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To the broader question, a lot of guys who visit my area do so regularly. I think it's possible to develop an ongoing relationship with a traveling provider when there is mutual interest. The person I hired the most was someone based in Portland, Oregon when I fired hired him in San Francisco, and my second most hired guy was from the Bay Area but during the period I hired him only visited a few times per year during school breaks from UCLA.

Might just be the capsules you had. Some are very weak (intentionally) and others are quite robust. With both the Nespresso Original and Vertuo lines, I prefer their bolder/stronger roasts. They use a numerical system to rank the intensity so it's easy to stick to the varieties that rank near 10 or above.

It seems like what has happened with self-produced porn websites is that they are now removing content unless it's clear that all parties shown are okay with their sexual activities being recorded and distributed online. Someone whose content I liked a lot removed all of his videos from XTube and wrote basically that he could no longer share his videos there due to lack of clear consent of his scene partners to be shown in videos there. A guy I subscribe to on OnlyFans wrote that he's only able to put up scenes where the other scene partners also have OnlyFans pages, so it's obvious that they consent to having their sexual activity recorded and shared online. I don't know if it's true, but I did notice a number of months ago that basically XTube turned from being amateur porn (a lot of it of dubious quality) to being dominated by studio porn, most of it teasers where one would have to pay to see the full scene.

I don't get the fruit analogy. Some fruits are best eaten after they've gotten a bit older and softened up, others are best freshly picked when they are more firm. Answering just the age range question, I'd say that my preferred range based purely on looks is legal age to 45, though it obviously depends on the guy. Some guys look their best when they are young, and other guys get more attractive after they've matured a bit. For personality, I prefer guys closer to my own age or at least 30 years old.

You mean this guy?

I feel the same way about Andrew. I notice lots of ads and am ambivalent about hiring so I don't follow through. Andrew is one of the ones I noticed but never contacted and regret I didn't since feedback about him was all positive. When he first advertised he showed his face in his ad, so I know I would have found him very attractive in person.

Assuming the ad was legitimately placed by porn performer Zario Travezz, you can find previous discussions about him here by just searching for him by name (Zario Travezz). His previous ad was rent.men/ZarioTravezz without the LA at the end.

Just want to raise the possibility that the other person was sitting in the dark in an attempt to make it less obvious that someone else was there, not because he and the provider had some plot to do something bad to client. That being said, it's clearly not the best way to handle it given the emotions it has elicited in this thread. I've shown up for appointments where there were other people present in the apartment and it's always made me feel awkward, particularly when there's no way to avoid seeing/being seen by that person. The best resolution is to simply have that person make themselves absent during appointments, either by actually leaving the residence or by going into another room and closing the door so it isn't apparent that anyone else is there.

My favorite coffee is coffee I make at home. (I'm not including espresso or espresso based drinks.) I typically make coffee using a French Press because my Nespresso Vertuo machine requires a lot of effort to keep it working. Too bad because it makes the best coffee I've ever had; I also love strong coffee and the Vertuo line really extracts a lot of flavor from the beans. I think the design of the Vertuo line is basically flawed, though, with so many complaints online similar to mine, namely that the machines get clogged and start leaking because coffee beans end up getting forced into parts of the machine where they shouldn't be.

I think it is about responding or not responding if you are talking about someone who has an ad on Rentmen that doesn't have any indication that the client in question should simply not bother to contact him. Otherwise a prospective client is left wondering whether he's being rejected for some reason, whether his text/message went through, whether the escort was simply too busy and has a practice of not responding unless he's available or something else. I thin it's just not good business to ignore inquiries outright. The situation is entirely different for someone who isn't advertising to provide a service to anyone. If someone reaches out to an OnlyFans model suggesting a hook-up, I would expect such a message to just be ignored or maybe even responded to negatively if the model isn't looking for contacts like that. Same thing for someone on Instagram or Grindr or anywhere else a man might post photos that catch others' eyes. I don't blame the forum members who do reach out to guys they find appealing who aren't advertising even though it isn't something I would do, but it should be done with the understanding that the guy being solicited is simply not interested for whatever reason and they might ignore the inquiry or, worse, be upset about it and reply accordingly.

That's what I'm not clear about as well. Even if the guy is advertising as an escort, some escorts are selective about how their clients look. I purposefully rule out guys who put things in their ads about preferring certain looks or giving a discount to "young and fit" because I am older and not athletically built. If I'm paying to be with someone I don't want to choose someone who is already sending messages that I'm a lower form of life. However, I certainly understand that if some guy can make a living by providing services only to other "hot" men and posting videos to Fans sites then they might prefer to do that. As to the title of this thread, I think rejection is best when it's direct. It doesn't have to be brutally honest (e.g., you're too old or fat or whatever for me), but a direct response of "sorry, not a match" is better than leaving a question unanswered or suggesting one is open to possibilities when that clearly isn't the case.

I cannot help but point out another recent thread where some escorts were alleging it made sense for clients to send money in advance to people they've never met as a good faith demonstration of trust. Well, sadly, your story just highlights why that's not a good idea. As to your description, I have two thoughts: First of all, the photos are probably stolen just like he stole your money so it really doesn't matter whose photos they actually are. Beyond that, I don't know that a circle of flames around the navel is all that distinctive. I'm pretty sure I've seen at least a few guys in porn with a similar tattoo. Sorry to hear of your misfortune. I would say that most providers are not like this, but most providers aren't going to try to get you to send them $150 in a cash app before ever meeting despite what some providers here might try to claim is the norm. Run the other way the next time someone tries to get you to pay before you've even laid eyes on them in person. I personally don't even pay people on arrival, though I will have cash sitting out in a conspicuous place if I'm having someone over so they can see that I am prepared to pay.

One of my favorites (whom I've mentioned a few times here before) is the multi-orgasmic George Uhl. There are other men I find more attractive, but I really enjoy George's obvious enthusiasm. On the looks front, there are many options but I have to mention the incredibly sexy and hung black Russian performer, Erick Lewis (aka Edic aka some other names):

Not a seafood buffet, but there is a Brazilian steakhouse near me that opened as soon as indoor dining was allowed and they had their buffet open as usual. (Meat was still served by waiters roaming around the dining area.) Quite frankly it made me a bit uncomfortable. Though they had hand sanitizer in front of the salad bar, there wasn't anyone there making sure that everyone who stepped up to handle the serving spoons sanitized their hands with each visit. BTW, I typically equate lobster with a high price. How much is an all-you-can-eat buffet that includes lobster?

See? You can learn something new every day. Since I was taught that loan wasn't a verb, I had held onto that notion without question. Thanks for the education.

Madonna has always been pretentious. She always comes off as at least somewhat imperious to me. I like some of her music and some of her videos, so I'm not saying she has no talent, but her narcissism has always been off-putting to me. Cher, on the other hand, just says/writes what she feels. Apart from when she's performing, she comes across as being more natural and authentic. Cher admitting that she doesn't even like some of the music she made definitely puts her in a different camp than Madonna, who seems to think she walks on water. I happen to like some of Cher's music she dislikes (she appears to favor her more rock influenced tracks and I like her pure pop and dance stuff, for the most part), but I contrast Cher's willingness to critique her own work with Madonna's ridiculous stance on her latest flop called Madame X, where she dressed in a silly costume and tried to sell the concept and her album as some serious piece of art when most everyone who heard it said, "thank u,next."

Maybe we are just reverting to a time when using "they" to refer to a single person was acceptable. Linguists indicate this usage dates back to the 14th century, so it isn't like the modern convention of using "they" for a single person is something new. I'm personally much more bothered by people using "loan" as a verb. The verb is lend. I lent him money, I didn't loan him money. Yet almost everyone uses loan as a verb today.

Dear HoleTrainer: I also live in San Francisco. I have hired a couple of plumbers and paid both when the job was finished. I hired a couple of handymen; paid both when work was finished. I have hired many, many masseurs over the period of 30+ years and never paid a deposit. I do pay for medical services when I arrive for my appointments, but I don't have to send money before I even arrive. You seem to be confusing sending money to an unknown person before even meeting with paying upon arrival. A lot of people don't even want to pay upon arrival, but that request is at least in the ballpark of reasonability. Your argument is that people should also be willing to just look for a plumber on Craigslist and then send money to someone they found there without any knowledge whether that person will show up and have the skills required to do the job. That's just silly, but if you want to keep arguing that it's reasonable for people to send money to strangers in the hopes that person is not a scammer and then just be okay if they lose money here and there because it's the equivalent of spending money on restaurant food and not liking it then go ahead. I don't see how being disappointed in what was provided for the money is the equivalent of getting nothing for one's money. I would suggest that you step away from the keyboard, at least from this thread. This is a perfect example of a provider shooting himself in the foot because he has a strong opinion about something and won't just let the argument die. I don't think your argumentative stance in this thread will win you any new clients and it very well might drive others away under the assumption that you aren't a reliable provider at best and perhaps someone who views his clients with contempt.

I don't get this guy's appeal at all, but if I had to guess he's simply figured out another way to make money. Not everyone will pay to watch his soft core porn but maybe some of those people will watch him ramble on YouTube. Enough views and he can make some more coin off his "celebrity."

Not only undue entitlement, but bad business sense. Wouldn't it make more sense for the provider to decline the booking, then, rather than show up and not give his best because he's resentful that the client wouldn't pay an advance deposit? Talk about starting out on the wrong foot -- first the client has a bad impression that the provider wants money before they have even met, and then when the provider agrees to meet with the deposit he has a negative view of the client and therefore provides a substandard experience? I think a reasonable provider could set aside his negativity once he and the client were together and it was clear he wasn't being scammed; otherwise he's just compounding the ways in which he can establish a negative reputation.

If anyone has any doubt that true bisexuals exist, look at self-made porn of someone like Donte Colle. He clearly gets off having sex with both men and women.

As a client, I've never no-showed for an appointment. I have shown up and walked away when the person answering the door wasn't the same person shown in the ad. I have had multiple experiences with providers who failed to show up at my place or weren't reachable when I arrived at their hotels. I'm not losing money when this occurs, but it's still a waste of my time, a waste of preparation as a bottom, and a disappointment since most guys aren't just sitting by the phone available at the drop of a hat if someone else flakes out. I don't expect a provider who is new to me to do anything for me to prove he's reliable and I don't think I need to pay a deposit to prove I'm legitimate, either. As far as I am concerned, the trust needs to be a two-way street. But, again, a provider can obviously choose to run his business any way he sees fit and I, as a customer, can choose to hire him or not.

I guess he's one for name changes. I see that he now has a RentMasseur profile under the name Heyhellohi, and apparently he previously had a Rentmen ad under CrazyAsianMassage or something like that according to a thread about him here that I found searching for Heyhellohi.

I understand a guy being concerned about having no-shows or maybe even guys who try to get something for nothing by not paying at the end of a session, but it's extremely rare in the professional world to have to pay for work before it's performed. I pay at the counter at my doctor's office when I arrive for my appointment, so that would be the equivalent of paying an escort on arrival. If I need work beyond a normal cleaning/exam at my dentist's office, I pay my portion after he performs the work. I know that people pay a deposit when hiring a contractor, but that makes sense because that person typically has to procure materials for the job before actually starting work. The notion that I would just send money via Venmo or whatever to someone I had never met simply because he promised to be available for me at a certain future time is laughable. But, like FrankR wrote, the guy has a right to run his business the way he wants and we as clients have the right to simply look for someone without such a requirement.

I only made it through about 2 1/2 minutes, which was long enough for him to finally give 3 opinions about what drink orders mean in a gay bar: Beer - you are a top Manhattan - you are an older gay man who just wants to sit by yourself and make catty comments to those around you Cosmo - you are an older gay man who wants to remain current with pop culture and have fun with younger guys Beyond just generally finding this guy annoying, these above observations are just so silly.