences? Lately I've been feeling the need more and more to decompress about my experiences. And while this forum helps somewhat, it's not always enough. I do talk about some of my experiences with my best friend, but since he's never hired himself and can't imagine ever wanting to, there is a... Well, a certain divide that's difficult to overcome. Many times talking about my experiences to him makes me feel less good. I used to have a friend who hired also and it really helped to connect with someone in real life about these experiences but we've fallen out of touch (for various reasons without a possibility to reconnect). I also talk to my therapist of course, but, like with my best friend, I feel that while she offers understanding and empathy, there's an inability to truly connect on the topic. It's built in to us humans to desire to feel understood and share our experiences, but at the moment it feels like I have no one to talk to about these things in a way that can soothe my heart somewhat.

Ah, that's probably what happened. I'm a top and he bottomed for me (well, tried to). A couple of minutes in, I offered to stop the session but still pay him. It was that obvious that he was not enjoying himself (and we had only been kissing up until that point, but it felt like he was dreading having sex with me... Not quite what I look for in a sexual encounter :rolleyes:) Almost all of my pleasure and enjoyment during sex is directly linked to how much my partner is enjoying himself (both escorts and non-escorts) so it was a big turn-off. I did get the feeling that when he offered to bottom for me it was a really slow day for him and he felt somewhat desperate to make cash. But! Here's the interesting plot twist: the day after I was having a nice, long chat with another client at the sauna. This client had been mistaken for an escort since he was very handsome, muscular and had a big dick. The reason he was at the sauna was because he was super horny but both Grindr and the regular sauna's were duds so he that's why he came to the sauna. Achmed walks by and the client tells me he knows him and was surprised to see him there since he had had sex with Achmed several times, in a non-escort setting (he didn't even know Achmed escorted) and every time Achmed bottomed for him with abandon (the word voracious bottom was implied). I was flummoxed and shared with him my experience and concluded that my dick maybe wasn't big enough to bring out the bottom in him. Who knows? BUT! Obviously you had a great time and you're a good match for him so do not let my experience influence your future sessions with him. I do think it was a combination of a bad day for him and us being sexually not a match for each other.

Hey now! I come here to decompress because there are a lot of conflicting thoughts, emotions and desires all running simultaneously in a moment like that for me. And trying to sort these out afterwards on my own just makes go around in a circle. It's easy to say "just do this" after the fact 'cause hindsight is always 20/20, of course. But in the moment itself my brain can sometimes misfire. He does.

Thanks! Did you hang out the whole weekend together or was it several sessions throughout a weekend? I did have a session with him in Thermas but my experience was not a positive one. I declined to have another session with him the next day in the sauna when he asked. I reckon it's a case of YMMV since I've read nothing but positive comments on him and our chat before our session was quite okay. His English is perfect and he does seem like a good, mature guy. Perhaps we met when he was having a bad day.

I just had such a weird experience. This was with a guy who's ad says 'safe only' and in his ad text, in all caps, "NO BAREBACK". So foreplay is escalating and I cuddle him from behind and he pushes his ass against my crotch. Then lubes up his ass, aligns it with my dick and wiggles my tip in. I pull out and put him on his stomach and tease his hole and again he does this wiggling motion and puts my tip in. I'll spare you the details of what was going through my mind, let's just say: conflicting thoughts and desires fighting for dominance. I do push in deep once and I feel like I'm fully inside of him. He says nothing when I do this, just moans in pleasure and seems to get really turned on. Then I pull out and continue the session with a condom. After we're done I ask him if he's on PrEP. He says yes (shows me the bottle) and asks why I want to know. I'm a little confused at that point and say: "Wasn't I inside you? Without a condom at first?" He dismisses it with a smile and says: "No, I just tease with my butt cheeks." I did visually confirm though that at least my tip did slide in so it makes sense to me that when I plunged in it was actually in his ass and not between his cheeks like he said (since my tip was already in).

My review of Charlie is up: http://www.daddysreviews.com/search/Active/C/charlie_bogota He travels regularly between Medellin and Bogota. I highly, highly recommend him. He's awesome and a great guy. His ad: https://rentmen.eu/CharlieMntgmry

Does anyone have any experience hiring him? His ad expired.

Belgium. After I received the letter I did a quick Google search. Belgium has really doubled down on this in the last few years, it seems. There were several news articles about it. I ended up getting a prescription for generic Viagra from my GP. Turns out they are cheaper than the ones I ordered online!

Great idea!

I'm kidding of course. Was just not expecting a question like that on this board necessarily.

Well, my shipment of onlinepharmacyx got confiscated by customs. Even got an offical warning from the National Agency for Medicine saying that I imported illegal medicine. They then politely said to please not do that anymore and could I only order from licensed pharmacies in the future, thank you kindly.

I recently had a session where the sex lasted about 10 minutes, maybe 15. I tried everything to make it last longer but the guy was just so intent on having me fuck him and then while I was fucking him he would not let go of his dick, rubbing it so vigorously. I did ask him to slow down, even gently removed his hand from his dick, which made him annoyed and he just grabbed it again right away. After he came I imagined him saying "meep meep" (like Road Runner) and he was in the kitchen texting on his phone before I even realized the sex was over. Very off-putting. I love it when sex builds really, really slowly. So foreplay tends to go on for a long while. And after sex I like to shower together and cuddle. So that's what I do the other 50 minutes. I don't generally like it when a guy opens the door and immediately grabs my dick through my pants. Go for my mouth first. Because I do love it when a guy opens the door and immediately kisses me.

Thank you for saying that. I personally am someone who likes to not make it just be a business transaction but I don't state that very often because "HEALTHY BOUNDARIES!". I try to keep a balance between what I feel works for me and what is doable for a provider and my budget. I will readily admit that I am looking for intimacy and affection in all of my hires, even the hour-long ones. I don't agree that it is necessarily faux affection by default. Much of that depends on the provider also. I have had some very affectionate and intimate encounters with providers and some that were just a pump and dump. I'm wired in a different way: for me everything I do has to be connected to my emotions and feelings otherwhise I don't even feel the inclination to bother with it. It's great that you've found a setup that works for you. I love hearing everyone's different ways of how they approach this, it gives me some examples to think about what I would like and which experiences I'd like to have.

What?? Did you say something about it? I know that's sometimes hard in the moment (I don't know if I would have said something or not). My mind is boggled.

True, but still a fee needs to be negotiated, I reckon? That's why I asked the question since I had no clue on how to approach this with the providers. For the two longer hires I did (both overnights) one escort just had a set price and times and for the other one I told him when I wanted to arrive and when I would be leaving the next day and asked him what his fee would be for that. And I discovered for myself that overnights don't really work for me. Like I mentioned I'm a light sleeper and yes, in the end, I do look if I'm getting the value I would like out of the encounter. Like many clients and escorts regularly remind us on here: in the end it is a business transaction. The escort is selling me a service with perceived value and I am paying for that, so when I discover that a certain setup doesn't work for me, then I will look for ways to change it. For instance, maybe hire for a day instead of a night.

Thank you for this reply, it really touches my heart. Yes, I was wondering whether the escort that made me cum in his ass had crossed a boundary of mine. I think what makes it a little confusing for me is that a part of me really enjoys the sensation of barebacking and I think this is what sometimes makes my brain go cross-eyed in the moment: I don't want to bareback but I kinda do. Maybe I was giving off mixed signals because of this so he thought it would be fine. I know he had no bad intentions on his part and perhaps that's what makes me even more confused. Because other boundaries that I've communicated with him he's been extremely respectful of. I just don't know.

Perhaps my expectiation/definition of a boyfriend experience is different but I don't see how a boyfriend experience automatically necessitates deceiving the client as to how much the escort is enjoying himself or is genuinely connecting with the client on an emotional level... For me boyfriend experience means that besides hot sex there is also very intimate cuddling, kissing, talking about what's on my mind, just looking into each other's eyes... I never expect the escort to role-play pretending to be my boyfriend like: "Hi, honey, how was work? Do you wanna fuck me before the Jeffersons come over?" when I enter his hotel room. But more that he will take the time to be interested in me and my personality and invite and welcome me into his personal space (both physically and mentally), so not that he will actually make me believe I am his boyfriend. But every client and escorts look and offer different things. I recently had a session with an escort who drew a very hard line in the sand between sex and affection. He wouldn't touch me before or after sex (not even a peck on the cheek. He actually shook my hand when I came in), wouldn't shower with me and put his clothes back on the second we were done. He told me that affection is for his boyfriend, not for clients.

I would think he would go home, so he'd technically be free to have other clients if he wanted to. Have you hired for a whole day? How was the flow of a day like that?

I would look for recommendations on good therapists here on the forum and go with one of them. There's no reason not to have this fantasy become a reality if you've done your research. Go ahead and enjoy yourself!

Do you have personal experience with them? Because the guys I checked out, their profiles were using pictures from stock photography websites.

I highly recommend to read the book "How to Bottom like a Porn Star" by Woody Miller. It has very valuable insights and very practical information on how to prepare yourself and what to do during sex. https://www.amazon.com/How-Bottom-Like-Porn-Star/dp/0989139751/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1535703811&sr=8-1