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That's important too. I used to see a guy who wasn't great at soft skills (although he was a great kisser) but he was a complete sex machine. I used to think that he could be more touchy - feely, but then I would think, "who does what he does the way he does it?." Not many.

I think about the line from Auntie Mame - "When you're from Pittsburgh, you've got to do something." So, do something, anything that moves you in the right direction.

In middle school and high school, I was one of those weird, introverted kids that nobody likes. By the time I was about 14 I figured out that I was probably gay. I wasn't ashamed of it, but I knew I had to keep it a secret. I had decided I was going to try male-male sex as soon as I could, and I started looking for opportunities. I couldn't see how it would be harmful because I thought - if I don't like it, I don't have to keep doing it. I met guys in high school, who, in retrospect were gay - there was a small group of very edgy guys - very smart, got good grades, but weren't interested in girls and liked to party and live dangerously - I realize now that they were all gay. After high school, I joined the Army, partly because I didn't want to go to college right away and it was an easy way to get away from home, but I had also heard that the military services were full of gay guys. It turned out to be true that the military was full of gay guys, but of course we were all closeted. I had various jobs after the Army and went to college. I started being open and honest about my sexual orientation sometime during this period. I started challenging straight guys who didn't like gays to explain what it was that they hated about gay guys. It was interesting how often their animosity disappeared when they actually had to think about it and they realized there was no good reason for it. I guess I was in the closet until I met my husband. I had kept being gay from my family until I met him. I had to come clean in order to introduce him to them. Most of them think the world of him, but who knows what they say behind our backs? Here, in the San Francisco bay area, sexual orientation just isn't an issue - and that's the way it should be. You don't have to keep it secret but you also don't have to announce it or discuss it any more than straight people would feel called upon to explain themselves. I realize it isn't that way everywhere. though.

No, I don't think it is. He just needs to be a little leaner. Better lighting would help as well.

We've gone on quite a few road tips in remote areas of the southwestern US. You encounter that predicament a lot. We learned to plan for it.

I kind of forgot about him. I'm going to hire him for sure - he's really stunning.

A distant relative whom I have never met made a really odd post relating to Danny Thomas and daughter Marlo in a genealogy database. The post was about an ancestor we had in common, a great uncle and his wife, who lived in a small rural town in western New York. Supposedly, they had somehow formed a friendship with Danny Thomas and Marlo. He didn't say how the friendship came about, but it was apparently close enough so that Danny and Marlo traveled from NYC to pay occasional visits to the uncle and aunt. I don't know anything about the guy except that he lives in a region of the state where my mother's family came from. No idea whether the story is true or not, but when I read it, I just thought, "what the fuck?"

One of my aunts was an accountant and spent her entire career with Sears Roebuck. She had a pretty comfortable retirement.

Yep - that points system, after you got used to it, allowed you to go anywhere and eat anything and still lose weight - it was a forerunner of macros. After a couple weeks my points were burned into my brain and I realized that there was no end to the ways you could distribute your points through the day.

For me, looking a little drawn in the face isn't too much of a price to pay to stay lean.

Sometime in the 80's I had about 30# to take off, so I joined WW. Initially, I felt a little silly because it was mostly women, but I got used to it and started looking forward to the weekly meetings. I did buy a WW cookbook to give myself plenty of variety, but I didn't use any of the prepared foods. I found the whole thing very easy. Truthfully, it wasn't a lot of food and I often felt hungry, but I lost the weight rapidly - sometimes several pounds in a week. When I reached my goal weight, I continued meetings for the prescribed amount of time. It couldn't have worked better. I had a serious health crisis in 2003 and gained some weight from being inactive. I went back to WW and peeled the gain off in a matter of weeks. I have nothing but good things to say about WW. It doesn't work as well as it did for me with a lot of people. My sister and her partner are huge and have tried WW over and over and are still huge. I visited them a few years ago -my sister served fruit salad topped with whipped cream for dessert and I thought, "Well, no wonder it isn't working for you."

Of course those jobs have disappeared from the economy. But kids can be petsitters, dogwalkers, they can do data entry,etc. The cleverer ones can build websites and other internet-based side hustles. The GNC near where I live is staffed by young high-school age jocks.

My user profile on RM includes my photo, so nobody has to ask.

With an execrable username like that, you don't even need to read the profile.

Last time I had to be treated, it was major. I got together with a guy in Vancouver. I was waiting for my flight back to the US the next day and he texted me that a PCR had shown signal for NG. I went to my doc right away. I had to have both pills and injection and I had the runs for several days after. I think it was azithromycin, but not sure.

It depends on the guy and his profile. Mostly I agree, but if I wanted to meet him badly enough, I would jump through a few hoops.

I have thought about it. The idea gets me pretty hot actually - having a well-built man letting me explore his body for an hour or so.

Think about it - why would he go by a name like that?

I have that same fantasy. I have found two guys, but haven't hired either. There's a guy in SOCAL who goes by the name of Joe Mangina. He was originally a biologic male, became a transwoman, then transitioned back to being male. His photos show a well-built man with lots of body hair and a surgically-contructed vagina. We exchanged a couple emails but it didn't go anywhere. There was also a young guy in LV - very well-built, cis male, who identifies as male, who had a surgically-created vagina. I was wild for this guy, but his rate was out of my range. I re-thought the rate, realizing that he was a dream come true at any price, but he had disappeared. If he ever surfaces, he's a definite hire for me.

I believe providers have an enviable level of skill at managing their mindsets.

Who said "anyone has his price?" It is a fact that some have a price and the only way you will find out whether that's true for the man of your dreams is to ask.

I worked around a bunch of Texans - all executives in the oil and gas business - their accents were barely detectable. I found it sexy AF.

If you have an obscure health problem, you can be pretty sure sure there is a subreddit for it.

Agreed - for a man who is actually dominant and not playing a part, it isn't an issue. It's just the way he is.

When I was really young - 22 or so, I went into a men's store to buy a few things. The sales guy who took care of me was smoking hot and was probably a few years older than I was. He was helping me select things and kept pushing his way into the changing room to check my progress. I was too inexperienced to understand what was going on so it just became another story of a missed opportunity.