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That’s funny you noted that! I’ve seen one particular provider 7-8 times in the last 12 months and I still don’t know his real name and he only accepts cash for discretion and privacy reasons….but I’m definitely a regular!!

I would say if you see someone more than once over a given amount of time… you’re a regular. Even if it’s like once a year.
I don’t necessarily think someone giving me their real name is something I’d use to determine if they were a regular. I’ve had guys I met on the first meeting tell me their real name and other personal info. Also sometimes I’ll bring someone to me for the first time for an overnight or longer. If I buy their plane or train ticket, they usually tell me their names. Also I have seen some providers repeatedly over years and still don’t know their real names or full names.

I would say if you see someone more than once over a given amount of time… you’re a regular. Even if it’s like once a year.
I don’t necessarily think someone giving me their real name is something I’d use to determine if they were a regular. I’ve had guys I met on the first meeting tell me their real name and other personal info. Also sometimes I’ll bring someone to me for the first time for an overnight or longer. If I buy their plane or train ticket, they usually tell me their names. Also I have seen some providers repeatedly over years and still don’t know their real names or full names.

There's a weird anti-tattoo obsession with some members here. I can understand if you're not into tattoos and someone is covered. But in a lot of circumstances, you could meet someone, find them hot, and then head back to their place before ever realizing they have one or more tattoos. If you met me in the fall or winter, none of my tattoos would be visible until I got undressed. 

I think kindness and civility have been on the decline in general for some time now. Many years ago, porn/actor provider I know rather well, showed me some of the abusive text he received on a regular basis from potential clients. Some of the stuff that was said was insane.
I guess some clients think of providers as property and not human, but a thing to be had, used, and controlled. (And not as part as some fantasy play.)
There are or were people on this forum who even had this attitude towards providers.
I treat each provider as individuals and make sure I don’t do anything to purposely harm them, physically or emotionally. I want them to have fun as much as I am (if I can help it).Not that long ago, I remarked in the “Escorts say the darnedest things” forum thread how a provider thought I was mad at them because I had to postpone our meet up. He had been so mistreated by clients… that was his first assumption. It’s truly wild.
 

I haven't hired anyone since the beginning of 2026.
That changes next week where I'm doing a weekend with a regular. I'm seeing another regular at the end of January but just for a couple hours. I'm going on a trip in February and will meet with a current regular/friend and a retired escort/porn actor turned friend. However, in both those instances there will be no bedroom activity... it's just a plutonic hang in both cases.

You’ve probably seen comments here like ”Your mileage may vary.”. There’s a lot of truth in that.  Different people often have different experiences with the same provider.  Those clients aren’t necessarily lying if they write glowing comments about someone that you weren’t impressed by.  

He's not new new, but has been advertising for at least a year. He used to go by Markusc (on Rentmen and I think Rentmasseur). He took his ad down for a month or two and came back with new ads with different names on both.
With that said, I hired him for an sensual/erotic massage. It was a decent massage that became very erotic towards the end. He looks just like his pics and has a beautiful body with amazingly smooth skin. When I met him he didn't have tha shoulder chest tattoo. English clearly isn't his first language but we understood each other verbally for the most part.
I had planned to hire him as a provider, but that's when he took down his previous ad. So I never got the chance. If he comes back my way I plan to.

A few things... usually when they touch or rub around my lower back... can set me off. Also if they start rubbing their faces against mine. The other thing that not everybody does, is when they use their whole body to massage me... gliding from the top down and I can feel their dick slide between my ass cheeks as they slide down.
One guy drives me nuts just by a look. Usually when I'm already aroused and he would flip me over, he'd get this glimmer in his eye, smile devilishly, growl, and start touching my erection. Soon as he does this if he wasn't already erect, it usually made him hard instantly. A shame he is retired/on hiatus.

For me, it depends on a number of factors.
One of my frequent regulars, when he comes to visit me, I'll try to book a hotel with multiple beds or separate rooms. It's not that I don't like cuddling next to him, but I know he works hard at his day job and I want to be in as much comfort as possible when he visits. He seems to appreciate this a lot and shows it. We have gone on trips places where we share a bed and that works out too.
For me, my biggest issue is I can run hot. Being snuggled up to someone all night, if the room isn't cool enough, can be unbearable. Although some guys love that I am so physically warm and it makes them want to snuggle more (especially in winter). 😱 😆
If I'm sharing a bed, I make sure it's the largest the hotel offers. I will definitely cuddle/snuggle but I can't do it all night usually. A large bed allows us to have our sides, but we can cuddle or whatever else any time.

I'm going to add another... Jeid Vine.

Client here.
I suppose after I've been to see an escort maybe 3 or 4 times, and with every intention in my mind of seeing him many more times after that; that is when he has become a 'regular' to me.
I've had a number of regulars over the years, and have a couple of them at the moment. One of them I have been seeing since early 2018, and the other I've been seeing since early 2024.
Do I treat my regular guys any differently to any of the other escorts I hire who are not regulars? Nope. The non-regulars receive the same level of respect, kindness, courtesy, and gratitude from me as my regular guys do. 
What is different is the dynamic that exists between me and my regular guys. What I mean by that, is things like the fact that I can have banter with my regular guys that I wouldn't be able to have with new hires. Also the way I would interact with the regular ones is like how I would interact with old friends. There is familiarity, long and well established rapport, and a general feeling of total ease and comfort. In other words, you 'know' your regular guys, and this is reflected in the dynamics during interactions. 
Now, this is purely anecdotal, but I also find that it isn't unusual for guys who you've been hiring for a long time (maybe once you've been hiring them regularly for many months or for more than a year), to be OK with letting you see them for a lower rate than they would charge to newer or less frequent / irregular clients. I would never expect that from any of them, but it is appreciated whenever a guy allows me to pay for a session at a reduced rate from the one that he advertises on his Sleepyboy or RentMen profile (suppose it's rewarding customer loyalty, in the same way that traditional businesses sometimes offer loyal customers discounts on products / services). 

If you were paying him what he asked for, why would he be disappointed?
If you were to pay a lower fee to another provider, will he then lower his fee?
Tell him to grow up or find another client.

It depends... mainly on what the masseur is doing and where he's doing it. It usually doesn't happen until I'm laying on my back.
If he's kneading deep into any part of my body and its causing even the slightest discomfort, I'm not aroused. If I'm aroused before then I'll lose it once that deep massaging starts.
My erogenous zones are on or near my head. So if he's gently playing with my ears; massaging my neck; breathing heavy on my neck or ears; or gently brushing my lips... I'm up. Shea in Orlando was amazing at this.

If the masseur rubs/brushes my nether regions frequently... it can happen. Or if the guy uses his whole body and rubs up and down my body while I'm laying on my stomach... it can happen.
The one masseur, who no matter what he did when he did it, I was always immediately aroused, sadly retired. I was aroused just greeting him at the door. I mean he would embrace you with a deep gripping hug and growl in your ear.
To each his own, and different people will be aroused by different things during a massage.

It depends... mainly on what the masseur is doing and where he's doing it. It usually doesn't happen until I'm laying on my back.
If he's kneading deep into any part of my body and its causing even the slightest discomfort, I'm not aroused. If I'm aroused before then I'll lose it once that deep massaging starts.
My erogenous zones are on or near my head. So if he's gently playing with my ears; massaging my neck; breathing heavy on my neck or ears; or gently brushing my lips... I'm up. Shea in Orlando was amazing at this.

If the masseur rubs/brushes my nether regions frequently... it can happen. Or if the guy uses his whole body and rubs up and down my body while I'm laying on my stomach... it can happen.
The one masseur, who no matter what he did when he did it, I was always immediately aroused, sadly retired. I was aroused just greeting him at the door. I mean he would embrace you with a deep gripping hug and growl in your ear.
To each his own, and different people will be aroused by different things during a massage.

For me, it depends on a number of factors.
One of my frequent regulars, when he comes to visit me, I'll try to book a hotel with multiple beds or separate rooms. It's not that I don't like cuddling next to him, but I know he works hard at his day job and I want to be in as much comfort as possible when he visits. He seems to appreciate this a lot and shows it. We have gone on trips places where we share a bed and that works out too.
For me, my biggest issue is I can run hot. Being snuggled up to someone all night, if the room isn't cool enough, can be unbearable. Although some guys love that I am so physically warm and it makes them want to snuggle more (especially in winter). 😱 😆
If I'm sharing a bed, I make sure it's the largest the hotel offers. I will definitely cuddle/snuggle but I can't do it all night usually. A large bed allows us to have our sides, but we can cuddle or whatever else any time.

For me, it depends on a number of factors.
One of my frequent regulars, when he comes to visit me, I'll try to book a hotel with multiple beds or separate rooms. It's not that I don't like cuddling next to him, but I know he works hard at his day job and I want to be in as much comfort as possible when he visits. He seems to appreciate this a lot and shows it. We have gone on trips places where we share a bed and that works out too.
For me, my biggest issue is I can run hot. Being snuggled up to someone all night, if the room isn't cool enough, can be unbearable. Although some guys love that I am so physically warm and it makes them want to snuggle more (especially in winter). 😱 😆
If I'm sharing a bed, I make sure it's the largest the hotel offers. I will definitely cuddle/snuggle but I can't do it all night usually. A large bed allows us to have our sides, but we can cuddle or whatever else any time.

Instead of assuming... ask him.

Many on this forum make assumptions and never progress to any meet up because they believe something they never do anything about to verify.

another person in my bed??.....hell, I don't sleep well if another person is even in my house!......

Yes, you're right. Actually I reached out to him a short while ago. Lol

Instead of assuming... ask him.

Many on this forum make assumptions and never progress to any meet up because they believe something they never do anything about to verify.

Instead of assuming... ask him.

Many on this forum make assumptions and never progress to any meet up because they believe something they never do anything about to verify.

Instead of assuming... ask him.

Many on this forum make assumptions and never progress to any meet up because they believe something they never do anything about to verify.

I'm going to add another... Jeid Vine.

It depends... mainly on what the masseur is doing and where he's doing it. It usually doesn't happen until I'm laying on my back.
If he's kneading deep into any part of my body and its causing even the slightest discomfort, I'm not aroused. If I'm aroused before then I'll lose it once that deep massaging starts.
My erogenous zones are on or near my head. So if he's gently playing with my ears; massaging my neck; breathing heavy on my neck or ears; or gently brushing my lips... I'm up. Shea in Orlando was amazing at this.

If the masseur rubs/brushes my nether regions frequently... it can happen. Or if the guy uses his whole body and rubs up and down my body while I'm laying on my stomach... it can happen.
The one masseur, who no matter what he did when he did it, I was always immediately aroused, sadly retired. I was aroused just greeting him at the door. I mean he would embrace you with a deep gripping hug and growl in your ear.
To each his own, and different people will be aroused by different things during a massage.