Bargara Leatherboy

Bonzer shot mate. Hot men in speedos is certainly a very Aussie thing to celebrate

This thread got me thinking, I had an interesting trip down memory lane last night, i wrote down a list of all my hires, and i got to 110 sessions. I counted multiples with different providers, but they bulk were one of‘s.

Two gents I have seen 4 times, a couple 3 times a couple twice.

Some of the names eluded me, but i remembered them geographically, it was a fascinating walk down memory lane of the last 32 years

Delicious, I am missing Bangkok and visits to Tawan.

As a hirer I have used both. Hotels can be great as they have all the resources, I particularly like a hotel that does not require a passkey for the elevator. My go to Hotel in Melbourne is great for this, and if you stay on the side of the hotel with the suites, or bigger rooms, its quite discrete as the elevator is not near the reception desk.

I have also used AirBNB successfully, I had a great overnight in Bali with a well known International Escort, who lives in Bali. He was living in Ubud, I was staying in the Nusa Dua area, so the 90 minute commute was going to be paid travelling time, the Escort suggested i stay the night in the Ubud area.

I found via AirBNB a one bedroom pool villa for about $120, so I got there at 2pm, had some lunch relaxed in the pool, enjoyed the ambience as the infinity pool was perched about the Ubud river.

The villa had an outdoor bathroom, a nice king sized bedroom, complete with 4 poster bed ( great for bondage) the outdoor living space was a terrace, partially covered, with an open kitchen breakfast bar, an outdoor lounge setting, an outdoor dining setting.

At 8pm when my guest arrived we had some scotch, some play, ordered dinner, then spent the evening playing inside and outside, drinking scotch and smoking cigars. I remember standing outside smoking with my guest behind me, his arms around me as we marvelled at a full moon, I remember him lying on the outdoor lounge smoking a cigar while I delighted in orally pleasuring him.

None of these additional benefits would have been possible in a hotel.

the next morning after he left about 10am, I tidied up, enjoyed the ambience of the pool for some nice naked swimming and checked out at midday.

Wow how many lifetimes in the gym to achieve that

I have had sex with 5 women. You?

Now that is a figure I can accurately report on!!

ZERO

Never touched a woman’s breast, nor explored any other part.

I live in Australia and most of the gold diggers here are from Asia. Due to our geography we see very few Eastern European or Hispanic people.

Gold diggers can exist in any form!!

The OP asked about how he could start a relationship with a man from Asia, so commenting on the perils that could occur is relevant.

If anyone took my comments as being racist, they certainly are not.

As a gay man who has been judged and badly treated by prejudice for 60 years, (as i am sure many on here have), i judge people by one criteria. “How do they treat me?” when i meet someone new I treat them with respect and dignity, if they act that way towards me, then it continues, if they back stab me or treat me dishonourably then I judge them accordingly.

I have met some beautiful men in Asia, who just wanted to spend time with me, for the joy they found in me, maybe it was my bear body or my blonde hair that they loved, and those memories are wonderful.

However many men in Asia are looking for improvement to their world. I have seen so many people bring a new lover from Asia to Australia, pay all their expenses, and just to be ripped off, the partner is out playing around when their relationship is not open, and it all ends badly.

So i was just saying exercise caution.

Life is Asia is different and more difficult that in the west, so many people see trading sex for a lifestyle improvement as a valid transaction. Its when one partner has different expectations that issues arise.

We have a home in Bali, which we greatly enjoyed before Covid, and hope to enjoy again when we can travel again, ( our borders are closed, we need permits (hard to get) to exist and permits to re enter then do quarantine at a cost of $4K,) but I know that most Balinese see us as walking ATM.

When you spend what they earn in a month on a single nice meal, or some shopping its normal for the jealousy or envy to exist.

I can remember many years ago, I wear a Cartier fragrance, as my signature smell, it retailed in Sydney for around $550 a bottle, so I buy it when I am in Asia. I walked into a department store in Bali, I saw it, saw the price was 880,000 rupiah, which is about $88 AUD, so I asked how many bottles they had, 6 was the answer, could I please purchase all 6 bottles, The response was do you know how expensive that is Sir, yes that’s fine. So in that one transaction i paid, the equivalent of about 5 months income to the shop assistant, but to me it was a saving of at least $2500. Its all relative.

I am sure I was much talked about not just in the store but in their families and friends. What the locals do not grasp is that we work hard to travel and have international holidays, at that stage of my life i was working 6 x 12 hr shifts a fortnight, as standard employment, and most fortnight’s i was working 3 x 12 hr overtime shifts, so I just worked, slept and counting the $$. Hence when we went away we shopped, clothes, shoes, etc, but the locals could not grasp that, they just saw us as rich people with plenty of money.

the rent boy scene in Bali is full of boys from all over Indonesia, they charge 600 000 rupiah for an overnight, you met them in the bars, but in those days the monthly income was about 1 million a month, its about 3 times that now, so they were living well. For us to buy a hot man for the night for $60 was nothing, so we do get the reputation for being walking ATM.

I hope the OP finds the love of his life and he does not get ripped off, hopefully our suggestions which come from a place of love and concern are considered and assessed in the spirit they are given

I want to express a caution, here!!

Some Asian men are looking for a way to improve their life, and a man with money will be a way out of poverty for them. I totally understand their motivation.

If its a true love match, I say go for it. But be very cautious.

I would suggest that you look in cities where professional men gather, like Singapore, Tokyo or Taipei. Or even in cities in your country where AsIan gay men gather in larger numbers. I would avoid places like Bangkok, Bali, HCMC!!

Maybe join some Asian gay groups, and go from there.

But do guard your credit cards, bank accounts etc, until you have a very clear understanding of your partners values. A pre nup is a good idea.

I had a very interesting encounter in a Gay BnB. The owners were clothing optional, I booked in for 3 nights, the first night there was another couple staying there, I came back from dinner they were in the hot tub, and I had a quiet night.

The next day, the owners left for an over night trip, they said they had a locum coming in to ensure I was looked after, and he was there to do breakfast etc.

I had a relaxed day around the pool, the property was in natural bush and have a river at the bottom of the garden, i had a swim in the river, and then had a shower in the outdoor shower by the pool.

I then went into town had a stroll along the fabulous beach, and got some sushi for dinner.

When I came back from dinner, the locum was having a glass of wine, and asked me if I wanted one. He was an older but in shape man, I had not given him a thought, anyway I took a seat on the sofa, he brought me a wine and came and sat next to me. he asked me to show him some pictures of my husband, which i did.

He was sitting very close to me, and then suggested we have a swim. It was a warm night, so yes why not.

of course he dived in and swam between my legs, exploring as he went.

it would have been about 8pm, at this stage, well between the pool the hot tub we had a lot of fun, drank a lot of wine, we talked chatted, and made love. My best memory is leaning over the balcony railing while he ate my ass out.

I am a large man with a belly, he said that he had watched me take that outdoor shower- and found the fact that I had just showed confidence and that i was comfortable in my body was what made him want me.

We finished up the night in my bed at about 5am.

I cannot remember all the men I have paid for fun, let alone all the hotties I have met along the way. When you grow up in the 70’s and love a bathhouse or a back room, its easy for that number to climb quickly. I know some nights at the tubs there would be multiple guys, I do not identify as a slut, but i do enjoy sex, and have no regrets.

I have had my dry spells but you never know when you are going to find a hottie.

I wonder what the requirements are to get into the Masterbation Hall of Fame?

are the requirements for an exhibitor or a Observer. - maybe they have a live audience participation exhibition ??

My favs are as follows

* The Frick Collection NYC

*The Guggenheim. NYC

* Rodin. Paris

*Guggenheim Venice Italy

I love what the English call stately homes

Blenheim Palace. UK

Howard Castle UK

Some Fabulous Royal Residences

Buckingham Palace

Windsor Castle

Hampton Court Palace

Balmoral Castle

Sandringham House

Versailles

I get claustrophobia in crowded museums. 50 years ago bankers got Election Day off while few others did. I would spend a lonely hours wandering thru The Met or Guggenheim. Then we last that day to MLK day and museums are all closed on Mondays. Alas.

 

If you can escape from the bars and baths of Bangkok for a bit, I commend the Jim Thompson House Museum. He, of the silk business, collected Thai buildings, ceramics, furniture, etc that he assembled into a magnificent estate in the middle of the city. It’s now museum and oasis of tranquility in that bustling city.

The Jim Thompson House is awesome, its on a canal and i had a wonderful few hours riding the public ferry boats up and down the canal , 19 baht for the full length

I paid $1200 AUD for a 2 hr session with a discipline Master, it turned out to be a wonderful experience, and was about 5 hours, he was not a clock watcher, he got cold and had a warm shower while he left me tied up on the bed.

I had a international escort for an overnight, he was only doing outcalls, so talked me up from a 3 hr session to an overnight, he was $1600 AUD And a couple of hundreds for the pool villa and transport to where he was from where I was staying, but it was a great night. I tipped him with some great scotch and cigars which I knew he was into.

Wellington New Zealand was the longest place i lived, after Pretoria South Africa, New York City, Berlin, Paris and melbourne

60’s

Richard Gere, shared a first class cabin with him in the 70’s

La Caux au Fau

Swimming and Diving

Dune

Hell No

I go to an amazing massage practitioner who has a round cut out in his massage table.

sometimes your bits feel a but crushed on a massage table, but its great for them to have space to hang and expand.

During the massage, he will extend his strokes, up your inner thighs, around your butt checks and will reach thru the cut out and massage your bits.

Its very sensual and liberating.

https://man2mansydney.com/

There was never any doubt my partner and I were COMMITTED to each other, and the infidelities were agreed on at the on set of our relationship. I believe that if we didnt have this "arrangement", we never would have lasted for over 22 years together. Its not for everyone, you really have to be VERY VERY secure in your relationship, and without any jealous streaks.... Everyone is not built that way.

Having been togetheir for almost 28 years, one rule does not work for everyone.

So work it out for yourselves!!!

But in my lifetime of experience watching other couples, the ones who work as open relationships are very secure in their relationship, and any outside play does not impact.

Some couples have rules, only when travelling, or never with the same guy twice, its your relationship - if its worth having it is worth having the discusssion.

I have learnt to feel good about myself, and that my kinky interests are fine and to be celebrated.

I have learnt that i can enjoy intimacy outside of my marriage, and it does not impact on my love for my husband, just exploring and tasting a different flavour of life.

I have learnt that sex workers work in a wonderful profession, giving pleasure and opportunities to others.

Getting spanked can be an emotionally satisfying way of giving control to another man, surrendering all feeling of responsibility, if only in the moment. It can be very fulfilling, especially for some one who spends much of his time shouldering responsibility to be in charge.

I was having a very satisfying session with a master and his sub, the master who I hired, was a University professor in psychology, he mentioned that many of his clients had powerful jobs (like i do) and relished the fact that they did not have to think, just follow orders during a hot session.

I love being able to trust a Top or a Master to control me, several stand out for me in their ability to do that, and also to read me so that limits are respected, with the best you never use a safe word, you have them but never need to use them, as the Master can read you and knows when to stop or slow down.

In the state I live in (NSW) in Australia, sex work in legalised. Brothels are legalised, there are certain provisos about not working within so many meters of a school or church.

We even have unhappy customers ringing 000 our 911 to complain about what they perceive as poor service.

Over the years I have met many fine men who provide this service, and have no issue with the morality of what they are doing, and what I am doing by taking advantage of the service they offer.

Consenting adults and all that, and no harm comes from either the provider or the client.

However I do see thru my job in law enforcement, the other side of the sex industry, the trafficked illegal immigrants, the pimps who take their passports and make them service 20 guys a shift, etc etc etc. That is immoral.

I Ike the attitude of the Thai people, it is honorable to work the sex trade, many of them send money home to their villages and it supports their family.

There is no one rule for this.

I would rate my top hires to

a brisbane gent who i have seen twice, $600 for 3 hours - exceptional

a sydney gent who I have seen numerous times $600 for 2 hours

a Sydney gent who I have seen numerous times $300 for 2 hours

A Melbourne gent who charged $1200 for 2 hours - stayed for about 5 hours and was worth it even if it were just the 2 hours.

Personal choice.

I also had a $1400 overnight in Bali with an International Escort - and that was worth it too

I am happy with the buffet breakfast at Le Meridien. Or the W.

Regretably I eat little Thai food and would never eat street food.

Street Food is the best !!!

Do A street food tour !!

I did one in Hanoi and it was just incredible

we eat plant based 95% or more of the time.

Yes some of the meat replacement items are delicious. In Australia we get a chicken tender type product, the taste and texture is exactly like the original.

All you can do is buy one, try it and see how you go.

I can tell you that I feel fabulous eating plant based and the weight is slowly being released.

All of my blood work, blood glucose HB1AC and cholesterol readings have returned to the healthy range within weeks .

If we go out to dinner or get invited to someones place, I will eat meat, I just choose a healthier option.

I don't have any knowledge of the charities that Amazon may or may not contribute, but I do know that there is always more to the story.

 

I have a friend who introduced me to "Kathy." I met Kathy a few times at LGBTQ charities. She was very generous to HRC, the local AIDS foundation and the local chapter of PRIDE. I didn't know Kathy, except as a friend of a friend who was always a pleasure to be around. One day, my friend and I were talking about food cravings. She said she was craving something from Chick Fil A. I told her that sounded good but I wouldn't eat there because of their contributions to anti-LGBTQ causes. She responded, "Are you high? Kathy owns the franchise throughout the city."

 

Amazon's contributions may have more of a back story than we know or is reported.

My response to that is Kathy is a nice person and a friend to the LGBTIQ community.

However as a franchise owner Kathy will be paying a lot of $$ to the brand, who hate us, and go out of their way to discredit us.

So sorry Kathy, your business decision is in contrast to the decent person you are, but I will not ever spend a cent with a company that sends money to a charity that works against me, due to their hate.

I would encourage all of my gay brothers and sisters to do what they can to improve the respect and quality of our community

100 in good sharpe and still hiring a hot escort