Rudynate

I think I gave my first blowjob when I was 18. I didn’t like it much. I think I was probably in my late 20s before I learned to enjoy sucking dick.

I like straight guys. I even like becoming mildly infatuated with a straight guy. But I have never developed an emotional attachment to a straight guy that caused me any heartache.

I really like nice steak. I like quality lean steak like filet or top sirloin or flat iron steak cooked medium rare. Whenever I have it, I always have the same thought-I could eat this all day every day.

It’s all the unhealthy stuff that makes it so tasty. Get rid of the meats and the cheese and all that’s left is bread crust with tomato sauce-not horrible but kind of boring.

For some reason, people who say that they can’t meet anybody know to do all these things, yet they don’t do them. I suspect it’s because they want someone RIGHT NOW. They don’t have any patience with the process.

The circles I run in- mostly couples, some for 30+ years

True enough. Its one of the fastest, simplest things you can do to improve the way you feel. Something even simpler is to do some task that you've been putting off doing. The sense of relief from doing it feels great.

I used to have a spine problem that made it extremely painful to stand for more than a few minutes. I solved the problem of not being able to stand for chores like shaving and cooking by sitting on a tall stool. I would sit on my tall stool at the kitchen counter chopping vegetables. I would move the stool to the stove when I needed to cook something. If I needed to shave, I put the stool in front of the bathroom sink.

As a kid, a black leather jacket, black riding boots or wellington boots would give me a raging hard-on. I also liked lace-up work boots.

Leather has never been more than a minor fetish for me. There are guys into leather who will only have sex dressed in their gear. Many will only have sex with somebody else who is dressed in gear. I Can think of more tha a few men with whom it would be pretty exciting to play dressed in leather.

And they're having trouble funding social benefits for all those seniors because there aren't enough people paying in.

We're horrified by the idea of someone dying alone. But I wonder if it is all that bad.

Many years ago, I was frustrated because I couldn't meet anybody. In a moment of sanity, I realized I couldn't meet anybody because I spent a lot of my free time hanging out in sex clubs. I was "looking for love in all the wrong places." So I gave up sex clubs. I concentrated on other things, did some volunteer work, started graduate school, spent a lot of time working out. I met my partner at the Pride Parade. A guy I did volunteer work with introduced us. I forgot about him, but we ran into each other at the gym a few months later and started dating. I suspect dating/hookup apps are the 21st century equivalent of sex clubs. Bad places for finding romance.

I'm not single. I have a relationship of 26 years' duration and we got married a little more than three years ago. I know lots of older gay men who are single. I believe they are single because it's what they want. Being single for all or most of one's life extracts a steep price - it IS lonely, they miss out on opportunities for intimacy and partnership and sharing. Yet they don't make the emotional and behavioral adjustments needed to sustain an intimate relationship with another man. They don't because they prefer the benefits of being single, most notable of which is an extreme autonomy. They don't answer to anybody. A result of this extreme autonomy is that they are strong, independent, resourceful men. As I said, that comes with a price, but I think they are willing to pay it.

I completely forgot my leather biker jacket. My partner had it made for me at Johnson Leather in San Francisco at least 20 years ago. I have had the lining replaced once and the older it gets, the better it looks. I've had guys stop me on the streeet and ask where I got it. Once when I lived in the suburbs, I was out for a morning walk. Some guy drove up, pulled over opened his window and called out "Nice jacket," and drove off.

I thought I was the only one who had that fantasy.

Right- Joe Mangina.

Black leather looks good on me and I enjoy what wearing it does for my attitude. I toy with the idea of buying a full outfit, but probably never will. I have some leather shorts and a leather vest. I enjoy wearing the vest without a shirt to the occasional sex parties my partner and I go to.

I enjoy holding the door for others. It's a little thing and adds to the other person's day.

I don't ask rate in the RM message. More and more guys don't want to discuss rate on RM.

Seems unnecessary. There are photos, waist size and height. Why does anyone need the weight?

Escorts can run their business however they want. I think they should be prepared to accept the fact that not providing a face pic may cost them business. There are some highly regarded escorts who will not provide face pics prior to a booking. I've taken the risk on some of these guys and wasn't sorry.

A slight difference

Hot dogs are nothing but grease.

While I have no difficulty appreciating a handsome face, I'm more of a body guy than a face guy, so, if I like the body, I'm willing to take the risk with the face. It nearly always works out.