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I doubt whether the choice is so starkly binary. Many shades of grey to be found.

Common enough so that people on PrEP get liver enzymes done every three months.

Well, it seems like it is, for him, a non-committal relationship wherein you see him when you see him. If you're looking to "adjust" aspects of the relationship, then I guess you're not willing to accept it for what it is. So, just telling yourself, "It is what it is," is not going to be helpful. I'm reminded of what Carrie Fisher said in an interview about her father. At the end of his life he was very dependent on her, she had become the parent and he the child. The interviewer asked her if that had been satisifying for her. She replied something like, "That was the relationship that was available, and I took it gladly."

Maybe he tried PrEP again and was successful. I don't recall him being particularly opposed to it. I remember he said it didn't work for him because it caused him to lose more weight than he was comfortable with. I did the same thing. I started on it and it caused this profound fatigue that I couldn't handle, so I stopped. A few months later, I tried again and I didn't have any of the problems I had the first time.

There's nothing like seeing what you're getting in the flesh. In bars, sex clubs and bathhouses, the men are right there - less room for disappointment when he's standing right there in front of you and you can see exactly what you're getting. I think guys have lost their sense of proportion when they only have an online profile and a chain of text messages to go on. If everything isn't absolutely perfect, they move on. And moving on in the online world can be done without a second thought.

I have never had an escort cancel. If he did, it would mean that I probably wouldn't be able to see him again for weeks or months. It's difficult for me to carve out a couple of hours here and there for playtime.

Is it possible to accept the relationship for what it is? Just asking.

My reasons are the same as anybody else's. But I also like paying men for sex. It is erotic in and of itself. If an escort offered me a freebie, I would certainly be flattered, but wouldn't otherwise be that interested.

I've been with my partner for over 25 years and we've been married for three years. When we met, we were both in our early forties, so neither of us started the relationship with an adolescent libido. 12 or 15 years into our relationship, sex had become routine and less and less frequent. We were lounging in bed one Sunday afternoon and he told me he wanted me to fist him. I thought "Wow!!" and said Ok. That really woke our sex lives up. We have sex once or twice a week, and it has remained fresh and interesting. I also hire and have a small circle of FBs that gives me additional variety. Recently, I hire more and see the FBS less. Hiring is so much easier to fit into my life.

I bet most aren't aware of it.

It doesn't seem like trust can be forced. If it's going to develop, it does so organically with time and exposure. And sometimes it doesnt.

The voice of wisdom.

I have a FB who really likes 3-ways. Periodically, I get a text from him, saying "I'm having this guy over. Why don't you join us?" Attached to the text is the guy's online profile. Sometimes it's disappointing, oh but sometimes it's memorable.

He's wonderful in evey way. Handsome, charming, a skilled lover, smart. I could go on and on about his virtues.

People used to think of animals as being disposable.

One thing you can do is get rid of Messenger. I uninstalled messenger on my phone and I don't get any more spurious friend suggestions.

You don't have a problem with losing, but maintaining. You have to maintain a loss long enough so that your set point, the weight your body likes, changes - that takes some months.

If you have FB's Messenger app, it gives FB access to every text you send or receive. If you exchange a few texts with an escort to set up an appointment, a few days later, he will turn up as a friend suggestion.

If you read their profiles, many say that they are into older men. I've never responded to an escort who says in his profile that he likes older men. It would be interesting to find out what it's like.

Thank you. The vet said he had fluid in his abdomen and that his prognosis was very poor. She suggested corticosteroids. At first, we were going to have her drain his abdomen and start the corticosteroids, thinking that it could buy him a few months of feeling good, but he fought so when they tried to do the procedure that we decided, with his temperament, we just couldn't put him through any more ordeals.

Late appointments with massage guy can be interesting. He's been seeing clients all day and, now, at the end of the day, he's ready to get it off.

I don't either. I used to tell myself I wasn't interested in younger men. The actual truth was that I wasn't comfortable around them. I'm no longer uncomfortable around younger men, so I really enjoy them. And I still love daddies.

You say the nicest things:D.

I don't hire enough, really, to say that I have regulars. But I have noticed that each encounter after the first with the same guy just gets better.

Problem solved.