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I like undressing each other, so I like him to come to the door dressed.

People rarely want advice, even when they appear to need it.

In other words, are you more than "just a client" to any of your hires? By and large, I have great experiences with my hires, and the thought creeps into my mind often. But I have a partner whom I've been with for many years. I'm not looking for a relationship. I look at those thoughts as being part of the furniture in that room that I always occupy for a couple of days after an encounter with an amazing man.

Same thing here. He wouldn't commit to a time and after a few rounds, he just went dark.

I have an old friend who underwent a full, classical Freudian psychoanalysis that took over two years. She doesn't denigrate it in any way or feel that it wasn't worthwhile. Who knows? She might have been successful anyway without the analysis, but, for what it's worth, she is an exceptionally accomplished woman who will leave a lasting legacy in the field of civil rights/women's rights.

I think $400.00 is fairly typical for psychotherapy with an MD.

Unless the surroundings are truly awful, I wouldn't be affected. One time, I met Don Blueyes for an incall at his room at a Travelodge in the Mission District. Really seedy place, and I was having misgivings as I climbed the stairs to his room. But when I knocked, the door opened and there was Don, as magnetic as always. It was a great time. No regrets.

I never imagined I would convince you otherwise. The post was mostly for the readership at large.

A relationship between a client and trainer usually involves some close physical contact.

I think you're conflating various uses of the word. In certain settings, a hustler is sort of a shark or an agrresive wheeler dealer, like a pushy used car salesman. A hustler can also be somebody who is resourceful and willing to work hard. Within the world of male sex work, "hustler" is simply an unflattering label for a male sex worker. It harks back to the days when young gay men who offered sex for money cruised certain neighborhoods and any young man hanging out in these locales was assumed to be a hustler. Today's escorts, back then, would have been called "high-class hustlers."

I use "homerotic" when male eroticism is accidental, unintended or subtextual. I don't know what to make of this video, other than that I really love it.

Not exactly. They're both male sex workers. "Escort" is respectful. "Hustler" is pejorative.

That isn't an uncommon arrangement. The multi-hour rate is operative after the first two hours.

I notice that more and more providers are giving their rates in the body of their profiles on RM , even though RM has stopped providing a field for it.

I've had superb encounters with escorts who charge value rates-Dane Scott, Jake Walker, Metatop. Not to be missed, any of them.

"Yes, I'll take it," or "No, thanks."

There is nothing as hot as fucking a man wearing a chastity device, assuming he is not the keyholder. If he has the key, it's not quite the same.

A friend once said to me, "If you don't want something repeated, don't tell anybody!" Upon hearing this, I immediately recognized the wisdom and have lived by it ever since.

I saw a therapist for about two years many years ago. I had episodes of anxiety that would last for weeks at a time and were very uncomfortable. It was kind a feeling of doom, or of something being very wrong, and if I could just figure out what was wrong, then I could do some thing to relieve the feeling. When I was in the grip of one these episodes, I had difficulty eating, sleeping, lost interest in sex. Long story short, I went to see an MFCC, and saw the guy weekly for about two years. During that two years, I learned to become very comfortable with myself and have had essentially complete relief from the episodes of anxiety. Time and money well spent.

There's lots of difference of opinion on this. You get different stories depending on the historian and his/her bias.

Years ago, I had no interest in Christmas and I usually spent the day by myself. I would sleep in, get dressed, go to Cafe de La Presse in the French part of SF for coffee, splurge on breakfast at the Hampton Court, work out at the Jewish Community Center and go to a movie. With age, I've gotten into spending the day with others in a more conventional style, but I just cannot give up my Christmas Day workout at the Jewish Community Center.

Agreed, with appropriate guardrails in place, it could be a great experience for both.

Red hair and fair skin needs lots of TLC to age well.

That is frustrating. It happened to me with the same escort not once but twice. We were scheduled weeks in advance and a day or two before our appointment he cancelled because he hadn't gotten enough bookings to make the trip worth it. It's nobody's fault, really. I certainly wouldn't expect a guy to deliberately lose money in order to keep an appointment with me. The solution, I guess, is to foot his travel expenses. I traveled to go see an escort just once. I was sitting at SFO waiting for my flight to depart and I realized what a losing proposition it was - all that lost time in addition to the escort's fee and my travel expenses. Promised myself I wouldn't do that again. If you factor in your lost time and the inconvenience of long-distance travel, it's a much smarter proposition to bring the escort to you.

He can always say no.