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If you want to become a masseur or escort, then do it instead of making the same general inquiries repeatedly.

I assume you are at least 60 years old if you recall a time when only women were being objectified in advertising? Using partially naked men to sell products has been going on for decades now.

I've discussed it frequently with a few other friends who also hire on occasion. I don't even recall how the conversation first came up. I think I've also discussed it in passing with a couple of other friends, but it wasn't a topic of ongoing conversation. I haven't discussed it at all with most people I know.

In terms of physical appearance, if the photos are basically accurate I'm okay. I assume anyone seriously interested in hiring an escort is going to look at all of his photos, and if some are him at a younger age and some are more recent it's really on the client to pay attention and not just latch onto the older photos. As far as age shaving, I understand a lot of still-youngish guys do it so searches that use an age filter don't exclude them from consideration. So, for example, a guy who is 44 might say he's 39 so his ad will still be seen by people looking for someone under 40. I say that if the guy looks like he could still be in his thirties, that's a "white lie" that can be overlooked. What's fraudulent is someone who is clearly well beyond his thirties still using 39 as an age. I don't care how well preserved someone is, a man who is in his late fifties is never going to be confused for a man in his thirties. In terms of providing what was advertised, while I understand the YMMV situation when it comes to erotic masseurs (i.e., some guys whom the masseur is more turned on by will get more than other clients) with an escort I think it's reasonable to expect someone to perform in a manner consistent with his ad. So if he says he's a top and that's what you indicated you wanted when you hire him, he should come prepared to top. The only caveat I have is that I'm sure there are occasional circumstances where the escort simply cannot perform as advertised, like if the client is so obese that he cannot be penetrated or if the guy is so dirty that the escort simply cannot follow through on what was planned.

You sound like a real sweetheart. Your post would definitely put you at the top of my list of "must hires" if I lived in the same area as you.

Agreed. The only redeeming factor in this clip for me is looking at Marc Rose, and that's simply because I don't think I've seen him before. Is he another one of those guys who only does j/o videos?

It will be interesting to read providers' responses (assuming you get some), but as a client I will say this: 1. Maybe some men in Western countries aren't attracted to Asian men, but there are many who are. 2. I think the issue is less about you writing a script (of sorts) for the encounter in advance and more about choosing a provider wisely. Did the guy you hire have reviews here or anywhere else where you can read reviews with comments? Sadly a lot of providers are simply going through the motions in order to make money, and they aren't good enough actors to make you believe they are interested in being with you when what they really want is to get paid and leave. There are other guys who at least take some pleasure in giving other men pleasure and being with a variety of men. Look for that type of provider. Since the connection is more important to you than the actual sex, I think you should start your screening process with that and then look for someone who likes to be a bottom.

There's a guy advertising in my area who has claimed to be in his late thirties for over two decades.

I enjoy his porn and have subscribed to his Only Fans channel a few times. I never tried to hire him, but in videos I've seen where he is just having a conversation he seems like an enjoyable chap. I don't know anything about his currently availability as an escort, but if he's like some other "star" providers he probably escorts very little now that it's easier to make good money having sex with other sexy men, recording it and monetizing it.

I also don't think this is a major concern. Let's assume the Airbnb host does have hidden cameras in the apartment. The footage is likely only going to be viewed if they encounter a problem with that renter. In other words, something gets stolen or damaged, or there are complaints from neighbors about excessive noise during that renter's stay. I seriously doubt most hosts who would choose to hide a camera are doing so hoping just to get some j/o material. I live in a large condo building and there are cameras in various locations in the common areas; the footage only gets reviewed when there is a problem (theft or vandalism).

Still working for me using Chrome. I have to click the acknowledgement button three times before I can use the site, but after that it works normally. I never was able to get it to work using Firefox -- it would keep asking me to acknowledge that I really wanted to access the site.

Just don't pay in advance. Or if you are inclined to believe it's reasonable to pay a deposit in advance for a one-hour appointment, only book providers with a good reputation on a site like this so at least you know it isn't a scam. There's no other way to know for sure whether is a scammer. Sure, there might be an honest guy on Scruff or some other app who follows through on appointments with clients they meet on those apps, but it's very easy for someone to create a profile, use someone else's alluring photos, and then take people's money and delete the profile and create another one. They know that almost no one would pursue getting ripped off in this way, so ripping off gullible people who will send a payment electronically to some unknown person is just picking low hanging fruit. Don't be low hanging fruit.

Yes, he seems like a blast from the (not so distant) past. I remember him being talked about so much not only due to his Olympic career but also his behavior in the hosting country that he got his own short-lived reality show, What Would Ryan Lochte Do? What I remember most is that he came across as a not-very-bright but still interesting and sweet guy who was very kind to his friends and family. Maybe the series editors went out of their way to create that narrative, but his interactions with his mom seemed especially sweet.

Interesting that there has been so little discussion about him here.

Did he previously use a different name? The photos seem familiar.

Maybe should be in the politics section, assuming that's still active right now. (I don't frequent that area, so I don't know.) I'm not in favor of what ultimately got passed, with explicit exemptions so religious bigots can discriminate against gay people.

I don't know whether cruising in bars is less safe now. There certainly have been risks in any era, though I'm sure that the vast majority of the time guys have just enjoyed their hookups without anything untoward happening. Back in the mid-1970s in San Francisco, there was a serial killer dubbed The Doodler who found his victims in gay bars. He earned his moniker because he would sketch his victims and present his drawings to them as part of his come-on.

It just opened for me. I hadn't tried previously.

A quick search about the editor in chief of the website suggests you are correct. While she is an MD. she earned her PhD from a now unaccredited religious school, and her BA and MA involved religious studies.

If you want to hire him again and his contact information still works, simply reach out to request an appointment. He might still be working even though his ad is frozen. If you get no response or a reply that he isn't available, then just accept that and wait to contact him until you see his ad is active again. You don't have a personal relationship with him yet, so don't overstep the boundary and inquire about his personal life. I am reminded of my first meeting with someone who became my most regular hire. We clicked on a personal level and after our first appointment (which was my first overnight with anyone), I sent some cds to a post office box he provided. He was appreciative. I started hiring him about once per month, and eventually we became friends, but our "getting to know you" phase evolved naturally.

The ad is already "frozen." Would I pay his requested rate? No. I assume there are clients who would, though. I'd say he looks cute in his photos. Not sure why some feel the need to write disparaging remarks about someone they haven't met or interacted with, just because they don't find him appealing. I think I've been guilty of this in the past (not starting a thread, but certainly jumping into one to be part of the echoing chorus), but I do think it's one of the more unfortunate things about this site.

Let's not confuse being a tiny bit late (say 15 minutes) with a last-minute cancellation. I'm guessing most people won't get too irritated with someone running a little late, with the exception of people who do have appointments scheduled back-to-back like physicians. I think most escorts don't have clients scheduled back-to-back, though I do know that some poor providers do so. But in the case of the OP, he wasn't trying to simply move the start time back a little. He was outright canceling with little notice. Doing that repeatedly indicates he doesn't respect other people's time. Hopefully he offers to send payment to the people he's canceling appointments with at minimal notice.

I think most people are able to make commitments and keep them most of the time. Being a bit late due to traffic? Sure, though better prepared people would simply leave earlier if they know they are traveling when there is likely to be heavy traffic, so unless that traffic is worse than usual it's still more about the person's poor planning. I know some people are just generally late. I don't like it because I'm generally on time or a little early, but if I like someone I can adjust expectations. The escort I hired most often was always late. Having to cancel plans at the last minute is a different thing. I really don't think most people have jobs where emergencies come up at the last minute that they cannot say no to, at least not very often. So, again, it gets back to planning. Why not just schedule a meeting with an escort at a time you know you will be available? And if that really isn't possible for someone because he's an on-call doctor or someone else who frequently has last-minute work interruptions of his personal life, then why not just do what Kevin Slater suggested and just book in the moment instead of in advance.

I reached that point quite a while ago. Now I don't even click on any of his videos. I thought he was very cute/sexy when I first saw him, but I tire quickly of porn performers who don't do everything on camera (i.e., they stick to j/o, touching, and teasing). There are a lot of sexy guys sucking and fucking on camera, so I cannot be bothered paying attention to someone who is basically just a tease. No one is that cute that he can hold my attention for long just because he's cute.

I hate to "blame the victim," but how naive does someone have to be to start sending money -- especially significant amounts of money -- to someone he's never met? I get lots of bogus messages on A4A. My rules are basically this: a) not much info in profile? delete. b) not in my area and no indication they plan to be in my area? delete. c) say they are somewhere near me but the location indicates they are thousands of miles away. delete. d) nothing very personal in first message that would indicate why they liked my profile and decided to message me. delete. e) a photo or two of someone young enough to be my grandson who gushes over my attractiveness. delete. Maybe I accidentally delete a sincere message by having these standards, but I doubt it.