Jacob_b

Yes I do...Ive especially noticed in the recent past hed say..."now I need you to to get hard for me when I see you...you shouldnt need any shower of stimulation. Just thought Id tell the rest of my sordid details

You already know the answer to your question. That said, as a paying client, don’t you see how many things are wrong with this statement?
 

I am in my 60s. I know. I should stick my head in a bucket of water ! and drown
I feel like he needs me. BUT the most recent 3 days...I paid 1500 per night and he freeked out  on me the first night when he would not touch me or initiate affection cuz I wasnt hard IMMEDIATELY....then then next 2 there was NO sexual interaction. He just smoked. You know as I am telling this...I feel like an idiot. 
When someone says he loves me....O well....I feel like a high school kid telling this. 
 

There are things you are alluding to but not saying much about this guy. For instance he got hurt in a scuffle a few weeks ago. Also he has sobriety issues. He’s 27 and you are older but how much older. 
Also the negative reactions he has when you try to initiate intimacy. And yet this is an escort client relationship.
I think you are deluding yourself about how this relationship can be healthy for you. There are too many red flags imo.

I appreciate Mr Cow! Its rough...Ihate that I was sooooooo gullible. You know it hurts. Thanks guys

Ive been so very kind and supportive as hes gone through his sobriety efforts. Im planning to go see him in 2 weeks. I want a reply and to see whats happening for good
although I feel you guys are saying..."quit being a sap!!

Unfortunately, as much as your feelings are real, they are based on a lie.  He is an escort having sex for money and you are a client looking for acceptance and intimacy.  A great escort can fake intimacy for a long time, years, even a decade or more, but, a closer examination reveals that this kind of relationship is very one sided.  The money flows one way and most of the affection and attention flow the other way.  Escorts, for the most part, reveal just enough of themselves to make the experience you have with them have a basis in reality.  Ultimately, there is a lot you do not know, will never know and that, I am afraid, is the nature of these interactions.  There are exceptions.  Many of us, including myself, have thought that this is one of the real ones.  Ultimately, it is usually self delusion and the wishing for it to be so. 
As hard as it is, move on.  You are paying for a service and you are getting tsuris.   Translated from the Yiddish  Aggravation, Heatache.  

Yeah....Just as a last gasp...recently he said
I love you I care about you and I’m so sorry for every argument we’ve ever had you know deep down. I love you and I care about you so much and I know you care about me more than probably anybody.'
I mean....I know Im "needy" but I didnt make that up...
Would a real serious chat be worth it??
Thanks guys

Sorry man, but you know the answer here. Time to move on.

Ive known this escort 5 years total. Weve been real good friends for 2 years. See each other once a month. Ive really developed a real caring about him. He got injured in a scuffle and I flew out to his city to be there for him. My problem is this------at times Id say "Bless you for being you and for our lasting friendship.",,,we have exchanged the "love " word often. BUT i am older and sometimes when I initiate the sex, it upsets him that I just am not totally "ready"---sprung.....He interprets that to mean Im not physically attracted to him......NOT true but I need a little touching, feeling, deep kissing. you know...stumulation, but he doesnt like to do that I guess. If he'd just PARTICIPATE, Im fine. He'll "forever and always." to statements Id make. He says I love you...Ive been there for him in issues of substances. Ive given him lots of things, gifts etc cuz I love the guy...Id really try to make it lasting.. BUT always pay everything. I know Im a client but my birthday was last week...He called sure but not even a card! He has said...you are the best ting I have in my life,,,,Of course I melt...Our deep friendship is that type I could follow as a real love. Once again Im older...hes 27. BUT when we are together doing something, its like we can read each others mind. There are a few times when id iniatiate sex and hed get so upset that hed run out of the shower or off the couch cuz he thought I was making him uncomfortable. he wont say why. Im a lost puppy. I pay the fee regardless. but  he would never come back around and be tender, caressing...treat me like a special guy

I have never fallen in love with an escort. I do have a mild infatuation with one right now who is just a god and who is very nice to be around, but the last man I went crazy for is my husband and that was more than thirty years ago.

Don't attach too much significance to what people say in the heat of passion.  In this situation, "I love you," really meant , "God you're a great lay."

If by "falling in love" you mean can you develop feelings towards an escort in which neurotransmitters in the brain like dopamine, serotonin, & oxytocin are released that reinforce feelings of pleasure, reward, and bonding -  yes, you can fall in love with just about anything or anyone, including people, drugs, etc.  But obsessing over another human being who only sees you as a walking ATM is an exercise in frustration, as you've correctly observed. But, to answer your question: yes, I have fallen in love with an escort - and it was painful, frustrating, EXPENSIVE - AND enjoyable all at the same time. Enjoy your guy, but occasionally remind yourself that "infatuation is hopeless" and that some day this relationship will end, and not kindly. 

One year..(many years ago) I was fucking this sexy kid with an amazing ass at a bathhouse. Really tearing it up/tossing him around....mid stroke - legs in the air he looks up at me and says "I luv u". 
Lost my hard-on immediately . 
 I felt bad for how sad and pathetic that was for him and the moment was gone. (Pity though) I really could have gone for another round or two with that 🍑 ass. But his miscalculated expression of affection ruined the mood. 
I was only there to fuck him...(and as many other hotties that I could find) that night. 

I finish my massages with a hug and it is the one thing he needs to keep going. When his marriage turns sour, when a parent passes, and when he loses his job or his children lash out, he comes. He comes other times as well, but always when he's at his lowest. I give him a hug and sometimes he cries, sometimes uncontrollably. He says that he tries so hard and I say nothing back. I hold onto him as long as he needs someone to hold on to and when the tears have stopped, I let him go. I wipe him down with warm towels, he thanks me and he goes his way. 
The first time he said "I love you" I said "you're welcome". He wanted to express his thanks using stronger words and I gave my response to his gratitude. 
He says I love you every time afterwards and he's been saying it for for years. Recently he moved to a different coast. He has a fulfilling new position and a new house in suburbs of an exciting new city. He also has a great relationship with his children.
Whenever he visits, he comes and he's full of smiles but even still he sometimes cries, and sometimes uncontrollably. And he says I love you.
It's still just a thank you 
(Yes, this is a true story)

No, let it go. I came this close to going back as well and then I remembered the pain and said hell NO!

I’m finally over with my crush. I haven’t seen him for a year. I don’t miss him anymore.
i see 3 guys regularly but no deep feelings like that previous one. 
 
should I see him again since the crush is over? Or will i risk re opening the feelings? The s*x is really good with him though.
 
my brain tells me NO. i want to have a risky fun, but i don’t wanna experience that heartbreak period again.

Believe me I understand. I fell HARD for a provider and boy could I tell you some stories! Lol. I made a fool out of myself. I still have fond feelings for him but he's long gone now.

After I have sex with anybody, whether for free or paid, I have to remind them "If I said 'I love you' or asked you to marry me, remember that it doesn't count if I said it while your dick was in my ass."

Out of the many I have hired, I have about ten escorts that I hired for a prolonged period of time.  I was, essentially,  a serial monogamous escort hirer. who occasionally strayed to others for variety.    I am still in contact with all ten of these men to a greater or lesser extent.  I consider then acquaintance at one end and friends at the other.  It is as though I dated them and it did not work out but we remained friends.  In fact, one of them just spent a week at my home on a trip from one coast to the other.  
That being said, I have never had sex with these men off the clock and once :I stopped hiring them, when we are together, there is not an attempt to get together sexually.  
So, even though at the time I was seeing them, I may have fantasized about being in love, these relationships evolved, as most sexual relationships do into less desire and more routine.  None of them evolved into love.  And though most of them remain in great shape and very sexy, I have never considered returning to our previous arrangement.   One of them did stay at my home for a few days and made a point of walking around naked and at least a bit aroused, but while he looked great I had no desire to pay for sex with him and did not try to get there for free.  

If you fall for them then they are good at their job. Don't confuse your feelings with theirs. I am very aware that absent payment, none of who I've hired would ever look my way or talk to me. Im glad I've been fortunate to enjoy what I have. If you can't get the person of your dreams the next best thing would be to pay for one? 

I have had to cut clients off because they became infatuated and could not distinguish reality from fiction- despite me being very clear: I am not opposed to dating a client but I would need to be provided for in that I wouldn't have to work. 

Run, Rudy, run.

I just wrapped up a  weird situation with an escort.  This guy approached me on A4A - a very attractive guy, 28 yo.  Initially, he didn't identify himself as a pro, but when I expressed interest, he revealed that he was a pro.   I didn't like the deception, but,  I thought, "I don't like it, but I can live with it."  We started interacting by text to get better acquainted, and to talk about cost.  But his initial pretense remained an issue for me, even though I didn't say anything.  And then he kept doing little deceptive things, that I didn't like.  Another thing that I didn't like is that he wanted full payment up front, no cash.  But paying him turned out to be this huge chore because the payment apps kept refusing the transaction.  Every time one of these things happened, I would think, "This just doesn't smell right," and I would bail.  But he would plead with me not to bail, and I would change my mind, because he was "just my type." Finally, he told me he would take payment in gift cards, which solved the problem of paying him and we, finally, made an appointment. But my instinct was telling me that this guy was bad news, and I needed to walk away and I decided, "OK, I'm walking and I won't change my mind." I texted him to say that I was done, and of course, he tried to talk me out of it. I told him "I'm a bad client for you. You don't want a client that is as suspicious of you as I am."  That did the trick.  But I'm not sure that I have seen the last of him.  You couldn't really say that he was an escort more like a con.  It's a jungle out there.
 

Caveat emptor!