Rudynate

Really a beauty.

In your desire to have a perfect experience, the expectations you communicate may overwhelm the escort. You're not marrying him. You are spending a few hundred dollars for an hour or two of his time.

None. A dad bod is a guy in early middle age who's kind of out of shape There is also a mature build. You've probably noticed that an older man, even when he's in great shape, is built differently from a young man who has a similar level of fitness. That is a mature build.

I've had some great experiences with 2-headed dildos.

I really enjoy having FBs. Escorts and FBS are two different types of sex partner. One isn't a replacement for the other.

I never thought I would shave my body hair. But I did a bodybuilding contest last fall and it's more or less obligatory. First I clipped it, than I took the plunge and shaved it. I liked it, a lot. I really enjoyed being shaved smooth. Liked the way it looked. Liked the way it felt. My partner liked it too. He said, "You look like a life guard." I don't think I would do it all the time because it's quite a hassle, and I like being hairy, but it's a nice option to have discovered.

@Brian Kevin I know you are a reputable escort, and the scamming allegations are just people being upset they are not getting anything for free. They are the scammers. An escort's time is valuable. I try to take up as little of my escorts time planning sessions as I can. I want to get the details set, and a few confirmations, and I'm good. As for how real it is. I think it is real. I think there are people out there who are into it. I don't think there are a lot of them to be honest. I don't think it's an extremely exotic thing within a subset of the community. Within the fetish community, I would guess people into scat would be a small minority, but even people who weren't into it wouldn't be shocked by it.

Right, like that. And its pleasurable enough, but I like getting down a guy's throat.

Everybody used to be into that deep french kissing. Not so much anymore. Who knew there were fashions in kissing? When I'm with a new guy, I test him. I give him a little tongue and see how he responds. Most escorts, I've noticed, are into that light kind of kissing where you tease each with your tongues but no deep insertion.. It's fine with me, I enjoy that. But it's sure nice to run into a man who wants to be eaten alive.

You get to yearn for something you can't have. That's not so bad.

I did a lot of kissing before I was REALLY kissed. In high school, I had done a little bit of making out with girls, and there was definitely something missing. The first time I kissed a guy, he wasn't that into kissing, we just did a lot of dry kissing. I enjoyed it, but still something missing. The first time I was REALLY kissed, it was a guy who was maybe 10 years older-I was 18 or so. He put his hand on the back of my neck, drew me into him. The moment our lips touched his tongue just invaded my mouth, probing and exploring. I did the same to him, and thought, "THIS is being kissed."

Some escorts blend business models. One of my favorite guys is quite a globetrotter and spends a large part of his time traveling with a fairly rarefied clientel. He also advertises and sees clients like me who want to see him for an afternoon on an occasional basis.

I doubt whether the choice is so starkly binary. Many shades of grey to be found.

Common enough so that people on PrEP get liver enzymes done every three months.

Well, it seems like it is, for him, a non-committal relationship wherein you see him when you see him. If you're looking to "adjust" aspects of the relationship, then I guess you're not willing to accept it for what it is. So, just telling yourself, "It is what it is," is not going to be helpful. I'm reminded of what Carrie Fisher said in an interview about her father. At the end of his life he was very dependent on her, she had become the parent and he the child. The interviewer asked her if that had been satisifying for her. She replied something like, "That was the relationship that was available, and I took it gladly."

Maybe he tried PrEP again and was successful. I don't recall him being particularly opposed to it. I remember he said it didn't work for him because it caused him to lose more weight than he was comfortable with. I did the same thing. I started on it and it caused this profound fatigue that I couldn't handle, so I stopped. A few months later, I tried again and I didn't have any of the problems I had the first time.

There's nothing like seeing what you're getting in the flesh. In bars, sex clubs and bathhouses, the men are right there - less room for disappointment when he's standing right there in front of you and you can see exactly what you're getting. I think guys have lost their sense of proportion when they only have an online profile and a chain of text messages to go on. If everything isn't absolutely perfect, they move on. And moving on in the online world can be done without a second thought.

I have never had an escort cancel. If he did, it would mean that I probably wouldn't be able to see him again for weeks or months. It's difficult for me to carve out a couple of hours here and there for playtime.

Is it possible to accept the relationship for what it is? Just asking.

My reasons are the same as anybody else's. But I also like paying men for sex. It is erotic in and of itself. If an escort offered me a freebie, I would certainly be flattered, but wouldn't otherwise be that interested.

I've been with my partner for over 25 years and we've been married for three years. When we met, we were both in our early forties, so neither of us started the relationship with an adolescent libido. 12 or 15 years into our relationship, sex had become routine and less and less frequent. We were lounging in bed one Sunday afternoon and he told me he wanted me to fist him. I thought "Wow!!" and said Ok. That really woke our sex lives up. We have sex once or twice a week, and it has remained fresh and interesting. I also hire and have a small circle of FBs that gives me additional variety. Recently, I hire more and see the FBS less. Hiring is so much easier to fit into my life.

I bet most aren't aware of it.

It doesn't seem like trust can be forced. If it's going to develop, it does so organically with time and exposure. And sometimes it doesnt.

The voice of wisdom.

I have a FB who really likes 3-ways. Periodically, I get a text from him, saying "I'm having this guy over. Why don't you join us?" Attached to the text is the guy's online profile. Sometimes it's disappointing, oh but sometimes it's memorable.