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Nice - congratulations. Mine hardly ever pays compliments. I've stopped expecting them. I just look in the mirror and see what I've accomplished since I've been working with him and that's compliment enough.

I'm not saying that AAs view is necessarily correct, but they view the low success rate as evidence of the pernicousness of the disease of alcholism. One of the pernicious aspects of alcoholism is the attachment to the activity of drinking. An alcoholic just cannot imagine life without alchohol and drinking. Approaches that reassure the problem drinker that they don't have to stop drinking feed the obsession and keep the attachment alive.

Speaking as a Friend of Bill with nearly 40 years of unbroken sobriety, I think AA is an excellent solution for problem drinking. Fortunately, it is no longer the only solution, as it was for many decades. I think people who "cant stomach" the 12-step approach to sobriety are really missing out, but they now can take advantage of one the other solutions that have become available.

musclemen are the drug of drugs. My coach introduced me not long ago to a locally-famous competitor - great-looking latin, thick powerful muscles, competes in the 212 class. He complimented my physique and told me to keep working hard. I was distracted for days afterwards.

There was something about exactly that topic on NPR the other day - older guys doing meth. The explanation they gave is that a lot of guys who came of age in the early days of AIDS had lived relatively ascetic lives and felt like they had missed out on a lot and so they were experimenting with PnP. People seem to think that PnP is a relatively new thing, but in the 70s, when I was in my mid-twenties, PnP was extremely common. The big party drug then was MDA. I remember, even at that robust age, I felt like hell for days after a night of MDA. Now and again, the opportunity to PnP comes up and I'm always tempted, but I remind myself how shitty I felt the morning after and that it would probably be 5 times as bad now in my 60s.

I thought the bad skin might be from steroids. I have a thing for guys on steroids, so it just makes him hotter to me.

I've exchanged a few emails. He seemed really friendly. If I were going to Denver, I wouldn't hesitate to book an after noon with him. I imagine him having a stable of well-heeled regulars. There's a pic of him on his website sporting a Rolex that he said a client had just given him.

I agree that you have to protect your primary relationship. I f you feel yourself developing an attachment that threatens your primary relationship, it has to go.

I've never felt in danger of falling in love with an escort. I' ve never looked for companionship from an escort, its always been about sex for me. I might get together with a guy a few times, but when the novelty is gone, my interest wanes.

And your point was ?

I've been ordering recently from Amazon Fresh. I just don't want to take the time to go grocery shopping. I go to the Amazon page, fill out a shopping list in 10 minutes or so, click a couple of buttons and the groceries are at the doorstep first thing next morning. The prices don't seem much higher than any regular grocery store like Lucky's or Safeway. Of course, premium items like wildcaught fish are pricey, but one would expect that.

He's from the BDSM world which operates differently. Often looks are deemed secondary to attitude in importance. He might be a great BDSM top who is able to get inside the mind of a client and give them exactly the experience they crave.

A while ago, I inadvertently changed my location on A4A to Santa Clara. I started getting hits from dreamy Desis and Persians and Latins. I didn't realize the ethnic mix in the south bay was that much different from San Francisco. I changed it back because the distances involved made it unlikely that I would make a date and keep it.

I didn't think "Israeli" and "Jewish" were the same thing.

It can be very sexy to place yourself in a situation where you have a man telling you what to do. I like being told what to do by a studly, straight trainer. Partly because doing what he tells you to do is the most effective way to work with a trainer, but also because it's sexy to have a Muscleman telling me what to do.

This seems different from the straight guys who belittle and humiliate their slaves into forking cash over. It seems there's a deep trust here. Yes you have a financial dom, but you have set limits and can trust him to respect your limits.

I grew up in New York State. The terms were more or less interchangeable. The businesses usually identified themselves in their signage and advertising as mortuaries.

Sure.

I've browsed a BDSM site where most evwry body seems to be into cash slavery. There seems to be a heavy element of humiliation. The tops are really contemptuous of the bottoms. Gives me the willies.

The behavior itself wouldn't be any different. But to the fetishist, it would have outsize importance - like someone who says in an online profile that they will only have bareback sex.

I could imagine someone fetishizing bareback sex, so that it's no longer just bareback sex, but bareback on steroids.

No, it isn't an urban myth. There are websites for cash slaves and financial domination.

My grade school teachers are long dead. I didn't thrive in the early grades. I really detested school, didn't pay attention, and always felt like the teachers didn't like me. From grades 4-6, I had a succession of iron-fisted old maids who saw my potential and wouldn't accept anything but my best. Those ladies literally saved my ass.

I saw him crossing Market Street at a muni stop a while ago. I was struck by how handsome he is-like a runway model. His profile pics didn't do him justice.

In California, it is set by statute. A friend of mine is a professional fiduciary and knows this stuff inside and out. She told me down to the dollar the maximum fee I can bill the estate of a friend for whom I am the executor.